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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

What got me thinking it maybe good news is that. Being he wanted me to get this appointment is that he believes I will be able to get on HRT.

 

Fingers crossed for you dear! My first endo told me, "Don't worry, we can almost always find something you can take safely." Chances are really good!

 

Hugs!

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@KymmieL that’s great.  I hope it all works out.

 

@Mmindy my father was a top marksman back in the 20s and 30s. Well actually starting in 1915.

 

Anyway Winchester arms kept trying to get him to use their rifles.  (Obviously for the advertising factor). Worlds champion uses Winchester blah blah.  They would match ammunition to a rifle and invite him to their range.  He’d go fire it in their rifle, then fire it in his.  They could never even come close to what he could accomplish with their ammunition in his rifle. He offered to shoot their hand picked in his rifle but they refused.  And they were trying both the model 60 and the model 50. I have his custom built target 22.  He called it a Hoffman/Martini after the gunsmith and action.

 

no, I was never ever as good as he was.  

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Hey, not fair!  The third light from the left won’t break.  At least not on my iPad the others will.

 

oh, I got it

 

I guess I should find something a bit more useful to do.

 

if someone here hadn’t said about this I would not have given breaking them another thought.

 

lots of good programming going on these days.

 

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That's a great family history to pass down. I'm guessing the difference between being Champion Marksman and Expert Marksman skips a generation. My father taught the shooting subject very well and all of us shot well, however my younger brother went on to compete in competitive shooting air-powered pellets and gun powder.  With all of his trophies he still hasn't out hunted my baby brother or myself.  We tease him that trophies don't fill the freezer.

 

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Well I  put in for a secretary position at a high school in OR. last week I  received a voicemail saying that they wanted a phone interview on Thursday.  I don't know why, but I am scared to death.  It is in the counseling office. 

 

I figure what better place for a transgender person to be. 

 

Kymmie 

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2 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I don't know why, but I am scared to death. 

@KymmieLchange is always frightful, this is a normal emotion for the situation. As long as you have the clerical skills they're looking for, your transgender issues should be a non issue.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy

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@Mmindy unfortunately after I was born my father couldn’t be bothered to teach me anything.  When I wanted to learn to shoot he got a friend to do it.  When I wanted to hunt he got a different friend involved and so on.  When I needed help at the junior tyro school during the National matches he told me to go see a guy at a particular shop that he knew.  I was always pushed off on someone else or left to figure it out on my own.  
 

And yet I knew all his stories by heart.  He could be telling on and I wouldn’t seem to be paying any attention until he’d ask me something and I’d know exactly where he was and the answer he expected.  The only thing is I’m not sure if I mixed up some ancestry or if he did because what I remember him saying doesn’t match the history books.  But thanks to the internet and ancestry.com, the Scotland National Is library and pictures of a burial plot in Prince Edward Island my son and I have traced the family tree back over 700 years.

 

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@KymmieL I agree with Mindy.  Change can be difficult for anyone.  And here you are changing jobs, changing the type of work you’ve been doing, moving away, coming out and leaving family.  No wonder you are scared.  But since these lead to what you ultimately want, you’ll just have to pull up your big girl panties, put a smile on your face and in your voice and put your best effort into this.

 

Good luck.  I’ll put in a good word with the big guy for you.

 

Willow

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2 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I don't know why, but I am scared to death.  It is in the counseling office. 

 

I figure what better place for a transgender person to be.

This is really cool. I wish you the best.

 

I found out today that my co-worker that won't call me by name apparently has memory issues. So the card she is playing is that she is having trouble remembering what to call me so she doesn't. I'm going to take the high road on this and assume it's the truth. Our creepy guy (I think every office has one) preemptively apologized for if he ever calls me the wrong name. So 2 good things at work.

 

I literally just noticed most of my body hair is gone. A little, almost can't see it on my arms, nothing on my legs and both my chest hairs are gone. All the stress lately, I needed some positives changes. Maybe the stress made it fall out.:dunno:

 

We're supposed to be closing on our house next week and we're both so stressed out. All the stupid last minute paperwork they want. They keep saying they need more information...yesterday.

 

In the interest of not shoving my transition in my wife's face I've been storing my new meds on a shelf in our office closet. Keeping pills in my bag or in the back of the medicine cabinet is one thing but needles...eh. She found them and, not reading what she was holding, thought they something she had left over. I had a little explaining to do. Thankfully she remembered I told her my meds changed and it didn't turn into a fight. I'm taking it as another win.

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@WillowI'm sorry to hear that you had to overcome a distant relationship with your father.

My business partner always tells young parents that his parents were better parents than is grandparents, he's a better parent than his father was, and his son is a much better parent then him. This is the best that we can hope for, to give our children the guidance to be better parents than we were.

 

My mother started researching ancestry.com after my father passed away and did well with it until dementia set in. Fortunately my daughter took over her research and we go back to Scotland as well when John Moore (not the physician) left Scotland in 1795 to come to the Americas. Her research is continuing further back but I'm not aware of how far.

