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Got a bunch of mixed feelings today. I bought my cap and gown for graduation in May. I'm really happy to be getting my Masters after these past couple of years. Unfortunately, the whole package came out to about $109. My bank accounts crying a bit right now ;_;

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I got to wear my bra for the first time in public yesterday at a sports bar in my "man mode". I had a hoodie on so no one couldn't notice hallelurjah! But today my boyfriend noticed me wearing it under a regular shirt today when I drove him to work and had to go get some Starbucks for him and a couple other people. The one that doesn't have a drive thru! Dysphoria kicked in big time, grabbed me a hoodie in my car (it was a tight women's so that didn't help), and just stay as highly confident wearing it. It took about 5-10 minutes to get all the drinks while I'm flipping out in my mind if I'm gonna get clocked (and possibly physically). I got out of there feeling relieved. Now I know how it feels for what it's like. Hopefully later on it reduces and get better with it ^_^

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I came across a photo of two stuffed animals (Simba and Nala from the lion king) kissing and started tearing up it was so cute! I guess the HRT is working overtime today...... :blink:

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Totally agree CyndiRae! It seems the publicity and (over)discussion is doing more harm than good. It will be nice when the whole ordeal becomes a non-story

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I guess it depends on where you are and what the climate was like befoe. Here redneck Evangelical types are actually starting to say that the whole bathroom thing is ridiculous. It is making them look at us and their prejudices differently. From my prospective it has helped more than I could have foreseen and changed attitudes it might otherwise have taken a decade or more to change.

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I was wonder if the attorney general in NC can take the law to court and ask them to declare the law unconstitutional? I mean he's already said he won't defend it because he believes it to be.

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Joann i'm guessing that is a good thing from your tone and the fact that you can get a new birth certificate but what is IDAHOT 2016?

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Charlize

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Thank you Charlize. :friends:

IDAHOT 2016 = International Day Against HOmophobia and Transphobia 2016.

This day can not be topped in the future, as I received my Certificate of my Gender Marker correction on May 17, 2016. :D

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Thank you Charlize. :friends:

IDAHOT 2016 = International Day Against HOmophobia and Transphobia 2016.

This day can not be topped in the future, as I received my Certificate of my Gender Marker correction on May 17, 2016. :D

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

Way congrats!!!

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Fantastic day! Congratulations on your new F. Indeed a happy IDAHOT for A HOTie.

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Charlize

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Having a dumb smart phone, broken with a virus, fried keypad, voice only that misspells everything is a total bummer! I can't give my usual giggle or hug. GGGRRRrrr... Then to top that, I can only give my bestie Joann a "Way congrats" How lame is that! So I'm taking time to fire up my notebook to give her a hug and a giggle. OK, it's my signature trademark.

Oh Lord, don't tell her that the IDAHOT thing skied right over my head too. I'm glad Charlize was the one to ask. Anyway I know her gender marker change is a very big deal and a long time coming. I am so smiling! Also to all the newbies I offer a blanket welcome while I have a full keyboard. Geez, I hate being an oldster that seems to ignore the new ones. One day I will either do a default reset on the dumb phone or get another one. Then I can use this one as a tire chock or a pigeon for a skeet shoot. Hmm... I would get a bang out of that! LOL! We now take you back to your regularly scheduled programming. Giggle. Hug. JodyAnn

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I guess it depends on where you are and what the climate was like befoe. Here redneck Evangelical types are actually starting to say that the whole bathroom thing is ridiculous. It is making them look at us and their prejudices differently. From my prospective it has helped more than I could have foreseen and changed attitudes it might otherwise have taken a decade or more to change.

I got a similar sentiment from my dad after I sent him that article (I think you posted it?) about a conservative Texas politician pointing out why it's ridiculous.

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A little too close for comfort.

As I was leaving to mail my Birth Certificate application this morning, I thankfully, checked my mail first.

Lo and behold. I am the proud owner of a corrected Birth Certificate.

I have finally Failed with full honors.

I don't think May 2016 can get any better.

Good thing I did not apply any mascara today. ;)

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Gotta love Utah! God's plan started there and continues through this day, all changes included.

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Charlize

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I don't know... That little quote could be interpreted in kind of a humorous dirty way. ;-) I HOPE god's plan for anyone didn't start between their legs. So like porn stars maybe..."the plan" started between their legs at birth. I can't stop snickering...gonna quit now.

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Well maybe I can agree with them as simplistic as it is. God blessed me intersex, now there was a price to pay under the surgeons knives. I have the joy of re-creation, living two lives in one. Both male and female (female for me is so much better!) To the people of the state of Utah: Please throw out your modern bigotry, toss away your polluted Bible translations. Take a college biology class, study Hebrew and Greek. Oh, BTW, pull your heads out of your duffle bags! Amen.

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Being female is a pre-existing condition 

 

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It seems that for the most part even life is pre-existing.  Certainly caring for it seems to be a difficulty for some as long as they have theirs.

 

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If female is a pre-existing condition....it sure doesn't take much to set it off in a male born female.

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Do I take it correctly that the republican health monstrocity has or is going to pass without coverage for pre exhisting conditions?

 

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Timber Wolf?

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That is unfortunately part of the "heath care" package that the republicans in the house just passed.  For a couple like mine with heart disease and MS it is a good thing we are old at this point.  Medicare hasn't been stopped 'yet'.  I hope we will still be able to buy the supplemental insurance that has been so important.

 

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Charlize

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