Girlhood: Letter to My Transgender Daughter

[MirandaB]

Loved this one by "Carolyn Hays".  Some excerpts:

 

(on the gender spectrum vs the binary) "We never send someone out on a mission to discover what’s beyond us or the vastness of what’s within us and have them return to report, “Actually, we found less.”

 

(on being closeted) "I imagine what it must feel like to try to exist less and less. Why keep looking in a mirror that shows you only a distortion of yourself? To avoid the pain or being sent the wrong way, one might hope not to be seen at all. And start to disappear."

 

"I believe that hidden girl will continue to grow inside of you…I imagined the trans person who transitions later in life being reunited with that self. They finally get to know the girl they were but never fully got to be. She existed, of course. She was there all along."

 

"If a child has a problem that’s only a problem when they go into the outside world, then that child doesn’t have a problem. The outside world has a problem."

 

"…being trans works like a miner sifting for gold. You might lose some people along the way, but not the golden ones"

 

"I wish someone had told me that through my own self-inquiry, and my own unique experience , my empathy would deepen, my compassion would expand, my gratitude for being alive would be huge"

 

 

[Heather Shay]

@RhondaS thank you - this to beautiful.

[Mirrabooka]

Yes, it is beautiful, because it's deep. @RhondaS, thank you for sharing this.

 

The world has a problem with us and it is their problem alone.