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Dropped off two mixed media pieces for a Trans/NB art show that is going to be at a local Mead distillery/bar. A small show, and I don't drink, but I it's cool since I will be alongside one of our town's more well-known and out professional trans artists and it was not long ago I met her when I was first coming out and felt like had such a long way to go. Hopefully they actually sell since I really don't feel like taking them back home and have had them on my walls for awhile.

I have to agree with the type of physical contact in relations is important, and sometimes it can be very subtle with people. I tend to try not to read too much into anything, since I am usually pretty oblivious anyway. My current close friendship has only been hugs, although I have ventured a few little touches here and there just because it was a natural extension of expressing myself and I tend to spontaneity, which there isn't much to read into. If things are contrived and planned to get a certain result, it can be very obvious.

Some are very carefree with touch, whereas with E. the boundaries are very definite as there are aspects of respect and trust which are important to her, and we both actually enjoy the intellectual intercourse that goes on which can be very enjoyable and fulfilling too. 

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Well, I got back my lab work.  Much quicker than I had expected I might add normal things all within range.  I suppose technically even my E was within range, FOR A MAN!  Going to have to have a serious conversation with my endocrinologist.

 

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Good Afternoon, Well I am getting hosed at work. Tomorrow hosed along with the rest of the week. Yeah, I work CLOSE Mon, Tues, Wed. then off just Thurs and Friday then open on Saturday. Don't even get a whole day off to move until almost a week later. yeppy skippy.

 

With all the BS I have been having to put up with. I am considering putting a anonymous formal complaint. 

 

Anyway, I probably going to get a talking to from the wife shortly. Because I am using the computer and not helping pack. OH, Well. As Forest Gump says, Shite happens.

 

Kymmie

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15 hours ago, Willow said:

@Elizabeth Star am I mixed up or what?  Something happen with the Wisconsin girlfriend?  Sorry, if I missed something along the way.

No, you didn't miss anything. I'm still with my Wisconsin GF. She lives in Wisconsin with her other GF and I'm free to date and form relationships with other people without affecting the relationship I have with my GF. It's all ethical. We talk about what's going on with who so there's cheating or sneaking around.

 

 

 

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Hi, It did happen my wife started in about me not helping pack up the house. And of course like it always happens. Our youngest jumps in on to her side. which always happens the two faced -censored-. My mental state is so fried right now. I am going to bow out of the CFD this afternoon. I am getting ready to tell the boss that I NEED the next week off. To get ready to move. Plus off Sat so I can actually move.

 

Speaking of the move. with my mental state as it is right now. I am about ready to say F it. and cancel it and just leave. My wife has pushed me farther than anytime before. I will make sure that one of my grandson's has the title to my wagon ready to transfer to him. Change the lock on my storage unit. Hop in my 2 door and go. Leave the B-witch everything.  Make sure I have plenty of water, because I am going to be crying for the next 6 months. but I will do what I fell I need to do to protect ME!!!! Everybody else can ESAD.

 

I am sorry if I ruined any ones  morning.  I didn't mean to.

bye for now.

 

Kymmie

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5 minutes ago, KymmieL said:

Hi, It did happen my wife started in about me not helping pack up the house. And of course like it always happens. Our youngest jumps in on to her side. which always happens the two faced -censored-. My mental state is so fried right now. I am going to bow out of the CFD this afternoon. I am getting ready to tell the boss that I NEED the next week off. To get ready to move. Plus off Sat so I can actually move.

 

Speaking of the move. with my mental state as it is right now. I am about ready to say F it. and cancel it and just leave. My wife has pushed me farther than anytime before. I will make sure that one of my grandson's has the title to my wagon ready to transfer to him. Change the lock on my storage unit. Hop in my 2 door and go. Leave the B-witch everything.  Make sure I have plenty of water, because I am going to be crying for the next 6 months. but I will do what I fell I need to do to protect ME!!!! Everybody else can ESAD.

 

I am sorry if I ruined any ones  morning.  I didn't mean to.

bye for now.

 

Kymmie

 

We good. Except I'm out of coffee.

