Now What

[Guest mason132]

As some of you know I have come out to the majority of my family about a week ago. We have talked and they want to get me counseling. Which I am not against at all. I was wondering though, do you think it is okay for me to start to come out of my shell and be me? Do you think doing that would make my parents feel to uncomfortable? Even though I have come out, it doesn't seem like life is going to let me get away that easily. It will continuely be throwing obstacles my way. But, I am ready for it, I think.

[Guest LightNebula]

As some of you know I have come out to the majority of my family about a week ago. We have talked and they want to get me counseling. Which I am not against at all. I was wondering though, do you think it is okay for me to start to come out of my shell and be me? Do you think doing that would make my parents feel to uncomfortable? Even though I have come out, it doesn't seem like life is going to let me get away that easily. It will continuely be throwing obstacles my way. But, I am ready for it, I think.

I think you should start coming out of your shell, but slowly. Since you already told most of your family about it, to me the next step seems to be to start to be yourself. I hope things go well for you.

[Guest S. Chrissie]

You can start living full time when you feel that you are ready and that your parents are with you, because for some parents, just finding out about the issue might be shocking for them and the need some time to calm down and try to understand what's going on. To them, it's like they just lost a son. You might need time first and be sure that the are ready too, not just you. Having them attending one of your counseling sessions might help them, and you might want to start slow after that by coming out of your shell at home first, then continue from there.

By "come out of my shell and be me", I take that as living full time and wearing the appropriate clothing with the appropriate pronoun? Because well, behaviour comes naturally, whether you are living and being perceived as your birth gender or your affirmed gender.

Sherlyn

[Guest 1charlotte1]

Yes! Come out of the shell!

I think it will help u if u start to be urself. Not just in transition, but in life.

When I come out first thing I'm gonna do is get new curtains for my room (current ones are realy ugly)

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Go for it - you need to be yourself.

But expect resistance - especially at first. My experience is when I first wanted to be myself dressing the part was so important. Going the other way? I don't know.

But I think the MENTAL coming out was more important than the drssing the part.

And yes - obstacles - always obstacles - even by people who support you. And especially by the professionals!

But your driving need to be real will carry you through!

Lizzy

[Sally]

I think that you can see you have our overwhelming support for you and we believe that you should begin to start being you.

Start slow and then as resistance breaks down you will pick up speed naturally.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest mason132]

I think that you can see you have our overwhelming support for you and we believe that you should begin to start being you.

Start slow and then as resistance breaks down you will pick up speed naturally.

Love ya,

Sally

Thanks girls . I am so glad to have the support of everyone here <3. I am just a bit nervous about being myself. I don't want to scare or wierd my parents out. I think they will get over it though. If their love really is unconditional they should be able to accept me.