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2 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

 

 

Not to sure if I personally would want to wear someone elses shoes or boots. I wouldnt endorse it myself but then again thats me.

 

But if you are i would recommend:

 

make sure that they are your right size and shape for your foot and that they don't rub
 if they can tolerate it, put them into the washing machine let them dry thoroughly, preferably in natural light
try to replace the insole that comes in them. If you cant, an antimicrobial one would work
do they have hole or are they worn? Remember shoes have a certain life span,

 

theres is always a possibility if you do not follow the above. you can still get fungal, bacterial and viral issues from other peoples shoes though regardless. Especially if you dont know where they have come from.

 

Just saying

 

On the plus side they would be far to big for me. I only take a UK  5.5 or USW 7.5 Tiny feetLiL

Excellent advice MiB!!

 

Maybe I should reconsider.  It's just that almost everything I own, except underwear, was bought used, or found somewhere.  I don't know any other way.  But I can probably change as soon as the machine pays me what I'm worth lol.

 

I was usually keeping an eye out for cute shoes in larger sizes, because they are rare to find.... unless you're into spending large $ online.  My friend has size 13 so if I come across anything I text her a photo and pick them up if she wants. Im lucky enough, but it sucks to be over size 11 US

 

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Someone mentioned lack of smiles, so this next image hopefully addresses that. Note that I've decided to risk wearing a work tee. I've covered up the logo a bit so that should offset any liability issues...hopefully. Wearing a tighter pair of ladies slacks than usual to the job and am using one of my homemade gaffs. With some luck I won't be too uncomfortable. ?

 

Also on display, my eye makeup for today.

 

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Liking the eyeliner game. I wish I knew how to do that. ?

 

Hugs!

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9 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

Just an observation here.

 

I have been looking at the pics and reading the thread. I have noticed something.

 

Why is it some of you ladys never smile? 

 

It cant be all that bad can it? From your words you are in your favorite outfits and choose to show them to the world as your authentic selves. You really should be in a much more happy disposition i would have considered.

 

Plus a smile would make your pictures shine so much more.

 

Please feel free to shoot me down if im missing the point!

@Maid In Bedlam You're not missing the point.  I realize many are absorbed in taking the photo but it really is a good idea to focus on looking accessible.  Women end to be easier to reach out to and to speak with.  Not so with guys.  Practice!  It also helps in fitting in and making friends too. 

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1 hour ago, Jani said:

@Maid In Bedlam You're not missing the point.  I realize many are absorbed in taking the photo but it really is a good idea to focus on looking accessible.  Women end to be easier to reach out to and to speak with.  Not so with guys.  Practice!  It also helps in fitting in and making friends too. 

 

You're not wrong. I've been told I have a serious problem with "resting bitch face" when I'm wearing a mask. Even the one with the yellow smiley-face on it, which is weird, but there you go.

 

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9 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

Why is it some of you ladys never smile? 

Overbite and crooked bottom teeth and discolored front tooth. I’ve never been self conscious of it before. I have an appointment with an orthodontist next month

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2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I wish I knew how to do that.

I was taught some basics from my oldest daughter. The rest was YouTube tutorials and practice. Since I have have hooded eyes this is one of the few styles that work well for me. Aside from tightlining and the like.

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2 hours ago, Jani said:

I realize many are absorbed in taking the photo but it really is a good idea to focus on looking accessible.

I've been taking photos with me smiling, but I usually don't share those due how big and goofy my smile is. Also the aforementioned need to see my dentist though I probably imagine my teeth being worse than they are. ?

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2 hours ago, Drayse said:

I was taught some basics from my oldest daughter. The rest was YouTube tutorials and practice. Since I have have hooded eyes this is one of the few styles that work well for me. Aside from tightlining and the like.

 

Yeah, I'm kind of hobbled here. I don't have actual eyelashes to use as a stencil with the eyeliner pencil and all my children are cats. You know how THEY are with their makeup secrets. It's all lick this and stare lazily at that. Pointless.

 

Of course my spouse neve wore makeup either so I'm adrift without a paddle as it were.

