What are you wearing today?

[Elizabeth Star]

Just jeans and a tank top today. 
 

[Maddee]

2 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Just jeans and a tank top today. 
 

Same.  With an extra big, plain, peasant-y top over it. 

I don't like having to go out in public when I grow my face out for electro.

 

That's a mean bad dragon @Elizabeth Star

 

 

[Billie75B]

So Today I worked from home so this is my daily work attire except the wig (since I am follicle challenged) and a bit of makeup. I am still pre everything but hope to be start HRT by the end of Aug or first of Sept.

 

 

Edited July 20, 2021 by Jackie C.
removed double-picture post. You're welcome. ;>

[Bri2020]

1 hour ago, Maddee said:

I don't like having to go out in public when I grow my face out for electro

 

I've been hiding for the last 2 days. Electro in 90 minutes thank the goddess. 

[Billie75B]

not sure why the pic double posted sorry about that. ugggg.

[Billie75B]

Thank you @Jackie C.

[Alice_Sybilina]

@Elizabeth StarI love that, I might copy you on that one

@Billie75Byou look nice in that outfit. 

[Niamh]

On 7/20/2021 at 4:59 PM, Elizabeth Star said:

Just jeans and a tank top today. 
 

That's a great look. Practical but feminine.

[Niamh]

I've had a quite wonderful day today. I jointly lead a Teams presentation to around 350 people as part of the company Pride Network. It was to explain what being Genderfluid means to me and a sanitised version of my Transgender journey so far. I was quite overwhelmed with the number of positive responses and thanks from those who listened to my story. This was what I was wearing today...

[Alice_Sybilina]

@Niamhthat looks gorgeous.

 

I had a delivery driver today ask about my shirt... (cats in space on rainbow unicorns) I told him I just grabbed something out of the drawer. He says, 'ha, you got your wife's shirt!', I told him not quite. Thing is, why didn't the fact that I'm in eye makeup give something more away, lol. 

[Alice_Sybilina]

Oh I forgot to post it up last night, but my youngest daughter has been begging to do my makeup so she got her chance. Maybe not my style but I loved spending that time with her. 

 

That bottom makeup is maybe not used correctly concealer. She'll learn though. I finished the lining off, and the mascara, after all, I need those eyes working! 

[Niamh]

2 hours ago, Alice_Sybilina said:

@Niamhthat looks gorgeous.

 

I had a delivery driver today ask about my shirt... (cats in space on rainbow unicorns) I told him I just grabbed something out of the drawer. He says, 'ha, you got your wife's shirt!', I told him not quite. Thing is, why didn't the fact that I'm in eye makeup give something more away, lol. 

If I may be blunt - most people do not "get" Non Binary. Unless you are invested in understanding about gender identity, you probably "get" about Gay/Lesbian. You might even "get" about transgender people who are transitioning to the "opposite sex" but when it comes to anything else it's very rare for others to understand. For example - why do I only want to be a woman some days and not others. People just don't "get" it. That's why I was on the Pride Network call at work today to help people understand that there is a complete spectrum of gender identity.

Love the shirt  - just trying to work out what skirt or shorts that might go with!

 

[Alice_Sybilina]

It would have to be a skirt, I don't wear shorts. I don't know why I enjoy dresses and skirts but always hated shorts for boys. Yup, I see how it's confusing. I actually am thinking about doing a podcast for non-binary so that some of our voices can be heard and people can get a little more exposure. 

[Teri Anne]

I have done talks and trans seminars and never had any trouble talking with people that don't get it.

Most are inquisitive and have all kinds of questions.

I was in a small rural mountain town in eastern Ky  doing a trans seminar and had one lady ask me at the end.

I think what you are doing helping these trans people is great but as a woman I find it  amazing you know so much about the transgender and want to help spread awareness.

I thanked her for the sweet compliment and told her I know a lot about it because I am one of them.

She stepped back and looked me up and down and said OMG you are kidding me ?  She gave me a huge hug and said honey you are 100% woman.

 

 

[Davie]

1 hour ago, Teri Anne said:

I have done talks and trans seminars and never had any trouble talking with people that don't get it.

Most are inquisitive and have all kinds of questions.

I was in a small rural mountain town in eastern Ky  doing a trans seminar and had one lady ask me at the end.

I think what you are doing helping these trans people is great but as a woman I find it  amazing you know so much about the transgender and want to help spread awareness.

I thanked her for the sweet compliment and told her I know a lot about it because I am one of them.

She stepped back and looked me up and down and said OMG you are kidding me ?  She gave me a huge hug and said honey you are 100% woman.

 

 

@Terri Anne

  Great story. thanks for sharing it.

[Teri Anne]

You are welcome Davie.

I have done a lot seminars and given talks here and there and I enjoyed it.

Not much into it these days because most everyone knows about us.

They are going to think what they want and you will never change their minds anyway.

 

[Niamh]

10 hours ago, Teri Anne said:

You are welcome Davie.

I have done a lot seminars and given talks here and there and I enjoyed it.

Not much into it these days because most everyone knows about us.

They are going to think what they want and you will never change their minds anyway.

