Good morning All. Coffees on.

[Marcie Jensen]

@KymmieL, congratulations to you as well! Buying a place of your own is a BIG DEAL. Wish you the best.

[Ivy]

10 hours ago, Willow said:

we did it! We closed!  We spending our first night in the new place.

This is wonderful news.   You went through hell to get here.

 

And congrats to Kymmie as well.

[Ivy]

1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

Now I'm starting to see that maybe, just maybe, my life might become mostly normal.

That would be nice.

[Willow]

Good morning 

 

lots to do today and tomorrow.  Get power in our name, get taxes transferred, address  change , contact POA (I’ve always called it an HOA) and of course moving in.  Tomorrow I have to go to MUSC for my quarterly throat spasm injections.  Probably won’t spend too much time in Charleston as we have too much to do here.

 

Congratulations Kymmie.  You’ll be packing moving and unpacking soon enough.

 

Bri, that was great to here about your meet and great.  We got 2.99%.  Did not go VA although we could have.  That could have slowed things just a bit and upped the closing cost for no particular reason.  We own more of this place than the bank does.

 

Thank you Jandi and everyone else.  Sticking to the goal and being a bit pushy got it done.  Two others struggling with the same lender still have not crossed the finish line.

 

Didnt think we did that much but we are both stiff this morning.

 

Willow

[Heather Nicole]

@Willow and @KymmieL, Congratulations to both of you!

 

4 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

For these past 2 years, I started getting comfortable with the idea that "being trans" was just going to be how I went through my life from now on. Now I'm starting to see that maybe, just maybe, my life might become mostly normal.

 

Congrats to you, too! You've been putting a lot into transitioning and it sounds like it's paying off!

 

[Billie75B]

17 hours ago, Willow said:

we did it! We closed!  We spending our first night in the new place.  

Congrats @Willow So happy for you all

[stveee]

8 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

 For these past 2 years, I started getting comfortable with the idea that "being trans" was just going to be how I went through my life from now on. Now I'm starting to see that maybe, just maybe, my life might become mostly normal.

That's how it seems to be also with older sisters here, they are still trans, but transitioning is done with. I guess it's like how I feel with being a veteran. It's something I did, it made me part of who I am, but I am not veteraning anymore.

I am sure that is another transition in transition is when transition stuff is over with and you are just another woman, and people can get to know you much better without the transition stuff being forefront on your mind all the time.

I think it's something I can even start to think at 6 months, even though I still have a ways to go. I mostly am around cis hetero people. It's an important aspect of me, but there is still also much more to me than being trans. It's nice to finally know what I am, but I am not interested in being set apart. I did this to live life to the fullest, not be separated. I am just now feeling both the bennies of being just another girl, THAT feeling, but also the reality of it. Most, if not all of the cis people I associate with now spent about 2 1/2 to 3 minutes getting to know that I am trans, and then life carried on as usual. 

[Elizabeth Star]

15 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

For these past 2 years, I started getting comfortable with the idea that "being trans" was just going to be how I went through my life from now on. Now I'm starting to see that maybe, just maybe, my life might become mostly normal.

I felt the same way for while but, after 2-1/2 years I'm starting to forget I'm trans although I still have extra parts. I think  meeting new people who have no idea of who I was probably helps a lot since they have no reference point. None of the have asked so 🤔

[Elizabeth Star]

Hey everyone,

I want to say I've had a lot going but I haven't really done a lot. Mostly work, home, sleep and traveling on the weekends. I started a few new projects that are occupying my time.

 

I'm making a purse from parts I designed and printed. What makes it interesting is that it's pretty much a flat bag but can be folded (kind of like origami) into a cube. I'm almost done with the rough draft version then on to make a prettier, usable version. I want to give it an anime mecha feel.

 

I also tried my hand at making a decal for a black cami-top. I am who I am, so I made a pink pentagram to put on it. I had to hand draw it and cut it out with an x-acto knife. I think it turned out half-way decent.

 

What else...  Oh, so (I can't believe I'm saying this) I met a guy a couple weeks ago. We've only talked on-line but I feel a way about having a guy interested in me. I was going to meet him for lunch but he had other ideas of what he wanted us to do. I have some serious requirements before anything like that could happen and he refused to follow them so he gets the friend zone. I'm torn though, part of me is relieved and the other not so much. In the beginning I honestly thought I would only be interested in women but that appears to have changed. I am still with my GF but we are in a bit of an open relationship and she encourages me to meet other people so I've been putting myself out there.

