Good morning All. Coffees on.

[KymmieL]

14 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I like building villages in Fallout though, so I might be up for it.

 

Hugs!

I am on my second go through in Fallout 4. Playing around in Nuka world.

 

Kymmie

[Mmindy]

3 hours ago, Willow said:

Hi everyone 

 

ive tried playing Vedic games.  My wife gave me a Microsoft set, granddaughters play it more than I do and they only visit a couple times per year.  One problem is since I don’t play often I can never which button does what. Car racing, Mariocart, are ok but don’t hold my interest.

 

Now for the big announcement, I AM GOING FORWARD WITH AN ORCHIDECTOMY.  Actually it was now or start over.  The surgeon is leaving for another practice.  Scheduled for thanksgiving eve.  After that I can stop T blocker all together.  Good thing, it’s messing with my blood pressure, too low.  I already reduced by 1/3 dose. Then we will see where we go with estrogen.  At least I know they can’t ever take it away.

 

hugs

 

happy Willow 

That’s great Willow, 

 

Be sure to follow your after care instructions. 
 

Hugs,

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?♏️

[Elizabeth Star]

Hey everyone.

 

I found myself in a bit of an awkward situation the other day. My partner had been on the look out for someone who wanted to trade a rooster for a hen. Surprisingly she found someone through our hair stylist. Anyways, I overheard my partner talking with someone on the phone for what seemed like a hour. I'm not insecure about our relationship and I'm getting to that place where I really don't care what she does anymore. Back on track. I kept hearing her refer to me as her husband and using my dead name and he/him so I just assumed she was talking to one of her friends. Well, that's I get for assuming. Turns out she was talking to a woman about trading chickens. I pointed out her that she totally did a no no and it could end up being a problem. She didn't seem to feel there was anything wrong what she said. Again I pointed out That I was going be the one to meet with this person and asked her what that was going to look like since I seem to pass even in jeans and hoodie. Eventually the time came when I had to leave for the chicken swap. My partner did say she spoke with the woman again and let her know I'm a woman named Liz. I am curious as to what she said but didn't ask. Feeling a little better, out the door I went. The whole thing turned out to be a non-issue. when I got there she looked at me and just point blank asked if we were partners. Of course I said bravely said yes, yes we are and that was the end of it. we did the trade, I got a tour of her house and wow! she has a lot going on. Between ducks and pigeons and peacocks and whole bunch of other things I can't remember. Oh yeah, chickens and parrots in her house too. So I'm still trying to figure out what my partner's problem is.  With everything that good and supportive that she's done for me, it's hard to believe that she has such a hang-up with thinking of me as a woman.

[Jamie68]

12 hours ago, Willow said:

Now for the big announcement, I AM GOING FORWARD WITH AN ORCHIDECTOMY.  Actually it was now or start over.  The surgeon is leaving for another practice.  Scheduled for thanksgiving eve.  After that I can stop T blocker all together.  Good thing, it’s messing with my blood pressure, too low.  I already reduced by 1/3 dose. Then we will see where we go with estrogen.  At least I know they can’t ever take it away.

Congratulations! I hope it goes well for you.❤️

[Jamie68]

14 hours ago, rachel w said:

hi every one   i would like some opions since my wife passed away in april i have reconected with some of my family i have told a few about me being transgender well my oldest sister wants me to take her to a special store i said sure well i finily  asked her if she was ready to see me in total dress she said no not yet well i got to thinking  now i dont really want to take her   because i really like to be dressed up when i go out i am getting so i dont really like boy cloths 

I probably wouldn't have asked her that question. It left her with the option to say no. Well you can probably wear something androgynous. Hope you can enjoy the visit. Hugs.

[Jackie C.]

11 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I am on my second go through in Fallout 4. Playing around in Nuka world.

 

I have several hundred hours into that game. I have yet to finish it. I have a BAD case of character ADD even though I keep going back to "the thing that goes bump in the night." Max out stealth skill, melee skill and get the agility trick that gives your melee skills massive range in VATS. I feel like an anime character.

 

9 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

With everything that good and supportive that she's done for me, it's hard to believe that she has such a hang-up with thinking of me as a woman.

 

I think it's less thinking of you as a woman and more thinking of herself as a woman married to a woman. Her default seems to be, "I can't let other people think I might be gay," which I KIND of get. I mean back in the 80s one of the worst people you could call someone was "gay." Half the comedy in the 90s was based around gay panic. For somebody that grew up in that time period, that's got to be a rough hurdle to clear.

That doesn't excuse her behavior of course, slip-ups like that can get you assaulted or worse, but I understand where she might be coming from. My spouse reacted poorly to, "Guess what? You're a lesbian," too. Honestly, that's a point of contention with my gay friends: They think I'm being to forgiving with her while she works out how to make my happy in the bedroom. I've had a couple straight-up suggest I dump her over it. I keep telling them that I can't expect her to come to terms with a brand-new sexuality overnight.

 

Hugs!

[Kara Zor-El]

@WillowCongrats!!!!

@rachel w I wouldn't want to bring this family member anymore either.

@Elizabeth Star HUGS!!

