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good for you dear. maybe in time they will come around

 

you're far ahead of me  I just skip family things last 2 years 

 

shrugs

 

hugs for any who want

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I've found hosiery hard to find, seems a dying garment. but you managed to put together a lovely outfit.

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1 hour ago, missyjo said:

I've found hosiery hard to find, seems a dying garment

I suppose so many women were mostly pants these days.  And bare legs aren't quite as scandaless as they might have been in the past.

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My ex-sister in law always wears jeans and a t shirt.  Most of the women I know do, and dress up only for a special event, not particularly looking forward to it even. 

 

I'm in t shirt and jeans. 

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I'll wear yoga pants and sometimes pants but I don't feel female enough when I wear that except for yoga pants and capris. I mostly love to wear dresses. I have over 100 of them and even 14 are for winter. There are also a lot of days if I'm not going anywhere I might even stay in my nightgown. If it's church then definitely a dress. 

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good for you Ashley 

 

I gave up on church when they declared war on us

screw them. dint need the building to pray to God..but I'll bet the dresses look cute

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I pretty much always wear dresses.  Doesn't the Bible tell me not to wear "that which pertaineth unto a man?"

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54 minutes ago, missyjo said:

good for you Ashley 

 

I gave up on church when they declared war on us

screw them. dint need the building to pray to God..but I'll bet the dresses look cute

I'm sorry I know that I was going to be accepted so I left the church I went to for the last 3 years and which I was still being treated like a visitor. I'm now known at the church I go to and they appreciate the volunteer work I do for the church. Thank you I try to be cute. I have a red plaid design dress and I found matching shoes just need to save up and wait for the season to be right. 

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2 hours ago, missyjo said:

good for you Ashley 

 

I gave up on church when they declared war on us

screw them. dint need the building to pray to God..but I'll bet the dresses look cute

There are numerous LGBTQAI+ friendly churches out there. You can likely find one you would like.

 

I am not sure anyone "declared war on us."   Feels like it sometimes, though.  It is a difficult situation.

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1 hour ago, Ivy said:

I pretty much always wear dresses.  Doesn't the Bible tell me not to wear "that which pertaineth unto a man?"

Heh.

 

Wholly cultural.  There is an essay by a church father on how scandalous pants are. Floor length robes are the way to go or you are immodest. I have not tracked it down.

 

And the Hebrew is interesting here. 

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1 hour ago, Ashley0616 said:

I'm sorry I know that I was going to be accepted so I left the church I went to for the last 3 years and which I was still being treated like a visitor. I'm now known at the church I go to and they appreciate the volunteer work I do for the church. Thank you I try to be cute. I have a red plaid design dress and I found matching shoes just need to save up and wait for the season to be right. 

Are you out there or stealth?

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35 minutes ago, Abby Gen said:

Are you out there or stealth?

I haven't been in boy mode since May 2023. I just took a big leap and got rid of all of my men's clothes and haven't looked back since. Wearing men's clothes didn't feel good anymore. 

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5 minutes ago, Ashley0616 said:

Wearing men's clothes didn't feel good anymore.

It has given me an anxiety attack before.  I don't do it anymore.

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44 minutes ago, Ashley0616 said:

I haven't been in boy mode since May 2023. I just took a big leap and got rid of all of my men's clothes and haven't looked back since. Wearing men's clothes didn't feel good anymore. 

I guess I was unclear.   I meant to ask something like, do they know you are transgender?

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1 hour ago, Abby Gen said:

I am not sure anyone "declared war on us."

Maybe not the rank and file churches, but there are churches that pretty much have.

 

As for clothing today, 7/8 leggings and my button down ladies flannel shirt (buttoned down a little ;)).

 

I haven't gone out in full "boy clothes" in months. I have worn my old hoodies, but those don't count!

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40 minutes ago, Abby Gen said:

I guess I was unclear.   I meant to ask something like, do they know you are transgender?

Yes everyone knows. I put up a pride flag last June and all but one neighbor doesn't talk to me. I publicly announced it on April 17th. I posted a picture of myself in a dress and thought the group was private on Facebook. Needless to say my sister asked me what that was about and did a group message on Facebook messenger to family and not even a month after that my soon to be ex abandoned me. I also joined this forum on April 21st. I have slowly been building myself up. Driver's license, Social Security, VA, DEERS, and just last week I submitted the paperwork for my discharge paperwork to show Ashley instead. All the bills are in my name and the only thing left is my birth certificate. 

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5 minutes ago, Ashley0616 said:

Yes everyone knows. 

One thing I have repeatedly read is that TG folk are unwelcome in churches.  It might be good if somewhere you mentioned what kind of church you attend.  I would like to see those alienated from the church over this issue restored and it would be good if you pointed the direction.  I'm thinking of some that might be, but you are on the inside.

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I attend an evangical lutheran church that is actually even closer than the church that I was originally going to. They accept everyone! I'm very lucky to have found that church. 

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the politicians n through local council of Bishops have decided to eradicate lgbt in the name of God as perverse n unnatural..the same fckng religion that firgave priests for molesting young boys as God loves n forgives all...ironic eh

 

-expletive- them

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7 hours ago, missyjo said:

the politicians n through local council of Bishops have decided to eradicate lgbt in the name of God as perverse n unnatural..the same fckng religion that firgave priests for molesting young boys as God loves n forgives all...ironic eh

 

-expletive- them

Sorry missyjo maybe another denomination? 

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7 hours ago, missyjo said:

the politicians n through local council of Bishops have decided to eradicate lgbt in the name of God as perverse n unnatural..the same fckng religion that firgave priests for molesting young boys as God loves n forgives all...ironic eh

 

-expletive- them

Not to my knowledge is this true of anyone.  I think you may need to work on some issues.

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7 hours ago, missyjo said:

the politicians n through local council of Bishops have decided to eradicate lgbt in the name of God as perverse n unnatural..the same fckng religion that firgave priests for molesting young boys as God loves n forgives all...ironic eh

 

-expletive- them

Oh missyjo - I'm so sorry to hear that. 

 

If you on occasion find yourself in Cleveland, I invite you to visit Trinity Cathedral (Episcopal) - they are very LGBT+ welcoming. 

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14 hours ago, Ashley0616 said:

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Passing.  Pointy feminine chin.

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8 hours ago, missyjo said:

the politicians n through local council of Bishops have decided to eradicate lgbt in the name of God as perverse n unnatural..the same fckng religion that firgave priests for molesting young boys as God loves n forgives all...ironic eh

 

-expletive- them

This might do better over in the Religion/Christianity forum.  Many TG folk struggle with the church's sometimes misunderstanding of what is going on.

 

I like Mark Yarhouse's work and Preston Sprinkle's.  But there is a lot to stay away from.  I am disappointed in the SBC and Focus on the Family. Catholics seem all over the map.

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