What are you wearing today?

[Bri2020]

32 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

@Sally Stone, you look great. Fingers crossed that I get to see you in person in March.

 

@Elizabeth Star, that jacket is amazing. I need one of those. Also, how the hell am I the only trans-girl on the planet without a choker or a necklace? Love the look. I'd put more pentagram on mine, but that's me.

 

Hugs!

Add me to the no choker clan.  I have no desire, not my style and I naturally don't have much adam's apple to hide.

 

[Jackie C.]

Just now, Bri2020 said:

Add me to the no choker clan.  I have no desire, not my style and I naturally don't have much adam's apple to hide.

 

 

Yeah but vampire librarian is totally my aesthetic. I like to dress a little witchy. I bought this...

 

 

The other day and I am DYING to wear her. 

 

Hugs!

[Bri2020]

Just now, Jackie C. said:

 

Yeah but vampire librarian is totally my aesthetic. I like to dress a little witchy. I bought this...

 

 

The other day and I am DYING to wear her. 

 

Hugs!

That's badass. I don't put that in the choker category though, that's just a badass necklace.

 

[Jackie C.]

1 minute ago, Bri2020 said:

That's badass. I don't put that in the choker category though, that's just a badass necklace.

 

 

Well yeah, but Liz got me thinking about chokers and wondering if I could pull one off.

 

Hugs!

[Ticket For Epic]

@Jackie C.

I love that spider necklace, where did you find it!?

[Jackie C.]

5 minutes ago, Ticket For Epic said:

@Jackie C.

I love that spider necklace, where did you find it!?

 

Etsy. I love shopping independent artists.

 

Hugs!

[Mmindy]

1 hour ago, JaniceZ said:

 "Who knows what tomorrow will bring." (Joe Cocker, Jennifer Warnes and Maxine Green)  It's my hope that by sharing my story, I can better see others for who they are. 

Good morning JaniceZ, You'll rock that swimsuit just as you plan to.

Stay warm and safe out there.

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

[Mmindy]

46 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

The other day and I am DYING to wear her. 

Wow Jackie, that is a very cool necklace. I love the Spider Woman approach. 

[Lenneth]

2 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

@Elizabeth Star I wholeheartedly embrace Sally's sentiment. I've been looking for a midriff leather jacket forever. They are either too large in the chest or way to short in the arms .  

@Lennethlove that thrift store skirt!  As far as boots for shorter legs- it sounds counterintuitive but go taller, over the knee length so they end up under your skirt if wearing a skirt or up to the thigh for pants . It will make you legs look longer. If you wear a size 10 or less just head over to DSW or other big shoe store to try some on. If bigger, then it gets challenging. DSW is still my go to because they have a clearance rack that often features larger sizes. Why? Because of the second reason I like them. You can order the larger sizes online and have them shipped to the store to try on. Don't like them? simply hand them back for a refund. Then they just put them out on the clearance rack.  If they sit there long enough they can be up to 70% off! I make it a habit of popping by any DSW I drive by. lol

Sorry I haven't contributed to the gallery here in awhile. I get my bandages off today and will get my hair done tonight so maybe I will feel up to wearing something besides PJs tomorrow.

 

Thank you so much!  That is extremely helpful.  And you won over my partner when you started talking about clearance and discounts.  I think finding deals is tone of their super powers!  I will definitely be looking into them.  Now I’m excited! 🤗. So so grateful for the advice!

[Ticket For Epic]

@Jackie C.

Thanks so much!

[Sandra6sandy9sand]

Hi all, JaniceZ looks quite cold. It’s only 4 degrees where I live in the UP of Michigan. My wife has a Dr. appointment this morning so we’re heading out. I’m wearing warm leggings, tunic turtleneck and a cute top to keep warm.

 

I love the spider necklace above. I wear a necklace everyday but nothing that bold and beautiful.

 

Hugs

 

Sandra

[Ivy]

11 hours ago, Lenneth said:

I wasn't really expecting to find anything, but low and behold, this jumped out at me.

That skirt works well with the pink hoodie too.

[Lenneth]

2 hours ago, JaniceZ said:

This was me yesterday.  I was out plowing and wearing the clothes that I have.  The jacket and hat were gifts.  I apologize for the expression; the sun glare was extreme, and I couldn't even see the screen on the phone to frame the picture let alone work on my expression.  Two takes was all I could take.  I have a TeleMed meeting with my therapist today.  I want to understand why each morning I feel absolutely positive about continuing my transition while each evening I feel as if I can do without it.  A note on my appearance.  I am very deliberately working on my body so as to rock a maillot or two piece.  "Who knows what tomorrow will bring." (Joe Cocker, Jennifer Warnes and Maxine Green)  It's my hope that by sharing my story, I can better see others for who they are. 

