What are you wearing today?

[Teri Anne]

Jandi that is the way most people I run into act.

I don't get snarky comments or people screaming OMG its a trans person run away or they will infect us.

Most people couldn't care less what you are wearing.

I had a biker guy hold a door open for me when he didn't have to do and I am sure he read me as a trans person.

Most people are nice if you are nice to them.

[Niamh]

Apologies for the delay, but this was what I was wearing on my first ever night out in my local town at one of the nightclubs on Friday night. I've never been out to one of the local nightclubs as Neil let alone Niamh, but I love drinking and dancing and after a meal with a friend we ended up at this place with a dancefloor and I can't help myself!

[Ivy]

Looks like you had a good time!

[Teri Anne]

Glad you had such a great time.

[Alice_Sybilina]

@JandiI love that outfit, it looks really nice on you. It surprises me too how much people don't seem to care.

@Niamhalso love that dress. Last night my wife, our friend and I went to the local gay club (never been to one before, never been to a club before at all) it was 'Halloween in July' so I thought, boom, I can rock all my girly glory and there's no walls! We got there and there were only three, very sad looking older men sitting at a small bar, the other sections weren't porn, no costumes, and our friend forgot her ID. So disappointed. Instead we went and hung out with another friend and his wife and another of his friends. So I ended up fully dressed (bra included! My wife got me one and I adore the little bumps they give me!) and met new people. Overall good night.

 

[Teri Anne]

Don't feel you have to be restricted to just gay clubs you can go anywhere you want.

I know when first going out dressed you assume a gay club will be safe but a gay club can be just like a regular club.

Guys and girls drinking alcohol and flirting there is always a chance for trouble.

I have been in all kinds of bars being in the music business so always keep your eyes open to what is going on around you.

[Teri Anne]

Oh and you both look awesome !!!

[Ivy]

5 hours ago, Alice_Sybilina said:

Overall good night.

Sometimes a change of plan just works out for you.

[Niamh]

12 hours ago, Teri Anne said:

Don't feel you have to be restricted to just gay clubs you can go anywhere you want.

I know when first going out dressed you assume a gay club will be safe but a gay club can be just like a regular club.

Guys and girls drinking alcohol and flirting there is always a chance for trouble.

I have been in all kinds of bars being in the music business so always keep your eyes open to what is going on around you.

I totally agree about going anywhere. I prefer going out as Niamh to bars/clubs that are not specifically "gay" but it's good to hear from others if they received pleasant and courteous treatment. That was certainly the case for me a couple of weeks ago when I was travelling away from home as Niamh for a few days. I loved it.

[Elizabeth Star]

I'm currently wearing a lot of sweat. Doing heavy yard work today. Sorry, no picture. I promise no one wants to see.

[Charlize]

Gee i certainly know that one.  I just came in from splitting firewood to cool off.  Not a pretty picture.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[JustineM]

Wish I could be more feminine at work but I do the best I can.  Though with the HRT a few changes are getting more noticeable 

[Alice_Sybilina]

@Teri Annethank you so much! I don't really ever go to bars. I had 6 months of being 18 before my first wife gave birth and I never really partied before that. My idea of fun is being with my wife and kids and a few good friends are optional. I hate crowds. I'm highly empathic so even being in Walmart is like wading out into a stormy ocean. I've never felt like I was missing anything. I just get so uncomfortable in public, even cis-presenting. Like, I can't shop in the women's clothing at the thrift store without my wife beside me. Nothing negative has happened so far so I know that's all just me. Being in middle Alabama makes it hard for me to figure out what the heck is going on. I still can't get over the fact that it seems like all the homophobic and transphobia crap I've heard is just talk between 'bros'.

 

@JustineMwhat I see in that picture is a beautiful girl. I wouldn't think otherwise without a voice or body language. 

[Teri Anne]

Alice  never blame your situation on where you live and I know some think larger cities are more liberal but thats not really true.

I have been all over the south and north east and I found more hate and anti trans people in the north east and New England area.

People on trans forums talk about the "red neck good old boys" in the south being anti trans but from my experience they have been the most accepting .

I live in Ky and the people here are accepting for the most part.

My city has had a visible trans community since the early 1960s so here its common to see trans folks out and about.

 

[Alice_Sybilina]

@Teri AnneI am from Kentucky. I'm not sure what part you live in, but I found it to be the absolutely least accepting place I've ever been. And I didn't even have to deal with trans issues. I know it's not everyone but I couldn't go anywhere without seeing judging people, too poor, clothes not expensive enough, not the right family. I've found Alabama to be much more accepting. And I have noticed, like I said, that even the people here that run their mouths about gays and trans, tend to drop the act when you tell them you are. It's like they say it because they think it's expected and when they find that it's not our it's okay to not be negative about it, they just stop.

I'm not blaming my location, it's really just my own reaction that I'm pointing out. I'm still trying to build up my own confidence. 

 

(sorry, not trying to rip on a state, I've just had so many negative experiences in KY) 

[Maddee]

Ive felt accepted in "redneck" areas and unaccepted in very colorful rainbow spectrum places.  Who knows? Day by day I guess...

 

I want to feel love in my heart. Experiences to have and be.

 

 

[Ivy]

Nice summery outfit.

 

Yeah you never know what to expect from a place.   Earlier on this thread I described a rather pleasant encounter I had with a very red-neck type guy over the weekend.

[Maddee]

That was definitely an encounter for the books @Jandi
 

Two pistols ànd Stonewall Jackson yeehaw

 

[Maddee]

On 7/25/2021 at 10:55 AM, Niamh said:

Apologies for the delay, but this was what I was wearing on my first ever night out in my local town at one of the nightclubs on Friday night. I've never been out to one of the local nightclubs as Neil let alone Niamh, but I love drinking and dancing and after a meal with a friend we ended up at this place with a dancefloor and I can't help myself!

 

 

 

 

 

@Niamh
You look very much in the moment. 

 

Adorable dress, hair, and expressions! 

[Alice_Sybilina]

@Maddeeyou look absolutely adorable. 

[Teri Anne]

Alice I live in Central Ky  but spent a lot of time  in Eastern and Western Ky when I was a truck driver.

You are right when you tell them what you are they tend to back down and seem fine with it.

I did Trans awareness meetings in small towns all over Eastern Ky and help trans teens come to grips with everything.

The mountain towns are full of really accepting people.

Of course you might run into one bad apple here and there but they generally walk away.

 

[Teri Anne]

Awesome pic Maddee

9 hours ago, Maddee said:

Ive felt accepted in "redneck" areas and unaccepted in very colorful rainbow spectrum places.  Who knows? Day by day I guess...

 

I want to feel love in my heart. Experiences to have and be.

 

 

Very cute pic and yeah I have too.

 

[Alice_Sybilina]

@Teri AnneI grew up in Western Kentucky. Marshall County, of all places. It might not be like it was 6 years ago or so, I've been down here for a while. 

[Bri2020]

OMG you all are looking great. Madde- so cute and summer-ey. Niahm you look like you are having a blast.

I haven't been in a selfie place lately so no new pics.  Maybe in the next day or so.  

[Beatriz]

Great pic, @Maddee! I love it!