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Jamie68
2 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

Sounds like a must-have outfit.

 

 

And the saga continues....Now I'm home and have a full keyboard.


Another short story by Elizabeth Star.


When we reached the doctor's office our first stop was the receptionist station. She asked which of us the appointment was for. My wife immediately spoke up that it was for her. The young woman explained that only patients are allowed in the waiting room. My wife then asked her this would how work, my husband (motioning to me) needs to be with me, what is he supposed to do. The lady replied..and love this. She can wait downstairs or out in the hall, you can call her when the doctor says it's OK for her to come in. I just stood there in disbelief. Did this other woman properly gender me in front of my wife? Wife tries again. What's he supposed to do? Again she replies with She can..... This seriously just happened? Baha-ha-ha-ha!
This went on for another minute. No matter what my wife said this receptionist was NOT going to call me he/him. I went and waited in the hall...like a good girl.

 

Out in the hallway I was able to beat the rush and get one of the only two seats. After about 30 minutes I had to pee and there was probably a dozen people standing in the hall. I stood up and took a quick glance out the window while debating if I should risk getting clocked trying to use the ladies room on this floor or find another. We're on the 19th floor so the view is kinda cool. The I noticed a couple of "Cows on parade" statues on one of the roof-tops. Just as I take my phone out to take a picture I hear someone say "no, I think she's still sitting there". I turn around to see who this fabulous person is that called me she and saw a little old woman standing there. After that I had no problems giving up my seat or using the ladies room on that floor.

 

A few minutes later I got a call from my wife. The Dr. Ok'ed me coming in back and they were sending someone to get me. As I'm hanging out by the door a nurse comes outs and wanders for moment, finds her way to me, looks at me an says, Liz?   Yea, that's me. -what the heck- just happened? My wife has promised to forever dead-name me. No one there except the doctor knows my name and I doubt he remembers it. So she had to of told them to look for Liz. Right? Later after the appointment she asked if I had noticed the name they used when looking for me. So she did tell them.  Of course I noticed. It seems something else has changed.

 

 

Oh Liz, I am so happy for you.

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SheenaT
10 hours ago, Mmindy said:

 

SheenaT, the hobby of tying flies is perfect alone time for me. This fishing trip was in mostly guy mode, with a lot more color and flair. There were a couple of remarks made, and my son who knows about Mindy, did a quick head swing to see how I was going to handle the comments. I replied that my choice of Rain Gear and UV Sun blocking hoodies are the new me. DEAL WITH IT! 

 

🎣🎣🎣🎣🎣 Daily limit everyday.🕵🏻‍♀️

 

Bri2020, the water temperature is a constant 55°F in the river, and our air temperatures ranged from the high 30°s in the morning to the 70°s in the afternoon. Most of our fishing was done in long john-boats so staying warm and dry was easy.

 

Since this is a Father-Son guys only fishing trip, I may only get to squeeze in one more trip before I'm out to everyone and presenting full time as the woman I'm suppose to be. I'm cool with that and really looking forward to it.

 

Coffee HOT, black, and strong.:coffee:

 

Hug,

 

Mindy🐛🌈🦋 

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AgnesBardsie
7 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

she had to of told them to look for Liz

Yay! progress! What a happy story! 

I took a check into the bank today to get it cashed and the cashier said she liked the color of my nail polish! So nice!

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RhondaS

She must have really wanted them to retrieve you, @ElizabethStar . The other 'she/her' talk? That'd make me want to accompany my spouse everywhere!

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8 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

what the heck- just happened?

Lots of good stuff in that story.  It sounds like your wife's acceptance doesn't run in a straight line...like a graph that ultimately goes upward, but is kinda jagged along the way.

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Jackie C.
8 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

A few minutes later I got a call from my wife. The Dr. Ok'ed me coming in back and they were sending someone to get me. As I'm hanging out by the door a nurse comes outs and wanders for moment, finds her way to me, looks at me an says, Liz?   Yea, that's me. -what the heck- just happened? My wife has promised to forever dead-name me. No one there except the doctor knows my name and I doubt he remembers it. So she had to of told them to look for Liz. Right? Later after the appointment she asked if I had noticed the name they used when looking for me. So she did tell them.  Of course I noticed. It seems something else has changed.

 

My guess would be a realization of, "Nobody is agreeing with me. Maybe I'm wrong?" Good on her. Good on the nurse and like I keep telling you, you look just like a skinnier version of my sister-in-law. She's never mentioned anybody mis-gendering her so I think you're stuck with being "Liz the woman." Congratulations!

 

Hugs!

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Elizabeth Star
2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

like I keep telling you, you look just like a skinnier version of my sister-in-law.

You do and thank you.  After the last time, something clicked and I'm starting to see the real me in the mirror and in my self image.

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Good morning everyone,

 

The work life at home is coming to an end, and returning to in office work. My Suzie is going back two and a half days a week, I'm starting to book travel training dates. We normally do 3 to 4 travel trainings a month, and last year COVID2020 Homeland security canceled all of our contracts with them. We only did 5 travel training all of last year, to date we have 10 agencies booked for travel dates, and many more waiting to see what their state, county, or city will be doing. 

