Good morning All. Coffees on.

[Elizabeth Star]

6 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I cannot figure out the woman I married. While putting away the clean cloths what do I find a new black nightshirt. In with my clothes. She opposes my transition. Yet, she buys me woman's clothes. They just appear form out of no where. First was the denim skirt at Xmas, now this.  I guess it is a mystery like how many licks to get to the center of a tootsie pop. THe world may never know.

 

Lady Kymmie.

 

Sounds a lot like what I was going through.

[Betty_B]

Good morning everyone

 

coffee is hot

sometimes full acceptance is as scary as some push back from a spouse ,,,,, things sometimes just seem to easy at home front

woke up this morning to see a Puerto Rico lgbtq vacation guide on the table ,, not sure what to think about it ,,,,

hopeful one day i will find a brunch GF to talk with when confused about such things ,,,

 

   Peace, Love N Hugs to all

              Betty

 

[Bri2020]

10 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

In other news, Hannah was treated very respectfully during the hiring interview process. Pre-employment physical tomorrow morning, walk-in, so they don't know who their getting. Could be interesting.

That’s so nice to hear. I kinda look forward to surprising people nowadays just to see their reactions

8 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I cannot figure out the woman I married. While putting away the clean cloths what do I find a new black nightshirt. In with my clothes. She opposes my transition. Yet, she buys me woman's clothes. They just appear form out of no where. First was the denim skirt at Xmas, now this.  I guess it is a mystery like how many licks to get to the center of a tootsie pop. THe world may never know.

 

Lady Kymmie.

 

I don’t envy your situation. I may not be married anymore but I always knew where things stood

1 hour ago, Betty_B said:

 

hopeful one day i will find a brunch GF to talk with when confused about such things ,,,

 

   Peace, Love N Hugs to all

              Betty

 

Brunch girl friends are the best! Everyone should have at least 1 or 2

[Willow]

TGIF.

 

and the end of a hell of a week.

 

Thank you Major Dickinson coffee for getting me through it along with my wife and friends here on the coffee.

 

Ys @KymmieL don’t ever try to figure out a woman, not even yourself, it can’t be done and the stress will kill you.  I talked with my wife after some retail therapy yesterday.  Told her I felt I needed to move into our new home as Willow.  But gave her the opportunity to have a say in it.  She agreed.

 

I bought some panties, several T-shirts, two skorts and a pair of Bermuda shorts.  She bought a summer outfit consisting of a top and crops, and several T-shirts.  
 

We have agreed to spending as much time as possible away from/off this boat for the remainder of May.  By the end, we should be in our condo.  Checked on it yesterday.  Landscaping was happening.  We have a nice tree and other plants outside our screened porch.  The unit was being painted. Once that’s done, floors and countertops and it’s done.  I think they just might get it done on time this time.  Yea!

 

couldn’t sleep again last night. Now I can’t fully wake up.  I took too many Tylenol PMs to get to sleep.  I’ve run out of melatonin.  I need to get more.

 

well nature is calling and I need to take a shower.  Dentist this morning, meeting tonight.

 

hope you will all still respect a jailbird.

 

hugs

 

Willow

[Willow]

I almost forgot, as Royalty myself, maybe we should both go with royal address.  Anyone else?  Kymmie, our families possibly cross at some point.  I know I am mostly Scottish but with a high percentage of Irish from my mothers side.  Then there are minor amounts of royalty from the Nordic countries as well as France.  Distant cousins?

 

lol

 

Lady Willow

 

no, I’ll stick to just plain old Willow.  Putting Lady and insisting on being referred to as Mylady doesn’t feel right.

 

Just plain Willow

[Jamie68]

11 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

The car saga continues. The check engine light wasn't just (or even) because of the gas cap. During all the extra driving for the other 2/3 of the family, I had time to check with the mechanic. In replacing the timing chains and related pieces-parts, one such item was the right side timing solenoid. Only. The old one, it seems, can't seem to match the speed of the young one. 90 bucks for the item, no labor charge.

