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I'm very happy for you Jandi. Something I have not mentioned here was when my wife came out to her friends about me.

She kept me secret from them for over 20+ years. When she retired she did something I didn't expect, she came out to her friends about me. To see the smile on her face after she came out to them was bigger than mine when I first came. She was received by her friends with smiles and open arms, her fear was over. That is a story we seldom see or read about.

 

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I have thought long and heard about how to explain being transgender when the time comes.  I will simply ask why they are introvert or extroverted.  It's just who you are.  

 

The past few days have been boring.  Nothing going on other than spending money and trying to earn some.  We spent a lot of money at nurseries to get color into the yard.  Still need to get a few trees but that will wait a while.  I am hoping to get approval to start building my deck before our fence is installed.

 

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Boring can be a god send at times. 

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6 hours ago, 2beBreanna said:

I have thought long and heard about how to explain being transgender when the time comes.  I will simply ask why they are introvert or extroverted.  It's just who you are. 

 

I think that is a good analogy. I also ask them what would they do if one morning they woke up on the other side with no way back. It is fun to watch their face when they think about that.

 

Hugs,

Mike

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8 hours ago, 2beBreanna said:

I have thought long and heard about how to explain being transgender when the time comes.  I will simply ask why they are introvert or extroverted.  It's just who you are.

My wife found this one floating around on the webs last week. I shared it with a few members here already so forgive me if this is an old analogy but it is still a good one.

 

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Late night at this coffee stop. I have decided to go back to the LBGT, it has been years. 

I walked away many years ago, took my own path which worked out for me in that time line.

Not sure if I got the letters up there right, but you know what I'm talking about. 

Why am I going back? I feel the need to give back to our community. I have this thing inside of me that wont

let go. I realized all the things I have accomplish on my own was not just me, it was the LBGT that gave me this freedom.

So being the old fart I am now, it is time I give back.

Coffee was good today, a little cream, no sugar, just right. 

 

 

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** puts down coffee mug **

 

Good Morning, happy Friday.

 

I am finding an increase in joy and happiness over the last couple of days. I am noticing since talking my therapist yesterday about coming out at work again, I am starting to feel more at peace with things. I have been coming up with a “script” of sorts, which start with two questions, basically around how does the company feel about the LGBTQ+ community, and what protections are in place for individuals in the community. Then, as long as those are positive, come out as Trans and that I have a desire to transition at work. Then come up with next steps together.

 

** sips coffee **

 

I know it is a solid plan, which is why I think I am at ease with it. This is basically what has been on my mind. I am also thinking it is coming time to get my ears pierced. I know of a local reputable tattoo shop that does them, I know not to do the mall and the guns. I want to get a purple barbell while it is doing its thing.

 

** sips coffee **

 

I hope everyone has a great day.

 

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2 hours ago, AmberM said:

 

** puts down coffee mug **

 

Good Morning, happy Friday.

 

I am finding an increase in joy and happiness over the last couple of days. I am noticing since talking my therapist yesterday about coming out at work again, I am starting to feel more at peace with things. I have been coming up with a “script” of sorts, which start with two questions, basically around how does the company feel about the LGBTQ+ community, and what protections are in place for individuals in the community. Then, as long as those are positive, come out as Trans and that I have a desire to transition at work. Then come up with next steps together.

 

** sips coffee **

 

I know it is a solid plan, which is why I think I am at ease with it. This is basically what has been on my mind. I am also thinking it is coming time to get my ears pierced. I know of a local reputable tattoo shop that does them, I know not to do the mall and the guns. I want to get a purple barbell while it is doing its thing.

 

** sips coffee **

 

I hope everyone has a great day.

 

There's nothing like the feeling of coming out. I should say feelings. Anxious, scared, happy, relieved, etc. I hope you have a great experience.

 

I got my first earrings a couple months ago. I love them. I let my wife talk me into getting hoops first. She thought they would heal better. They did heal pretty well, but it sure was hard to sleep for a couple weeks. I ended up rolling up a big towel, then pinned the two ends together to make a doughnut shape. That helped a lot.

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13 hours ago, Susan R said:

My wife found this one floating around on the webs last week. I shared it with a few members here already so forgive me if this is an old analogy but it is still a good one.

 

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Susan, I love this. I will try and remember this reference when I try and explain to my wife. 

 

Well last day of my weekend. Feeling good. Been able to do some work outside,getting my vintage wagon ready for our trip to Bowling green next month.

 

Going to work on something again today. Just getting out is great. I hope the weather holds.

 

Kymmie

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I looked at your site.  You dress very fashionably.  

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Puzzles, thanks to a member here I dug up some of my puzzles, 

Spoil alert, I show the game.

LM♥️

  

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Good day today .

 

I painted some rocks to celebrate TDOV last night and gave a couple to my new gender pcp. Also got a prescription for estradiol and spironolactone.

 

Deep breath. Here we go. 

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1 hour ago, AgnesBardsie said:

I painted some rocks to celebrate TDOV last night and gave a couple to my new gender pcp. Also got a prescription for estradiol and spironolactone.

 

You're getting really good at that. Have you considered a small polisher to take some of the rough edges off? I think that might look really slick.

 

Also, props on the 'scrip for the femme-n-m's. They're life changing. Though they only seem to come in one color. Weird, right?

 

Hugs!

