What are you wearing today?

[Ticket For Epic]

On 3/3/2022 at 11:31 AM, Hannah Renee said:

Well, I'm going to have to spend the next, oh, 80 hours pretending I'm that someone I used to pretend to be. So looking forward to Sunday night.

That's rough, sorry to hear that!  When I'm in that situation (virtually anytime I leave the house) I try to tell myself that if I'm a woman and I'm wearing them,  then they are women's clothes.  More often than not it's not particularly helpful but not always. 

 

Best of luck and I hope you are back to authentic you before you know it!

 

@Elizabeth Star  Thanks so much!  Luckily, I stopped working out and I've lost a little muscle mass and gained a touch of fat so I no longer have visible abdominal veins and "man abs".  So nice to not worry about staying below 10 percent body fat anymore!

 

@Lenneth  Thanks for sharing and it's great to see what you actually look like.  There is so much doubt, shame and imposter syndrome BS wrapped up in it.  Besides, if I shave, my mom will cry and tell me she has missed my beautiful face and nobody want that!  Lol  There I go, hiding behind humor again! 

I almost shave it every day but something always stays my hand.  It might be because it would be the first drastic change.  So far everything I do can be easily undone...  clothes, nail polish etc.   Like so far, I've been playing at gender but if I shave, then the thing I don't want to be a thing...  Damn it, I don't want this!  Well, that's not really true, I don't want the consequences of this. 

 

Sorry, that got away from me authentic end there!  

 

Much love

[Ticket For Epic]

2 hours ago, Katie M said:

so! Also, I think you have a super cute face - and I know a lot of women who would love to have lips like yours!

@Lenneth Katie is right btw, I know this one would!

[JustineM]

Todays look over black leggings. I always seem to forget to get a full body shot before I’m in the car lol. Also experimenting with being able to breath with a body shaper suit under all this. 

[Ticket For Epic]

23 minutes ago, JustineM said:

 

Love that top and that blue suits you so well!

[Katie M]

25 minutes ago, JustineM said:

Also experimenting with being able to breath with a body shaper suit under all this. 

You look very cute, @JustineM! (PS - IMHO - body shapers are worth a little discomfort...LOL!💜)

[JustineM]

1 minute ago, Ticket For Epic said:

Love that top and that blue suits you so well!

Thank you! This was one of the first tops I bought when I started to transition. 

[JustineM]

1 minute ago, Katie M said:

You look very cute, @JustineM! (PS - IMHO - body shapers are worth a little discomfort...LOL!💜)

As long as I can still breath I can deal with the discomfort lol. Now that I’ve been wearing it a little it’s not too bad. 

[JustineM]

On 3/4/2022 at 12:06 PM, Ticket For Epic said:

Eeek!!!  Accidentally bought a crop sweater at the thrift shop during what I've come to think of as panicked purchasing.  Shopping....  not fun!  Trying things on when I get home, now that's a different story!

That top looks super cute on you! 
 

Im starting to enjoy shopping more than I used too. Still don’t hang in shops for hours or anything but I do enjoy browsing the clearance racks at my local stores lol. 

[Kelly2509]

Its hitting 50s and 60a in southern michigan!

[Jackie C.]

1 minute ago, Kelly2509 said:

Its hitting 50s and 60a in southern michigan!

 

Yeah, I still have no plans to step outside today.

 

Hugs!

[Bri2020]

Wow, I step away for a couple hours.....

You'al are look fab.

I get the beard thing, I wore some form of facial hair most of my life- good camouflage even for myself to help bury the truth.

My guess is, once you do shave it you will feel amazing (and a bit vulnerable)

Lenneth, facial hair (or body hair in general) is a major trigger for me.  You have dark enough hair for laser to make a big difference in getting rid of the shadow, at least for a while.  Electrolysis is permanent, but very drawn out and expensive.  Given it's a big trigger, I recommend getting to work on it, even if it's only short sessions once a month. Just the fact that you are doing something can sometimes help the dysphoria.  You would be surprised and how much easier shaving is once they start to thin things out even a little.

 

Pink Mary Janes! OMG.

 

I had to go last minute dress shopping at a thrift store last night. I was helping with a Ukrainian refugee fundraiser a friend was hosting at her house (raised $150k in one week!) and I needed something with blue and yellow.  I found this bodycon and it was perfect. 

 

[Katie M]

You look AMAZING, Bri!💜

[Marcie Jensen]

17 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

I had to go last minute dress shopping at a thrift store last night. I was helping with a Ukrainian refugee fundraiser a friend was hosting at her house (raised $150k in one week!) and I needed something with blue and yellow.  I found this bodycon and it was perfect. 

 

Love the dress1 And, more importantly, thank you and bless you for working with Ukranian refugees.

Big hugs!

[Mmindy]

On 3/4/2022 at 4:02 PM, Ticket For Epic said:

I remember when I first grew it out,  thinking that I was growing a mask and couldn't figure out why I felt that way.  well, that's beginning to become clear!

You're right about using facial hair as a mask. I did the same thing, and when I was a firefighter I kept a handlebar mustache. When I retired, and bought a Harley I grew a goatee. As I came out to my wife, I started trimming my beard closer, and closer. Until I shaved it off, and hardly anyone noticed.

 

You be you,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋 

[Mmindy]

Good afternoon, everyone looks amazing. 
@Bri2020 you and that dress look amazingly FANTASTIC, HOT, and HAPPY.

@JustineMI love the blue top.

@Kelly2509Our Southern friends will never see late Winter temps in the 50s and 60s as tank top weather. You look wonderful too.

 

Best wishes for all,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Maddee]

21 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

 

 

Bri you are doing good things and looking good while you’re at it!

 

I’m ready for another surgery tomorrow 😊🌈🌈

Wearing a dress but strangely my phone won’t let me add the photo showing it

[Katie M]

24 minutes ago, Maddee said:

Bri you are doing good things and looking good while you’re at it!

 

I’m ready for another surgery tomorrow 😊🌈🌈

Wearing a dress but strangely my phone won’t let me add the photo showing it

Wishing you an easy time on your surgery tomorrow, @Maddee! I love your curls!💜

[Mmindy]

23 minutes ago, Maddee said:

 

I’m ready for another surgery tomorrow

Best wishes and positive energy sent out to you, as you go through and recover. 
 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Ticket For Epic]

6 hours ago, Mmindy said:

As I came out to my wife, I started trimming my beard closer, and closer. Until I shaved it off, and hardly anyone noticed.

Thanks, that's a great suggestion!  I sometimes forget that things don't have to be all or nothing.

 

 

[Bri2020]

Good luck Maddee!

[Lenneth]

Well it’s not perfect, but…

 

[Ticket For Epic]

6 minutes ago, Lenneth said:

Well it’s not perfect, but…

Love the color and glitter!

 

  I still haven't gotten the hang of using my off hand to apply polish(I can drive a nail with it so I haven't lost hope!) but I've found some moisturizer and a hot shower makes short work of skin cleanup and doesn't risk buggering the rest trying to use remover and a Q-tip or brush.

[Lenneth]

New shirt!

 

[Ticket For Epic]

21 hours ago, Maddee said:

I’m ready for another surgery tomorrow

Best of luck!

 

9 minutes ago, Lenneth said:

New shirt!

 

 

Sage advice, love it!

[Lenneth]

Errand time!