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For about a year, I was a volunteer in the office of a hospice organization that had a very strong pro-transgender policy. All they asked was that I be consistent in my presentation as female. The person with whom I worked constantly encouraged me to use the ladies' restroom, but I never did.

 

It wasn't a matter of being fearful. I had done so previously in public venues without a problem. In this case, the overriding feeling was that I didn't want to create an awkward situation for any of the employees. Everyone was always so nice to me, and I thought (wrongly, I'm sure) that I might somehow jeopardize some of those wonderful relationships.

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Good morning 

 

I avoid truck stops but last year on our coast to coast trip I used the interstate reststops then on the way home after my breakdown it didn’t matter since I wasn’t dressed.  
 

We are going to a farmers market today and then my wife wants to go to Chicos.  She’s lost weight and needs some smaller fall clothes.  She started on a diet plan and it’s working for her.  Personally I’m struggling but I think is HRT related. I was doing pretty good up until I went to only E.

 

I listed my boat for sale yesterday and got a response rather quickly. It involves cash plus a trade.  I’m considering taking it.

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14 hours ago, StephieGurl said:

I stop at the mirror and check my look. I guess I'm somewhat vain 

I don't feel it's being vain. A lot of women use the opportunity to check and fix their look. I know I do it.

 

On 9/17/2022 at 8:05 AM, Willow said:

You know, one of my wife’s concerns, her biggest at this point is that I will get attacked, or get into trouble using the womens restroom.  But she also knows using the mens would automatically be worse.  I try to use family restrooms but they aren’t always provided or are occupied.

That was my wife's concern too but I have yet to have any issues. If I ever do, I'd do what Kymmie said and just show my ID.

 

The last time I used a men's room I was washing my hands and had a guy walk in on me. He took a double take at me and then double checked the sign on the door. He made a comment about thinking he had gone into the wrong one. That was the last time I used a men's room.

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Last Friday on my way home from work my company car started to make a lot of crazy noises. It sounded like valves rattling and a rod knock. I was able to get back to the office on Monday. Later I was pulled in to talk with our VP. We had a chat about how I'm not doing much if any field work these days and don't need the company car anymore. Thought this was going to suck since I haven't had to drive my own car in 20 years. Where thing made a turn is, the owner gave me one of the other cars they have. Like I own it, gave to me. I don't think he'll ever know how much that means to me especially since I have no other way to get to work if I have car problems. Now I have a back up.

 

Today is the big day. I get to go bra shopping. As of tomorrow I can start wearing regular bras again. I was told I need a supportive one for during the day but I could wear a lighter one to sleep in. I want something cute and comfy so I'm heading to VS first.

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22 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

 Today is the big day. I get to go bra shopping. As of tomorrow I can start wearing regular bras again. I was told I need a supportive one for during the day but I could wear a lighter one to sleep in. I want something cute and comfy so I'm heading to VS first.

Hope I get to hear those words some day. Have fun.

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5 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

That was my wife's concern too but I have yet to have any issues. If I ever do, I'd do what Kymmie said and just show my ID.

It is a official government ID. So legally I am "F"

 

It was comical when we were closing. I had to fill in and sign a form about my gender. They must have seen my license and were confused. Unfortunately I put down M.

 

Hugs

Kymmie

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Hi, back from our day out. The farmers market was a bit disappointing although we bought some really good honey.  Comes from a farm not far from our home.  The at Chicos, my wife got two pairs of slacks and a blouse for $100 after coupons applied.  That’s a good deal.

 

@KymmieL sounds like you missed an opportunity there.

 

Lizzy sounds like a great day/weekend a car and bra shopping.  A week or two ago I walked into a ladies room and I thought there was a man in there, I backed out enough to check the door I was right. But it wasn’t a man either.  How embarrassing.

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I was able to get two bras from VS. After I tried on a couple, I resigned to ask for help and to be measured. I'm officially a 36DD. I got a black one with the PINK logo, a light blue (Yes, not black) wire-free one and a roll-on perfume. VS Bombshell is one of my favorites. I spent a bit more than I intended but I'll have these bras for quite a while and they're super comfy.

 

Found out my BFF's youngest has COVID so hopefully I don't get it. I really, really don't want to get it again. She must have known I was talking about her. Just got a message, no one else in her family has it.

 

I'm still drained from yesterday so I'm calling it an early night.

 

 

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Up early to get to 9 month blood work done. Drinking coffee from yesterday. This blood draw before I dose E, because I told my Endo I was doing sublingual and it might have thrown the numbers off so soon after taking it. She said doing oral is fine, sublingual and patches and injections are more for pre-existing conditions I guess. The biggest thing is if I am progressing, and I am, and staying clear of dangerous levels. 

Finally ran into a fellow woman coworker in the women's restroom but she was one of the ones i would have chosen anyway, but I admit I did get a little paranoid because I really didn't get the official "green light" and as far as it was discussed, i was using the coed bathroom. But I figure it's just time to fully step into my womanhood and generally, my employer is really professional and the whole work transition has gone without a hitch.

I been wanting to bra shop but in the meantime I got some Nipppy's and actually they work just as advertised. A little different, but an alternative to wearing a bra with a top with thin fabric, or something that requires strapless. They just stay on, even when I was hot and sweaty one time. You just have to keep them clean.  

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On 9/17/2022 at 7:07 PM, Ivy said:

When I first came out, my safety was something that my ex was concerned about.  

 

I use women's restrooms if they're single occupancy.  I have used the larger ones, but I try to avoid them.  I'd be scared to use a men's one.  I have mentioned that I keep a "Pee Jar" in my car for times I don't feel safe.