 

Coffee as usual is HOT, black, and strong.:coffee:

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🌈🦋

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Emily michelle

Congratulations Liz I’m so happy to hear that.

 

I got word from hr at my work yesterday that she had had meetings with everyone that needed to know and that the meetings went well. The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

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@ElizabethStar This sounds like a wonderful experience for you (except for your wife's insistence).  Validation is so nice. 

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JustineM

Good morning ladies, gentlemen and others. Today is going to be a huge day for me. Currently at my Primary drs to get my medical clearance for HRT and this afternoon is the therapist appointment to get my letter of recommendation!! Kind of nervous, after all the trials and tears this is getting SO close to being a thing. 

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SheenaT
1 hour ago, JustineM said:

Good morning ladies, gentlemen and others. Today is going to be a huge day for me. Currently at my Primary drs to get my medical clearance for HRT and this afternoon is the therapist appointment to get my letter of recommendation!! Kind of nervous, after all the trials and tears this is getting SO close to being a thing. 

Exciting 😁

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Elizabeth Star
4 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

So much good stuff here. Having full support of an employer is life changing. 

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2beBreanna
5 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

Congratulations Liz I’m so happy to hear that.

 

I got word from hr at my work yesterday that she had had meetings with everyone that needed to know and that the meetings went well. The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

That is great.  It's good to see some companies getting this right. 

 

@ElizabethStar  It sounds like your wife us seeing that others are not worried about your gender. MAybe she will start following suit.

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6 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different

What a wonderful development...good job making that all happen for yourself.  I'm feeling a sense of freedom just reading about it.  Enjoy work today Ma'am!

 

You too @JustineM.  Hope it all goes well.

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KymmieL
3 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

So much good stuff here. Having full support of an employer is life changing. 

 

I know what you mean. I am more out at work than I am at home. Sad to say.

 

Things are happening, today. I just got off the phone with the district manager in the Spokane area. While he said that he does have a person for the store manager in Deer Park. He does think he has a place for me to transfer too. That store manager is on vacation this week. So he will get with him and discuss me and see about getting me into another store. I explained just why I am wanting to move it seems like he does understand.

 

🤞fingers crossed, toes crossed and even eyes crossed.

 

Kymmie

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Jackie C.
1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

🤞fingers crossed, toes crossed and even eyes crossed.

 

The eyes thing would give me a headache, but tentative congratulations! I hope you get the position!

 

Hugs!

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Got my first Covid shot today.   I drove up to Asheville.  At least I did get out of the house for a bit.  Beautiful weather here today.  

My yard is full of limbs.  The power co. is clearing the lines along the road.

My neighbor came over and she helped me get some of the bigger pieces out for firewood.  She moved nextdoor around the time I started coming out publicly, and has been pretty chill about it all.  We haven't really talked much about that specifically, which I suppose might be a good thing.   She just seems to accept me as is.

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Jamie68
13 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

Congratulations Liz I’m so happy to hear that.

 

I got word from hr at my work yesterday that she had had meetings with everyone that needed to know and that the meetings went well. The ceo even showed up and spoke. They said I have the full support of my company. I’m giggly and giddy needless to say. So when I go back to work everything will be different. I’m officially full time. I also sent my name change paperwork to the courthouse via certified mail yesterday.

Yay Emily! That's awesome.

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Jamie68
11 hours ago, JustineM said:

Good morning ladies, gentlemen and others. Today is going to be a huge day for me. Currently at my Primary drs to get my medical clearance for HRT and this afternoon is the therapist appointment to get my letter of recommendation!! Kind of nervous, after all the trials and tears this is getting SO close to being a thing. 

Wow, That's great. I hope it goes well for you.

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Jamie68

I saw my therapist for the first time today. Almost an hour and a half drive. It was so worth it. She was awesome. She's a transwoman. She knows exactly how I feel and is willing to help me. I feel that this is going to be really good.

Her name is Diane Alexander in Savoy Illinois. With the Keri Powell therapy group. She is also in Humana PPO network which has a $40.00 copay. Does teleconferencing also.

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SheenaT
1 hour ago, Jamie68 said:

I saw my therapist for the first time today. Almost an hour and a half drive. It was so worth it. She was awesome. She's a transwoman. She knows exactly how I feel and is willing to help me. I feel that this is going to be really good.

Her name is Diane Alexander in Savoy Illinois. With the Keri Powell therapy group. She is also in Humana PPO network which has a $40.00 copay. Does teleconferencing also.

😉👍

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JustineM
3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Wow, That's great. I hope it goes well for you.

It went great! I have the approval from my Primary Dr and will have the letter from my therapist in the next week or so. Can’t get into my endocrinologist until June so that’s kind of disappointing. But what can you do right? 

 

3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Her name is Diane Alexander in Savoy Illinois.

I actually have family in Savoy. Glad you found a great therapist!

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Jamie68
1 hour ago, JustineM said:

It went great! I have the approval from my Primary Dr and will have the letter from my therapist in the next week or so. Can’t get into my endocrinologist until June so that’s kind of disappointing. But what can you do right? 

 

I actually have family in Savoy. Glad you found a great therapist!

Thanks.

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