Good morning All. Coffees on.

[LindaMarie]

I typed in c o c o c k e d , like getting you know, smacked up side the head.

I used spaces up there,

co-cocked

 

[Elizabeth Star]

14 minutes ago, LindaMarie said:

So a friend from back when is trying to move in on your life?

Asking you for a date? Kinda like I dated you, now your wife.

The fact you came out is an invitation for these creeps.

 

What you do is up to you, and what you do will tell who you really are.

 

This life can rip people apart, be careful how you go, you will live with it the rest of your life.

LM❤️

 

 

 

Hopefully it goes without saying that I want nothing to do him. Also, I’m a lesbian so…

[LindaMarie]

I met God today, his new wife let me in.

God said to me, my son, where have you've been?

I said, watching the dinosaurs die, nice project you had going.

 

God didn't like that reply. sent me off.

 

So I come back some eons later and dad, (god) say's what's up?

So I say, new wife looks neat, what's up with you?

 

He says, can you do this for me? My human project is not going well.

      and stupid me says, like the dinosaurs?

 

That was not a good reply to the all mighty.( sighs and sighs)

 

So do I wake up in paradise?

No
No more fun.....humans...more....humans.....

 

all waiting in line, looking for a ride.

 

So I get past that and used some skills to contact the one above, the almighty that is?

and he sends me a skirt.........

LM❤️

 

[Teri Anne]

Liz he sounds like a jerk because he knows you are married.

I would just say no and let it go.

I get asked out occasionally and sometimes I accept.

It is a weird feeling  for sure.

I have had dated a few guys over the years but it still feels weird to get asked.

[LindaMarie]

The tired duck gets to be someone's lunch so to speak.

 

[LindaMarie]

Enough. Let us move on.

I joined my wife in a walk the dogs day. 

Been a while, but I made it!!!!

 

Yeah I got the acks and grumbles,

but I made it.

LM

[Robin.C]

Whoa there's been so much to catch up on. I can't even being to figure out what or if there is anything I would like to reply to.

I guess stay safe, be honest and true and have a happy New Year.

@LindaMarie I love the amp. I am starting on a 4x10 Marshall cab copy once all the parts arrive. You know just to have something to do. I was also doing some research on building an amp to run it 🤪

 

Hugs

Robyn

[KymmieL]

I think I would be weirded out too. If a guy asked me out. Sorry I am a lesbian, too.

 

Well I think the wife is POed at me. Because  I  have an appointment with my therapist that was made 3 weeks ago.  So, I  can't go with her to get the grand kids. That she made the plans to do, yesterday. Without even asking me.  Oh, well. 

 

Kymmie 

[KymmieL]

Had something good happen at work. We had a commercial customer come in. One of the guys from the city shops a block away. He waited while I took care of a couple things. I finished his transaction. As I was getting the receipt off the printer. He says to me. "You are going by Kym now?" I say yea, but It is no big deal. (meaning I get called by my given name at work,  also) I say "Even hey you works sometime."  He says, Well it does. I had a good friend in high school who was intersexed. He decided to change to being a female. He is still friends today.

 

It is strange where you find allies, and supporters. It made me smile the rest of the shift.

 

Kymmie

[Guest]

I’ve been flirted with and checked out but no one has ever asked me out. I’m married so it’s no buggy but I also would like to make a splash. I was rarely approached before transition. I guess I’m just odd enough to dissuade advances. 

[Sally Stone]

Getting hit on is an eventuality each of us has to deal with at some point.  It can be flattering, but it can also be creepy.  Sorry you are having to deal with one of the creepier advances Liz.  I have had advances from a couple of "trans admirers" in the past, which find kind of creepy, but I still try to be polite as I tell them I'm not interested.  

[Ivy]

1 hour ago, Sally Stone said:

I have had advances from a couple of "trans admirers" in the past, which find kind of creepy, but I still try to be polite as I tell them I'm not interested.  

I did have a guy try to pick me up in the parking lot at the grocery store one time.   I was polite, but no way I would go off with some guy I didn't know.  Besides, I'm like 71.  

Phone number?  Nope.

I might just be paranoid but made sure nobody followed me home.

[KathyLauren]

30 minutes ago, Jandi said:

I might just be paranoid but made sure nobody followed me home.

Just because you're paranoid, it doesn't mean that they are not out to get you.  Glad you stayed safe.

[Mmindy]

1 hour ago, Jandi said:

I might just be paranoid but made sure nobody followed me home.

Good morning everyone, the coffee was the usual HOT, black and strong.

 

Jandi, I totally agree with @KathyLauren paranoid or not, people see women and especially trans-women as less than capable in protecting themselves. Taking extra precautions to be safe isn't being paranoid, it's the right thing to do. 

 

@Elizabeth StarI'm sorry you ran into a creeper, who didn't value your commitment to your partner. "Just say NO"-Nancy Regan. I only slightly worked to keep kids off drugs, but it an easy way to halt a creeper. I'm not suggesting you need to be rude, just be up front and to the point.

