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1 hour ago, Stefi said:

She is adamant that we do not get vaccinated, and I am ready to comply with the government's request.

I hadn't had a shot in years.  I guess we were antivaxers.  I hadn't had a primary care doctor either.  But once I was taking HRT I decided if I was ok with that, it was kinda hypocritical to resist the other stuff.  When the VA had the vaccine available I just figured -what the heck-.

I seriously doubt my ex will get it.

 

Which of course forces me to question just how much of my life I lived to appease the people around me.

I suppose I'd be a real project for some shrink.

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Hi everyone,

 

I’ve been spreading myself a little to thin lately and haven’t really had time stop in. Between work, home, social media and some good friends I’ve made, something had to give. 


I was able to get a new updated driver’s license this morning. It is so affirming to finally see my name and proper gender on a government ID. It took 3-1/2 hours of standing in line and being on display but it’s done. I think I got a few looks but nothing to be concerned about. The staff was really nice and used to right pronouns.
Now I have to deal with the wrath of my wife. She wanted me to wait a few weeks before getting my ID. Like there was any chance of that happening. There’s no point in trying to delay the inevitable.  

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@Elizabeth Star, congratulations on the new ID.  I know how affirming that is.

 

My news for today: I got my second covid shot (Pfizer).  Two weeks for my immunity to build up and I'll be ready to go, still masked, of course!

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I am almost done with my two weeks, as I got my second a week ago Monday.

 

Went to my appointment with my foot DR. She shaved down the corn on my 4 toe on my right foot. Got another orthotic and a couple pairs of compression socks to possibly help with my swelling ankle.

 

Got my eye brows done, didn't go too feminine just a little clean up. Then to show carnival for a new pair of shoes. womans of course. Then on my way back to the truck. I had a visit at Vickys. the sales girl was great even offered me a proper bra fitting. Wound up getting a couple pair of panties. All in all a great day. Walking around the mall. I had some looks but nothing was said. I just held my head high and walked like I owned the joint. It is great going out as my true self. 

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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7 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I was able to get a new updated driver’s license this morning. It is so affirming to finally see my name and proper gender on a government ID. It took 3-1/2 hours of standing in line and being on display but it’s done. I think I got a few looks but nothing to be concerned about. The staff was really nice and used to right pronouns.
Now I have to deal with the wrath of my wife. She wanted me to wait a few weeks before getting my ID. Like there was any chance of that happening. There’s no point in trying to delay the inevitable.  

Congrats ! I agree. It's nice to finally get the new drivers license. My wife doesn't know about the gender change on it.

As far as getting it quickly, I told her I didn't want to get stopped by cops and not have correct name. She was ok with that.

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Jamie, my wife as well doesn't know I am listed as female on my DL. I just wish the name change would be just that easy.

 

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Congrats Liz!  And Kymmie that sounds like a fabulous day to me.

 

Sorry I've checked out on you all for a bit, I've had some hard struggles this week and couldn't keep up with you all.

Things are showing signs of possible improvement so cheers to that.

I'm about to start a hell week of work. I'm covering for one girl at the desk who needed a weeks vacation while also training another to replace the one I fired a couple weeks ago so I think I have 10 shifts this week- ugh

Luv you all

Bri

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Good morning.

 

Not simply to be difficult but I prefer 3/4 decaf, black coffee.  In a tall container.

 

Good luck with your upcoming week, @Bri2020


I'm off today.  My new apt is coming together.  Later this morning I'm meeting a mtf trans friend for a run on a trail.

Have a good day
in your lifes

 

 

 

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17 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

My news for today: I got my second covid shot (Pfizer).  Two weeks for my immunity to build up and I'll be ready to go, still masked, of course!

Congrats! May you're recovery be swift and without incident.

1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

Things are showing signs of possible improvement so cheers to that.

I'm about to start a hell week of work. I'm covering for one girl at the desk who needed a weeks vacation while also training another to replace the one I fired a couple weeks ago so I think I have 10 shifts this week- ugh

Luv you all

Bri

It's so hard to find help these days. Let alone good help. We have so many problem with our people. All really need to do just show up, close to on time for at least a couple days a week. They can't do it.

 

12 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Got my eye brows done, didn't go too feminine just a little clean up. Then to show carnival for a new pair of shoes. womans of course. Then on my way back to the truck. I had a visit at Vickys. the sales girl was great even offered me a proper bra fitting. Wound up getting a couple pair of panties. All in all a great day. Walking around the mall. I had some looks but nothing was said. I just held my head high and walked like I owned the joint. It is great going out as my true self. 

I really need to get my brows done. Looks like I have caterpillars on my head. I'm thinking about micro-blading to get them all straight and even.

 

11 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

As far as getting it quickly, I told her I didn't want to get stopped by cops and not have correct name. She was ok with that.

I think my wife is still in denial about everything. I want to say she feels if I delay getting a new ID then it's not happening. She had her chance to accept the reality of the situation. I'm planning to tell her tonight about my new ID. She'll probably want to fight about it. There's noting to get upset about, it's done. This is happening with or without her support.

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@Stefi it's hard enough to have the waiting game with spouse and to add antivaxer to that can be unnerving. I'm glad you are putting you health first. You can't move forward if you aren't there to move forward.

@Jandi I'm glad you were able to change you views. 

Science and facts and stats are the best way to live safely and reduce risk. I'd rather play the odds and be vaccinated. Like Chris Rock said I don't know what's in Tylenol but when I get a headache I take it. Is it just stubbornness that makes people avoid someone that is good for them.