 

I think you are right that most people do know about the general concept of being transgender. What many don't understand are the concepts of Non-Binary, Genderfluid and other categories of transgender people who are not intent on presenting as a single gender full time. To be honest it took me a long time to grasp these concepts myself in order to find a label or definition which matched how I believed I was. So I don't expect others to find it easy either.

[Teri Anne]

Niamh Its hard for "vanilla" people to understand not all trans people are the same and that there is such a wide variety.

Not sure I understand all of them myself .

I don't need a label for myself but I realize some trans people feel the need to fit in some category and that is fine.

 

[Vidanjali]

I used to think that trans meant only mtf or ftm. I am neither of those, but always felt unidentified with my sex assigned at birth. So, having that misunderstanding, I just felt like a defective human because I had no idea others felt as I did. A couple years ago at work, we had a trans woman come to present a program called Transgender 101 during our professional development day. I attended (there were many other sessions one could attend, but Trans 101 had a good turn out), and it was an outstanding presentation by an outstanding presenter, but I don't recall gaining any insight about nonbinary which I find interesting in retrospect. I even had a friend come out to me as trans nonbinary (she later came out as mtf), but I STILL didn't get it. The thing was, I didn't know I "qualified" as trans at all. Again, I resigned myself to trying to live this life feeling like an alien. FINALLY, I reached a breaking point where I had to let go of all the trying desperately to be "normal" because it was causing so much anxiety. For me, learning of the designation "cisgender" made the difference. I thought, "Oh! If I'm not cis, I am trans!" then it starting coming together. In preparation for this next year at work, I've quit committee duties I'd been inundated by for years, and have joined the organization's LGBT+ visibility and education committee. In particular, I'll be serving on the professional development team to help educate others about all things LGBT+. I'm only out to one person at work, who is the chair of this committee. I'd like to be out more, but I'm playing it by ear for now. But, ultimately I'd like to share my experience to maybe preempt the anguish of other enby people, and to increase visibility and teach others what it means and how to be compassionate and respectful. 

[Vidanjali]

Here is a story without a picture (I am being bashful). Last week, this is what I wore to choir rehearsal: a colorblock sweatshirt in black, chartreuse and white with black and white colorblock shorts, a olive green and white cap, men's black hiking shoes and a thin gold chain. One of my friends was complementing my look and was stumbling to find the right word: "You are one cool lady...woman?...chick...you are one cool cat!" The whole time she was trying to find the right word, my smile just got bigger and bigger. ?☺️?

[Alice_Sybilina]

Man, I've been waiting for anyone to ask me about any of this and not a single person has. My oldest son, when I came out to him, just asked 'are you a girl?' no... No, I'm just everything. He shrugged and went back to his game. My kids are amazing. I may not be the best dad, but I'm proud of the people my kids are. 

[Niamh]

1 hour ago, Alice_Sybilina said:

Man, I've been waiting for anyone to ask me about any of this and not a single person has. My oldest son, when I came out to him, just asked 'are you a girl?' no... No, I'm just everything. He shrugged and went back to his game. My kids are amazing. I may not be the best dad, but I'm proud of the people my kids are. 

You have to love them don't you. Both my children who are adults in there 30s are completely supportive. They asked what they should call me and I said - well it depends - if you see me as a woman then "Niamh", if you see me as a man then "Dad", but if you can't see me either Niamh or Dad will do. 

[Ivy]

Went uptown today as I often do on weekends. 

Had a couple beers and decided to sit on the Courtsquare for a bit before driving home.  There was a guy taking pix of his big ass truck next to one of those little Cooper minis.

I sat on a bench where he had a bag of Cheetos (asked first)

He was just a little younger than me. (mid 60's)

We had a nice talk (mostly me listening).  Guy had 2 pistols on his belt.  He was surprised that I actually knew a bit about motor vehicles.  He told me about all the cars he had built and fights he'd been in as we sat by the Confederate Monument on the Courtsquare.  

I admit I was not expecting it.

I was wearing this outfit.  He never mentioned it, but I'm sure he clocked me.

It's been an interesting day.

[Jackie C.]

1 hour ago, Jandi said:

I was wearing this outfit.  He never mentioned it, but I'm sure he clocked me.

 

Ugh. Just like a guy to not notice that you're wearing something pretty. ?

 

Hugs!

[Niamh]

1 hour ago, Jandi said:

Went uptown today as I often do on weekends. 

Had a couple beers and decided to sit on the Courtsquare for a bit before driving home.  There was a guy taking pix of his big ass truck next to one of those little Cooper minis.

I sat on a bench where he had a bag of Cheetos (asked first)

He was just a little younger than me. (mid 60's)

We had a nice talk (mostly me listening).  Guy had 2 pistols on his belt.  He was surprised that I actually knew a bit about motor vehicles.  He told me about all the cars he had built and fights he'd been in as we sat by the Confederate Monument on the Courtsquare.  

I admit I was not expecting it.

I was wearing this outfit.  He never mentioned it, but I'm sure he clocked me.

It's been an interesting day.

It's way more important that people accept other people for who they are. If this person was good enough to do that then that's just how it should be.