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3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

You're getting really good at that. Have you considered a small polisher to take some of the rough edges off? I think that might look really slick.

 

Also, props on the 'scrip for the femme-n-m's. They're life changing. Though they only seem to come in one color. Weird, right?

 

Hugs!

Estradiol will be a patch but spiro is a white pill. 
 

Some make their own rocks in molds. I like picking up the ugly orphans and turning them into something beautiful! Some of the rocks have shapes that resemble real life that can be extracted with a bit of imagination!

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I've been missing a lot here.

 

Back in the early 90's I got into RC cars. I've always liked the idea of being able to customize them for relatively cheap. Fast forward a life time my wife got me a new one before we got married. I played with it but got bored with breaking it all the time while bashing around the yard and since there's not tracks around here it been sitting, unused and collecting dust. I recently dug it out and started messing with it again. I had really wanted to get one of the older 80-90's models again but can't justify spending the money when I already have something. The truck I like has a wheelbase 4 inches shorter then the one I currently have. This is where my 3d printer enters the picture. I've spent the last week or so designing a new chassis that fits the bill, hopefully. I just loaded the design into my printer for a draft quality print and in about 16 hours I'll see the fruits of my labor. Hopefully it's not a complete bust. I have made some  small prints of parts for test fitting so I'm pretty confident but this is the first print of the whole assembled part. I'm sure I'll have to make some adjustments and yet, hope I don't.

 

Other things....

My friend at work. I'm calling her my BFF from now on has been so amazing. Years ago before my egg cracked I remember her making a comment during lunch about how she didn't have a problem with trans-people, she just didn't understand them. Since then she has with out any hesitation, or mistakes, changed my pronouns and name, given me clothes, defended me against others, treats me like any other woman, she even wants to hang out and get manicures, over-all sees me. The list just goes on and on. It strikes me, I don't know...weird that I had to transition to find true friends. Maybe it's not that weird. I finally feel like I belong somewhere. Just more proof, This is who I am and was always meant to be. BTW I do consider all of you my friends. I don't know if we'll ever meet face to face but still you're my friends.

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That's really nice about your BFF @Elizabeth Star.  My most important female friend, who only knew I was seeing a gender therapist, sent me a text yesterday wishing me happy Trans Viability Day, and asked me if I'd like her to call me Ann and use she/her.  Priceless!  I always figured that being the 'right' me would produce the 'right' friends.

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1 hour ago, Ann W said:

That's really nice about your BFF @Elizabeth Star.  My most important female friend, who only knew I was seeing a gender therapist, sent me a text yesterday wishing me happy Trans Viability Day, and asked me if I'd like her to call me Ann and use she/her.  Priceless!  I always figured that being the 'right' me would produce the 'right' friends.

That's it! Exactly what I'm experiencing.

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To be fair, it's hard to make really good friends when you're hiding such an important part of yourself.

 

Hugs!

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Decided to try and do some roller skating on our green belt. It went bad from the get go. only made it 30ft then turned around. change out of the skates and took a walk. did about 4 miles.

 

Had an enjoyable ride with the wife to Cheyenne for dinner.

 

Kymmie 

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None of my friends have really come forward with too much yet, but I think it is because we are still repairing the friendship from disappearing for a couple of years. I think you are right though Jackie, it is hard to make good friends when you aren’t being 100% honest and open with someone.

 

Today I get to finally get my first COVID poke, which makes me excited, because it will mean I am that much closer to being safe for both my wife and I. I am looking forward to being able to do more social things with new people, continuing to build up my sense of community. Also maybe getting together more with friends and not having to worry about COVID as much once we are vaccinated.

 

I hope that everyone has a great day!

 

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1 hour ago, AmberM said:

I think you are right though Jackie, it is hard to make good friends when you aren’t being 100% honest and open with someone.

 

Of course I'm right. I'm always right. Bossy Know-It-All. Says so right over my profile pic. ❤️

 

1 hour ago, AmberM said:

Today I get to finally get my first COVID poke, which makes me excited, because it will mean I am that much closer to being safe for both my wife and I.

 

I finished my second poke Wednesday. I experienced some mild muscle soreness with the first shot. Soreness was a bit more pronounced with the second one and affected more muscles (my thighs were SO sore, it was nuts) and a bit of a run-down feeling. I think I'm mostly back to normal today though. Both times it took about twelve hours for the side-effects to kick in. I had the Pfizer vaccine, so your mileage may vary.

 

Hugs! 

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

I experienced some mild muscle soreness with the first shot.

 

Yeah, I am not looking forward to the side effects, but I am knowing it will be worth it in the end. Thanks for the reminder though that it might suck for a few days afterwards.

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9 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

weird that I had to transition to find true friends. Maybe it's not that weird. I finally feel like I belong somewhere.

Same thing is happening to me. I totally understand. Communication feels more natural and people let down their guard more readily. I’m seeing a boomerang effect in others, for example some of my toastmasters colleagues, who used to be uptight, are describing it as a place where you can find your true authentic self. I’m pretty sure I sparked something because they are consulting me on advice, first time in 5 years since I’ve been a member of this club.

 

all my life I’ve felt like I was ignored or dismissed or someone would restate my idea as their own and they would get credit for it. Now people are making a point of singling me out for special mention. It’s weird..,I had imagined that the reaction would have been a doubling down of the rejection. It’s the exact opposite.

 

yep, just more confirmation that this is the right path.

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