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By Lydia_R · Posted
Welcome Felix! It sounds like we have a lot in common with music on multiple instruments and food. I'm not into lifting weights though. That could be a good skill in the Marines. I'm a Navy veteran. They just stick us in a little metal room and sleep deprive us. In all seriousness, I felt that it was good to travel the world when I was young and working. Loved this "...but what can you do." It sounds like you have a firm grip on reality! -
By KathyLauren · Posted
It undoubtedly depends on what country you are in. And even then, there would be discrepancies between policy and culture: what is allowed may not be accepted, depending on the personalities of the people involved. For the Canadian Armed Forces, I found this in regards to acceptance into Basic Training: "Transgender candidates may make request in accordance with CF Military Personnel Instruction 01/19 Transgender Guidance. The accommodations granted should aim at facilitating the integration and the success of the person making the request while complying with the Minimum Operational Standards as illustrated in the DAOD 5023-1. The final decision regarding accommodation measures rests with the Commandant of CFLRS." https://www.canada.ca/content/dam/dnd-mdn/documents/military-benefits/QMB_QMBO_e.pdf Presumably, this refers to things like bathroom and shower access. It indicates that the official policy is to accept transgender candidates. Whether or not the specific drill sergeant and the other recruits would actually accept them is something one could only find out by experience. -
By Lydia_R · Posted
I see myself as athletic and makeup is not a part of that. I've always been curious about lipstick and I do dress up quite regularly. I'm certainly much more into clothing than makeup. I don't own very many clothes either because I have minimalist tendencies. I have been curious about lipstick and bought it for the first time a couple months ago. I tried it twice and didn't like the kind I got, and then I tried again a couple days ago. I got a nice hot pink this time that I'm happy with. I'll experiment with it slowly and see if there is a keeper there. -
By KymmieL · Posted
I do have make up but do I use it. nope. it was mostly purchased as Sephoria. Some at wallys. Only thing I use on a regular bases is lip stick or gloss. With my wife not using makeup at all. Mine is hidden away. Kymmie -
By Mirrabooka · Posted
I don't use makeup, but I am starting to become interested in it. It always seems like I'm looking for the next step in my journey, even though I'm non-committal. Makeup could be it. A hack that my hairdresser suggested to control frizz was to smear a bit of moisturizer over my hair. To paraphrase from one of my favorite childhood books, "Never apply a lot. Just so much, and no more! Never more than a spot! Or something may happen. You never know what!" One day I applied more than a spot, and not knowing what to do with it, I wiped the excess over my face. It felt nice and I have kept it up since. It's a start. -
By RaineOnYourParade · Posted
Green tea and a granola bar this morning (haven't eaten it yet tho) 6 mins into the school day and I wanna go home, I am not feeling it today lol -
By RaineOnYourParade · Posted
Yeah, there's a lot of guys 5'8"+ over here ^^' Nice to know it wouldn't be an issue elsewhere tho Hands are surprisingly gendered lol -
By Adrianna Danielle · Posted
Been a good morning so far.Another ex GF and I did meet up last night.She has not see me since 1997.It was a little shock for her to see I changed at first.Good thing is she has accepted knowing I live a much happier life.Said she saw I was hurting inside. -
By MirandaB · Posted
If I'm doing something where I interact with people for any length of time I usually do something with my eyes (mascara, brow fill-in and taming). Bigger events I'll do some makeup but always try to be as subtle as I can, plus I think my freckles make me seem younger to people. I know it's too much when my brain suddenly thinks "clown!" -
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By Willow · Posted
Good morning wow, this is what 6 AM looks like not looking out the windows at work. Interesting week of start times 7,8,7,7,4. ASM is off most of the week. No coffee this morning, at least not until I get to work. I’m going to see if no coffee makes a difference in how I feel today, I’ve head a headache for several days now, nothing has helped. I do realize that stopping coffee cold turkey can bring on caffeine withdrawal headaches so I expect today to be no better. But I’m hoping for tomorrow. Today is just to see what if any affect it has on my throat. time to fix my hair and walk the dog before I motor across the road. Cherri o . keep a stiff upper lip and all that stuff. (Sorry, nothing the least bit funny coming to mind this morning, you’ll have to entertain yourself today} -