 

Hugs for everyone (masked again where required)

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Teri Anne]

Jandi its not being paranoid its being careful and there is nothing wrong with that.

I always keep an eye out and know what is going on around me.plus I listen to my intuition/ gut feelings.

Its been years and I wasn't exactly out at the time but a not very experienced CD er either. One guy I met at the LGBT pride center here in town asked me out and what I thought was going to be a date turned into hell.

He had a female friend at his place and they wanted a threesome with me tied up. They were big into BDSM and that kind of stuff.

I am not into it at all and I do not like being held down or tied up.

Both grabbed me and were trying to tie my wrists and I hit him hard and he hit the floor she stopped to help him and I left as quickly as I could.

Now it gets spicy they both start stalking me,they drive by my house and where I worked.

I had to get the police involved and come to find out they had been arrested twice for doing this to other trans persons.

The whole event taught me to be careful and watch everything going on around you.

They are still in prison where they need to be. Sexual predators are not cool.

 

[Mmindy]

5 minutes ago, Teri Anne said:

The whole event taught me to be careful and watch everything going on around you.

Wow Teri,

 

I'm glad you are okay, and did the right thing getting the police involved.

My biggest reason for being in therapy is because of the things I've seen people do to one another in the name of love. My Transgender Issues, are second for me now that I'm out to my wife and grown children.

[LindaMarie]

Wow Teri, I've been through a lot, but never on that scale.

The worst physical thing I experienced was when this creep came up to the bar,

wrapped his arm around me and started groping me. I knocked my drink over when I shoved

him off of me and he hit a table knocking over some drinks.

He then got kicked out, and the club bought me drinks.

I carried mace in my purse after that.

 

[Jamie68]

15 minutes ago, LindaMarie said:

I carried mace in my purse after that.

Not a bad idea.

[LindaMarie]

You know? When I think about it the only really bad thing I went through after the

first fire works we go through, was all the questions. Over and over and over again.

And explaining to my boss, that was scary. but it paid off. I was under federal law then.

Then a few years ago I purged LM out of my life even shaved my head. 3 years of pure misery,

but that paid off also. But more questions, as to why did you?

Then I come out again. I got the best question ever.

 My wife asked me, what took you so long?

LM❤️

 

[LindaMarie]

Thought I learned a new trick.

You know fixing your skirt, the hook and zipper, and the back hem vent?

All that reaching behind and adjusting? All that while trying to look in the mirror?

Well I tried hook and zipper in front, put my thumbs in the waist band,

sucked in my breath and spun around 180 degrees.

Zipper, hook and vent right where it should be?

Nope. I knocked a few things off the wall, landed on the floor.

Skirt ruined, and a few other things including me.

 

So how was your day?

LM❤️

 

[Ivy]

50 minutes ago, LindaMarie said:

Well I tried hook and zipper in front, put my thumbs in the waist band,

sucked in my breath and spun around 180 degrees.

I have had success with a similar procedure in the past.

This works with a bra - trick I learned watching my ex for years.

[Elizabeth Star]

Recent events got thinking about personal safety. I do admit I live in bubble where I don't really have to worry but there is always that slight possibility something could happen. I forget that I can't "take care of myself" the way I used to. I wasn't that strong to begin with, and after 2 years hrt, (and I don't work out) I have to start being careful. Be aware of my surrounding, keep to well lit areas, don't talk to strangers, thing of that nature. I guess it's just another part of my reality I have to learn.

 

[Ivy]

1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Recent events got thinking about personal safety.

After I first came out and was presenting fem, I mentioned to my daughter that I was careful where I went.  She said "It's like that all the time."

She also told me "Welcome. to the 'Pink Tax'," when women's stuff is more expensive than the same things sold for guys.

She also warned me about getting out of a car wearing a skirt.  

At least she's supportive.

[Astrid]

1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I wasn't that strong to begin with, and after 2 years hrt, (and I don't work out) I have to start being careful.

 

My workouts have had to adjust over my 2 years on estrogen. My strength is definitely reduced, so lifting free weights is down, pushups are way harder, etc.  I'm beginning to order less-heavy items (e.g., no more than 25 lb. bags of ice melter or bird seed, instead of 40 or 50 lb. bags).  But the benefits of HRT greatly outweigh any inconvenience.

 

Now (pause) for another (heavy breath) side crunch...[collapse]...maybe tomorrow! 🙂

 

Astrid

[Teri Anne]

I am not nears as strong as I used to be.

I studies martial arts from the age of 14 thru 30 years old so I am not defenseless per say.

Still have the reaction time and the knowledge to do damage if I have to.

I have had to use it in self defense more than once.

These days I just pack a side arm some times just in case.

I really don't like to be around violent people but anymore the lady at the grocery that flips out can be violent. Its a crazy world.