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You know it took everything we had to come out.

Why does it have to be so hard to be out !

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@Jamie68 I think that is a very fair question to ask. We do a lot of work and preparation to come out and be ourselves, yet there are times when others want us to go back into the closet. I have the luxury right now that the only people who want me to stay in the closet are two of my aunts, everybody else is okay so far. I feel like for some people it is more about them, that they will be associated with someone in the "other" category or "outsider". It makes me sad that is the narrow field of vision that those people have, because we are just being who we were meant to be.

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Bri, I think you are correct in that assessment. I think that is what my wife felt. That I would change 180° from who she married.

I am thinking (yeah, I know I shouldn't do that) when I go to my appointments at the VA I may dress more than casual. Being that is the only place I can totally dress as feminine as I want to. I haven't decided if I will tone it down or not.

 

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4 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

I'm a complete extravert so I'm out there but I don't think I hyper-feminize or anything. I just don't try to hide.

I'm also an extrovert, and that is part of what confuses my Suzie. She doesn't understand how I can be the never met a stranger, take lead in a conversation person, and then have this giant secret about my transgender issues. I reassure her that we're on a slow road through transition. Once I'm out publicly, I wont be shy, but I also won't be confrontational about it either. Take me for who I am, or move on. It's their choice.

 

I really do love, and value the variety of personalities, we have here on TransPulseForums. As different as we may be, we all care about, and for one another. ?????❤️????????

 

If your heart is broken?? Someone here, will be right with you, to embrace and support you. ❣️?

 

Hugs for all, (masked if required)

 

Mindy???

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Nice one Linda Marie.  I love how you have names for your guitars.  What is RatDog?  I can't make out the logo.  

 

As to moving forward, we all make our own decisions.  The only pressure is internal. If you are satisfied with life then that may be your answer.  

 

Melanie you might be holding back on that last little bit because you know it will kick off the next phase.  Go when you are ready.

 

Hugs Ladies, 

Jani

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8 hours ago, MelanieTamara said:

"at the end of this process, you lose everything...

I know you are divorcing but we don't lose everything.  There is plenty we gain.  Peace of mind and a little sanity is priceless.   

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Hi Jani, Rat Dog is a vintage solid body Electra. Back when I got it we had a chihuahua the same color and my son would call her rat dog, so I named the guitar after her.

LM♥️

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Well again my wife surprised me. During our counseling session. Hormones were brought up. She said that if I start them she would be OK with it. SO I have that to work on.

 

Kymmie

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5 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well again my wife surprised me. During our counseling session. Hormones were brought up. She said that if I start them she would be OK with it. SO I have that to work on.

 

Kymmie

 

<narrator voice> Little did she know... </narrator voice>

 

I'm glad you're seeing some progress with your wife. I also hope she keeps making progress as you both move forward.

 

Hugs!

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2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:
6 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well again my wife surprised me. During our counseling session. Hormones were brought up. She said that if I start them she would be OK with it. SO I have that to work on.

 

Kymmie

 

<narrator voice> Little did she know... </narrator voice>

 

I'm glad you're seeing some progress with your wife. I also hope she keeps making progress as you both move forward.

 

Hugs!

Ok, I thought I had missed something.

 

 

 

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My roller coaster continues. I had one of chicks hanging out in a coffee cup with me. My wife thought it was so cute she had to take a picture and put it on her FB.  This resulted in one of her friends calling her to ask who the woman in the picture was. She didn't recognize me at all but supposedly I also look like my mother-in-law.  I wasn't part of the conversation but apparently it went OK and her friend had nothing but positive, supportive things to say. The thing about it is my wife still (obviously) wants to keep my transition on the down-low but her friend is quit the chatterbox and has probably told a dozen people by now. May be a small blessing in disguise. 

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That is really cute! My wifey wanted the same thing, to keep it low key and not discuss so openly. The more people that know now however, has made her open up understand and accept the situation more and more. She still hates it when I pull up outside her workplace in my finest make up and clothes then kiss her deeply and passionately in front of her colleagues! I wonder what she's told them?

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@AmberM looking forward to your updates. You have really grown in this past year.

 

@Linda Marie sounds like your cards are all ready just need to play the rest of the deck. At 68 I'm paying full for therapy and electrolysis and although I've found a surgeon who accepts Medicare I know that will the next roadblock. Having the financials in order is a very big deal.

