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Non-binary transition at work (in a very gendered country)


Tellington

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Hi everyone,

 

I'm French, a country and language that don't have a non-binary honorific. We do have a neutral pronoun but it's not widely accepted.

 

I'm a teacher-librarian, currently on sick leave but I intend to go back to work in September. Since I began testosterone and will have physical changes, I wanted to talk about it with my principal. But I'm not sure if I want to be called Monsieur (Mister) instead of Madame (Mrs). I'm debating going by my first name with the students, but I'm afraid it will be frowned upon.

 

In my ideal world I could have my head shaved and a deep voice and still wear dresses sometimes, but I think that's not gonna be accepted. (I don't know how my principal will react cause they will change between this year and the next.)

 

Are my non-binary peeps out at work? Do you have any advice?

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