 

There have been times I didn't go somewhere, or attend an event because of this issue because it will come up.  I kinda know the places in town where I feel safe, or the facilities are non-gendered.

When I went on my first date about 2 and half years ago I used the women's room and have never gone back to a male room. I will take unisex if it's like Starbucks. I used to go in and out, but now that I pass very well. I stop at the mirror and check my look. I guess I'm somewhat vain 

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14 minutes ago, StephieGurl said:

Well, I hope I'm not thrown out of here because instead of coffee, I'm drinking Dr. Pepper. 

You'll be fine. Welcome to the coffee clutch.

 

Kymmie

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2 hours ago, StephieGurl said:

Well, I hope I'm not thrown out of here because instead of coffee, I'm drinking Dr. Pepper. 

You're not alone. The last time coffee ever touched my lips was about 30 years ago - and that was only because I was told it was hot chocolate. That's what I get for trying to drink while distracted.

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1 minute ago, Hannah Renee said:

You're not alone. The last time coffee ever touched my lips was about 30 years ago - and that was only because I was told it was hot chocolate. That's what I get for trying to drink while distracted.

I do drink coffee, but it is usually cold with a dash of heavy cream. But not this morning.

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1 minute ago, StephieGurl said:

I do drink coffee, but it is usually cold with a dash of heavy cream. But not this morning.

OMG! Does that mean I'm alone?😯 Actually, I don't do hot liquids at all, including soup. The last time I intentionally drank something hot was like the winter of 1980, at a ski resort on Mt Charleston, outside of Vegas. Hot apple cider.

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1 hour ago, Hannah Renee said:

OMG! Does that mean I'm alone?😯 Actually, I don't do hot liquids at all, including soup. The last time I intentionally drank something hot was like the winter of 1980, at a ski resort on Mt Charleston, outside of Vegas. Hot apple cider.

There days I go without coffee more often not, so your not totally alone🙃

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I do go without coffee. I am getting to hate my wife new coffee maker. Most of the time there are grounds in the pot. Which winds up in my cup. I cannot stand drinking chunky coffee. 

 

Hugs,

Kymmie 

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So my back went out and I spent Tuesday in bed so then I woke at 3 a.m. feeling better physically but depressed and lonely. So naturally as a Buddhist I turn to Christmas musicals and warm almond milk. White Chrismas, of course, and Singing in the Rain (it's just SOOO good), but also Last Christmas by Emma Thompson, and Zoey’s Extraordinary Christmas — for up-to-dateness sake. That all sounds a little too gay, but I'm OK with that. Have a fine day, y'all!

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Good morning 

 

morning drinks are limited to “what ever floats your boat”. Silly me asking for a pole of bathrooms.  We are women and use the womens restroom unless you’re not.  Unisex is always the best unless it’s a mess.

 

so, I am getting a fair amount of interest in my boat. Showed it yesterday but it was too much.  Have an appointment Thursday and one Saturday.

 

Willow

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I still present as a man, (NB) but don't have the equipment anymore to use a urinal. I use the men's room, but sometimes the stalls are awful. My wife is more worried than I am, but I am careful because I am well aware what could happen in my area.

 

On 9/20/2022 at 11:34 AM, Hannah Renee said:

OMG! Does that mean I'm alone?😯 Actually, I don't do hot liquids at all, including soup. The last time I intentionally drank something hot was like the winter of 1980, at a ski resort on Mt Charleston, outside of Vegas. Hot apple cider.

 

I am not a coffee drinker either. My drink of choice is Diet Coke

 

Mike

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@Davie White Christmas and  Singing in the rain are two of my favorites. Classics should be enjoyed year round. Hope you are feeling better.

 

~Rachel

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Good evening, all. This brief interlude is being sponsored by some guy name Mike, who just happens to make a halfway decent lemonade, IMHO.

 

Anyway, about 6 weeks ago, when I officially changed my name, I reached out via email to two people with whom I shared an office for the last few years of my career. Not a whole lot that we ever disagreed with. Nevertheless, I had been reluctant to share the news of my transition, fearing they might be grievously disappointed. I had told them previously that I would soon be letting them know the reason behind my impending (thankfully final now) divorce. This the email. I heard back from the woman within 10-14 days, enough time for her to digest the news, and she was very kind, gracious, and supportive of my decision for my own sake well-being.

Hadn't heard back from the man, though, and thought he was struggling worse than I expected, or I gave him a heart attack. 

 

Well, he called today. Hen I sent the email, he had been on his annual jaunt to Alaska. Right before he got back, his internet provider was having some sort of difficulty keeping it going, particularly regarding email. He'd just got it back, and was trying to catch up. The woman called him, and said he should read this email I'd send. He called instead, and we talked for 45 minutes - and it made my day and then some. I told him pretty much everything. He apologized that it would take him a bit of practice to remember to call me Hannah. While we were basically work friends, we've kept in touch since I retired 13+ years ago.

 

A true friend. I should never have doubted.

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27 minutes ago, Hannah Renee said:

While we were basically work friends, we've kept in touch since I retired 13+ years ago.

 

A true friend. I should never have doubted.

 

I understand the satisfaction you feel.  I have enjoyed reconnecting with some of my old air force friends from 40 years ago.  Like you, I was concerned how they would take the news, but in all cases they were happy to meet the new me.

 

It is very satisfying to be pleasantly surprised in that way.  I am happy that you have had a similar experience.

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I tried connecting with an old friend a few weeks ago. He asked me what was up with me changing my name. O got as far as telling him I'm legally a woman now and that was the last I heard from him. I though he was marginally better than that but oh well, his loss.

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