 

[CD Rachel]

 

@Elizabeth Star Sounds to me like you are living your authentic life!!! So happy for you!! And your projects sound neat, I would love to see pictures  

 

I have been having conversations with two men online. I am nervously excited about the whole idea of dating a guy.... But I can't wait for my TDY to be over so I can get home and hopefully go out with them! And also getting on with getting my name and gender changes.

 

~Rachel

[Willow]

Good morning 

 

we got some things updated yesterday.  New driver’s licenses with the new address.  Not the greatest DL picture ever but the first one that has a female staring back at you.  Got the utilities issue switched, and voter registration. Today it’s off to Charleston, need to leave in a few.  On the way back we need to stop at the boat to get more things then to our mailbox to change the address and close the box.   Tomorrow we have appliances coming.  I’ll likely have to go to the storage unit alone to get more stuff.  Took a bit of getting used to our new bed.  But I’ll get there, I have too it’s too heavy to Rebox and return it.  It was quite a struggle to get it into the bedroom

 

time to go

 

Willow

[Marcie Jensen]

48 minutes ago, Hannah Renee said:

Today is the last day of 5 (seems like 5 weeks) of taking care of our 15-year old son while wife and older daughter are out of town yet again. It's not the idea of caring for him, it's the constantly having to be at my wife's residence (our house), where our 20-year old son is, and having to guard against offending his sensibilities regarding my transition. Think no lipstick, dangly earrings, or strictly femme clothing. Or as my wife puts it, no crossdressing. Then there is the added chore of cleaning up after and feeding the foster duck and chick she has (no idea - don't ask). Gotta mow the lawn today, because Mr. 20-year old is too tired from attending school 3-4 evenings /week. OK, it's a PITA round trip into Chicago and back, but still... Dude needs a job. My break starts whenever the two vagabonds return from the Outer Banks, which is I-have-no-idea-how-late. Then I'm back to work at 1pm tomorrow. Did I mention I worked 7 days straight, 60 hours (no OT) before embarking on this stay-cation? I'm too old for this ****.

You should not have to put up with this type of s#@$. Period. Regardless of where you are staying you should be allowed to be YOU, and if your 20 year old son doesn't like it, well, tough. In my opinion, and I will admit I don't have all the facts, this whole things makes your wife and children (not the 15 year old) look to be very selfish people. (No offense intended.)

 

Question--why can't your 15 year old stay at your place? And/or, why can't the 20 year old watch him when not in school? It just seems, Hannah, that this is totally unfair to you. I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

Hugs.

 

Marcie

[KymmieL]

Hannah sorry to hear that your 20yr old son is just like most every kid in the world today. Lazy. IMHO. 

 

 

Well, I have been in the flyte mode the last few days. I am starting to almost feel that my marriage is coming to a close. From my wife and son deciding what to do in our new house. With no input from me. To I am being left out of things again.

 

Then one of the big kickers.  Yesterday I was listening to some music on Directv. (70s) Olivia Newton John's I honestly love you. came on. Only thing my wife said was you don't ever hear this. and I think the CD has gone under our headboard. When normally anytime this has played she at least once says/sings the song title to me. Not this time. It almost seems like a bother to her when I ask for a kiss.  Does she think of me as a sugar daddy buying this house for her. Not for us.(me and her) I am not going to buy/pay for a house that I am not living in. If I leave guess what she will have to bit the bullet and pay for it herself. I surely will not.

 

That is going to be some of the things. I am going to bring up when I go to my Therapist appointment later today.

 

Yeah, the water works are going as I type this. My mind is back at warp speed.

 

I think I am going to have a good cry before I get ready for my appointment.

 

Hugs to all.

 

Kymmie

[Ivy]

1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

That is going to be some of the things. I am going to bring up when I go to my Therapist appointment later today.

Kymmie, I feel for you.  It's hard.

 

It's been like 5 yrs since my marriage went under.  (40 + yrs)  Although it was an amiable split, I'm still dealing with the aftermath.  Oh, we're still friends, it's just the emotional stuff that I'm still dealing with.  I've recently started some therapy to try to get past it so I can get on with my life. 

 

She seems to have handled it okay, gots a new boyfriend, and they're engaged now.  That makes me wonder…  I don't know if I could ever remarry.

[Willow]

Good Saturday morning.  Got lots going on today.  The refrigerator should be here soon.  They already called.  Then a trip to the boat to get things.  This afternoon the washer and dryer are coming.  Then more trips.  We are finally getting into the real move in phase so far it’s just been necessities.

