Good morning All. Coffees on.

[Tessa]

Hey,

 

Working 12 hrs is hard. Non-stop calls and so many extensions and hard breaking stories. I need the money because I’m down one job and my Stimulus check was given to the ex for child support. 
 

Watching movies on low while I take calls in my apt to drown out the silence. Any Michael Douglas fans? I love his movies! Falling Down and Basic Instinct are my favorites! 
 

Last night Carter called and was complaining about her sister not getting her motzerella sticks at Sonic. Wanted me at 9:00 PM to go down and get her some. I asked to speak to her older sister. I heard in the background I don’t want to talk to ..... she used my male name not even respected as a Dad. She was talking to her Mom. Now I had an altercation with ex and boyfriend and was told to stick to court times. Normally I would rescue her. I would drive down and do this but this time I didn’t. I knew she was ok because she was with her older sister. Knowing mom had been alerted put up my red flags. I wouldn’t want to meet her there. Carter would probably want me to take her home and then I would show up on the video she has installed. I decided to hang up the phone after Carter started yelling profanities at her sister. Carter is 15 and Sierra 17. I don’t like that they were hanging out at Sonic at 9 during a pandemic! Mom was with her boyfriend. I hope Carter doesn’t hate me after this. If she refuses to go on visits I will be crushed. Already my oldest refuses to come. I had to put my foot down though. It would be to dangerous for me to go down there. So stressful. Went to bed after the call. Did I do the right thing? I love my kids so much but the ex just won’t let me have more time with them. So sad?

 

Tessa

[Tessa]

33 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Yeah, no.

Today I'm going to the bakery, the pharmacy and the dentist. Whee.

I'll be trying out my new blender though. I guess that's going to happen.

Nothing to see here. Move along.

 

Hugs!

Sounds like a busy day! 
 

[Tessa]

Hi,

 

No hot water from 8am to noon. There replacing hot water heater. I’m glad. The old one flooded my apt last week. I’m getting my hot bath in early. Then getting dressed! Dying to wear a black sundress I bought to the office! Which is my kitchen. All fixed up and no where to go! Lol. Then breakfast. Another 12 hour day. Then probably some writing, movie, Tic Toc, and bed. The new normal. What are you going to do today lovely people? 
 

Love

 

Tessa?‍?

[Jackie C.]

Hey @Tessa, I'm sorry that your ex is choosing to weaponize your kids. I don't like that they're hanging out at a Sonic either. There are much better food options out there. I kinda get that teenagers have that magical blend of thinking they're invulnerable and the need to be away from their parents though. At that age, I'd probably do something stupid too. Kind of the hallmark of being a teenager.

 

Apologies to all the teenagers on the site. You will however look back on your life in twenty years and some parts of it will make you say, "What the heck was I thinking?" Hopefully, you'll be able to deal with the shame. ?

 

Anyway, @Tessa I hope you can salvage your relationship with your kids. Fair warning though, it might take a couple of years and you'll be reconnecting with them as adults. Kids don't always have the best judgment. That's from a couple of my friends who have dealt with the whole divorce/shared custody thing. Sometimes it gets better. It just takes time.

 

Big hugs sweetie!

[ShawnaLeigh]

32 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

Apologies to all the teenagers on the site. You will however look back on your life in twenty years and some parts of it will make you say, "What the heck was I thinking?" Hopefully, you'll be able to deal with the shame. ?

 

Aint this the truth!

[Oh_Kay]

1 hour ago, Tessa said:

Hey,

 

Working 12 hrs is hard. Non-stop calls and so many extensions and hard breaking stories. I need the money because I’m down one job and my Stimulus check was given to the ex for child support. 
 

Watching movies on low while I take calls in my apt to drown out the silence. Any Michael Douglas fans? I love his movies! Falling Down and Basic Instinct are my favorites! 
 

Last night Carter called and was complaining about her sister not getting her motzerella sticks at Sonic. Wanted me at 9:00 PM to go down and get her some. I asked to speak to her older sister. I heard in the background I don’t want to talk to ..... she used my male name not even respected as a Dad. She was talking to her Mom. Now I had an altercation with ex and boyfriend and was told to stick to court times. Normally I would rescue her. I would drive down and do this but this time I didn’t. I knew she was ok because she was with her older sister. Knowing mom had been alerted put up my red flags. I wouldn’t want to meet her there. Carter would probably want me to take her home and then I would show up on the video she has installed. I decided to hang up the phone after Carter started yelling profanities at her sister. Carter is 15 and Sierra 17. I don’t like that they were hanging out at Sonic at 9 during a pandemic! Mom was with her boyfriend. I hope Carter doesn’t hate me after this. If she refuses to go on visits I will be crushed. Already my oldest refuses to come. I had to put my foot down though. It would be to dangerous for me to go down there. So stressful. Went to bed after the call. Did I do the right thing? I love my kids so much but the ex just won’t let me have more time with them. So sad?

