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Heather Shay

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I truly believe the next generation is generally better at accepting the real difference in our being. 

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I enjoy the things people have put here.  I will be happy to contribute.  I do want to just say, however, that when I include quotes and whatnot, it’s certainly not because of anything people here have said or done.  The thread was titled “Thought of the Day,” and I am taking that to mean a thought someone has, is focused on, and feels relevant to their day.  Anything I am sharing is strictly an expression of my personal thoughts that I feel are most salient for today.  That can change from day to day.  Every new day is one step away from something and one step towards something right?  Sometimes too, the person, or situation, I would truly want to say something to is really closer to a brick wall.  So actually saying it to them is fruitless.  The thoughts themselves are still there though, and maybe expressing them, or getting perspective from those of you reading them can be beneficial.  And please, nothing said about what I post is going to bother or offend me.  I’m putting it in a publicly accessible place.  I wouldn’t do that if I didn’t want anyone else’s thoughts or opinions.  Those are always welcomed and appreciated.  So, without further ado…

 

 

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15 minutes ago, Lenneth said:

So, without further ado…

 

Usually we're inspirational, but yeah. I completely feel this. My therapist sent me something similar... Which I can't find now because it's buried in our chat history but yeah. I feel that.

 

However, I can tell you that, in time, you can let the betrayal go. I'm not going to forgive them, but I can't hold on to the hate. There's no room in my heart for hate. May your journey to healing be swift and complete.

 

Hugs!

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59 minutes ago, Billie75B said:

I had the courage to except who I am.

Hugs, my egg cracked in 2019, and the first year was a real battle with my Suzie. She's way more understanding now. I really new I was different in my preteen years, (1967) but didn't know I wasn't the only one.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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It may be cliche, but the predominant thought for me at the moment is the quote about the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.  Seems rather appropriate at the moment.

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"Traveler, there is no path, the path must be forged as you walk."

Spanish Port Antonio Machado

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I've set my homepage in my browser to goodnewsnetwork.org so that the first thing I see in the mornings are inspirational vs bad news.  This was their quote of the day and I feel like there are a lot of people who could use this thought right now.  I think for a lot of us, when we come out, one of the hurdles we must overcome is that most of our loved ones had "imagined" what life would be like with us, and that vision was a static snapshot from much earlier in the relationship. Imagination isn't static, it changes and evolves each day.  Too often we get "stuck in a rut"  with our relationships instead of letting them evolve. Then when something monumental occurs, it feels like the cart was overturned rather that an opportunity.  Imagine if our loved ones could start with "wow, what COULD our lives look like with this change" rather than "why are you changing how I imagined our life would be?"

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"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."

- Anna Quindlen

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37 minutes ago, Heather Shay said:

"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."

- Anna Quindlen

 

Ridiculous. Being me is perfect.

 

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