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9 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

Our parts manager has been calling me sir a lot lately and never corrects himself. Today he called me sir in front of a client

 

That's just wrong. I'm sorry you have to go through this. As uncomfortable as confronting the issue must be though, plain disrespect at the work place needs to be addressed. You don't need to be putting up with that.

 

@Ann W You look great!

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Good morning everyone,

 

@Ann WLove the outfit, wish I had clothing like that in my collection.

 

I'm going to speak to my supervisor this morning about the parts manager and see what he thinks I should do.

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10 hours ago, Ann W said:

Ok, I know I'm a show off.  I have no social media whatsoever (except here of course), but something about my feminine mind says "that's such a cute outfit, I should post a picture of it online" (so all the world can adore me).  That same feminine mind then says "Oh my god!  My nose is huge!  I have chicken legs!  I'm so vain!  Everybody hates me!  Why did I post that?"  lol!

Share and share again, you're not a show off if it's true. That is such a cute outfit.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy???

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6 hours ago, Ann W said:

I do kinda have the same figure I had as a teenager.  I'm just one of those people that never changed much.

@Ann W I am the same way.  I'm only a handful of pounds heavier than I was years ago.  When I was in college it bugged me that I hadn't "filled out" like my friends.   When I was in the Navy I accepted it and now I love it!   

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Today I went to the gym dressed like a pride parade. Just in case nobody thinks this is a thing I actually do...

 

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I feel pretty good about the way my legs are shaping up too. Good workout. Good day.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Good workout. Good day.

Looking good Jackie, stay positive, healthy, and safe.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy???

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@Jackie C.All that is photoshoped. you never step into a gym. LOL. JK looking good.

 

Liz, regardless of what your supervisor says. I would go to HR. also. If the parts manager starts giving you Ma'am in a derogatory way. I would go back to HR. You have every right to be addressed as you prefer. 

 

Kymmie

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1 hour ago, Beckylynnlg said:

Hi how is everyone 

Good Morning, Becky. Welcome to our little part of this world. Feel free to open up if need be. or even what you are doing/ have done today. Anything goes, (with in the rules, of course)

 

Kymmie

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1 hour ago, Beckylynnlg said:

Hi how is everyone 

Good morning Becky, life is mostly good here in my little section of the world.

The coffee was Hot, Black, and Strong.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy???

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

@Jackie C.All that is photoshoped. you never step into a gym. LOL. JK looking good.

 

I WISH my Photoshop skills were that good. ?

 

If I photoshopped it though, don't you think I'd have given myself a bigger chest? Also hips... and hair. ?

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Beckylynnlg said:

Thanks kymmiel I am becky I am so scared and I hate my face

 

Hey @Beckylynnlg! You know I used to date a girl that looked a lot like you in the late 80's. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

 

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Thanks ..I hate how I look i am letting my hair grow out longer those are like extension plus my wife fluffed my hair lol

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1 hour ago, Beckylynnlg said:

Thanks ..I hate how I look i am letting my hair grow out longer those are like extension plus my wife fluffed my hair lol

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Oh, I so want to do something like that! A friend and I are planning to go to DragonCon next year and I desperately want to go as She-Hulk! (I'm probably going to go with a shapeshifter body-stocking though so I'm not scooping body-paint out of my everywhere).

 

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Hi everyone.  
 

Coffee was good this morning.  I didn’t sleep very well last night.  
 

spent a couple hours working on my sailboat this morning.  Tested the fit of a sail pack.  Finished attaching the Bimini.  Cleared up some lines on the deck and rehung a dock fender.  Installed a second vhf antenna. I am adding a second transceiver this one will be at the helm.  The main radio is in the salon.  The antenna for that is atop the mast so has a greater range, but can’t be heard at the helm.

 

@Beckylynnlg no mean people here.  Just friends sharing ideas and drinking coffee.

 

Willow

 

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17 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

Our parts manager has been calling me sir a lot lately and never corrects himself. Today he called me sir in front of a client.

That kinda sux.

 I got sirred at the grocery store this morning.  I go there all the time and it's usually "honey" or "sweetie" (this is the south)  It was a guy I haven't seen there before.  I was certainly not presenting male.  And then, he put my bag of chips in the bottom of the bag and seemed offended that I mentioned it.

If it's unintentional, I don't get offended.  But there are times when it is obviously done on purpose.  That hurts.

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Feeling a touch nostalgic, been looking through my own post history here.

 

In one sense, I can't believe it's been over a year since I first mustered up the courage to register an account and post here. (And my paranoid techie mind went to such lengths for digital privacy that I don't even bother with now, and yet, back then I still felt like I was going out on a bare limb, safety-wise) My earliest posts (and this is not a complaint, btw) seem to have drifted off into "/dev/null" (for those who know what that means), but from pieces of what I recall, that's...frankly...probably for the best. The last several years have been very tumultuous all around for me. Only this year (2020, very ironically, go figure, story of my life) has started feeling back "up" again for me, silver linings and all.

 

But as much as I can't believe how long it's been since I signed up, posted a bit, and then chatted about anime/manga and promptly disappeared...I'm also shocked by just how recent it's been since I came back again, feeling compelled to make this post that opened the floodgates for me:

 

I can't believe that's only been a little over two months. Maybe two and a half. Feels like its been so much longer. Hard to believe I've racked up this much of a post count in such a small time, too. And in those two or so months, my spending-money budget has flipped 180 from "video games I don't have enough time for" to "clothes and such that I don't have enough opportunity for"! Even just this past summer, there's no way I would've guessed that by now I'd already be seeing a gender therapist, sporting earrings, personally relating to that Queer Eye episode with a gay guy coming out to his stepmother, and getting situated with the local clinic/hospital system's LGBT+ health center (which I didn't even know existed). Whew! And it hasn't even been three months, yet...? Really?

 

Although, that's not to say there hasn't been flipside, too. In the same unbelievably short timeframe I've gone from "knowing" I'd rather be a girl with seemingly no doubt, to "Warp speed ahead on the Self-Doubt Express! With regular stops at 'Impostor Syndrome', 'Emotional-land', 'Confusion' and 'What am I thinking?'"! (And I also finally discovered my own male-pattern hair loss...wheee....:()

 

One thing's for sure, it's been quite a ride. Hope everyone else here is hanging on the best they can, too!

 

"I'm pulling for you, we're all in this together." - Red Green

 

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I know, right?  It's like six months took place in 60 days.  I went from feeling confident to "what am I thinking?" just this afternoon...and from "I should look into this", to seeing a therapist in two months.

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@Heather Nicole @Ann W Right there with you. Let's toast for our truth and pat self-doubt on the head and get to be comfortable wit it because this hell of a ride has just begun. Wee!

 

The tea is hot, it's 11.15 am and I'm already exhausted. This emotional rollercoaster takes its toll, and yet I wouldn't change it for anything

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