 

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

...and all my children are cats. You know how THEY are with their makeup secrets. It's all lick this and stare lazily at that. Pointless.

Honestly, you'd think fur babies would be more appreciative of their parents and help them out a bit.

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1 hour ago, Drayse said:

Honestly, you'd think fur babies would be more appreciative of their parents and help them out a bit.

 

I'm pretty sure they see me as "food-bringer," "giver of the pettings" and "furniture" depending on what they need from me in the moment. At 4:30 am, I am apparently also, "Waterbringer; she who turns on the faucet so that I may drink."

No makeup tips. I'd love to be able to do a cat's eye but the selfish little things won't share.

 

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Make up took me a few years to actually get down to where it takes roughly 30 min to apply if I am going to a social affair of some kind. 15 min for just a regular day.

When it comes to make up less is more or shall I say looks more natural. Natural means passing easier.

Caked on make up is not a good look on a girl or Tgirl.

I have to use hypo allergenic eye liner and mascara or my eyes turn bloodshot.

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1 hour ago, Teri Anne said:

When it comes to make up less is more or shall I say looks more natural. Natural means passing easier.

Caked on make up is not a good look on a girl or Tgirl.

I have to agree with you on this. there’s a girl that works at a store near me that I would never have clocked if she wasn’t wearing so much makeup. 

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After sanding, stripping, and painting a piece of furniture all week, it felt good to get dressed up for online group therapy.  I had a rough day, so tonight...more is more!

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1 hour ago, Ann W said:

After sanding, stripping, and painting a piece of furniture all week, it felt good to get dressed up for online group therapy.  I had a rough day, so tonight...more is more!

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That red and purple combination though! Wow. Just gorgeous!

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19 hours ago, Drayse said:

I've been taking photos with me smiling, but I usually don't share those due how big and goofy my smile is. Also the aforementioned need to see my dentist though I probably imagine my teeth being worse than they are. ?

 

 

Your picture looks sooooo much better. See it doesnt hve to be a big cheshire cat grin. Just turning your mouth upwald instead of down makes that much diffrence. Look at the picture of the lovely @Ann W No teeth to see but still looks happy and approachable and dare i say enjoying being herself.

 

Oh and btw, Lovely eyes my dear.

 

But what do i know? Im just an observer.

 

 

20 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

You're not wrong. I've been told I have a serious problem with "resting bitch face" when I'm wearing a mask.

 

 

Im sure that isnt true jackie. Your to lovely to be anything near a bitch.

 

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2 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

Your picture looks sooooo much better. See it doesnt hve to be a big cheshire cat grin. Just turning your mouth upwald instead of down makes that much diffrence.

Alright, point taken. ?

 

2 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

Oh and btw, Lovely eyes my dear.

Why thank you. I actually messed up at one point and put the wrong secondary colour on one of my eyes lids. I'm glad my attempt to correct it worked reasonably well.

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18 hours ago, Teri Anne said:

When it comes to make up less is more or shall I say looks more natural. Natural means passing easier.

Caked on make up is not a good look on a girl or Tgirl.

I certainly hope my makeup doesn't appear cakey. ?

 

Over doing it is also a lot more work and, IMHO, a bit overwhelming. I find something I want to learn regarding makeup and practice doing that one thing or technique until I get it down. Then if there's something else I find interesting I'll move onto that, else I'll "experiment" with modifying what I just learned or combining other techniques I've learned as appropriate.

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4 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

Im sure that isnt true jackie. Your to lovely to be anything near a bitch.

 

It's years of experience as Tech Support. You learn to cultivate an aura of, "Is it worth your life to bother me?" My face falls back into that expression if I'm relaxed and not smiling.

 

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

It's years of experience as Tech Support. You learn to cultivate an aura of, "Is it worth your life to bother me?" My face falls back into that expression if I'm relaxed and not smiling.

I'm suddenly feeling the urge to look up and read the BOFH stories.... ?

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Thank you for the nice comments.  I'm not trying to match the the room, there's just a lot of red in here.  I do have a thing for strong colors though.

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