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Also the way I figure it. Being trans and working in the counseling office would be a win win. 

 

I found that they already have a LGBT club.

 

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10 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well I  put in for a secretary position at a high school in OR. last week I  received a voicemail saying that they wanted a phone interview on Thursday.  I don't know why, but I am scared to death.  It is in the counseling office. 

 

I figure what better place for a transgender person to be. 

 

Kymmie 

I think that's awesome. Good luck.  Being afraid is probably because that means you really would like the position.  Working with kids is challenging but so rewarding.  

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9 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

 

 

I literally just noticed most of my body hair is gone. A little, almost can't see it on my arms, nothing on my legs and both my chest hairs are gone. All the stress lately, I needed some positives changes. Maybe the stress made it fall out.:dunno:

 

 

Closing on homes is always chaos and stress. It will be over soon.  Good timing on mortgage rates. (except the new .5% fee) I need to refi out house and just haven't had the bandwidth to deal with it.  Our rate is about 4.7% so it def makes sense to refi if I can save a full percent.  Good luck with all of that. Buy a bottle of champagne today so that you have it to pop open when you close!   

As for the hair loss, I'm sorry for the cause but I am jealous. Body hair is such a trigger for me I just dream of being hairless.

 

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10 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well I  put in for a secretary position at a high school in OR. last week I  received a voicemail saying that they wanted a phone interview on Thursday.  I don't know why, but I am scared to death.  It is in the counseling office. 

 

I figure what better place for a transgender person to be. 

That's great Kymmie! The nerves are totally normal, but as you say, what a better place for a transgender person to be. Whish you the best of luck Thursday

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Yesterday I had electrolysis and she worked on my lip. It was so painful I couldn't take more than a few hairs before she had to relocate. Even with all the stuff I take for controlling the pain!  It was so traumatizing I had nightmares about it last night and barely slept. I'm not sure how I will be able to deal with the whole lip :(

Coffee is going to have to work overtime this morning. Off to make another pot!

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8 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Also the way I figure it. Being trans and working in the counseling office would be a win win. 

 

I found that they already have a LGBT club.

 

Kymmie

Wishing you the best on your interview tomorrow, Kymmie!

 

Trying to find my motivation to get out there and do my morning exercise today, it's below freezing and I just want to stay wrapped up in this blanket I'm wearing as a sort of gown all day. Where's my coffee?

 

9 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

I found out today that my co-worker that won't call me by name apparently has memory issues. So the card she is playing is that she is having trouble remembering what to call me so she doesn't. I'm going to take the high road on this and assume it's the truth. Our creepy guy (I think every office has one) preemptively apologized for if he ever calls me the wrong name. So 2 good things at work.

I wonder about this too with the clients I work with. Some of my clients have dementia, and I am sure that once I am out and transitioning at work, I will need to be prepared to be deadnamed and misgendered by them if I stay in this job. They won't be doing it deliberately of course, but the constant reminder makes me wonder how I'll handle that kind of stress.

Also, can confirm, every office has a "creepy guy."

 

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@Mmindy I like to believe I was a better father than mine was.  At least both my kids got everything out of me I had to give.  Played ball with them, coached my daughter’s softball teams.  Coached my sons baseball.  Took them biking and camping and skiing  

 

now that your sister has made the leap to Scotland with The Who and when, the next hurdle will be where they left Scotland and where the lived in Scotland.  Once you figure out that getting back the next few hundred years is easy.  They kept really good records.  And if or when you hit a Royalty line you can go all the way back to the 700s. I got to John, second son of Robert the first, he was the first Stewart King and married Margaret daughter of Robert the Bruce. The Bruce clan is well documented back to around 700

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Anybody notice the occasional falling snowflakes on the screen?  At first I thought it was a bug crawling on my monitor.

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Good morning everyone 

 

well at least the only snow here is on my screen, not outside.  Although it is cold enough to snow.   Brr 29 when I got up.  It’s not supposed to be that cold here in December.

 

Yesterday was a bit of a depression day for me. Yes I still have them.  Unfortunately my wife caught it from me.

 

we are both better today.  
 

Kymmie, it sounds like that position could be heaven sent.  Praying that the interview goes well and you get it.

 

have a good day everyone.

 

Willow

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3 hours ago, Gabriel said:

It's snowing here in TGP!!!! Love it!!! :D 

That you @Petra Jane? If so, love your ideas 

Yep, guilty as charged! This time, it’s not a plug-in, like the lights, just a bit of code I’ve found and added.

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3 hours ago, LaurenA said:

Anybody notice the occasional falling snowflakes on the screen?  At first I thought it was a bug crawling on my monitor.

At least it isn't a full on blizzard.

 

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1 hour ago, Petra Jane said:

Yep, guilty as charged! This time, it’s not a plug-in, like the lights, just a bit of code I’ve found and added.

Well done Petra, the site is festive and seasonal.

 

@Willow So when we address you it should be Lady Willow of The Bruce.

 

The coffee is HOT, Black, and strong

 

Hugs for all,

 

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