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Well got a message from our realtor. the current owner has signed a contract on another house. Yea, now just have to wait till the closing date. Come on July 29th.

 

I am wondering if I will have my own bathroom in our new house. the master bath has a shower. and the other bathroom has the tub and shower. Being my wife and youngest most of the time take a bath. I wonder if I will have the master bath to myself.

Just after I got the good news I texted my wife. It was before noon. I had to ask her while out at dinner if she got it. over 6 hours later. I don't know what is going on with her. Does she want to move or not? She has complained about this place for over 5 yrs especially when recertification time comes. I just wonder what she has on her mind, about the house.  She doesn't seem to thrilled at the idea of getting one.

Is she expecting me to pay all the housing bills. like I do now. while she seems to always have money to burn. While I don't know bit I think she has about 4-5k in her savings. I know she has her retirement from her other job, and the reissued xmas check from her father I never saw. She calls it her Lincoln fund. She actually took 500 out of it to help pay the ernist money.

 

I'll tell you that if the SHTF with us. I have no qualms of just up and leaving her the house. 

 

Well I hope everyone has a good weekend. Of course I have to work.

 

I'll be checking in.

 

Kymmie

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Good early morning

 

The NWS woke me up at 5am when they issued a Tropical Storm Warning for our area.  Gee last night it was only 10% chance it would produce any more than rain and maybe a thunderstorm.  
 

@KymmieL I’m sorry you are going through all this trauma.  None of us deserve to be treated like this, but many are.  I know more who have than who haven’t unfortunately.  
 

I could use a refill on my coffee.  Who’s hosting today?  Oh I guess I am.   I need to make a pot so everyone can enjoy a cup.  Any volunteers to bring the donuts?  maybe some Jersey blueberries?

 

If the rain doesn’t cancel it, the COA is having an ice cream social this afternoon.  Looking forward to that.  Our first social gathering/meet and greet.

 

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Willow
 

 

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7 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well I hope everyone has a good weekend. Of course I have to work.

 

At least you're not alone. I've got clients today too.

 

Hugs!

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Happy Independence Day weekend to those in the USA 😊

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17 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

I've come to like lavender. So here we are

Good morning Hannah,

Lavender is my fragrance of choice these days.

I hope the car troubles are minimal, and your house/kid sitting went well.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Good morning everyone,

 

Thank you for the well wishes, and concern about my mishap and knee injury.

 

I've been working early in the shop to take advantage of the lower temperatures. So my coffee was hours ago, and I've switched to cool water, and the occupational sports drink to keep up my electrolytes. 

 

My knee is still very tender where the darkest of bruising still exists. I never lost any range of motion while wearing shorts, however my jeans put pressure on the side of my knee when I sit or squat. I have a real busy schedule for the next three weeks, and will only take Sunday and Monday evening to celebrate our Independence Day festivities. IMS Symphony on the Prairie at Conner Prairie, IN, then Monday evening we'll take in Westfield Rocks the 4th, in Westfield, IN

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋 

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Impressed with every a couple months on my transition going well.My parents say they do not miss the unhappy son they once had now a much happier daughter.My wife loves my soft skin and how my breast development is going.A b cup right now and my goal is a c cup wanting 38 C breasts.My estrogen levels look good so far,this is from my latest check up with the hrt specialist

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Well, I am beginning to think my relationship with E. may be that the girl has never had ever had a real friendship, or very few. Lots of other kinds, and dysfunctional abusive kinds.

If someone really strikes my fancy, I generally love easily and there is little that can happen to change my loyalty, but I have been minding my emotions because I didn't want to ruin it. But when you start caring for a person and they are sick, or still abusing themselves or hurting in general- it hurts. So perhaps the best I can do is just be there for her. 

The strange thing is that she really isn't unique. So many people have to work through healing trauma, that can take a lifetime, myself included. So it is a lesson for me to learn to put my feelings aside and really trying to be nurturing, which isn't always direct. Sometimes, it's about giving space and time to another to work their own garden in their own time and being patient and tolerant. 

Sometimes love is wanting to see the other person find their healing and become whole regardless if it includes you or not.

