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By MaeBe · Posted
I have three within a two block walk! You'd think I was in Seattle already! The one I have always gone to is the quintessential "local coffee shop" though; local artist's works on the wall, drinks named after customers and local geography, and it's run down just enough to feel homey. Also, I can bring my 20oz coffee mug in and get it filled for the price of a small! :D -
By MaeBe · Posted
Eczema was my excuse. *high fives!* It's lovely when you get a nice interaction like that. Yesterday I got a "you're so sweet" from a man who I held the door for, I don't think he saw all of me until after he'd walked past so he only picked up on my outfit and body appearance. I was so paranoid that I used too male of a voice in return, but c'est la vie. I felt really nice after it though. I tend to try to put in a lot of effort. If I wear make up, it has to be perfect, etc. I put this pressure on myself because I, too, don't have a chance in h-e-double hockey sticks at "passing". So, I try not to make myself an "easy target". -
By KathyLauren · Posted
It's just the opposite here. There are a ton of local boutique coffee roasters in this area. There is no excuse for bad coffee here, which is why I am always surprised when I get mediocre truck-stop coffee in restaurants. -
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By MaeBe · Posted
It’s a huge difference, the laser has done wonders. I still have some stragglers, but I hope a few more sessions to try to zap those. Mostly what’s left are the white/blonde hairs, they still need a shave but they don’t really cause me much dysphoria. I do use makeup, I barely go out without liner and mascara these days. Don’t tend to do a full face, but when I go for a little coverage I use tinted moisturizer and a little concealer under setting powder. Here’s me today, with about as much makeup as I go out with (forgive me the wings, I struggled today…), I went and got my hair done, so I had to look good for the ladies. -
By Ivy · Posted
This is me as well. I wear dresses and skirts exclusively. That is pretty obvious. When I get misgendered, it's not by mistake. -
By Ivy · Posted
These places have the best food. Unfortunately, the one I used to go to thinks I'm going to hell these days. -
By MaeBe · Posted
I'm glad to hear it! Fruits and veggies time! I just had a greek yogurt with flax meal and blueberries and now I'm feeling better about that! I am so glad you're OK! Just finished my second cup of coffee after an appointment with my normal stylist, I haven't see her since November! First time see her since going femme full time. I'd texted her before the appointment, just in case, but she has been super sweet the whole time. Not much hair ended up on the floor, but I'm going to need the back trimmed before long but for now I just got some shaping done. Ugh, I'm sorry to hear that. My guess is your neighbor won't be paying the medical bill... -
By Penrose-Pauling · Posted
Doubt it, most people against the T are also against the LGB, I am bi and it all seems to intersect one way or another. Trans people are "new" in the eyes of the public so its just a weird thing for them all. -
By Penrose-Pauling · Posted
I have the same feeling as you. I often wish I had started HRT earlier or was on puberty blockers, maybe I could have been taller than 5'7. But there's nothing you can do about it now, that's life and as much as it sucks and seems pointless at times you have to work with what you are given. "Passing isn't the end all be all" I hear a lot but to me it is everything, as much as that may sound like an insane position It is just how I feel. Anyway, on the topic of your mother, mine had the same sentiment and mostly still does along with my father. Im not sure how old you are but you seem to be around my age or younger, I am 17. But most families don't know how to deal with it and they will probably see you as your original gender no matter what you do. Their comments mean nothing really because in the end when adulthood rolls around you can just leave or at least have some independence from them. I would also not compare yourself to other males, it will eat you alive. I just remind myself that I will get there, maybe I won't be the pillar of masculinity but ill pass one day. Envy is the thief of happiness or something like that. -
By Willow · Posted
I can never find coffee that matches good restaurants coffee. The closest iv come so far was when I accidentally made a pot last week with less water than I had meant to use. But that still wasn’t right. Now I’ve heard put a little salt in with the ground coffee or add baking soda but I have no clue how much to use. home baked pie in the local cafe is the best, but the best Key Lime pie was from a place called The Fish House in Key Largo. One thing they do differently is the topping is meringue not whipped cream. But it’s also made from real key limes. An advantage of being in the keys. willow -
By VickySGV · Posted
They have unleashed the hounds toward every less than perfectly, and idealistically feminine Cis woman in the state to be sued for not looking the way a plaintiff thinks they should look. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
