Good morning All. Coffees on.

[miz miranda]

Starting my second cup this morning. Feeling fairly stiff after a few stints in our tornado space last night. But feeling grateful that we managed to avoid any of the nearby tornadoes yesterday. One 35 miles north, one 15 miles south and another 10 miles southeast.

[Ivy]

Glad you stayed safe.  Tornados are scary.

[Dillon]

21 minutes ago, miz miranda said:

But feeling grateful that we managed to avoid any of the nearby tornadoes yesterday

I'm grateful that you were safe and hope nothing else heads toward your area this season.

[KymmieL]

Thankfully all my friends here are safe from mother natures wrath. 

 

@ShawnaB that is great that you brother accepts his new sister.

 

Something weird happened yesterday. I took my mom to her Cardio dr appointment.  The Dr. wanted did an EKG. When his nurse finished and was taking the EKG machine out. I held the door for her. When she passed. I heard a thank you, Ma'am.

 

I know that my mom clearly introduced me as her son. Honest mistake or She saw the feminine signs in me. Inquiring mind want to know. LOL.

 

Have a great day all. @Willow safe travels.

 

Hugs

Kymmie

[happyinvermont]

Coffee done my dog had her sip. Off to good start. One month in hormones again. Second time dueing it. No more over internet meds. Going back to plastic surgeon off Monday. Was so excited I forgot to look at before and after pictures. Not that it makes a big difference everyone's body is different and will react to implants differently.

Had my first laser treatment on face. Went well. No real pain compared to a tattoo I got. Well time for more coffee and house cleaning 

[Willow]

Hi and good night!

 

just got back to our hotel room.  00:30. But it was worth it.  We got to Hampton at 1 PM. Had lunch, checked in and went to the colosseum.  We got to see the entire group of high school teams she competed against.  Then we left.  This competition is very different from the things that do as part of the band.  Anyway, they had worked themselves up two levels through their scores in the previous competitions so they were competing against schools that are much larger and better funded.  Out of the 8 teams in the group they competed in, they came in second!  The team that came in first is from a very wealthy area.  Our granddaughter’s team was one of the largest in terms of performers. And competing in one of the top groups.  We are very proud of her and her school’s performance.

 

now it’s time to say good night.

 

Willow

 

 

[April Marie]

Good morning, everyone. One cup down and about ready to get the second before I read the paper. Looks like another quiet day here today - yesterday was warm and  beautiful but I woke up to snow flurries this morning. 

 

Congratulations to your granddaughter and her team, @Willow!!! Sounds like you had a long but worthwhile trip.

 

Stay safe and enjoy this day.

[KymmieL]

I remember going to my oldest son's marching band competition. It was fun. I also remember trucking him all over the state in summer 03 for his performances in the Wyoming high school all state marching band. In preparation for his trip to march in the 04 Rose parade.

 

Last day here with mom then on the road. looks like I may just miss some projected stormy weather.

 

Kymmie

[Dillon]

7 hours ago, Willow said:

Out of the 8 teams in the group they competed in, they came in second!

Willow, that's wonderful. I'm glad you had such a good time.

[Dillon]

I'm on my second cup and thinking of staying home because I have a pinched nerve. It's just awkward and uncomfortable, not painful, but I'd rather be reading in bed than out and talking with people feeling like this. And my mind is tired this morning. 

Alright, I just called and canceled the cab. I'm staying home.

 

[Mmindy]

7 hours ago, Willow said:

We are very proud of her and her school’s performance.

Good morning everyone,

 

This is my first weekend with no plans, and I was able to stay in my warm stretchy clothing.

The coffee is just now brewing, the cats and I are at the living room window watching the birds and squirrels. 

 

Willow, it sounded like you had a great time. I love to see, and list to the bands play at their best.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy💖🏳️‍⚧️🦋 

[Mmindy]

@Willowhttps://scontent-ord5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t39.30808-6/338167934_619488306687397_3147141972208299500_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_s600x600&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=5cd70e&_nc_ohc=RJWqN1VRzYQAX_rMgdf&_nc_ht=scontent-ord5-1.xx&oh=00_AfBjApMtHpM9tH3r9X5qZKsWdTVhbHGprMI87AifLlSBKA&oe=642ECD2E

[Marcie Jensen]

Good morning all, and happy Palm Sunday!

 

@Willow, congratulations to your daughter! That's quite an accomplishment; especially against a larger, more lavishly funded competitor. You have every right to be proud of your granddaughter. 

 

Kymmie, may you have safe travels and you avoid the storms.

 

Dillon, feel better. Pinched nerves are no fun.

 

Hugs

[Dillon]

@ShawnaBThat's a lovely, supportive memory.

@Marcie JensenThank you. I went back to bed and the extra rest was at least a relief.

 

[Rianon]

2 hours ago, Dillon said:

I went back to bed and the extra rest was at least a relief.

 

Good for you! I have a problem reminding myself that self-care is terribly important –– and yet I'm a long-time believer in what I've known as the Bloomsbury Triad, the way in which the Bloomsbury artists (Virginia Woolf, Roger Fry, Clive Bell, Vanessa Bell, et al.) split their days: mornings for industry, afternoons for physical activities, and evenings for restorative pursuits (reading, writing letters, being with friends, etc.), It's this last third –– restorative pursuits –– that I too often overlook, afraid that I'll fall behind the rest of the world. Crazy, I know. LOL So, good for you , Dillon, for giving yourself a break! ––Rianon

[Dillon]

6 hours ago, Rianon said:

Bloomsbury Triad,

I haven't heard of this--thanks! It does sound like a healthy way to live. 