 

In other news, Hannah was treated very respectfully during the hiring interview process. Pre-employment physical tomorrow morning, walk-in, so they don't know who their getting. Could be interesting.

Had a Dodge Caravan once that kept having troubles where it randomly quit. Turned out to be a cracked flywheel. The timing sensor would get out of whack from it.

[KymmieL]

1 hour ago, Willow said:

hope you will all still respect a jailbird.

 

hugs

 

Willow

I know on my part. You will never loose my respect. I do know a few, a friend even my BIL is one.  Water under the bridge, girlfriend.

 

Lady Kymmie

 

  royalty or not I am still just plain Kymmie.

 

Hugs

[Jackie C.]

11 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I cannot figure out the woman I married.

 

We all cope in different ways. I get whole-hearted wardrobe support, but... I've been berated for being a better woman than my spouse. I get full support from my spouse for transition but... she cannot deal with the physical realities. There's conflict. She likes that I'm happier and much easier to deal with but there are aspects of my transition that she also cannot deal with. Our life is harmonious but incomplete.

 

Hugs!

[Betty_B]

2 hours ago, Willow said:

hope you will all still respect a jailbird.

 

hugs

 

Willow

am glad  to know ya is more like it 🤗

 

Peace N Love

    Betty

[Bri2020]

2 hours ago, Willow said:

 

 

hope you will all still respect a jailbird.

 

hugs

 

Willow

Just gives you street cred girl!

[Bri2020]

Passed my final exam for my real estate course this morning and got a job offer. Not sure about them though.  While one broker was grading my test the other sat down to "explain the process" of boards then looking at a brokerage. He told me a few things about them then just said said "I think we would work well together, I feel a real synergy here and think you would fit well in our team". I thought to myself " I haven't said 2 words, or even found out if I passed the test yet so how in the hell can you know if we have any "synergy" :  lol. Basically, I think he's offering jobs to anyone.  At least the other brokerage took the time to ask about my plans, experience, goals etc before offering the job.

Anyways...They were expedient with getting my completed course paperwork to the testing boards and by the time I got to the office I had a link from the board to sign up to take my actual boards exam.  I said f it and signed up for one tomorrow.  No time like the present they say.  I was planning on spending part of my beach working retreat next week studying but if I can pass it tomorrow I can relax the whole week.

[Ivy]

Wow, moving right along with this.

[CD Rachel]

 

Hi, everyone. It has been a busy week and it was a busy weekend last week. So last weekend I went down to South Jersey. Not presenting as Rachel. I spent the day with my mother then went to see my brothers band play a show at Villari's Lakeside Restaurant. I spent the evening with two of his friends and I think I made two new friends... well for as long as that will last... 

 

Anyways I had the talk with my mother. She told me she knew something was going on and she honestly thought I was going to tell her that I was gay. She told me that she does not understand the trans thing but told me regardless she loves me no matter who I decide that i am. So, so far so good. She has concerns for my wellbeing in that she realizes that I will never be able to pass and that was her biggest concern. She told me I should plan a transcation. Go someplace and be Rachel 24/7 and see how it goes for a week. So it sounds like a good idea. I want to find a place accepting but not like a gay or trans cruise. 

 

So now I will have fun planning my transcation, and of course who goes on a vacation with out some new cloths...  

 

Well TTFN, Love you all, yes Jailbirds too.

 

Rachel

[HollyNG]

I seen the HRT specialist today and it went good.Had the blood test done,will hear the results next week calling me.Discussed my options on the feminizing hormones and decided on the Estradiol when put on them.Specialist was glad to hear I do not smoke,Estradiol and smoking do not mix.

[Heather Nicole]

@Willow Sorry about your rough night! I'm glad they at least let you have a room to yourself. That would have been one of my biggest worries. I'm also glad to hear your condo is finally almost ready, must be a relief to finally see the light at the end of that tunnel! Or, maybe a better analogy: To finally see landfall in the distance!