 

Tessa

 

Tessa,

 

My kids are all grown, and i have re-married a wonderful woman who totally accepts and understands me. I am so glad my ex is out of my life now. Her life has always been a total train wreck. She would find any excuse to call me, her and her husband would project all their BS all over me. Everything in the world was my fault. Hang in there, sometimes it seems like it is never going to get better, but trust me, it does!

 

Kay

[KymmieL]

2 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

Do you ever feel like you should have a film crew following you around all day?

Gosh my life reads like a crazy drama soap opera!!! LOL

 

If it were of my life, people would hang themselves from the rafters it is so boring. LOL,

 

Well back to work again. I hope it is better.But I highly doubt it. gonna wait for coffee till I get to work. I think I can handle it. It's only a 10 minute drive.

 

Stay healthy and safe everyone.

 

Kymmie

[Willow]

Good morning,

 

Made coffee and sitting here having some.  I have to admit I’m feeling a little depressed today.  Perhaps it’s the weather. Overcast, rained last night with some thunder storms.  Fortunately nothing serious.

 

i spent some me time last night but that didn’t help this time.  I suppose some of it is shear boredom.  
 

Be safe stay well.

 

Willow

[ShawnaLeigh]

36 minutes ago, Willow said:

i spent some me time last night but that didn’t help this time.  I suppose some of it is shear boredom.  

Seems the grass is greener on the other side.

I'm the opposite.

I wish some days I was NOT essential and could stay home.  I so need a mental health day and the weekends are no comfort in the mist of a divorce with whom I'm still living with.

[Sally Stone]

Sally had a Facebook account for a very short time.  I really enjoyed the interaction with others, but I just couldn't get over the dread that I'd somehow be outed ( I am not out to family and only to a few friends).  I worried that my "Sally" persona on Facebook would be tied to my male persona.  Probably just unfounded paranoia on my part.  Personally, I'm not too concerned about getting outed, but I know it would be difficult for my wife, and because she is so supportive of me, I do my best to protect her privacy.

 

Hugs,

 

Sally   

[KathyLauren]

48 minutes ago, Sally Stone said:

 I just couldn't get over the dread that I'd somehow be outed ( I am not out to family and only to a few friends).  I worried that my "Sally" persona on Facebook would be tied to my male persona.

 

You were right to be concerned.  FB will do everything in its power to connect everyone to everyone else.  If you have two accounts, it knows that they are both accessed from the same computer, and therefore that the people probably know each other.  If the two accounts have any friends in common, all your other friends (even those who are friends with only one identity) will receive notices that they might like to be friends with the other identity.

 

Keeping one identity "stealth" while having two accounts requires extreme measures that most people don't think of.   You need to access the two accounts from different computers.  At the very least, you need to access them from different browsers if you have only one computer.  Separate computers is safer.  You can't have anyone who is a friend of both accounts. 

[Oh_Kay]

1 hour ago, Sally Stone said:

Sally had a Facebook account for a very short time.  I really enjoyed the interaction with others, but I just couldn't get over the dread that I'd somehow be outed ( I am not out to family and only to a few friends).  I worried that my "Sally" persona on Facebook would be tied to my male persona.  Probably just unfounded paranoia on my part.  Personally, I'm not too concerned about getting outed, but I know it would be difficult for my wife, and because she is so supportive of me, I do my best to protect her privacy.

 

Hugs,

 

Sally   

 

I personally stay off of FB. My wife has an account to connect with our kids and family. Long time ago, I had an account and it went into my email and sent every contact that I have an invite. Not acceptable for me. Yes, I am protective of my wife's privacy too!

 

Kay

[Jani]

34 minutes ago, Oh_Kay said:

it went into my email and sent every contact that I have an invite. Not acceptable for me.

It did this to my mothers account as well.  I was getting "messages" from her that she would never have written.  She deleted the account.  I won't use FB.

