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AmberM

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As being MtF, I have come out to a couple of close friends, and have found it easier to come out to women versus men. I am starting the process of writing letters, which will be used in person, to family as I figure it will take some time to write. I have already noticed that I know what I want to say to my mom, and it seems on a different level easier than the thought of what to write for my dad.

 

There is some conflict there, and some distance, so I assumed writing his letter would take some time to figure out, but to the degree of difficulty, I don't even know where I am going to start. I just wanted to see, did others feel the same way? Was it easier for others to come out to their target gender versus their assigned gender?

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Writing a letter is a good idea.  Write it and come back to reread and edit it several times.  You only get one time to make that "first" impression.  Stay away from deep personal details.  

 

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Hey Amber..It was easier for me to coming out to everyone female and male ,but there was a little bit of shame when I came out to my BF male friends and admitted fam..like I lead then down or something. However, that's on my me. all said and done I am glad I did..be proud, be strong and be safe alex

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Born male I quickly learned how other males, especially in my time, the closet and keeping quiet about anything LGBTQA is the safest bet. They would tease and torment. 

As far as the letter, write freely, and even jumping around, make notes, like @Jani “Write it and come back to reread and edit it several times.”  This will allow you to feel more comfortable, especially when you are writing about a special moment in Your Journey. Best of luck!

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I too have found that coming out to my female friends is the way to go. I have yet to come out to more then 3 men.  It's a genuine scary thing to come out.

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I have recently come out to only two people and they are both female. One is a close friend I used to date and other is a friend that is a lesbian. They both have been very supportive.   I am a cis male that is in the process of a mtf journey. I am just now starting to go through the self acceptance stage .

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