 

@HollyNGCongrats on all the coming outs going well, and on getting close to the big HRT! I've heard that many times about estradiol and smoking being a problematic combo. I wonder why that is though? I mean, there are cisgendered women with estradiol in their system who smoke. Is it just as big of a risk for them too? Well, not that smoking is ever healthy for anyone...

 

4 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

He told me a few things about them then just said said "I think we would work well together, I feel a real synergy here and think you would fit well in our team". I thought to myself " I haven't said 2 words, or even found out if I passed the test yet so how in the hell can you know if we have any "synergy" :  lol.

 

I'm not sure whether to think that means he's VERY experienced in sales, or not experienced enough!

 

[Heather Nicole]

@CD Rachel "transcation" - I love that!

[Bri2020]

14 minutes ago, Heather Nicole said:

estradiol and smoking being a problematic combo. I wonder why that is though? I mean, there are cisgendered women with estradiol in their system who smoke. Is it just as big of a risk for them too?

 

hormone replacement estradiol has to pass through the liver where it's converted/metabolized. In the process of doing that it affects the liver's job of also doing a lot of things related to clotting factors and actually makes the liver make more clotting factors than normal and so it increases the risk of clots. Smoking also increases the chance of clots/stroke through a different pathway.  This is why they say to stop smoking before surgeries and cis women who go on HRT as well as us are often told to stop estradiol before major surgery.  If you are using patches or injections, then a lot of the hormone is actually bypassing the liver initially and being absorbed by the target tissues before making its way to the liver. When you take things orally,  the drug is absorbed through the digestive tract it and it immediately goes to the liver where a lot of it is metabolized before reaching the target tissues. It's called a "first pass effect". This means you need a lot more drug to be effective which also means more clotting factor stimulation.  If you ever dig into pharmacology and compare dosages from oral to injections, you will see oral is always much higher to account for this.  Injection hrt and patches have less risk of clotting complications for this reason. 

Pharmacology class over. lol. 

[HollyNG]

29 minutes ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

 

@HollyNGCongrats on all the coming outs going well, and on getting close to the big HRT! I've heard that many times about estradiol and smoking being a problematic combo. I wonder why that is though? I mean, there are cisgendered women with estradiol in their system who smoke. Is it just as big of a risk for them too? Well, not that smoking is ever healthy for anyone...

 

 

 

 

Creates blood clots and that is not good.Going on the pill form

[Heather Nicole]

Well, I had an unexpected start to my day today. Dragged myself out of bed, over to the coffee machine, made a pot and poured my first cup, all as usual. I plop down with it on the couch so I can de-zombify myself a little before starting breakfast. Before my first sip: "Oh shoot, here's my phone, I forgot to charge it last night. Hmm, yup, only about 30%. Well, hopefully I can get the charge up somewhere half-decent before I have to head to work". So I get up and go plop it on the charger, get on my computer and start reading this very thread. And...power goes out.

 

Outages are pretty common around here, they usually last no more than a few seconds. Right on time, the power does soon come back. For a split second. Tries to flicker back on another time or two, and I'm starting to get the impression this may prove to be a problem in putting my breakfast together. Once it's out this long, there's never any telling how long it'll stay out, so I'm hesitant to even do a quick grab for anything in the fridge. I figured it would probably be fine, but you know, "just in case".

 

Luckily there are a couple really good locally-owned coffee shops right next to work, so it proved to be a good excuse to treat myself to a muffin and my favorite breakfast sandwich (It's been awhile! Not since the pandemic!). Downside though was that meant I had to get dressed and drag myself out the door that much earlier than usual (and before having breakfast!) It worked out though. And power was back by the time I got home.

 

Tomorrow's going to be out of the ordinary for me, too. I have a cousin from Michigan who does crafts and is going to be at a craft fair in Toledo, so I'll be taking a day trip out there with my sister and nieces to visit her. My nieces are about 2yo and 4yo, and their dad is staying home, so the trip may prove to be...interesting. I'm starting to think I may have gotten suckered...Ha ha 😉

[Bri2020]

3 hours ago, CD Rachel said:

 

 

So now I will have fun planning my transcation, and of course who goes on a vacation with out some new cloths...  

