Good morning All. Coffees on.

[LindaMarie]

Made it back from town, nice to be out again.

Daughter got puzzled at me. I made a comment to her that she is my trans daughter.

She says, no, dad, you're trans.  

I replied to her, don't you own all those transformer movies?

She said, fair enough dad.

LM❤️

[Jani]

Are we still allowed to make "Dad jokes"?  

[HollyNG]

Love the results from my trachea shave.Seen the results on Friday.Looks like it was not there before and putting on make up when I transform into my femme will be much easier

[Mmindy]

16 minutes ago, Jani said:

 

Are we still allowed to make "Dad jokes"?

 

Yes! I love Dad Jokes, because they remind me of the Rodeo Clown I use to see with the H-C Rough Stock Co. Shep Shepard was from of Springfield, IL he was a good Bullfighter and Great Entertainer. 
 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Heather Nicole]

Everyone loves Dad Jokes, some people just think they don't like them. 😁

[Willow]

Hi. 
 

Well, this has been a rough night and it’s only supposed to get worse as the day continues.  I’m pretty sure I broke a dock line. I still have two holding the boat but the one that broke will have to be replaced as soon as I dare venture out.  We just went under a severe thunderstorm warning for the next hour.  The boat has been rocking and banging and the worst is yet to come.  I’ve recorded a wind speed of 22mph at ground level, so it has to be higher at the top of the mast. I have things on deck or in the cockpit that aren’t necessarily secured.  When it gets light I’ll have to consider going out to do something about that.

 

today could be a very rough day.

 

Willow

[MirandaB]

Visited with daughter and son-in-law for a bit yesterday, outside almost exclusively. Getting 'she/her'-ed so casually is just such a good weird feeling. Don't get that at home, so it takes me a second or seven to realize who that she/her is. 

[Elizabeth Star]

47 minutes ago, Willow said:

Hi. 
 

Well, this has been a rough night and it’s only supposed to get worse as the day continues.  I’m pretty sure I broke a dock line. I still have two holding the boat but the one that broke will have to be replaced as soon as I dare venture out.  We just went under a severe thunderstorm warning for the next hour.  The boat has been rocking and banging and the worst is yet to come.  I’ve recorded a wind speed of 22mph at ground level, so it has to be higher at the top of the mast. I have things on deck or in the cockpit that aren’t necessarily secured.  When it gets light I’ll have to consider going out to do something about that.

 

today could be a very rough day.

 

Willow

High winds and water are two of my biggest fears. Hats off to you and your bravery Ms. Willow.

[Maddee]

Good luck Willow.  Scary!

 

 

I'm encountering some snags with my soon upcoming surgeries and effects of this with my employment. money, insurance, and employment. Mostly just people in a big system entering wrong info and me trying to resolve this. 

Later I have a bottom hair clearing session 😊

 

So many things in the world are beyond our control.  Today I choose to live and hopefully resolve some things.

 

 

[Willow]

Well the sun is up and there was a lull in the wind so I went out to check things.  I didn’t loose the dock line but it did loosen enough that we were swinging a bit. My preventer also came loose and the tv antenna fell.  Other than that we seem to be shaken but not stirred.  Wind is now back.  
 

Liz, I appreciate you comments.  The water here varies with the tide from less than 2 ft to barely 6.  I’d say you could stand up BUT that doesn’t count the couple feet of silt that you’d quickly sink into.  
 

the wind is definitely more concerning.  You seem to be getting ice and snow from the same storm.
 

weather service now added a tornado watch to the thunderstorm watch/warning.  
 

fun day.

 

Wliiow

 

 

[Marcie Jensen]

Hey @Willowit sounds pretty scary. Stay safe. Tornadoes are no joke.

[Mmindy]

2 hours ago, RhondaS said:

it takes me a second or seven to realize who that she/her is. 

My daughter and son-in-law are quick to she/her pronouns for me, and you're correct about the lag time it takes to get use to it. Smiles happen too.

 

@WillowIt's good to read that your overnight storm affects were only minimal. Lets go Condo Construction, we're all cheering for you.

 

@MaddeeI hope everything stays on track for you. You're looking so good.

 

The house/office is quiet, the cats and I are watching the birds, and I'm catching up on business e-mails. The coffee is HOT, black, and strong.

 

Hugs for everyone, (masked where required)

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Teri Anne]

The whole pronoun thing is a mystery to me and why some trans people get so hung up over them.

I present female 24/7 so why even bother with the she/her thing its pretty obvious.

I would like to know why people think they need the pronouns ?

I have always been curious about that but when I ask on forums it seems the haters come out and I get called a lot of bad names for even asking.

