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My daughter transitioned a little over a year ago at age 12, she is now 13 and her voice is gender neutral, though slightly more feminine.  I appreciate suggestions and recommendations to achieve a very feminine and soft voice.

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Is your daughter in puberty blockers?  If so, they will prevent her voice dropping into the male range.  A voice coach might be able to help with her voice inflection, so that she uses it in a more feminine way.

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Yeah, that's about right. Puberty blockers to keep her voice from dropping until she's ready for E and voice lessons to change up her resonance and speech patterns.



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Yes, she is on blockers and her voice is slightly more feminine now. However I think there can be some improvement and I want to make sure I am doing all I can to help her with that. She will eventually be on estrogen. Should I have more patience? 

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1 hour ago, MomTGDaughter said:

I think there can be some improvement and I want to make sure I am doing all I can to help her with that


Hi @MomTGDaughter, Here is a tech tool for the phone. The good ole Voice Pitch Analyzer on the Google Play store. I don't know how effective it really is, but it is good fun and free.


Voice Pitch Analyzer


And then here is an online voice coach, a young person that does TransVoiceLessons.


TransVoiceLessons On Youtube


Good luck to your daughter.


p.s. I fail miserably at both.


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Is there a choral group through her school?  Singing will help her with voice pitch control, and will be a lot of fun for her.  It will help her to be conscious of her voice and breathing to make it sound appropriate.  I am part of a Trans Choral group in L.A. but our lower age limit is 18 for the time being.  Some of the State Colleges have Saturday choral groups for young musicians down to 11 years old that are taught by the college students for course credit.  The college student director may get extra points for working with a Trans girl.


At 13, I would not worry too much, because other girls are going to be all over the music scale.  The softness or loudness is her control as I mentioned and frankly having wonderful and assertive Trans youth these days in wonderfully refreshing and does not take away from either feminine or masculine.  When she gets the actual HRT, you will need to check your voice and see how much is you and how much is training because she is going to be getting the family female voice like you did.

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Since she is at an early age, she can change her voice. Good thing is transitioning before/during puberty can help with that. After puberty, you are stuck with that voice, unless you put a lot of work into voice lessons and/or have voice feminization surgery.


Also, there is a huge connection between reading and voice. She's young, have her read everything there is. Become familiar with your public library (we all need to). Stay away from pop novels, a lot are poorly written. If she can't stay away from pop novels (I was at that age once and totally crushed on Clive Barker) make her a deal. For every classical novel read from the library, she can buy a pop novel from the book store. Reading will enhance her vocabulary, pronunciation, comprehension skills, and will also give her a leg up for the SATs. Journaling will also help her find her voice too. If not already, she should be journaling every night.


There are voice clinical labs that specialize in voice therapy for Transgender Women. This is covered by insurance. There may be one in your area.


For example, this is a clinic I found here in DC.



This link has also helped me out a lot.


(The above link does NOT work on my phone but DOES work on my laptop.)


I hope these help!




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@JennaLSinclair thank you Jenna - I do work on my voice and these resources will be a wonderful addition. I've known about Melanie Anne Phillips for years before I finally accepted me for who I am and she might now be a wonderful resource.


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Jenna, thank you so much, I am going to review those resources later today. I am following all recommendations by her therapist so she has fewer issues later on and becomes a very feminine young lady. 

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