[Davie]

So I had a dizzy spell from my COVID booster last night and went to the ER. I’m out now and doing OK. My magnesium level was off. And the COVID shot knocked me a loop. Just need to follow up with my doc and take it easy for a couple days. But at least they got my name right.

Davie

 

[Willow]

Liz I understand, I have a similar problem.  My wife can’t accept me as a woman either.  She tries, but she is too set in her ways.  She was very happy when I took my vacation from willow.  Accepting now but barely.  Just their way. They feel they’ve lost their husband to another woman.

[Marcie Jensen]

I understand about boy clothes, Rachel, as I too don't like to wear them. I also get it about not wanting to take your sister out if it means you have to wear clothing that makes you uncomfortable. Have you tried explaining that to your sister openly and honestly? The sticking point is likely to be that she is uncomfortable seeing you fully dressed enfemme. This can be a problem, but it's NOT your problem; it's hers. When I came out, most of my family disowned me. It took a long time for me to realize that it was their issue and not mine. So, this is a roundabout way of saying do what's  best for you. If your sister can't fully accept you as yourself, then, all you can do is move on and be happy. If you don't have one already, I would suggest you find a good therapist, as these sort of issues continually come up.

Hugs!

[LindaMarie]

Got our booster's today. Moderna.

Big game on tonight, wife is for the Braves and I'm Astro's.

We both will be watching the game together in our night gowns and robes.

Life is good.

LM❤️

 

 

[Jamie68]

1 hour ago, Marcie Jensen said:

I understand about boy clothes, Rachel, as I too don't like to wear them.

Yeah, boy clothes suck. It takes time to replace them though. I told my partner, I need a new coat. I'm not wearing the Carhart jacket anymore unless I am working on something where I need more protection like welding.

[Davie]

4 hours ago, Davie said:

So I had a dizzy spell from my COVID booster last night and went to the ER. I’m out now and doing OK. My magnesium level was off. And the COVID shot knocked me a loop. Just need to follow up with my doc and take it easy for a couple days. But at least they got my name right.

Davie

 

So it's later in the day. Trying to catch up on sleep but I've still got a massive headache. Guess it's slightly better now. Debilitating. Never had any great reaction to a covid vaxx before, but it can happen, I guess. Trying to be patient with myself. Thanks for listening.

 

-- Davie

[Vidanjali]

Glad you're feeling at least a bit better, @Davie. Hang in there and get some good rest.

[Elizabeth Star]

3 hours ago, Davie said:

So it's later in the day. Trying to catch up on sleep but I've still got a massive headache. Guess it's slightly better now. Debilitating. Never had any great reaction to a covid vaxx before, but it can happen, I guess. Trying to be patient with myself. Thanks for listening.

 

-- Davie

I glad to hear your feeling a little better. I know sometimes a headache can be so bad there’s no way tell when it’s getting better. 

[Heather Nicole]

On 10/31/2021 at 2:54 PM, Jamie68 said:

It's funny, my 25 yr old grandson told me that Animal crossing is a favorite game for gay and trans people. I guess I fit into this category. 

 

I was pretty big into the old Gamecube version of Animal Crossing, back at the time, but the weird "cylindrical" camera of the later ones always turned me off. ☹️ Still kinda want to get back into it though.

[Jamie68]

6 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

I was pretty big into the old Gamecube version of Animal Crossing, back at the time, but the weird "cylindrical" camera of the later ones always turned me off. ☹️ Still kinda want to get back into it though.

ANCH for the SWITCH has so much better graphics than ANCL for the DS you wouldn't believe, high def., and there is always something to do. I still play both but 99% SWITCH version. I play DS one so I can go to shared island and meet other random players that I can talk to, (mostly hackers now), but still fun to talk to. In the SWITCH one you can only visit people that you know their "friend code". 

[Davie]

17 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I glad to hear your feeling a little better. I know sometimes a headache can be so bad there’s no way tell when it’s getting better. 

Thanks @Elizabeth Starand @Vidanjali Feeling much better. Just a hangoverish feeling now. Not sure what happened exactly—I'll find out tomorrow.

hugs,

Davie  

[Kara Zor-El]

Good Morning All, was a chilly 26F here this morning.......good day to be trapped in my "office" room with the furnace turned up Hope you all have a wonderful day

[Jamie68]

Good morning. Yesterday was a rough one. I just wanted to die. I feel better some today, but wiped out. I'm really hoping things get better soon.

[KymmieL]

Jamie, hope today is better for you.

 

Kymmie

[Jamie68]

1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

Jamie, hope today is better for you.

 

Kymmie

Thanks. I just don't know how i'm going to survive this.

[rachel w]

it was 26 here to in maine with a hard frost have wood stove going a day off doc. app.

[Heather Shay]

cold here to but it's warm inside @rachel w have a good appointment hope all goes well.

[Mmindy]

2 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

I just wanted to die. I feel better some today, but wiped out. I'm really hoping things get better soon.

Jamie68, I normally read through to catch up on the Coffee Talk, before responding if I respond at all.

This one is not one I will ever pass up. I'm sorry you had a bad day yesterday. I'm happy and relieved that you feel better today. Normal life is full of ups and downs, and nothing in our transitional life is normal. The most important thing is having a support team to vent to when you're feeling the slide down a hole.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?