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She must have really wanted them to retrieve you, @ElizabethStar . The other 'she/her' talk? That'd make me want to accompany my spouse everywhere!

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8 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

what the heck- just happened?

Lots of good stuff in that story.  It sounds like your wife's acceptance doesn't run in a straight line...like a graph that ultimately goes upward, but is kinda jagged along the way.

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8 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

A few minutes later I got a call from my wife. The Dr. Ok'ed me coming in back and they were sending someone to get me. As I'm hanging out by the door a nurse comes outs and wanders for moment, finds her way to me, looks at me an says, Liz?   Yea, that's me. -what the heck- just happened? My wife has promised to forever dead-name me. No one there except the doctor knows my name and I doubt he remembers it. So she had to of told them to look for Liz. Right? Later after the appointment she asked if I had noticed the name they used when looking for me. So she did tell them.  Of course I noticed. It seems something else has changed.

 

My guess would be a realization of, "Nobody is agreeing with me. Maybe I'm wrong?" Good on her. Good on the nurse and like I keep telling you, you look just like a skinnier version of my sister-in-law. She's never mentioned anybody mis-gendering her so I think you're stuck with being "Liz the woman." Congratulations!

 

Hugs!

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2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

like I keep telling you, you look just like a skinnier version of my sister-in-law.

You do and thank you.  After the last time, something clicked and I'm starting to see the real me in the mirror and in my self image.

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Good morning everyone,

 

The work life at home is coming to an end, and returning to in office work. My Suzie is going back two and a half days a week, I'm starting to book travel training dates. We normally do 3 to 4 travel trainings a month, and last year COVID2020 Homeland security canceled all of our contracts with them. We only did 5 travel training all of last year, to date we have 10 agencies booked for travel dates, and many more waiting to see what their state, county, or city will be doing. 

 

Coffee as usual is HOT, black, and strong.:coffee:

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy???

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Congratulations Liz I’m so happy to hear that.

 

I got word from hr at my work yesterday that she had had meetings with everyone that needed to know and that the meetings went well. The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

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@ElizabethStar This sounds like a wonderful experience for you (except for your wife's insistence).  Validation is so nice. 

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Good morning ladies, gentlemen and others. Today is going to be a huge day for me. Currently at my Primary drs to get my medical clearance for HRT and this afternoon is the therapist appointment to get my letter of recommendation!! Kind of nervous, after all the trials and tears this is getting SO close to being a thing. 

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1 hour ago, JustineM said:

Good morning ladies, gentlemen and others. Today is going to be a huge day for me. Currently at my Primary drs to get my medical clearance for HRT and this afternoon is the therapist appointment to get my letter of recommendation!! Kind of nervous, after all the trials and tears this is getting SO close to being a thing. 

Exciting ?

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4 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

So much good stuff here. Having full support of an employer is life changing. 

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5 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

Congratulations Liz I’m so happy to hear that.

 

I got word from hr at my work yesterday that she had had meetings with everyone that needed to know and that the meetings went well. The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

That is great.  It's good to see some companies getting this right. 

 

@ElizabethStar  It sounds like your wife us seeing that others are not worried about your gender. MAybe she will start following suit.

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6 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different

What a wonderful development...good job making that all happen for yourself.  I'm feeling a sense of freedom just reading about it.  Enjoy work today Ma'am!

 

You too @JustineM.  Hope it all goes well.

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3 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

So much good stuff here. Having full support of an employer is life changing. 

 

I know what you mean. I am more out at work than I am at home. Sad to say.

 

Things are happening, today. I just got off the phone with the district manager in the Spokane area. While he said that he does have a person for the store manager in Deer Park. He does think he has a place for me to transfer too. That store manager is on vacation this week. So he will get with him and discuss me and see about getting me into another store. I explained just why I am wanting to move it seems like he does understand.

 

?fingers crossed, toes crossed and even eyes crossed.

 

Kymmie

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

?fingers crossed, toes crossed and even eyes crossed.

 

The eyes thing would give me a headache, but tentative congratulations! I hope you get the position!

 

Hugs!

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Got my first Covid shot today.   I drove up to Asheville.  At least I did get out of the house for a bit.  Beautiful weather here today.  

My yard is full of limbs.  The power co. is clearing the lines along the road.

My neighbor came over and she helped me get some of the bigger pieces out for firewood.  She moved nextdoor around the time I started coming out publicly, and has been pretty chill about it all.  We haven't really talked much about that specifically, which I suppose might be a good thing.   She just seems to accept me as is.

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13 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

Congratulations Liz I’m so happy to hear that.

 

I got word from hr at my work yesterday that she had had meetings with everyone that needed to know and that the meetings went well. The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

Yay Emily! That's awesome.

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11 hours ago, JustineM said:

Good morning ladies, gentlemen and others. Today is going to be a huge day for me. Currently at my Primary drs to get my medical clearance for HRT and this afternoon is the therapist appointment to get my letter of recommendation!! Kind of nervous, after all the trials and tears this is getting SO close to being a thing. 

Wow, That's great. I hope it goes well for you.

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I saw my therapist for the first time today. Almost an hour and a half drive. It was so worth it. She was awesome. She's a transwoman. She knows exactly how I feel and is willing to help me. I feel that this is going to be really good.

Her name is Diane Alexander in Savoy Illinois. With the Keri Powell therapy group. She is also in Humana PPO network which has a $40.00 copay. Does teleconferencing also.

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1 hour ago, Jamie68 said:

I saw my therapist for the first time today. Almost an hour and a half drive. It was so worth it. She was awesome. She's a transwoman. She knows exactly how I feel and is willing to help me. I feel that this is going to be really good.

Her name is Diane Alexander in Savoy Illinois. With the Keri Powell therapy group. She is also in Humana PPO network which has a $40.00 copay. Does teleconferencing also.

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3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Wow, That's great. I hope it goes well for you.

It went great! I have the approval from my Primary Dr and will have the letter from my therapist in the next week or so. Can’t get into my endocrinologist until June so that’s kind of disappointing. But what can you do right? 

 

3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Her name is Diane Alexander in Savoy Illinois.

I actually have family in Savoy. Glad you found a great therapist!

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1 hour ago, JustineM said:

It went great! I have the approval from my Primary Dr and will have the letter from my therapist in the next week or so. Can’t get into my endocrinologist until June so that’s kind of disappointing. But what can you do right? 

 

I actually have family in Savoy. Glad you found a great therapist!

Thanks.

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@Jamie68 It sounds like you found a good thing.  Long drive, but worth it, I know.  I can't Imagine doing this without my therapist.  That's a significant step.

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The baby shower at work went OK I guess. TBH it was a little boring. We sat around for 20 minutes waiting on food. After we ate the mother-to-be opened the gifts. There's a breast feeding kit called the THE TIT KIT, who knew? Seems rather bold for a product name and then there's lactation cookies (?). I don't know how much of this I need or really want to learn about. It's like studying for a test I'll never take. I was over dressed compared to the other ladies but several did tell me I looked really nice.

 

Change of topic.

At the end of last night I asked my wife what was up with her using my name when the nurse came looking for me since she promised to dead-name forever. She said she's testing-the-waters. So we're definitely making progress on that front.

 

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