 

Trip to Charleston took longer than expected.  But not because of the doctor. That was about the quickest one ever.  In and out in less than 30 minutes.

 

we had some pretty bad storms last night.  They came in from the west and before they got here the entire western sky was constantly flashing with lightning.

 

beautiful this morning.

 

later, I think I hear a refrigerator.

 

Willow

[Willow]

Yup, that was the refrigerator.  Wife is still asleep, doesn’t even know it’s here.  Now I need to go to the boat and come back with more stuff .  I have a list.  
 

now, it’s washer and dryer this afternoon and our bedroom set on Wednesday.  Then we can wash and put our clothes away.  That will be helpful too.

 

I suppose I need to stop procrastinating and go.  I’m just not ready yet.  Oh well, nothings getting done this way.

 

happy as a clam, snug as a bug in a rug, and not tripping over the dog.  
 

Oh I forgot to finish about Charleston.  After the doctor, we went to a furniture store the advertises low prices and coastal pieces.  Well it wasn’t either one.

 

then we had lunch at Girmaldi’s.  Coal fired ovens. Brooklyn style.  They took to long so we got free desert.  I had tiramisu which was very good.  Then we went to Chico’s and got some nice things.  Last we went to Ulta and picked up a few things.  My wife is trying cream eyeshadow and needed some and I got a new lipstick color.  
 

ok, now I’m done.  Hugs

 

Willow

 

[Marcie Jensen]

14 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

@Marcie JensenMy 20yo son and I struggled for several years, there are emotional issues, and they pretty much exploded March of last year. That's part of why I moved out when I did, instead of 2 months later as my wife and I planned. It's only been the last few months we've been on good terms. My wife and I had also agreed (I have to stop agreeing to s*** I know I'll regret sooner rather than later) that I would not "present as a woman" around the house when I'm there. Yeah, well guess what, I have boobs now and I told her and my two older kids that they would have to accept the fact that it's obvious.

As far as oldest taking care of youngest for 5 days and nights, it is, for a number of reasons, essentially a non-starter. Maturity, the emotional issues, and acceptance of responsibility are issues. Youngest is a special needs cardiac patient, and while oldest was instrumental in helping me during a cardiac issue several years ago, we try to keep the younger one with one of us when it's going to be more than just a few hours.

He actually did stay with me and my younger daughter this week, but I had to drive the two of them to and from their different summer schools all week, and the house was a closer in-between location.

Hannah, my apologies. I did not understand, and shot my big mouth off. Sometimes it's better to simply be quiet than to open one's mouth and insert one's foot. Again, my apologies.

 

You are in a difficult situation and my heart goes out to you. It just seemed so unfair to you. 

Hugs.

[Nicole M]

Hi all, I just wanted to post and tell everyone about what's been going on with me in the last few months. I had not been on this site for those last few months, as I had stopped taking my hormone therapy and stopped dressing in girl clothes starting in mid-March. It was for reasons that I may get into in another post, but something I guess I needed to go through. I started back taking my hormone therapy later last month, although I stopped the estrogen because I've been having some health problems that started before I resumed the estrogen. I've been to many office and even hospital emergency visits because of various pains in my body, and have been told I have spinal degeneration, but the sudden onset of symptoms back in May seems to indicate to me that what's going on is more than that. Still trying to find out if I'm just worried about nothing or there really is more to my aches and pains than aging.

 

I talked to my sister a few days ago about my transgenderism, and she has some concerns that I think are normal and valid from her perspective, but she only wants to tell me about her concerns, but not let me tell her about what's been going on with me and address her concerns. She's not going to find any answers to her concerns if she doesn't let me speak, so I ended up getting angry with her and ending our phone conversation. I'm sure we'll get back to talking in a while, but for now I really don't want to talk to her.

 

Anyway, I changed my name here (it was Sandy Morgan, but that just didn't seem right to me) to Nicole. I really like my name now. I think it's a keeper. I kept my profile pic the same, and will for a while.

 

Been reading the forum topics, and it's good to get up to date with what's going on with everyone. Willow, I'm glad to read that you and your wife are out of the boat and in a house now. That's a great change for the good. It's good to read what others are doing as well.

