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Guest digitalgremlin

What's goin' on digitalgremlin? :blink: :blink:

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I am scared to go... Scared to go to the ER... Scared to go to the hospital after... Just scared... I'll be alone... I don't know how I am going to deal with that...
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I can understand that. I am sure people are scared to go to the er. Back in may 30 to June 1st. I had to stay in the hospital and I was pretty darn scared. Mostly the surgery part. I wasn't expected to be admitted to the hospital and for the first time in my entire life, I never felt this scared but I had to go because of the pain was too much for me to handle and turned out I had to have appendix taken out. Been there and done it... Everyone thought I was a guy at first until I broken down and cried as "a woman". I joked to the doctor that night when he told me that I HAD TO have the surgery and stayed two days saying "Here I am, sitting here crying like a little girl, I am 29 yrs old "female who's wearing men's clothes" and I wanted my momma." lol...

The reason why I said "female" because I haven't change my name and my gender yet and I haven't come out a to everyone yet. but I had told a few ppl I can trust.

If you feel like that you have to go to er... Just go to er... I know it is scary... I been there.

Sorry I ain't much help but I thought I would share my personal experience recently at the er and hospital stay

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I can understand that. I am sure people are scared to go to the er. Back in may 30 to June 1st. I had to stay in the hospital and I was pretty darn scared. Mostly the surgery part. I wasn't expected to be admitted to the hospital and for the first time in my entire life, I never felt this scared but I had to go because of the pain was too much for me to handle and turned out I had to have appendix taken out. Been there and done it... Everyone thought I was a guy at first until I broken down and cried as "a woman". I joked to the doctor that night when he told me that I HAD TO have the surgery and stayed two days saying "Here I am, sitting here crying like a little girl, I am 29 yrs old "female who's wearing men's clothes" and I wanted my momma." lol...

The reason why I said "female" because I haven't change my name and my gender yet and I haven't come out a to everyone yet. but I had told a few ppl I can trust.

If you feel like that you have to go to er... Just go to er... I know it is scary... I been there.

Sorry I ain't much help but I thought I would share my personal experience recently at the er and hospital stay

I just am scared I don't want the thing to go down my throat is all... Long story...

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A book is a book is a book

Except when it's chic lit

I loathe Hemingway-he has always felt like a poser-sorrry guys-just a personal reaction.

It seems so much that is written to be manly is in truth macho instead-and not my style. Terry Pratchett would be my style. I do like James Clavell but he is kind of out of date now. Witty Sci-fi or fantasy is good too but hard to find

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John Steinbeck is a good author. He writes things that actually mean something. And they ain't all 'macho' they're very scenic in the way he likes to introduce the reader to a descriptive view of everything that surrounds the characters. Such as the trees and the path they walk and the sky and the atmosphere.

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I rather liked Hemingway when I was in my slightly-obsessed-with-all-things-American before I came here, but I also liked F.S. Fitzgerald and Faulkner, though I found him a bit hard to read.

The Iliad is a great book, aside from the fact it's poetry-ish.

Paul Howard is hilarious.

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Mmmm (has no idea if his books follow any "pattern" goes, peeks at some most of mine are history. Like "The Italian Renaissance:" and such.....Famous French Quotes......Sir Arthur Conan Doyle.....Socrates.....Daphne DuMarier (love Rebecca) , photo anthologies...I don't think I have "patterns"

And I never was one for reading "one author"

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I have lots of books that fit a vampyre theme and few others that don't. What type of books are you interested in? Other then manly.

**Digs the vamp thing

Here, a have a chair, take your time and tell your titles -lol just don't say "twilight" lol

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Mmmm (has no idea if his books follow any "pattern" goes, peeks at some most of mine are history. Like "The Italian Renaissance:" and such.....Famous French Quotes......Sir Arthur Conan Doyle.....Socrates.....Daphne DuMarier (love Rebecca) , photo anthologies...I don't think I have "patterns"

And I never was one for reading "one author"

John Steinbeck aint only one. Just only name i could think of at the time :P

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John Steinbeck aint only one. Just only name i could think of at the time :P

No, what I meant was , a lot of people will say , "I love Hemmingway", or John Doe or some specific name and they've made their business to read "many" of that persons works.

I don't do that lol. And I could never keep up with just one author, it'd be to "restricting" somehow even though I could have other interests. It's the "keeping up with" part.

