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missyjo

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Ladies

I'm so excited. my earing holes from clairs should be finally healed. so today I bravely put a pair if real dangly earings on

 

twirls n giggles

 

here's my question..I've learned you don't cut grass n drive through low hanging branches lest they get ripped out...so with earings that are not studs..do you sleep in them or replace them with a stud? 

 

any suggestions welcomed.

 

thank you

hugs

missy jo

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Except when my piercings were newly healing, I have always removed them at night.  When hanging around the house and not showing off, I wear simple silver ball studs.  I only wear danglies when going out, though during covid, when wearing a mask, I tended to wear studs more than danglies.  My rule is earrings of some kind in the daytime and none at night.

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I have very small hoops in my ears - sleep in them, shower in them, etc. They only come out when I'm wearing others. I wear headphones when I cut grass for hearing protection so they are covered and safe from branches.

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hmmm..headphones..works for grass

 

how small April Marie? like 1/2inch? just ponderring..maybe I'll put studs or something small in at night n change to dangles for church, work n daytime

 

thank you

 

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That sounds about right. They hang just below my ear lobes. I have studs, too, but just haven't really used them.

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thank you. 

giggling..learned the grass cutting lesson hard way..lucky my earing was just ripped out but no damage to ear..other than needed ré punched

 

so consensus seems to be small or no earings at night..just changed back to studs to keep my holes open

 

giggles..proud of myself for this simple basic Milestone 

 

thank you girls

 

 

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10 minutes ago, missyjo said:

giggles..proud of myself for this simple basic Milestone 

 

 

It is very empowering, isn't it? So simple, yet so uplifting. Congratulations!!!

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AprilMarie 

 

I feel giddy, like I did something great n I know it's minimal n soon should be à no thought action, but yes, first time..feels good..like I'm becoming à big girl or something

 

blush..thank you for understanding girls

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9 hours ago, April Marie said:

It is very empowering, isn't it?

I was astounded what a difference it makes to have even simple studs in my ears when I look in the mirror.  I know that some guys wear earrings, but the look just says "feminine" when I see myself.

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30 minutes ago, KathyLauren said:

I was astounded what a difference it makes to have even simple studs in my ears when I look in the mirror.  I know that some guys wear earrings, but the look just says "feminine" when I see myself.

It's the same with me, Kathy. I just feel feminine wearing earrings - no matter what type or size. They were a major step in tamping down my dysphoria and remaining connected with myself even when I have to present as male.

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I  was so glad to get my eared punched after constantly loosing clamp ons.  I discovered that my piercings always seemed to get 

infected when i used any metal other than gold.  That tendency also seemed to lead to them closing up even after a night.  I started  to wear big gold hoops day and night and did so for years.  Eventually after ruining another i've settled for some lovely studs with a screw type back and big artificially made diamonds.  Sparkle, Sparkle....  They will be coming out for the first time =in years before some surgery next week.  Won't be out long however.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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My left ear was pierced in the 1970s, and I had the right one done a few years ago. Normally I wear small ornate gold hoops 24/7, although sometimes I switch to studs. Although I still present as male in public, I've never had a negative reaction to my jewelry, and often get compliments. I don't own any dangly earrings, but if I ever have occasion to wear a slinky black cocktail dress, I'm sure I'll get some.

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30 minutes ago, Siobhan F said:

My left ear was pierced in the 1970s, and I had the right one done a few years ago.

This is me as well.   I wore a small hoop in the left ear for years, and never took it out.  When I needed surgery (not trans related - I still thought I was a guy, if messed up)  I had to take it out.  It had been in so long we had to destroy it.  The amateur made hole was kinda messed up, and when I tried to put a new one in it got infected, so I had to let it heal up.

Then, my egg cracked and I just got both pierced.  I wear posts most of the time and sleep in them too, if they're in when I get ready for bed.  

I have had one get caught on a few occasions, and pulled out.  But the back always comes off before there's any damage.  I have seen babies pull on my ex's earrings back in the day.  And the cat might take a bat at them if dangly dangly.

I'm not wearing any at the moment.  I took yesterday's danglies out before bed and haven't put any studs in yet today.  When I am wearing studs, I don't really notice they're there.

I have toyed with getting a few more holes, but not done it yet.  Except I do have a stud in my nose LOL.

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giggles

happy to see other girls thought their earings important too..I went for 2 holes in each..why toy with it..give me the holes now..plan to maybe a bellybutton or clit ring after surgeries...

 

Charlize congratulations on your upcoming surgery I hope all goes smoothly. 

 

hugs to all

missy jo

ps denim mini with button up front, black gingham blouse, blue wedges n torrid bra n lace panties. kisses

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shazbak..hole bleeding n post not going in ..dang it..oh well..some people are homeless..if an earing is life's biggest problem I guess it was a very blessed day..

 

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21 minutes ago, missyjo said:

shazbak..hole bleeding n post not going in ..dang it..oh well..some people are homeless..if an earing is life's biggest problem I guess it was a very blessed day..

 

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I had one side that took a little longer to heal and I had problems initially with tight curved posts. Had a little bleeding as well. I just kept using saline solution on it - tried to squirt it into the piercing - and it is fine now. Give it a little more time.

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Keep it clean.  Maybe a bit of alcohol as well.  If you can get the post back in, leave it, but keep using the alcohol and turning it frequently.  Don't be in a rush to take it out unless it gets infected.  A little blood is no big thing.

It's not always easy to be beautiful.

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thanks girls

 

can't get it back in..wondering if my hole has closed in back..geez how will I ever manage a coochy..shrugs

thanks fir advice n encouragement 

hugs

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1 hour ago, missyjo said:

thanks girls

 

can't get it back in..wondering if my hole has closed in back..geez how will I ever manage a coochy..shrugs

thanks fir advice n encouragement 

hugs

 

I initially got my ears pierced at a hairdresser.  They used a "gun"-type piercing tool.  A couple of months later, after the piercing studs were out, one hole closed up.  I went to a proper piercing place to get them fixed.  The premises and the operator were scary-goth looking, but he was scrupulously clean (even to changing gloves between ears) and I have had no problems since.  One hole is a little more fiddly than the other, and it depends on the post size, but it has been eight years and they are fine now.

 

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58 minutes ago, KathyLauren said:

I went to a proper piercing place to get them fixed.  The premises and the operator were scary-goth looking, but he was scrupulously clean (even to changing gloves between ears) and I have had no problems since.

Had my ears done with the gun.  It went okay for me, but I have heard bad things.  When I had my nose done it was at a tattoo/piercing place and they were much more professional about it all.

From what Kathy said, it sounds like someone like that could maybe fix your ear.

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twirls...has 20 minutes before therapy session n said before this closes up n I'm stuck getting ré done..let's try again...it slid in n is in place..now I am balance again with 2 in each ear..

 

thank you so much 

 

twirls n smiles

 

my wife used to tell how her 1st was piercing place in mall..problematic..2nd was hillbilly girl next door with a pin n potato..no problems ever..

 

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Heh, heh.

My first was at an outdoor concert, by a girl I didn't know (and never saw again) with a needle.  Didn't have any problems for 40yrs till I had to remove it for a surgery and it ended up getting infected when I waited too long to replace it.

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I had to share these with you @missyjo! I am loving the threader style earrings where you slip a thin chain through your piercing hole. It feels sublime and then you end up with dangles on both sides of your ears.

 

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