I don’t think your expression is a bad one.  My face sort of puckers up when squinting., and the sun is super bright.  I’m envious. 😆. I lived in Alaska till I was 12 and I miss snow.  I am hoping I will get the chance again once I get settled in MA.  
 

@Ticket For Epic, I can completely accept waking up at 42 with that realization.  In fact, a web comic I am a massive fan of gives a perfect example.  The premise of the web comic itself is about an angel screwing up and getting kicked from the job he had on “administrative leave without pay.”  One result of his screw up is turning one of the main characters into a girl.  The only way to fix anything is to make the angel look good to his superiors so they let him back in to fix it.  The whole comic tackled gender roles and the myriad of conflicting feelings and thoughts we’ve all experienced as we find ourselves and struggle with a body we may not feel is the right one.  Now, the whole reason I went off on that little tangent is because the father of the comic’s author came out as transgender in his 50s I think it was.  I don’t remember specifically.  The author has talked about him here and there over the years.  He mentioned some of the difficulties his father faced as he was working on his transition.  So I can see how it could be a single moment of clarity coming out of the blue.  His father had been married fir decades and had adult children by the time he discovered his identity, so why can’t you find yourself in that situation?  There are dozens of discussions on the site focusing on the cornucopia of ways to find and follow your path towards what you feel is right.  I”ll confess though, I am hardly above the self doubt.  Maybe not in the same way, but second guessing and over thinking are things I am exceptionally good at.  My partner has to help reel me in sometimes because of it.  I tend to worry something about me will stick out or something about me will betray the identity I am fighting for.

 

@Bri2020, you are reading the same book and I am on the page you are when it comes to that disappointment resulting from not waking up in the body you know is right for your identity.  I absolutely did what  you did when you were sending a silent scream, sometimes in desperation, to fate, God, the universe, or whatever higher power that might exist.  It can be overwhelming.  I remember one time, I was around 14 or so, I was grasping at straws, and wanted so badly to be a girl, I thought if I didn’t scratch an itch, maybe then it would work.  Maybe that feeling was a sign my body was changing.  Silly I suppose, but like you said, you were met with that disappointment when waking up to find nothing had changed.  I would feel crushed and hopeless as I got out of bed to trudge through another day, condemned to spend my life a prisoner locked away in a body I didn’t want and couldn’t stand.  I can’t say my dysphoria was similar to yours, but I just sort of bleakly accepted feeling as I did and figured it would just be a  normal part of me, like an arm or curly hair.  It would just be something eternally present I had to cope with.  As things stand in the moment I am typing all of this, I am marginally better now that I have taken steps towards the woman I am.  I don’t turn out lights, but I wear clothes that conceal those things triggering me.  That’s why I go out of my way to always wear an under shirt.  A common facet of women’s fashions leaves shirts and blouses more open around the shoulder area.  I hate seeing that because it leaves me dysphoric and almost disgusted by it.

 

@Jackie C., I’m going with the general consensus here.  I also think it’s a lovely piece for you and your outfits. 🤗. When it comes to chokers, I only have a few and wear them whenever the mood strikes me.  One of them was a gift from my partner, so it sees more milage than the rest.  

 

have been struggling with the idea of bathing suits as well.  I have a hard time not thinking it will look absurd on me.   Especially with certain biologically provided parts still present.  If you have any suggestion, please, by all means, shoot them my way.  I’m always open to advice.

 

Hope you enjoyed the novel I just wrote. 😅

[Jackie C.]

16 minutes ago, Lenneth said:

have been struggling with the idea of bathing suits as well.  I have a hard time not thinking it will look absurd on me.   Especially with certain biologically provided parts still present.  If you have any suggestion, please, by all means, shoot them my way.  I’m always open to advice.

 

Here's a thing: Some women's swimsuits come with a modesty skirt. I saw a couple modeled on here when I was pre-GCS and it seemed like just the thing. You might also want to check sites like https://enfemmestyle.com/. My last bathing suit came from them and it's very flattering.

 

Hugs!

[Ivy]

21 minutes ago, Lenneth said:

 In fact, a web comic I am a massive fan of gives a perfect example.

Got a link to this?  I'm a big fan of webcomics.

 

Got out to the store this morning.  Lots of layers.

[Jackie C.]

