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Good afternoon,

 

It's a little late for coffee for me, but still nice to sit and gab for a minute. Fairly productive weekend, my mom played middle man between her side of the family that we weren't sure about and came out for me. It turned out well, they said they would still love and try to respect me, they may fumble with some things they did say, which I don't expect perfection. I still need to take care of two of my aunts on my dad's side and then I think I am done for the family that is going to be told directly at least.

 

I just got done scheduling my support groups and decided I am going to try to do a socially distanced Monopoly game. It is going to be done via Zoom, and I think it will be interesting if nothing else (I already gave full disclosure to anybody who signs up this is an experiment). I also think I found a cute outfit I am going to wear tomorrow to my trans support meeting, though it is still digitally held, I like to feel cute and look cute. I guess today just has been a nice day.

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@Heather Nicole thanks. Funny thing about that picture, I as trying to post it with the caption getting ready to go to the beach.  I had changed out of my church dress and I changed my iv because of the wind.

 

for some reason. Am concentrating so much on getting the picture framed I forget to smile when taking a selfie.  
 

Well, today was Monday.  I had blood work done for my endocrinologist.  The tech got a good vessel, filled the first of three quickly.  I made the mistake of saying she got a good one.  When she switched to the second vial nothing!

 

she had to switch arms and get three more.  At least that’s done.

 

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Good morning,

 

I have coffee again. I made it most of a  full day with nothing but 1 cup of tea. My head hurt so bad by early evening I caved and bought a cup of the dark goodness.

 

I have a little time to write this morning. It's going to be an interesting week. We're really, really busy so I'll be going out on a lot of service calls this week. It's a little intimidating to be out in the world like this. Usually when I go places it's on my terms. But for work who knows where they'll send me. I'm starting off this morning by heading North over the Wisconsin state line to repair an alarm at a manufacturing plant. It feels like I'll be walking into a boys club but who knows.

 

 

 

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@ElizabethStar stay safe out there. I considered coffee my last vice and used to drink it All day and still went right to sleep but have decided to cut back because I used to get headaches without it so I decided that as I take control of who I am with HRT I also don't want something besides me controlling me. Something to consider..

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I am drinking my 1 cup of daily coffee and I am feeling somewhat numb with the weather and having lost my first sibling on Sunday. I was able to say goodbye via FaceTime and he passed shortly after that. He has been in rest home for 5 years with Lewy body disease - the same thing Robin Williams had so his death doesn't unexpected but it did come quickly and I will always remember the look in his face. Hours later he passed. Anyway I hope your day is starting well and you are ready to face another day becoming the you you were always meant to be.

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Heather Shay

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Oh Shay i am sorry for your loss!  Time has helped me heal from pain i never thought i could survive.  Our losses are always with us but we can move forward.

 

Big Hugs,

 

Charlize

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@Charlize thank you. You are a wonderful comfort and your words mean a lot to me.

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@Shay I know we've spoken but it bears saying again, I'm sorry for the loss of your brother.  I'm glad you could see him before he passed. 

 

Hugs, Jani

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@Jani and I hope you know it goes beyond saying how much you and your friendship means to me.

Superhugs,

Heather Shay

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I’m just sitting in my truck watching it rain. I have to wait for a call from my boss. My wife tested positive so now I believe I’m quarantined.

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7 hours ago, Shay said:

I hope your day is starting well and you are ready to face another day becoming the you you were always meant to be.

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Heather Shay

Shay, I'm sorry for your family's loss with the passing of your brother. Your heart is huge because as you are grieving you still wish us the best. >HUGS<

 

Even though he struggled with a debilitating disease, and his passing is a comfort for him. The family still grieves. Here's what I learned from my father's passing.

 

"The pain of grief is equal to, but not grater than the love you have for your brother. It hurts so hard because we love so hard." -Mmoore

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3 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

My wife tested positive so now I believe I’m quarantined.

I hope you and your wife have a quick turn around to recovery from COVID.

 

Best wishes,

 

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rough day today. @shay I too am sorry for your loss.  I think losing my sister was harder than losing my parents.  
 

@Emily michelle I wish both you and your wife the best.  Is your wife at home or In The hospital?  When will you be tested?  I got tested in July, it wasn’t as bad as people were saying but then I am kind of used to doctors and nurses sticking things up my nose.  


 

To everyone else, wear a mask, stay distanced and avoid crowds, wash your hands and use sanitizer.  We keep both liquid and sanitizing cloths in our cars and use them all the time.  And since I’m being an advertisement for health and safety, get a flu shot! Pneumonia and shingles too if you are old enough.

 

I want all my friends to be safe.

 

long distance hugs

 

 Willow 

 

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Hi willow My wife is at home.  And I will be staying at a motel for a bit. I can’t go to work and I was told I can’t get tested until Saturday because if I get tested now it will be a false negative. Hopefully I test negative on Saturday and then I can go sleep on someone’s couch.

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@Emily michelle I hope your wife recovers soon and you are negative on Saturday. I know several who have had it - some light cases some life threatening and neither is good - stay safe and take care of your wife when you are able.

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@ShayI am sorry to hear of the loss of your brother.

 

@Emily MicheleI hope your wife has a speedy recovery, and that you stay healthy.

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@Shay My condolences on your loss, I know losing a loved on is hard, and the closer you are the harder it is.

 

@Emily michelle Hopefully you come up negative and your wife bounces back quickly and well.

 

@Willow I concur on the remembering the guidelines and getting your vaccinations.

 

Today has been strange, I have felt good and kind of cute with the outfit I am wearing. I am still feeling calm since starting HRT, which my therapist was kind of surprised by because she said too much can cause anxiety, so I don't know. I have two remaining family members to come out to, then I have come out to everyone that I will do until I socially transition and go full time. My mom is already trying to talk about what my plans are for Thanksgiving, and we aren't at Halloween, lol.

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I don't visit for a day and things happen. @Shay sorry for the loss of your older brother.

 

@Emily michelleLike everyone else. Hope your wife gets through this soon.

 

 

Well as I said earlier, yesterday was my 35th wedding anniversary also the 14th anniversary of my father passing. I think he passed on that day to spite us.

everything was nice. We both worked and went for a beautiful dinner. I do believe that my wife may have alzhimers She said something last evening that I knew was totally wrong. Of course, I cannot remember what.

 

So today the FNG got Chinese delivered. He tosses me a fortune cookie. It is totally correct for me. "A great pleasure in life is doing what others say you can't"

 

Hugs, to all.

 

Kymmie

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@QuestioningAmber glad you look cute in the outfit.   Sadly that's a feeling I will never experience but I sure am glad for you. ? thank you for your kind words about my brother. I wasn't that close but mortality is something that hits closer when one losses a sibling.

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Last night was great,met some new girlfriends last night.They are like me,have lived their lives as happy males that enjoy living and dressing as women fulltime.Did get to know me more and went very well.Meet up every Monday night.They are also married with supportive wives.Wife is coming next week with me to meet them and they want to meet her

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