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Hi, I haven’t been on here in a couple of days.  Yesterday was our 49th wedding Anniversary.  I made breakfast.  Then we went to the beach.  Mowed and fertilized the yard.  Then I grilled steaks for dinner.  
 

To Amber and everyone else who had a big event these last few days, congratulations, sorry I missed it.  Wet basements are no fun for sure.  Living in the south eliminates that particular problem. We don’t have basements.  If we did we’d have indoor swimming pools.

 

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I don't tend to chip in much on this thread, but I do love to see the little slice of normal chit chat when I pop in for a quick browse. Congratulations on your anniversary Willow. :) 

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2 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

She didn't recognize me at all

This was a turning point for my wife when others saw me as a woman.  Its seemed to put her a little more at ease.  I hope it does for you too.

 

Congratulations @Willow.

 

Nice breakthrough @KymmieL.

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Like Dee Dee I have a hard time keeping up with this thread but I do appreciate the comments and enjoy reading what is going on in your lives.

 

@AmberM I know as this week ends at work you have made amazing progress. Can't wait to hear the details and feel the smiles.

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I just noticed the conservation about family or others wanting you to go back in the closet or how others will think badly of them or that you'll be a drag queen. All good comments. I never intend the drag queen I just want to be a regular every day woman but I can understand their reluctance because of all the false society propaganda. I want so badly to nurse my spouse and family along and try to desensitize everyone I know to the fact that I am still me I'm just more able to be who I really am and I still am ME that they came to know.

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Good Morning everybody. Waking up to my first cup of coffee.

 

Yesterday went well, had 3 coming out meetings throughout the day, one with my boss's boss, one with my team, and one with leadership of the team I was on before. The news was well received, and I have their full support in the process.

 

Today I went to make my Facebook update, so we shall see how long that goes well or badly. I had a strongly worded section though that if you can't support me that you can leave now with no judgement, because I know some people won't be able to support it. I think a few people have already left, and I am okay with that.

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3 hours ago, Willow said:

Hi, I haven’t been on here in a couple of days.  Yesterday was our 49th wedding Anniversary.  I made breakfast.  Then we went to the beach.  Mowed and fertilized the yard.  Then I grilled steaks for dinner.  
 

To Amber and everyone else who had a big event these last few days, congratulations, sorry I missed it.  Wet basements are no fun for sure.  Living in the south eliminates that particular problem. We don’t have basements.  If we did we’d have indoor swimming pools.

 

Willow

Congratulations on your 49th. My wife and I have been married over 45 years now. 

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1 hour ago, Linda Marie said:

My wife and I have been married over 45 years now. 

Us too! 

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6 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

My roller coaster continues. I had one of chicks hanging out in a coffee cup with me. My wife thought it was so cute she had to take a picture and put it on her FB.  This resulted in one of her friends calling her to ask who the woman in the picture was. She didn't recognize me at all but supposedly I also look like my mother-in-law.  I wasn't part of the conversation but apparently it went OK and her friend had nothing but positive, supportive things to say. The thing about it is my wife still (obviously) wants to keep my transition on the down-low but her friend is quit the chatterbox and has probably told a dozen people by now. May be a small blessing in disguise. 

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No doubt it's a blessing. That's what gave me the approval from my wife to come out to my family. My niece found out and started blabbing, so I told my family so they wouldn't hear about me on FB. Now's your chance. Go for it.

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6 hours ago, Willow said:

Hi, I haven’t been on here in a couple of days.  Yesterday was our 49th wedding Anniversary.  I made breakfast.  Then we went to the beach.  Mowed and fertilized the yard.  Then I grilled steaks for dinner.  
 

To Amber and everyone else who had a big event these last few days, congratulations, sorry I missed it.  Wet basements are no fun for sure.  Living in the south eliminates that particular problem. We don’t have basements.  If we did we’d have indoor swimming pools.

 

Willow

Congratulations on 49 yrs! It's a rare thing now days.

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After being in biz for 14 years as of this morning we now own our our office space! We closed on the office condo finally and now start the process of remodeling with a goal of moving in in September!  I am so happy to no longer be paying $50k a year in rent but instead paying myself and gaining equity.  It's been a stressful process but that hurdle is behind us.

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