Hopefully this is a more mature group and I can get an answer without being called some really horrible names.

[Teri Anne]

Keep in mind I have worked with trans youth for the LGBT and have never gotten a solid answer to the question.

[Willow]

I hope I’m wrong but I think I just saw what looked like a coast guard helicopter heading in the general direction of the ocean. My app said up to 12 meter that’s 40 feet waves and winds growing in strength but 40 knots peak.  Maybe an ocean liner can deal with that but not the commercial fishing boats that run out of here.  I can’t imagine anyone would be operating a helicopter today for anything short of life and death. 

[Willow]

@Teri Anne I’m no expert on the subject but not all ftm’s look male and vice versa.  I know an ftm that took me a long time to figure out.  Men don’t dress like women unless they are transgender or a crossdresser, but a lot of women wear clothes that can pass either way.  Then don’t forget the bigender some don’t really know what they are and regardless of how they are dressed go with neutral or they/them.  I guess I have decided that I am really bigender because I can just as easily go out dressed as Willow or Bill.  Of course my therapist said if you need a label pick one but you definitely have gender dysphoria.  I am three for three on that score.
 

I have a friend whom I did not know as anyone except female.  But I do occasionally slip and say he this or that.  She doesn’t get angry but you can tell she is biting back a comment.  She is just a year or two younger so 71.

 

personally if I look like Willow I prefer she/her but if you mess up I let it go, I am not all hung up.

[LindaMarie]

I worked for Job Corps for 20 years. First 12 I was an instructor, the last 8 I was a dorm manager on the midnight shift.

I never want to work with youth again. Not that it was bad, just had had enough.

 

[Mmindy]

18 minutes ago, Teri Anne said:

Hopefully this is a more mature group and I can get an answer without being called some really horrible names.

Good morning Teri,

I do think this is a fair group, with restraint, and understanding about true inquisitive questions. Like you I'm not a pronoun snob, but if is refreshing when someone gets it right without prompting. I'll always be Dad, Grandpa to my son and grandchildren. When I'm wearing a mask most of the people I encounter see me as a woman. Then they're apologetic when I speak. I remind them that either pronoun work, as long as I'm alive.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Jani]

@Willow I hope you are able to safely ride the storm out.  (queue REO Speedwagon)

 

@Maddee Take care dear.  Have faith it will all work out for you.  You've come so far! 

Hugs, Jani

[Maddee]

Thanks @Jani😊

 

@Teri Anne

I'm also confused about pronouns. Sometimes the word "pronoun" annoys me as much as getting called a guy. 

 

In my heart,

It should only bother me when someone uses prounouns purposefully with intent.   Not when it's by mistake, or because I'm looking or acting kind of like a man at that moment

 

[Mmindy]

2 minutes ago, Maddee said:

In my heart,

It should only bother me when someone uses pronouns purposefully with intent.   Not when it's by mistake, or because I'm looking or acting kind of like a man at that moment

Well said Maddee.

[Jamie68]

51 minutes ago, Teri Anne said:

I would like to know why people think they need the pronouns ?

I don't need them, but it is nice to have someone use the correct one with me. It makes me feel more accepted. Even though I cary a purse, wear nail polish sometimes, wear female clothes, I've never been called she or her by anyone in the public yet. Only a few of my family members use correct pronouns with me. It is rather depressing.

[Maddee]

16 minutes ago, Mmindy said:

 

 

1 hour ago, Mmindy said:

@WillowM

 

 

@MaddeeI hope everything stays on track for you. You're looking so good.

 

 

Thank you so much hun😊

 

🤞

[LindaMarie]

I don't worry about what I'm called. I've been called so many names before.

22 years out now. 

What I do worry about is what kind of cat mess I have going on in the basement.

4 house dogs upstairs, 2 cats downstairs. 

All animals have pet doors, upstairs and down.

Cats make the biggest messes. 

 

Passing in public, takes practice. I would safely say, mental practice. 

once you get there mentally nothing said will bother you.

 

I would like to add that everything we post here effects someone here.

I myself am focused on being a better member here. You know, think

before I post.

Hope a good day to all.

LM❤️

[Mmindy]

2 minutes ago, LindaMarie said:

Passing in public, takes practice. I would safely say, mental practice. 

once you get there mentally nothing said will bother you.

 

I would like to add that everything we post here effects someone here.

I myself am focused on being a better member here. You know, think

before I post.

Hope a good day to all.

LM

Well said Linda,

 

Like you, I try to be a positive uplifting member of the forums. TransPulse is a great community, and I'm so happy to be here learning, and sharing life's positive vibs.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