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I've been thinking of coming out to my parents for a while, and even though I'm not too worried about any negative reactions (they're not homophobic or transphobic), I don't think I want to say everything right away and try and have them digest everything. My plan is to send a basic coming out, but I'm unsure if I should include any past thoughts and experiences from my childhood, or if I should only disclose that if they ask, or in the future. 

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I think the basic coming out is a good idea and, then when they have questions you be able to answer them better and it could possibly give them some time to process it. I’m sorry I cannot offer much advice I’m not out to my parents.

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Hey Firenze both Emily and Kelly are on point. so happy to hear your parents are level head that will make a big diff. Go Luck

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When you came out (if you're out), how anxious were you when you told people? What did you think their reactions would be? What were they? Did it go better than expected? 

I just want to be out to my parents at this point (I'm in a very small town and I don't want everyone to know at this point, or ever depending if I can move away soon). 

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I was extremely anxious about speaking with my sisters, who I told first.  After that I built up the confidence to talk to my parents.  I was still anxious but it went ok despite them being in their 80's.  

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Yikes! What a sensitive topic for me! I have not come out and I don't know how I'm going to do it. My parents are both passed away, so that's not a worry. I'm not married, so there's no spouse to worry about. Only my kids, siblings and business contacts. My kids reaction will mean a lot to me. My siblings? I can live with however they react. They all live back east anyway. Business contacts? That could be my financial undoing.

 

Meanwhile back at the ranch, I started to transition on Jan 1, starting with hormones, etc. My appearance is changing more rapidly than I anticipated, so I guess I better come up with a tentative plan, and soon. I guess as long as theres room for plausible deniability, I have wiggle room. But that ship is setting sail as I write this

 

I fully realize that this is horrible advice and, in fact, it's not intended to be advice at all. More like sharing my experience.  

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Hey Firenze. I actually did  it via FB and for my Fam ( whom already know) I told  via a phone call.

The thing is my life has always been a bit of a crazy tale think Stephen King,  meetsJohn Kerouac, Meet Scorsese . So from age 10 to 21 I need to be in hiden, but age 22 I need to flea and bye age 35 I was to f up and every one know what I was so at 50 when I came out on FB it was no big deal and the friends that stuck with stuck with me and thank god I had a wonderful mom and sis that love me regardless. So it was easy, still lost a few fam and friends but F then they where the reason I fled in the 1st place...You kinda get to a point when you get sick and tried of hidden or wondering that  you just need to say f it  I got to be me

Be safe, BE Proud and KICK ASS

 

 

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