By Heather Shay · Posted
What do you think is the biggest block to LGBTQ+ acceptance? -
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By Heather Shay · Posted
DON’T ADD JUDGEMENT TO YOUR FEELINGS by Olga Lacroix | Anxiety relief, Happiness, Mindfulness I’m sitting here drinking my favorite coffee, and as I enjoy this moment I cannot wait to share with you the thoughts that are in my head. Recently, I have talked about how circumstances don’t determine your future. And somewhere along the line, I wanted to explore a little bit more about our thought process. How we discourage ourselves so often from our goals and from the things that we want, because we have beliefs that go against what we want. In this episode, I want to talk about how it’s important for us to learn not to judge our feelings. Aside from being a Life Coach, I’m also a Certified Mindfulness Instructor. And non-judgement is one of the learnings that I enjoy understanding, applying, and teaching. WHY BEING JUDGEMENTAL IS HARMFUL Sometimes it’s so difficult to be non-judgmental, especially if it’s coming from a bad experience or emotions. For example, a client of mine just had a pregnancy loss and a part of her coping mechanism is to hate or be indifferent to people who have babies. It’s her way of processing the grief and protecting herself from anger and sadness. And recently someone close to her had a baby. She wanted to feel excited for that person but somehow her bad experience was holding her back. Like her, a lot of people cope this way. Some people try to hide their feelings and emotions just because they’ve already judged them as maybe improper or inappropriate emotions. And what happens is, those emotions stay inside them longer, they don’t get to process their emotions, and it becomes more painful. HOW NOT TO BE JUDGEMENTAL When we judge our feelings as bad, our natural response is to avoid it. We go through crazy lengths just to avoid the feeling, but by avoiding it we’re actually growing it. So what do we do? Do not judge the emotion, allow yourself to feel the negative emotions. Don’t mask it, instead embrace it. DON’T IDENTIFY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS For someone like me who experienced Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD, a common side effect is anxiety. I have learned that the more I try to repel the anxious thoughts, the stronger they feel in my body, and the longer they stay. But when I’m courageous enough, and I say to the feeling, I’m not gonna judge you for existing, you’re just a feeling. I tell myself something neutral. There is anxiety, not I am anxious. Separate yourself from the feeling. The feeling is not you and it’s just temporary. FINDING THE BALANCE Now when the feeling is good and positive, we jump into attachment, wanting that feeling to linger longer and even forever. But according to Buddha, that’s when the suffering begins, when you want to make something last forever, and when you’re not ready to understand and accept the impermanence of emotions. Find the balance in your emotions. Learn to separate yourself from the emotion. Feel the emotions whether they’re good or bad, but don’t dwell in it. It’s an emotion that we need to feel, process, and eventually let go. Through this, we will achieve a healthier mind. STEPS TO FREE YOURSELF FROM JUDGEMENT The first step is awareness. Being aware of the emotion and how you have judged it. This step will allow you to think of the next step to free yourself from judgement. Step two is processing your emotion in neutrality. Go to a quiet place, close your eyes, and meditate. Bring all of your senses, all of your awareness to the feeling. Give it attention and wait for it to dissipate. The last step is to pay attention to the lesson. Become curious and think about what this emotion is teaching you, what wisdom can you take from it. Be an observer of your emotions. You need to react, you need to fix them, change them, modify them, you just need to notice them. And then you need to open the space, let them be felt. These are moments of growth, these are moments of transformation. And most importantly, these are moments where we allow the emotion to be processed. Reset Your Mindset is opening in January of 2022. A program that helps you with making decisions, set clear boundaries without drama or guilt. Stop the hamster wheel that keeps you in overthinking mode, switching off the mean inner voice and switching on confidence and compassion instead. Reset your mindset and discover your true self. Click here to know more! Bonus: I’m also giving participants lifetime access to Detox The Mind online course. A course that emphasizes on helping you create new neurological connections so that you have a happier mind and healthier habits. See you inside! -
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