 

Jani

[Susan R]

8 hours ago, Oh_Kay said:

I personally stay off of FB. My wife has an account to connect with our kids and family. Long time ago

My wife and I have have the same arrangement. She needs it to connect to our family as they don’t use email for whatever reason. I’ve never had a FB account and I only signed up for Twitter a gazillion years ago to get a coupon I needed once. So my social media presence is all but not with the exception of some very small, closed, and secure forums.
 

8 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

If you have two accounts, it knows that they are both accessed from the same computer, and therefore that the people probably know each other.

Also, I’ve heard that FB uses your Network IP as an identifier so even setting up accounts on two different computers on the same network may not be enough without some network trickery.

 

Susan R?

 

[KymmieL]

I have two separate face book accounts.one for my me and the wife and Kymmie has one of her own. It is on different browsers, one firefox one explorer.

 

Kymmie

[Tessa]

Hi, 

 

Today they were replacing the Apt’s hot water heater. I started work at 8. They knocked on my door on the middle of my call. I was wearing my black dress. I had to answer the door so I put the caller on hold. I normally don’t let people see me in a dress unless they are my friends but this time I didn’t have the time to change. I felt vulnerable but confident to because this is who I am and I shouldn’t be ashamed of it. So the men walked in and out of my apt checking the water. 
 

I wish I was braver because I feel real when I’m Tessa and it feels fake to be male. Crazy! Anyway this day is over. Will eat dinner and go to bed. Maybe a movie or some writing. Tomorrow I will do laundry at my uncles house. They let me live with them for a year. 
 

Have a good night. I like talking to you all. 
 

Love 

 

Tessa?‍?

[Oh_Kay]

Good Morning! Sipping my coffee. During the work week, I usually wake very early, before 3:30 am. Today I slept in an hour longer! It still feels insanely early, but I couldn't sleep any more. I woke up with feelings of gratitude for everything in my life. That is a nice way to start my day! 

 

Hugs to everyone, hope your weekend is great!

[Maddee]

Good morning.

Overcast and cool.

I'm feeling change and it's ok.

 

I have concerns about the facial recognition tech that insists on tagging you in photos on FB and elsewhere.  Probably here too.

 

[Emily michelle]

Good morning!

rainy today but at least I’m off today.

[TommieAnne]

Good morning!

Rainy overnight here, then just after sunrise the sun burst through in little golden streamers highlighting the landscape for a little while. Now everything is grey and overcast again.

But for a few minutes the world was glorious!

I'll take the grey as a fair price to pay for the few minutes of glory!

I hope everyone has a wonderful Saturday morning!

《《《 Big warm hugs 》》》

TA

[KathyLauren]

Sunny and warm (relatively) today.  It's 10C.  That's like 50 American degrees.

 

My wife and I have decided that, for the duration of the pandemic, were are going to have coffee Saturdays as well as Sundays.  So I had my double espresso this morning. 

 

The coffee store in town is doing a roast every couple of weeks, and opening the store the following day, one customer at a time, for coffee bean purchases.  I picked up two bags of Sumatran dark roast earlier this week.  Mmmm!

[Cyndee]

Sounds delish Kathy and a sign of better times ahead  Enjoy the spring warmth !

 

C

[Willow]

Hi

 

yesterday started out as depressed but ended on a big high.  We took out granddaughters out on our boat.  They pitched in and helped.  I did everything I could to involve them.  The 13 year old hated our old boat because it was too small.  This one is double the size and she had fun.  Helped as much as she could.

 

her older sister did too.  I was so happy it went well that I had a hard time getting to sleep last night.

 

Willow

[Jani]

Sounds like it was a worthwhile voyage! 

 

Jani

[Tessa]

Hi, 

 

Today they were replacing the Apt’s hot water heater. I started work at 8. They knocked on my door on the middle of my call. I was wearing my black dress. I had to answer the door so I put the caller on hold. I normally don’t let people see me in a dress unless they are my friends but this time I didn’t have the time to change. I felt vulnerable but confident to because this is who I am and I shouldn’t be ashamed of it. So the men walked in and out of my apt checking the water. 
 

I wish I was braver because I feel real when I’m Tessa and it feels fake to be male. Crazy! Anyway this day is over. Will eat dinner and go to bed. Maybe a movie or some writing. Tomorrow I will do laundry at my uncles house. They let me live with them for a year. 
 

Have a good night. I like talking to you all. 
 

Love 

 

Tessa?‍?