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11 minutes ago, KymmieL said:

I am sorry if I ruined any ones  morning.  I didn't mean to.

 

Nah, I have a lot of friends on the edge of bailing on a toxic relationship. Venting is what we're here for.

 

Hugs!

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I was the one who actually left in my marriage.  It broke my heart to do it, but I did regain a lot of freedom that I had given up for the relationship.  Much more than I had expected.

 

I hope you can do what is best for you, however you decide.

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Good Sunday Morning 

 

No storms today, at least not yet!  I made coffee.  About time for a warm up, actually.

 

Not much going on yet. 
 

@KymmieL I’m sorry you are getting the triple whammy.  From experience I can tell you that things get pretty rough when moving.  And you can’t win.  You don’t want to be responsible for packing up the kitchen or breakables.  But then “I have to do it all”. You do all the heavy stuff.  You move the boxes they pack and they don’t want you anywhere near the breakables.  They just need to vent, and you are who they vent to and have been for many years.  And don’t forget, sons migrate to mom, daughters to dad.

 

No daughters means no one is there for you.

 

well the dog wants to go for here morning walk so I guess I need to take my shower and get dressed.  Amazing how many neighbors notice me walking the dog, It’s not like she’s the only one, there are lots of dogs.

 

Willow

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2 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I am sorry if I ruined any ones  morning.  I didn't mean to.

No worries. @Jackie C.has it right. There is nothing wrong with bailing on a toxic relationship, and venting is always okay. Also, @Willowmakes some very good points about moving. Hang in there!

 

Hugs

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11 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

No, you didn't miss anything. I'm still with my Wisconsin GF. She lives in Wisconsin with her other GF and I'm free to date and form relationships with other people without affecting the relationship I have with my GF. It's all ethical. We talk about what's going on with who so there's cheating or sneaking around.

 

 

 

I really need to get better with proofreading my stuff. 🤣 what I meant is that our relationship is open to date and be in relationships with other/multiple people. It is NOT cheating. 
 

 

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1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I really need to get better with proofreading my stuff. 🤣 what I meant is that our relationship is open to date and be in relationships with other/multiple people. It is NOT cheating. 

LOL.  I knew what you meant.

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5 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I really need to get better with proofreading my stuff. 🤣 what I meant is that our relationship is open to date and be in relationships with other/multiple people. It is NOT cheating. 
 

 

 

I figured. I've read "The Ethical -friendly person-" and one of my best friends is poly. I know how it works. 😉

 

Hugs!

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No, I didn't die; I just forgot this place exists as well as having real life get to me for awhile.

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Sunday afternoon update

 

It’s finally a beautiful day today.  Hot, sunny but a nice breeze.  This is the view from our porch.  
 

the pool and everyone enjoying the day is right there.  We spent a couple hours there too.  

 

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Spent a couple hours holding a sign at the court square.  It was hot.  I'm pretty burned out.  Probably end up in the bed soon.

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Well, back home now. Things have mellowed some. Still on edge, never know when the wife will do her Jeckle and hyde.

 

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11 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well, back home now. Things have mellowed some. Still on edge, never know when the wife will do her Jeckle and hyde.

 

Kymmie

 

That's not healthy. You shouldn't be walking on eggshells in your own home.

 

Hugs!

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Morning everyone.

 

Not feeling too hot this morning. Ate something last night, got sick five hours later. I eagerly await my appointment with the motility specialist in October. Maybe they'll have answers for me. So far, two GIs couldn't figure out what's wrong (rather, one did, but then back-tracked when the medication stopped working for me). All I know is that it's not cancer. The biopsy they did on me proved that much. I'm pretty sure I know what the issue is, but I'm not a doctor...so I have no business in trying to self-diagnose. :)

 

C'mon October!

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On 7/22/2022 at 9:25 AM, Jackie C. said:

 

It's not as awkward as you think. I've had deep conversations with someone before I got around to, "I'm sorry, but you never told me your name." If there's a connection, labels don't matter.

 

Can confirm. Not one of my friends has ever kissed me on the lips. Hugs? Sure. Episodes of feeling each other up? Yeah, that happened. No kisses on the mouth though.