[Dillon]

58 minutes ago, ShawnaB said:

Wife and I went lingerie shopping

What a fun hobby to share. My wife hated shopping, but I liked shopping for her, so she would wait in the car or on a bench in the store and I would pick out her clothes. Definitely in a lesbian style, but she could wear a little cuter than me, like sporty cute, and for some reason that was fun. 

[April Marie]

Good morning, everyone!!!  A sunny but chilly start to this day but it looks like we've got a nice week ahead. I hope to be able to get out and do some clean-up before the grass and weeds start to flourish. 

 

Heading off today to get my ears pierced!! The going to do some shopping with my wife. Life is good!!

 

Your shopping trip with your wife sounds amazing @ShawnaB!!

 

Be safe and happy, everyone!!

[Mmindy]

Good morning,

 

Yes I feel like drinking straight from the pot today.

 

I hope everyone has a wonderful MONDAY!

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Dillon]

Good morning. First cup is history, and I'm thinking about the next one. Something I'm pondering today: Sometimes, in some contexts, I get confused when people talk about transition in a way that it's what everyone does after they come out. Someone on Friday at the center asked me when I got my first binder. I can't wear a binder because of neuropathy and fibromyalgia, and surgery is high risk for me medically. Assumptions about what social or physical changes I would make or maybe should make because I'm trans are uncomfortable. I don't think I'm any less a trans man if I don't do things the community calls transition. I'm out as trans to everyone I know except my neighbors because that doesn't feel physically safe. And having to give my full medical history to explain why I haven't done x, y, and z is uncomfortable for me and for the other person. 

[Rianon]

I too have been advised against surgery because of idiopathic polyneuropathy and a number of experiences with surgeries earlier in my life. I recall –– with what's left of anger –– how I reacted some years ago when I explained to certain trans fiends that I was a non-op trans and had little choice in the matter. I recall their reactions, their attempts to be understanding, but but all their efforts, I still was made to feel like a second-class citizen ( … if you don't "go all the way," well, Rianon, then you're  just not one of us … ). I don't feel that I'm any less of a trans woman because good sense tells me I'm better off being non-op, no less than I felt as a toddler and teen who went about in boy clothes that I was an honest-to-goodness girl. That anger I'd felt back then when I was made to feel I'd wasn't qualified to play on the Super Bowl team eventually changed to disappointment –– disappointment that my trans friends, who as a group had had to live their lives as a lesser kind of people, would one day treat one of their own in the same way. Fortunately, both the anger and the disappointment are today part of my past. The result is a happier, more fully realized me. Ah, the adventure of living! It's something, isn't it? 😊 ––Rianon   

[Willow]

@Dillon @Rianon  First, let me say, no one should push you to do anything.  I am certain that a lot of what you read or hear about being transgender seems like if you are transgender, your goal should be transition surgeries.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  We all have different needs and Dysphoria.  My biggest Dysphoria happens to be related to having breasts.  But I am not looking to get breast implants surgery.  If I can grow my own, great.  (I am mtf). I have no plans for a vaginoplasty, I have no sexual desire that even support that idea.

 

many, especially teens experiment with binders, padded bras, external breast forms, long hair as trying to learn what they may or may not want in the future.  (I assist with a teen transgender group).  Our goal is to give them a safe place to get together with others the same age with the same issues where they  can talk without any judgement or bullying (bullying by others wanting others to agree with their goal or by kids ridiculing them). Adults do not question them, advise them or interfere.  We supervise and get the meeting started .

 

Willow

[awkward-yet-sweet]

@Dillon@Rianon  I've felt some of the same stuff.  But there's other non-op people around.  Some for medical reasons, some for personal preference.  For me, its both.  I talked with a doctor about it last year.  Although I wouldn't consider surgery, I just wanted to hear a perspective.  She told me that my intersex body is unique enough to make surgery complicated and more risky than normal.  So...I just work with what I've got.  My friend is non-op by choice (MtF.)  Even though she works in medicine, the thought of surgery for herself freaks her out.  She's had hormones since puberty, and since she passes really well she just doesn't see the need for more.  Her struggle is finding somebody she wants to date who won't be judgemental of her choices in life. 

 

We all get to make our own choices, and nobody should be pressuring others into something they don't want.  I've felt like a bit of a "second class citizen" at times, but I think part of that is feeling like my body is just unusual and that my starting point physically is just so different from what others describe. 

 

Sometimes I can feel disappointed about it...but I try to just remember the good stuff in my life.  I found my forever family, and they don't mind who I am or if I change how I look.  My sister is always with me, and my friend has basically been adopted into my family as another sister.  For some reason I don't understand, my partners find my body attractive...so I just go with their opinion and stop listening to the negative voices in my head.  I try to remember that I'm safe where I am, and that the good in life outweighs the bad. 

[Guest]

Good morning and Happy Indictment Day to all who observe.

[KymmieL]

Morning everyone. Up before the chickens(I think) in Mid Missouri. Wanting to make it to my sons in Lincoln before he goes to work at noon. I should do it, if I haul the mail. Should be home today.  But mother nature may put a wench in it. TTFN

 

 

Kymmie