I came out... then went back in.

[Jani]

Well that seemed to go better than expected.  Very good.  All is not lost.  

Capitalize by starting slowly.  We must learn to walk before we run.  Be true to yourself and hopefully your parents will see you are happier and serious about this life change.  Don't overwhelm them with "trans news" and all less they get overloaded.  Now that you have their attention be clear with statements of your needs, but I wouldn't be pushy.  

 

Hugs, Jani 

[My name isn’t Megan]

Thanks again for all the support ?❤️

[Susan R]

1 hour ago, My name isn’t Megan said:

They don’t support my being trans, but they’ll be standing with me through it. They’re open to family therapy, and they’ll be okay with me crosdrsssing and experimenting if it’s not something they have to see. It’s not perfect, but it’s a start.

Well, Megan...that's certainly a positive turn of events from your last update.  But still, I would be on guard because acceptance of something not yet understood is sometimes a long process.  Your parents love you but still carry their preconceived ideal of what your life should look like.  It takes time to change this especially if it stands directly opposed to what you want for yourself.

 

It looks like your parents are giving you a little slack and that's great.  Maybe you can settle for that much for now.  Try not pushing too hard for a time.  Once their paradigm shifts a little, you might negotiate for a bit more.  It's a tough place to be in but it's not the end of your journey.  Keep that perspective because that will help you get through those difficult moments.

 

Right now, my situation is somewhat limited also.  I have made an agreement with my wife that I would, for now, confine my presenting as Susan to within our home.  I had completely stopped being Susan for 22 years.  When I first came out (partially) to my wife, she didn't want to see any part of Susan...nothing whatsoever.  However, after spending roughly 3 days in deep discussion with her, I finally was able to convey how much Susan has been a part of my life since I was 4.  She has since taken a 180° turn and now wants me to express myself as Susan when I'm at home.  It's not perfect but like in your situation, it's a start.  My wife has at least given me an outlet to express myself so I no longer feel contained or trapped.  I hope this new freedom your parents have conceded sticks and will help you be who you want to be.

 

Wishing you the best,

Susan R?

[Ashlee]

11 hours ago, Josietg said:

It’s never wrong to be who you are. 

So very very true. I've pretty much come out to most everyone I know and don't cate what people's opinions of ne are anymore. I still get anxiety really bad atound people but meh, I'm working on it. Most importantly love the person in the mirror. (I'm learning this as well) 

 

Ashlee

[BrandiBri]

Megan, I am glad your parents are going to support you. Once they see how happy you are I'm sure that they will be more open to seeing you as Megan..

Susan, I'm happy that your wife is wanting to get to know the true you. I hope that she won't see Susan as a threat, but only a much happier you and support you totally.