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What Would You Do If You Only Had A Year Left To Live?


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Guest Leigh

i have just one thing to add. if i had only 1 year left to live, i don't think i would be pursuing my transition. it's too time/money consuming, though i would of course try to pass as male as much as i could. but i don't think i would care as much if people didn't like my non-gender-ness (...) if i was going to die in a year.

yeah, and no time to recover from surgery with just a year left....

peace&love

leigh

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Guest Alyssa Leigh
i have just one thing to add. if i had only 1 year left to live, i don't think i would be pursuing my transition. it's too time/money consuming, though i would of course try to pass as male as much as i could. but i don't think i would care as much if people didn't like my non-gender-ness (...) if i was going to die in a year.

yeah, and no time to recover from surgery with just a year left....

peace&love

leigh

You have a very good point, I dont know if I would or wouldnt transition because as you said it would be time an money wasted for nothing.

Alyssa

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I'd probably do things just as normal, you know, go to school/work, hang-out with people, ECT. I once thought I only had a month left to live and that's exactly what I did.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Yes - enjoy life - and if I had unlimited funds (borrow enough for me too Donna Jean) I would walk, ride, boat and otherwise see the world, trans or otherwise!

Lizzy

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This is not a subject that I have given much thought to as I don't think it is a very good cure for depression.

I am a lot different from most people, not just in being MTF but in my interests, I would not become a dare devil or thrill seeker and run around risking my life for the adrenaline rush.

I would stop working immediately - I've wasted enough of my life working.

I would continue to visit here and help as much as I could.

I would love to travel again and this time as I see the world, let it see me - Sally. Further transitioning would be unnecessary just taking hormones and presenting female and to spend as much of that year at Sea as possible, maybe a world cruise to get me everywhere that I want to go.

I would sleep on my odd scattered schedule allowing me to take in sunrises some days and sunsets on others.

I would never try to 'cram a lifetime of living into each day'.

I would never make a 'bucket list'. This just makes a schedule and causes stress!

Take all of the time that I had left to enjoy myself and the beauty in the world and ignore the rat race and ugliness that surrounds it. I'm trying to do this one now

Knowing that the end is near might just get me to stop worrying about tomorrow and let me enjoy today for once. Same here but it is hard when you know tomorrow is coming.

Love ya,

Sally

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Am I losing it or is Sally answering her own posts?

Hummmmm

Lizzy

OK, Lizzy!

I have to because no one else will or do you want the real reason - I forgot to say that these were changes that I wish I had made in the original post - but I'm old and easily distracted by - oohhh pretty lights - what was I saying?

Oh, I remember, those were just after thougths not answering my self.

But if you spend enough time alone you do tend to talk to yourself.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Valentine

I would go to Vegas and put down a bet that I don't die in the year. Then go on with my life as normal. (I'm not a big fan of predictions like that.)

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Guest mia 1

In reality nothing different it all comes around to acting and being yourself..I have seen it so many times......everything stays the same..funny in an ironic way but true most of the time....

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Guest Donna Jean

You know...it's hard to say unless it happens to you.....

In 1986 I was having trouble with my legs...6 months of just AWFUL tests ..I was finally told that I had "Lou Gehrig's Disease" (Amyotrophic bi-lateral sclerosis) And I had 1-2 years to live....True ....

I was totally stunned!

But what I did was start getting my affairs in order..Insurance for my wife..pay off debts...I mostly worried about those that I would leave behind...

Well, I'm still here...the diagnosis was wrong...I got into the Cleveland Clinic and all I had was bad hips...Had them both replaced with steel ones....

I'm bionic now....lol

HUGG

Donna Jean

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Well, I'm still here...the diagnosis was wrong...I got into the Cleveland Clinic and all I had was bad hips...Had them both replaced with steel ones....

I'm bionic now....lol

HUGG

Donna Jean

Too bad you were in denial at the time, you could have asked for women's hips - you never get things if you don't ask for them. :rolleyes:

Love ya,

sally

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Guest Donna Jean
Too bad you were in denial at the time, you could have asked for women's hips - you never get things if you don't ask for them. :rolleyes:

Love ya,

sally

OMG!

I didn't even THINK of that at the time!

"Hey, could you move those out a couple of inches, Doc?"

Dang! That woulda been PERFECT!

Shoot!

Donna Jean

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To get back on topic, I think that the real thing I would tell everyone is to just do what makes you happy - if you love your job and the people you work with don't quit, but if like me you have been doing this long enough get out and enjoy life.

That is what we should all be doing anyway - life is here for us to enjoy and we manage to worry our way through it without ever noticing how great it can be.

I was never really aware of life being great but I have met a group of special people that have taught me that there is so much more to life, good and bad than just going to work and surviving - I found all of you here.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Too bad you were in denial at the time, you could have asked for women's hips - you never get things if you don't ask for them

THAT IS A SCREAM! Sally - how you do see the world sometimes!

:P:P:P

Lizzy

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