Great videos above. Thanks for sharing. Here's a favorite song. -
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By Sally Stone · Posted
Post 10 “My Feminine Presentation” I have no illusions about fooling people. It’s a pretty safe bet that most of the people I meet or interact with recognize I was not born female. Going “stealth” just isn’t in the cards for me. Despite this, I am usually recognized and addressed as a woman. As an example, I recall a past shopping trip to a department store. After finding a nice purse, I took it the checkout counter. The store associate took my credit card, rang up my purchase, and when she handed my purchase and credit card back to me, she said: “thank you Miss Stone,” despite the fact that my credit card had my male name on it. Clearly, she recognized I was presenting as a woman, but when I thought about it, I realized I had made it easy for her to choose the correct gender response. The way I was dressed, the way my makeup and nails were done, ensured there was no ambiguity regarding my gender. In fact, I can’t remember the last time somebody mis-gendered me while presenting in my feminine persona. But that’s because putting such effort into my feminine appearance, I don’t give people much of a chance to be confused. Occasionally, one of my trans friends will accuse me of being overdressed, and in some situations, they might be right, but in my defense, I feel the need to present in a way that supports the feminine woman inside of me. I’m a “girly-girl” by nature, and it leads me to be overtly feminine when it comes to the fashions I choose, and why I spend so much on the details of my appearance. I simply want my appearance to match the way I feel. Because my girl time is limited, I always want to make the most of it. This is another key factor driving my upscale feminine presentation. I honestly believe life is too short to wear pants and comfortable shoes. Things might be different for me if I was living fulltime as a woman instead of only part-time. I’m sure, for practicality’s sake, I would dress casually more often, but I know I’d still retain my penchant for a more upscale or girly-girl appearance. Another one of my friends asked me one time if I worried that my appearance caused me to stand out. She seemed to think it was important for me to blend in and not bring attention to myself. I may not be typical in this regard, but I don’t actually want to blend in. I’m proud of the effort I put into my appearance, and I like being noticed for it. As I stated earlier, I will never be able to achieve true stealth, so for me, it seems wasted effort to try blending in. I am comfortable with my feminine appearance, and occasional criticisms don’t bother me, but this wasn’t always the case. For a long time, I thought there was something wrong with me. Within the transgender community I kept hearing that it is more important to be comfortable and practical. Dress casually and blend in seemed the general consensus. Because my views were quite the opposite, I wondered if perhaps I wasn’t trans at all. Maybe my perceptions regarding feminine appearance came from a completely different place. The assumption I made was that instead of a “girly” feminine side driving my appearance motivations, maybe the catalyst was more akin to a fetish. It was a sobering thought, but maybe I was in actuality, a prototypical transvestite? For the longest time I couldn’t shake this concern, and it caused me to question everything I thought I knew about myself. But the questioning phase, while difficult, turned out to actually be beneficial. The first thing I questioned was why we want to blend in when we are trans, and the answer is, we have a legitimate reason for not wanting to stand out. The second thing I questioned was whether cis women had the same concern about the need to blend in. I think the answer is no. In fact, there always seems to be levels of competition among women regarding their appearance, so in many instances they actually seek to stand out from their peers. The desire to put so much effort into my appearance, while not typical for everyone, seems to be a fairly common female behavior. Since the female half of my personality exhibits this behavior as well, I cling to the idea that just because I like to stand out doesn’t mean my motivations are fetish driven. This was a happy epiphany for me, and it turns out the fetish concern and the questioning phase that followed, brought me to a clearer understanding of who I am. Possessing a better understanding of why I am the way I am makes me comfortable expressing a feminine appearance that leans in a more girly-girl direction. Ultimately, the way we choose to portray our gender identity is a personal choice. Each of us has to be comfortable with that choice. I’m a part-time woman, so consequently, things like GRS, HRT, or feminizing surgery aren’t the right choices for me. Therefore, I rely on clothing, makeup, and other typically feminine fashion details to ensure I’m recognized as a woman. I acknowledge that my choice may not be typical but it has proven to be extremely effective. Hugs, Sally
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