 

Love to all,

Nicole

[Willow]

Hi Nicole. Thank you it’s been a tough last 9 months for a number of reasons.  I had a big meltdown last august.  Quit transitioning for a while and had to start seeing a therapist again. Now I am back on my path and moved into our new home 100% willow.  My next session will be my last therapy session until or unless something else happens.

 

our washer and dryer 5 hour window starts now.  We are both taking a break.  I moved everything on our list from the boat and brought it in.  My better half unpacked some kitchen boxes.  We now have our good coffee maker and cups so morning coffee will be better. And we have some seasonings!

 

little by little we are making this into a home.

 

Willow

[Heather Nicole]

1 hour ago, Nicole M said:

Anyway, I changed my name here (it was Sandy Morgan, but that just didn't seem right to me) to Nicole. I really like my name now. I think it's a keeper. I kept my profile pic the same, and will for a while.

 

I think Nicole is a great name! (Although I might be a little bit biased 😁 )

[Nicole M]

1 minute ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

I think Nicole is a great name! (Although I might be a little bit biased 😁 )

 

Ya think? 😛 Thanks for your compliment. 🙂 I hope you have been doing well.

 

I forgot to mention that my name at the gender clinic was Suzanne, but that I've updated them with my new name as well. They like it very much too. Also, I saw my DNP/APRN there Monday, and inquired about getting an orchiectomy, and she ended up telling me about a surgeon in the Miami, Florida area that does various gender affirming surgeries. I contacted his office and the staff have already checked with my insurance and found that it can be covered (saving $4500 out of pocket) as long as the office can get my insurance company to approve the surgeon, currently out-of-network, as an in-network provider. That's some great news I got yesterday, so I'm hoping everything works out. I would have to make about a three hour drive down there a time or two, but that's OK. I'm pleased so far.

 

Nicole

[Nicole M]

22 minutes ago, Willow said:

Hi Nicole. Thank you it’s been a tough last 9 months for a number of reasons.  I had a big meltdown last august.  Quit transitioning for a while and had to start seeing a therapist again. Now I am back on my path and moved into our new home 100% willow.  My next session will be my last therapy session until or unless something else happens.

 

our washer and dryer 5 hour window starts now.  We are both taking a break.  I moved everything on our list from the boat and brought it in.  My better half unpacked some kitchen boxes.  We now have our good coffee maker and cups so morning coffee will be better. And we have some seasonings!

 

little by little we are making this into a home.

 

Willow

 

You too about quitting transition and then resuming later? I guess it's something we have to go through as part of the process. I'm happy to hear that you are well and things are going good, and that you now have a good coffee maker! That's a definite requirement for a happy life!

 

Nicole

[KymmieL]

@Willow Sounds like you are getting things accomplished. How is your puppy taking to the new surroundings?  I am wondering about ours. He basically grew up here. But he has been to others houses. So I am not to worried. I would have worried more about our late kitty. She had never been out of this house, except for Vet visits. Her whole life.

 

But next pet is a kitty again. then I am getting me, my sheltie, again. been without one for 7 yrs.

 

Saw a possible sister today. We had just finished the trophy presentation at the car show. We went to.  I saw a person wearing an obviously woman's top, V-neck with lace edges.  They had male facial features and captian Picard hair. (nothing on top, thinning sides. They may have been involved with the club that put the show, as they were under the portable shelter the club was using.  My wife has suggested finding out about joining the club.

 

So we are hurry and wait mode right now about our house. Should hear about the mortgage late Monday.  Cannot wait till I have a garage to actually work on my wagon in. instead of a parking lot that is 30 yrds from my apt.

 

Have a great weekend. Hugs

Kymmie

[Willow]

Hi, tried to share this but it disappeared.  This is a party right outside our porch.

 

@KymmieL our dog movs well.  We picked her up in St Louis.  She was born in Witchita.  She and her sister.  We took them to Virginia.  Lily was our daughter’s dog and Sweetie was ours. They have both spent time with us and with her.  Sweetie then moved to SC and our first home here.  Traveled with us coast to coast.  Then lived on our boat with us.  And she has already settled in here.  Knows where she lives already.  She is 8 now.

 

Willow

[Willow]

Hi Ya’ll

 

Lots of things to do. Putting up more blinds.  Doing more laundry and definitely more moving of boxes. Next big item will be our guest bed. We need that out of the way to get our couch and chairs for the living room.  After that, everything is on the list one piece at a time.we need to make another trip back to the boat as there are more things we need from there as well.

 

busy day.  For those of you that celebrate, Happy Fathers Day!

 

hugs

 

Willow