 

Hugs!

I have a couple of girlfriends who are lip kissers. lol. We all know it isn't a romance/sex thing as they have their own relationships and inclinations. They just show their affection for their closer friends that way. Some girls are just like that. Just because they don't do it to everyone doesn't mean they are interested in you, but might just be they feel safe crossing that boundary. Thats not to say your "friend" doesn't want to jump in bed with you but just more to highlight that lip kissing is a thing.

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On 7/24/2022 at 8:20 AM, KymmieL said:

Hi, It did happen my wife started in about me not helping pack up the house. And of course like it always happens. Our youngest jumps in on to her side. which always happens the two faced -censored-. My mental state is so fried right now. I am going to bow out of the CFD this afternoon. I am getting ready to tell the boss that I NEED the next week off. To get ready to move. Plus off Sat so I can actually move.

 

Speaking of the move. with my mental state as it is right now. I am about ready to say F it. and cancel it and just leave. My wife has pushed me farther than anytime before. I will make sure that one of my grandson's has the title to my wagon ready to transfer to him. Change the lock on my storage unit. Hop in my 2 door and go. Leave the B-witch everything.  Make sure I have plenty of water, because I am going to be crying for the next 6 months. but I will do what I fell I need to do to protect ME!!!! Everybody else can ESAD.

 

I am sorry if I ruined any ones  morning.  I didn't mean to.

bye for now.

 

Kymmie

Kymmie I just have to ask the question about the elephant in the room: You have had serious struggles with your marriage for quite a while, why did you decide to buy a house together when you have been on the fence about staying in the relationship?

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46 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

Kymmie I just have to ask the question about the elephant in the room: You have had serious struggles with your marriage for quite a while, why did you decide to buy a house together when you have been on the fence about staying in the relationship?

The Elephant is large and pink. Seems to be talking Klingon no it is Vulcan. No  that is not it, C3P0 please translate. LOL

 

I really don't know? Maybe it is to own our home. Maybe check off a bucket list item. Maybe after multiple attempts we are finally able too. Just might be the mystery like why I joined the service. I may finally figure it out in 30 yrs.

 

I know that I really should know the why's of what I do. But it has been one of the stories of my life.

 

Hugs

Kymmie 

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1 minute ago, KymmieL said:

The Elephant is large and pink. Seems to be talking Klingon no it is Vulcan. No  that is not it, C3P0 please translate. LOL

 

I really don't know? Maybe it is to own our home. Maybe check off a bucket list item. Maybe after multiple attempts we are finally able too. Just might be the mystery like why I joined the service. I may finally figure it out in 30 yrs.

 

I know that I really should know the why's of what I do. But it has been one of the stories of my life.

 

Hugs

Kymmie 

 

You mean:

 

"chenchoH 'ej quntaHvIS je. HeghlaHbe' tlhIngan.ghojmoHwI', Dujvetlh DaleghlaHbe'nIS. MATLH.

 

vISovbe''a'? juHmaj yIqawbej.duDlIj rurchoH ghu'. matlhongqangchu'taHvIS, maQuchqu'chugh.vIghoSchoHlu' 'e' vI'ang.

 

chay' jIjangnIS 'e' vISovbe'.chenpa' yIghoS."

 

Fun fact: There are free English to Klingon translators on the interwebs!

 

Anyway, I think what Bri is getting at is, "Why are you staying with let alone buying a house with this woman when she's clearly abusing you?"

 

Or: qatlh QIch yIra' 'e' vIHar, qatlh QIchvam DajatlhtaHvIS?

 

Hugs!

 

 

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Glad we all have each other's backs here ❤️. Just wanted to share that I always thought coming out would be the scariest part, or wearing dresses in public, usw. So far, however, the scariest thing was shaving off my mutton chops the other night! There isn't any rational reason, perhaps. Certainly I can grow them back if I ever feel the need. I guess it's just because it's a definite step towards actually trying to pass for cis-gendered. Anyway, love to you all, and thanks for everyone being here for everyone else 💖💓💗!!

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