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Good morning all

 

instead of a single cup pod, I made a pot of coffee. First time for this coffee maker.  Well, I have mixed results.  The taste beats any pod I’ve ever used, but, if you don’t care for strong coffee, you would care for this.  I actually do like it but can see that I got the ratio of coffee to cups wrong.

 

The tropical storm warning was a non-event where I live.  We did get a heavy downpour around 5pm., but that was it.  By then the center of Colin was 60 plus miles north of here on the other side of Wilmington NC.  it was a backside storm.

 

we went to the ice cream social ii spite of the rain.  We met about 24 neighbors, and learned how the parties worked.  I

think we will be going to more parties here than we did at our previous home. At least so far, the people seem friendlier.

 

we are making progress with getting out of one storage unit but we have a lot more things to move.  It is obvious we won’t be able to get out of the smaller one unless the sell or give away more things.  Won’t know for sure until we start getting closer to emptying the bigger one to see what’s left.  
 

I’m still making little mistakes that upset my wife.  For example I mentioned our daughter to someone yesterday.  My wife later reminded me that if I am going to be Willow full time I can’t say we have a daughter or a son.  Honestly I hadn’t given that any thought until she mentioned it.  These people only know me as a woman, not a transgender woman.

 

well, I hope everyone celebrates our Independence Day and stays safe.  South Carolina is one of the few east coast states where fireworks are legal.  Unfortunately that also means people will get hurt.

 

Hugs to all

 

🙋‍♀️ Willow 

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41 minutes ago, Willow said:

I’m still making little mistakes that upset my wife.  For example I mentioned our daughter to someone yesterday.  My wife later reminded me that if I am going to be Willow full time I can’t say we have a daughter or a son.  Honestly I hadn’t given that any thought until she mentioned it.  These people only know me as a woman, not a transgender woman.

Good morning Willow,

 

I have the fullest of confidence that you will master the coffee maker.

 

This is an interesting thought, and perspective when being out with a spouse. I never thought about not saying our daughter, our son as a way to give up or out yourself as transgender. Does she expect you to disown them when you are with her? Her son, her daughter, or will you just not talk about family?

 

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49 minutes ago, Willow said:

I’m still making little mistakes that upset my wife.  For example I mentioned our daughter to someone yesterday.  My wife later reminded me that if I am going to be Willow full time I can’t say we have a daughter or a son.  Honestly I hadn’t given that any thought until she mentioned it.  These people only know me as a woman, not a transgender woman.

 

Hi, Willow. Glad you're getting to know your neighbors. And, while I'm sorry your wife got upset, YOU made no mistake. It isn't wrong to mention your daughter. For all the neighbors know, you and your wife are a lesbian couple that either adopted or used in vitro with a sperm donor to conceive a child. You are her parent after all. And, as for being trans or not, that shouldn't be an issue either. To be blunt, and please forgive me but this needs to be said, sister, the issue isn't yours; it's your wife's. You did nothing wrong, made no mistake and that's it.  I agree completely with @Mmindy. Does your wife expect you to disown your children? If so, she's in the wrong.

 

Apologies for the rant. Afraid this pushed a button. SOrry

 

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Oh yeah. Forgot to say this, @Willow. It isn't wrong to be trans. If you want the neighbors to know, that's perfectly fine. If not, that's okay too.

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Glad my son has been improving accepting I am finally happy.It has been good with him and calls me Holly most of the time now.He has seen the changes too,felt my right arm and told me my skin is soft like mom's skin.Plus wife and I are talking over a decision I may change on,the gender corrective surgery.Decided not to have it done at first and there are feelings I want to have this done.Said she is still supportive and wants to see me happy

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

For example I mentioned our daughter to someone yesterday.  My wife later reminded me that if I am going to be Willow full time I can’t say we have a daughter or a son.

 

I don't see why not.  We had a lesbian couple as neighbours, and their daughter was "their" daughter.  Even in this little conservative community, that is accepted.  (That couple has since split up, but the non-resident parent still has visitation rights.)