26 minutes ago, Jandi said:

Got a link to this?  I'm a big fan of webcomics.

 

I remember this one. A friend recommended it to me before I came out.

 

https://books.google.com/books/about/Misfile.html?id=tq3rFPKdmj8C&source=kp_book_description

 

He's moved on to a different comic now, but it looks like the original still lives in the archives.

 

http://www.misfile.com/

 

Hugs!

[Lenneth]

Yup!  Jackie is right on the money.  When you go the site, typically it shows the latest upload, but if you click on Archives and select "Misfile," you're in business.  I've been following it since 2004 or thereabouts.  He spent about 10 years on.  And just like Jackie, I wasn't out and still not acknoledging any of my feelings.  The moment I found it I was absolutely in love with it because, for me at least, it told a story about the very thing I wish would happen to me.  I couldn't change my body, but I could live vicariously through the main character.

 

And how chilly is it in your neck of the woods @Jandi?   Love the layers.  At least you won't be cold!  Is it all one dress under the coat or one thrown over another?  I looks good either way, but I was curious.

 

And @Jackie C., Yay for more websites and options for the wardrobe!  That's very much appreciated.  🤗

[Elizabeth Star]

5 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 Love the look. I'd put more pentagram on mine, but that's me.

 

Hugs!

I would too if I had some to spare. Just used what I had on hand. 

[Jackie C.]

6 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I would too if I had some to spare. Just used what I had on hand. 

 

You can never have too many. For example, these belts...

 

 

...about gave me a gaygasm. There was one more I saw on a trans tiktok and I want it so bad it hurts. The new rivet belt I bought (the rivets are falling out of my old one 😥) has a chain attachment and I'm looking for things to dangle from it.

 

Hugs!

[Elizabeth Star]

I wore my blue dress again today, so here’s the full outfit. I really love my necklace. It eve has matching earrings. 
 

my jacket is from Amazon. It’s faux leather and was on the cheaper side.

 

[Jackie C.]

12 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I wore my blue dress again today, so here’s the full outfit. I really love my necklace. It eve has matching earrings. 

 

Love it, but it needs a badass-belt to complete it and to accentuate your waistline. I generally use these: Belt!

 

Your mileage may vary.

 

Hugs!

[Bri2020]

6 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Here's a thing: Some women's swimsuits come with a modesty skirt. I saw a couple modeled on here when I was pre-GCS and it seemed like just the thing. You might also want to check sites like https://enfemmestyle.com/. My last bathing suit came from them and it's very flattering.

 

Hugs!

@Lennethi tried the whole “ skort” thing thinking it would hide things better but once wet, it’s no better than a bikini. So here’s my experience and if u go back through this thread I’ve posted a few bathing pics to reference. 
I am still pre gcs so boy hardware still there. I’m about average in size but since doing hrt for over a year before bathing suits, testicular size has gotten small making tucking fairly easy.  I found that a medium coverage bikini bottom provides plenty of coverage and fits tight enough to keep things in place. Wear black or a pattern.  No light solids unless u are not terribly worried about what people think. Lol. I have a light green suit but I don’t swim in it, just pool side lounging.  
two piece suits draw the eyes either up if u have big boobs or to your midriff.  People tend not to look at your crotch. A solid color one piece doesn’t do that so people are more likely to look down. 
when you look at people sunbathing, you will notice women don’t spread their legs. They are always together or slightly crossed. The slightly crossed look is both more modest and sexier. Men have a habit of opening their legs. Break that habit. Lol.  These pics were my first bikini. I had tried a one piece and a skort bottom prior and they didn’t work as well as this. This is also pre boobs. Bikinis and small boobs go together well. 

[Jackie C.]

14 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Bikinis and small boobs go together well.

 

Yeah, still not brave enough for a bikini. Maybe after my tuck.

 

I'd still recommend the en-femme suits though, they've got some built-ins that help out with some of our issues. Have fun shopping though! That's the main thing!

 

Hugs!

[Guest]

I bought and wore a two piece with upper and lower modesty skirts. I agree, pre GCS there’s no way around tucking. One negative of the modesty skirts is, if you live in a cooler climate, it’s another layer that has to dry before you get warm again. In Colorado you tend to freeze after you get out of the water. 

[Ivy]

20 hours ago, Lenneth said:

Is it all one dress under the coat or one thrown over another?  I looks good either way, but I was curious.

Several layers.  A full slip, long sleeved top and warm petticoat, Jumper type dress, apron over-dress, the top is a warm sweater.

Got warm thigh-high socks on the legs.

Lots of layers.