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@Elizabeth Star It was my first time having my brows done.  I had mine done at Ulta beauty. She was very professional, with minimal pain. If you have one close I suggest going there.

 

My Sunday, with my youngest at work til 1. I have some free time until my appointment with my PCP. Just going to relax.

 

Kymmie

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Got my head CT done yesterday in preparation for my FFS consult.  The trouble is, as much as I want it done for myself, I am struggling with the fact that the more feminine I become, the less "attractive" I am to my wife.  I broke down crying after the scan.  I really need to find the joy in my transition again because recovery from that surgery isn't a walk in the park and if I am conflicted about how I feel about myself it won't go well.  One day at a time I guess......

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12 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Jamie, my wife as well doesn't know I am listed as female on my DL. I just wish the name change would be just that easy.

 

Kymmie

Yeah, no kidding !

Same with the rest of the places you have to notify. Car title change, credit cards, bank, pension, insurance. Seems like a never ending list.

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6 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I think my wife is still in denial about everything. I want to say she feels if I delay getting a new ID then it's not happening. She had her chance to accept the reality of the situation. I'm planning to tell her tonight about my new ID. She'll probably want to fight about it. There's noting to get upset about, it's done. This is happening with or without her support.

My wife is finally past that point. Good luck with telling her tonight. 

 

There's an Ulta beauty in Eastland mall in Bloomington. I've heard good stuff about them.

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6 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

I really need to find the joy in my transition again because recovery from that surgery isn't a walk in the park and if I am conflicted about how I feel about myself it won't go well.  One day at a time I guess......

Bri, I cried when I read your bombshell news. While I’m way behind you in transition, my wife and I are doing well in our current relationship albeit with not sexual activity for over a year. We’re more like the college roommates that was suggested by others. We’ve been married 45 years as of June 26th. Like your wife, my Suzie is not, and will not be seen as a lesbian. We’re tied together with dreams of retirement and financial independence as long as we’re married and living together. Like you though, were will we be once I’m public with my transition? Her sister and brother-in-law, as well as our grown children and their spouses know about Mindy and my transition. She says she’s not going to leave me, and will go to therapy with me, but I can’t be sure. 
 

You and your wife are in my thoughts and I pray that you’re able to work things out. 
 

The metempsychosis is real and we’re both going to be real Butterflies ?
 

Hugs 

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?

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@Bri2020 that should reply start off as Bri not Bro! I’m sorry I missed it during my proofread. Maybe an administrator can edit it for me? 

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1 hour ago, Mmindy said:

Maybe an administrator can edit it for me?

No problemo!

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1 hour ago, Petra Jane said:

No problemo!

Thank you @Petra Jane, I was so upset that auto-correct on my phone changed her name, into a male reference.

 

Thank you,? thank you,? thank you.?

 

Mindy??

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2 hours ago, Mmindy said:

Like you though, were will we be once I’m public with my transition? Her sister and brother-in-law, as well as our grown children and their spouses know about Mindy and my transition. She says she’s not going to leave me, and will go to therapy with me, but I can’t be sure. 
 

You and your wife are in my thoughts and I pray that you’re able to work things out. 
 

The metempsychosis is real and we’re both going to be real Butterflies ?
 

Hugs 

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?

Thank you. The nice thing is my wife isn't embarrassed or worried about the "impression she's a lesbian". She will kiss me in public and such and fully supports the journey, in fact, she is my biggest cheerleader.  This problem is more of a in the bedroom problem.

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Had my eyebrows waxed for the 1st time at the nearby Ulta. Julie was awesome and my eyebrows look great.  My sister and I were greeted  with hello ladies (first time I was greeted as a woman). I will be going back there for my beautifying needs.

 

Hugs Stefi

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Hi all and congrats to @Elizabeth Star and @Maddee

 

The last few days seem to have gone a bit better. My partner and I are still in a tough spot, but communicating much better. The local trans group I've joined had another meeting today for a bit of street activism, and I made two new friends. And tomorrow I'll be getting my second shot.

 

Best wishes to all!

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On 6/30/2021 at 10:12 AM, Elizabeth Star said:

I was able to get a new updated driver’s license this morning.

Wonderful news @Elizabeth Star. That is a long time to wait but worth it in the end I’m sure you’ll agree. Sorry to read your spouse is a little reluctant. I’m glad you did this for yourself. It makes life so much easier.

 

Congrats!

Susan R?

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13 hours ago, Maddee said:

I'm off today.  My new apt is coming together.  Later this morning I'm meeting a mtf trans friend for a run on a trail.

Have a good day

Hi @Maddee  Congratulations on your new place. Have fun with your friend. That sounds like a great time with some good company.

 

My Best,

Susan R?

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Went into an actual fitting room today for the first time since 3/1/2020.

 

Back then I was buying a dress to wear in secret when no one else was home, just to spice up the current collection of such things in my world dating back as far as I can remember. Today I was looking to get some shorts (with pockets) to wear out in the world, to kind of reflect my current state-somewhere between the gender assigned to me and the one I'm evolving into. 

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Well looks like my oldest son ruined my plans for tomorrow. He is in CO. visiting his inlaws. On Tuesday I texted him to drive safe and will see him on Friday. Today we went and got our other two grandsons and were going to get all 4 of the grandkids together.

 

My wife gets a text on our way home. My oldest isn't comfortable with me coming. He thinks I am ambushing him. SO I decided just to let my wife and youngest go down tomorrow. I am not worrying about getting off early from work. I have had it with him. My wife says he doesn't understand. yet he hasn't talked to me in 3 months.

 

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