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Ah. I do sometimes read several books from one author. Partly because I'm a fussy person and If I've liked one or two books from them already it's like at least I know i'm more likely to like their other books. And it usually works that way for me. I don't stick to that one author though. I mix it up a bit. Like maybe say one day I got a book from Charles Bukowski and liked it I'd note that I liked that author and probably get another book from them again but it wouldn't necessarily mean that I'd go out and specifically buy his book the next time. But I do tend to end up eventually collecting books from the same author. But it all happens very slowly cause I'm not one to go out as soon as I've finished that one and make sure to get another book by that same author.

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My response to this question has changed so much over the years. Basically I'm very picky about the books I read so when I find a new author I tend to read through their works until I become a little tired of them and move on to something else. I'm at the same time an obsessive reader and can't bear not having a book I'm reading so I usually have 2 or 3 on backup all the time.

What has changed is the type of book I read. I used to read a lot of history-I now prefer it irreverent like "Don't know Much About History" or books exposing the true facts that have been glossed over and ignored. I really like listening to Garrison Keillor because his Lake Woebegon stuff is exactly like the people I knew in Nebraska but not reading so much. I like Gordon Dickson, Eoin Colfer and Don Callander and Lackey and McCaffrey and others in fantasy.

But I seldom read heavy duty classics anymore Or books that are serius and tragic. I reached a point in my life where I felt that I had seen and experienced enough tragedy and drama and didn't want to read it too. It's still that way. Except where it involves sci-fi or fantasy. And I confess I read murder mysteries too.

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I can't stand reading about history. <_<:rolleyes: Basically I don't seem to like books that are about facts. Unless it's a crime book about facts about a serial killer. Yes I'm morbid that way. ;) I Like murder mysteries, and basically books that have a story but with a message. Something that isn't too far from reality but is a made up story. I don't like it to be too out there. I don't know why. I like the creative side of reality. Not the creative side of something that is completely out of this world. I like a book I feel I can relate to. It is the same with films. I don't like too out there stories. Probably why I don't like such films like star wars. Or harry potter with all that magic. Too unrealistic for me. I like books that are hard hitting sometimes in a depressing way sometimes in a positive way. Books that make you think, could even perhaps somewhat change your life or at least how you view something.

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No, what I meant was , a lot of people will say , "I love Hemmingway", or John Doe or some specific name and they've made their business to read "many" of that persons works.

I don't do that lol. And I could never keep up with just one author, it'd be to "restricting" somehow even though I could have other interests. It's the "keeping up with" part.

Oh see I sort of go into phases where I'll read a lot of one author and then get bored/run out of works and move onto the next one. While I'm doing that I read other books on the side. Right now I'm reading a lot of Martin McDonagh, but before that I was reading a lot of Iain Pears, which isn't nearly as dark/heavy (I think I've read nearly everything he's written). I last longer on some authors than others. When I was reading Faulkner, I think I only made it through about 5 of his works (I stopped partway into Absalom, Absalom! and never finished it), but I 'finished' Yeats. Could probably stand to go back and reread him though, I think I'd get more out of it now. I also tend to be reading a few books at the same time and go back and forth between them.

Right now, I'm part way through "A Skull in Connemara," The Gangs of New York (by Asbury), and a maths book about the Poincaré Conjecture.

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I couldn't read several at once. I'd get all the books confused with one another. :P

Yeah, I'd never try that either :P Though I do hear lots of people say thats what they do. For me I would rather hear something historical that maybe says "they killed a lot of people" but I don't want anything detailed about that. I don't do morbid.

In fiction I go straight for smut lol espcially if it can be "fun". Non of that harlequin type crap. That ain't smut. Thats "romance" . I mean smmmmuuutttttt lol.

Otherwise I like "odd" books. Ones you usually don't find in Borders . Special order crap.

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She is really active on Twitter which is why it kinda surprises me she doesn't have a Facebook lol

duuuuude she got a Facebook. :D :D You have no idea how excited I am (in more ways than one blush.gif) lmao but I'm sure she'll approve my friend request because our mutual friends are the other band members. This is freakin' awesome, though I am a little nervous.... don't really know why. haha. Just get nervous around girls I guess. Even if it's only virtually. Or maybe it's just weird having your celeb crush be Facebook friends with you LOL

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@Evan

*sits in chair*

Well i have all of the House of Night series and all of the Vampire Academy series. My all time favorite vamp book is Vampire of the Mist by Christie Golden. Ummm another good one is The Society of S. And now i'm stumped not lookin' at them right now but those are the ones I know off the top of my head. And yes I have twilight too but not my favorite series. I would just prefer the books over the movies.

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*Pours self whisky on the rocks. Gulps it down. Puts sack over shoulders and walks out* Off for down time! See ya laters!

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