 

Well TTFN, Love you all, yes Jailbirds too.

 

Rachel

If you decide to come down to DC, I will take you around. This is a very welcoming area.  Have fun planning AND shopping!

 

[Marcie Jensen]

Wow! I just had a very interesting conversation with my eldest daughter. (She's the one who was living with me and moved out when I began my transition over a year and a half ago. Her excuse was she didn't want to "confuse" her son about grandpa becoming grandma.) Anyway, she asked me for a recent photo, and I sent her one taken at the salon today. 

 

The next thing I knew she was on the phone with me; actually SPEAKING instead of texting. (Shock number one). Then she said she was jealous of my hair color (shock number two. Especially since she has always had beautiful hair.) Then she commented on my earrings--she didn't realize I'd had them pierced--and said she was going to get me a matching set of Kansas CIty Chiefs earrings (we're both big fans), because, "mothers and daughters should match when watching the game." It was a good thing I was sitting when she said this. (MAJOR shock number three.)

 

We spent the next hour talking about what she calls "girl stuff." Meaning, hair, makeup, clothing etc. (Shock number four.) It was the best conversation we've had in years. She also commented that she had never had a similar conversation with my ex--her birth mother. (Surprise!) And finally, she called me "mom." (Major shock number four. In the past, she has always called me "daddy.")

 

To put this in perspective, she hasn't really been accepting since I initially told her about my transition. And she has been the most accepting of my children. Needless to say, I was nearly in tears.  Good tears, mind you, but tears nonetheless.  I don't want to get too optimistic over this, but it looks like a major breakthrough with her and I had to share.

[Susan R]

8 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

it looks like a major breakthrough with her and I had to share.

Wow, that is wonderful @Marcie Jensen! I’m very happy that she is finally starting to appreciate the real you! I know how good that feels!😃

[Bri2020]

5 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

I don't want to get too optimistic over this, but it looks like a major breakthrough with her and I had to share.

This is amazing news.  Get optimistic by all means. This signifies she wants to be accepting and not lose you in her life. This is probably the result of some hard work on her part coming to terms with things.  That's not to say it won't still be a struggle but I think with good open communication you can be on the path to normalizing the relationship again. She may even eventually become an influencing force on your other kids. It will all take time.  Remember, they are transitioning too. They are having to go through the grief of losing a father. You are the cause of that loss so initially it's normal to have anger at you but as they go through the process, they can come to see that they have gained a different parent who has all the qualities of the original, but with better hair  

[KathyLauren]

6 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

Needless to say, I was nearly in tears.  Good tears, mind you, but tears nonetheless.  I don't want to get too optimistic over this, but it looks like a major breakthrough with her and I had to share.

You had me in tears!  I am so happy for you!

 

Do be optimistic about it.  Enjoy optimism when you can get it.  By all means not too optimistic: there will undoubtedly be rows and misunderstandings in the future, but enjoy the heartfelt connection whenever you can get it.

[Willow]

Good Saturday morning 

 

The Major and I have had our first meeting of the day.

 

@Marcie Jensen wow, that’s so wonderful especially at Mother’s Day.  Our daughter isn’t talking to either one of us.  The 18 year old moved out (went to her dad) and the 15 year old is very upset too.  Common thread anyone?

 

Well, it’s official!  I will be moving into our new place as Willow.  We talked at length this week about it and I explained my position without making an edict.  Gave her the opportunity to rebut.  At issue in the end we’re wig verses pool water and how do I introduce you since I don’t want to be seen as a lesbian.  Water resistant wig adhesive and got ahead and call me “my transgender husband”. (Approved by a slim margin at my group meeting)

 

Guess I need to make some wake up and get dressed progress.

 

thanks for all the comments about my jailbird status.  I’m starting to settle in. 
 

hugs 

 

Willow