 

Would your wife be okay with you saying "my daughter" or "my son" instead of "ours"?  That way, you can talk about them without implying that you had them together as a couple, if that is what bothers her.  I don't have kids, but I would find it hard to disown them and pretend that I didn't have them if I did.

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Finally sent my email to HR at work notifying my name change and I am transitioning. I am not expecting much help, so I guess I will have to formulate a plan which may amount to having a short morning meeting so my immediate coworkers can possibly call me my right name and pronouns.

It seems daunting because outside of them there are about 100 people here during the day that recognize me by name, so I guess I can depend on shop talk to take care of a lot too. So I am thinking of having some name tags made up. We all wear uniforms so I really can't dress as myself except capri pants and womens sneakers. 

So that's the last hill, at least socially. Then its just finish up my name changes. Am glad I have a therapist to keep my perspective.

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My customers being there for support and say I am the same person but much happier.Same with my employees as well.I am glad I did not lose them.

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2 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

Would your wife be okay with you saying "my daughter" or "my son" instead of "ours"?

This is what I thought of as well.  It is what I do, but my ex is now my ex, so…

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HI everyone   have good news I started hrt 2 weeks ago, I have reconnected with my daughter, her husband, and my grand daughter. and they all support me as Rachel, and also the other met my x wife of who i have not seen in 30 years is ok with me being me it is so awesome.  I feel pretty darn good.  I would like to thank everyone here this is a great place to have.

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I'm enjoying a nice late brunch today. My usual coffee, naturally, plus bacon and some pancakes I'd frozen the other day!

 

I really needed a nice pick-me-up like that today. Last night I was wearing one of my nice nightgowns and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. All I saw was some kind of bulked-up linebacker. 😭 It absolutely freaked me the heck out, and I went kind of ballistic. Then I had a dream that had me reliving one of the worst times in my life. I guess I'm not quite as over that as I thought I was. There was also some stuff earlier in the evening that..it wasn't anything bad really, or anything trans-related, it just happened to touch the wrong nerve and left me feeling pretty insecure. Ugh, all in all, not the best night.

 

Luckily today's better so far. My nice, pleasant, slow little Sunday brunch definitely helped 😊

 

The rest of today is mostly going to be about cleaning up around the house. That's been getting neglected more than I'm comfortable with lately (I only have so much time & energy during the week), so that's another thing that's been weighing on me. So it'll be nice to get some of that taken care of. Luckily the sun's out today, too.

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42 minutes ago, rachel w said:

HI everyone   have good news I started hrt 2 weeks ago, I have reconnected with my daughter, her husband, and my grand daughter. and they all support me as Rachel, and also the other met my x wife of who i have not seen in 30 years is ok with me being me it is so awesome.  I feel pretty darn good.  I would like to thank everyone here this is a great place to have.

 

Congrats on HRT and everything else!

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On 7/2/2022 at 6:59 AM, Jackie C. said:

 

At least you're not alone. I've got clients today too.

 

Hugs!

Been working all weekend- my life knows no holidays.

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Thinking about my 25th high school reunion,most of my classmates I graduated with know of my transitioning.Told them I am going to it including my wife

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7 minutes ago, HollyNG said:

Thinking about my 25th high school reunion,most of my classmates I graduated with know of my transitioning.Told them I am going to it including my wife

Glad to hear it!  Have fun!

 

This year would have been my 50th.  I guess nobody cared enough to organize one.  It's a shame because I would have had fun coming out to my classmates. 

 

We had a 25th that was well-attended.  They did a new yearbook, with everyone sending in biographies of what they'd been up to since graduation, even people who didn't attend in person.

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3 minutes ago, KathyLauren said:

Glad to hear it!  Have fun!

 

This year would have been my 50th.  I guess nobody cared enough to organize one.  It's a shame because I would have had fun coming out to my classmates. 

 

We had a 25th that was well-attended.  They did a new yearbook, with everyone sending in biographies of what they'd been up to since graduation, even people who didn't attend in person.

Next weekend

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My 40th is next year. I would love to go as Kymmie. However, it probably be as they knew me in school. Or didn't know me. I was just a nobody from the autoshop. Maybe if I still had my car from when I was in high school people would then know me.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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