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Good morning everyone 

 

@KymmieL hang in there gal.  We are survivors.  You made it this far, keep going.  I know how tough it can be.  
 

like several here yesterday and today, I too am a bit down.  I don’t know how to take yesterday.  I know my wife was even more upset than I was.

 

just wanted everyone to know I’m still here.

 

today is early hoping it will get better

 

Willow

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1 minute ago, Willow said:

Good morning everyone 

 

@KymmieL hang in there gal.  We are survivors.  You made it this far, keep going.  I know how tough it can be.  
 

like several here yesterday and today, I too am a bit down.  I don’t know how to take yesterday.  I know my wife was even more upset than I was.

 

just wanted everyone to know I’m still here.

 

today is early hoping it will get better

 

Willow

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13 minutes ago, SheenaT said:

Getting better every day.

@SheenaT Good news.  I hope all is well and you heal successfully.  Remember to do those Kegel exercises!!

Jani

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Just now, Jani said:

@SheenaT Good news.  I hope all is well and you heal successfully.  Remember to do those Kegel exercises!!

Jani

Yes indeed Girl! Kinda still hurts but I'm trying to be faithful to do them.

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31 minutes ago, SheenaT said:

I am just popping in to give an update. I had my prostatectomy April 4th.  All pathology reports look good. It appears from 8 lymph nodes taken and margins all clear that they got all the cancer. I am recovering slowly but pretty well. Ended up in emergency with a raging UTI from 2 weeks with a catheter.  Getting better every day.

 

Congratulations! May your recovery be swift!

 

Hugs!

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2 hours ago, SheenaT said:

Getting better every day.

That's a great update Sheena,

 

Best wishes, and positive energy, aka Praying that you continue to improve.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Going great with me,life as Holly has made me much happier and not looking back.Went to the salon my wife goes to,welcomed me in and were ready for me.The stylist whom does my wife's hair did mine putting in permanent hair extensions and styled it the way I wanted it.I love it and even had my nails and make up done finishing it off.Even went out and bought a pair of women's work boots.Visited my mom and it was emotional.Said I looked beautiful and she does not miss the unhappy son she once had

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3 hours ago, SheenaT said:

I am just popping in to give an update. I had my prostatectomy April 4th.  All pathology reports look good. It appears from 8 lymph nodes taken and margins all clear that they got all the cancer. I am recovering slowly but pretty well. Ended up in emergency with a raging UTI from 2 weeks with a catheter.  Getting better every day.

YAY! This is great news. Praying you will remain cancer free and recover quickly!!

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Been thinking over about a new service truck this afternoon.I own a tractor,farm and heavy equipment repair shop and due for a new one.Some of my customers,I do the repairs going on the road.Good thing is they do not complain about my fuel charge understanding it.Going new and going with a Kenworth.

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Hi 

 

Well today was a bit better.  Our younger granddaughter acknowledged us when her band went past.  Our daughter and older granddaughter came to see us shortly after that and when the parade was over, our daughter brought her boyfriend over to meet us.  
 

That relieved some of the depression we were having.

 

Willow

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1 hour ago, Willow said:

 

That relieved some of the depression we were having.

 

That’s good news Willow,

 

My daughter-in-law found my Mmindy Instagram account and even though it’s locked or set to private, my son was upset because he didn’t want his teenage kids to see it. He’s not worried about my feelings, he’s worried about how it makes him look. We had a lengthy text exchange about it. So I uploaded a cartoon avatar for now so people can’t confirm it’s my real face. I feel like the grandkids will have a relatively simple understanding of transgender people. 
 

We’ll see,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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8 minutes ago, Mmindy said:

So I uploaded a cartoon avatar for now so people can’t confirm it’s my real face.

I mostly use non-photo avatars on other sites.

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Wife's family came over to see me.They called me Holly right away using the pronouns she and her around me,know I am much happier now.They still accept me in as well

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@Hannah Renee keep those geese away from me. I got bit by one when I was like3-4 when I lived in Spartanburg, SC.

 

 

Doing a little better, have our middle sons, younger two over. Having my grandsons over is great.

 

Kymmie

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1 hour ago, HollyNG said:

Wife's family came over to see me.They called me Holly right away using the pronouns she and her around me,know I am much happier now.They still accept me in as well

Wonderful to hear, Holly!  The acceptance feels good, I'm sure.

 

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1 hour ago, Astrid said:

Wonderful to hear, Holly!  The acceptance feels good, I'm sure.

 

Astrid

It is feeling good and are supportive

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12 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

Most here are ok (edge-of-town park along the river), but there are a few who really like to posture and hiss rather than move. Gets a little spine-tingly at times.

 

Around my place we have wild turkeys that sometimes get so aggressive that the police have to deal with them.

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20 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

YAY! This is great news. Praying you will remain cancer free and recover quickly!!

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Thank you!🤗

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Hi

 

Sorry I didn’t have much to say the last few days, and none of it affirming.

 

Coffee today is hot, black, but in the pot too long.  It is brought to you by Quality Inn.  
 

@KymmieL I’m sorry you didn’t get the commercial desk you wanted.  Yes it seems like they had someone else that was too friendly with the bosses.  On the other side glad you have two grandsons visiting.

 

@SheenaT I too am happy for you that there are no signs of cancer.  Sorry about the uti with the catheter.  Those can be rather uncomfortable going in staying in and coming out again.  Personally I particularly hated when they would scope my bladder pushing all that saline up until it felt like something had to burst.

 

We are spending some time with the younger granddaughter today then dinner tonight.  First thing tomorrow we head home.  Sad to say but I am anxious to leave.  This has been ok, but not as good as I had hoped.  Then again I have no idea why I thought it would be any better than it has.

 

guess the dog needs to go out.  Until tomorrow 

 

Willow

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23 minutes ago, Hannah Renee said:

No tornadoes, fortunately,

That's good.

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Second day as Holly fulltime,my good friends see I am much happier now.Said I am the same person but much happier.I see the HRT specialist on Friday for my consultation for the feminizing hormones,wife will be coming for support.Specialist will be glad I do not smoke,learned one does not go well with smoking causing problems

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Well, we had a family dinner for our anniversary tonight.  Our daughter came with her current boyfriend sat down with us for no more than five minutes got up and left, leaving her boyfriend to make apologies and have awkwardly have dinner with us.  So under the circumstances we might as well have not bothered.  At least her boyfriend was nice.

 

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Today I'm off to interview a real estate brokerage. It's kinda the opposite of traditional interviews. Since you are basically a 1099 sales person for them, you are interviewing them. They make their money by building a big team.  I've had a phone interview with someone who knew me before my transition and I knew him to be an ally. It went very well and my mentor in this field helps run our local Pride so also an ally.  This will be my first time walking in to meet someone cold who might have an influence on my future. I know nothing about them.  It will be interesting to see how I am received.  The other people I know basically told me any brokerage would be foolish if they didn't try and recruit me given the fact that I've already built almost a million dollar person service business and have a huge database of contacts in the community because of it. I'm very curious to see how this works.  So far in my transition, no one I've interacted with had any control over me. I know phobia exists and I know employers are concerned about the impact having a client facing trans person might have on their ability to attract customers. Around here, it goes both ways. We are such a strong LBGT+ area that it can create good will. There's also a lot of people who don't feel comfortable around us so it could also alienate potential customers

I know I have options already so this is more intellectual curiosity.

 

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