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Grieve the bad for a bit and then look for the good. I so believe the proverb that says what grows in your life is what you feed.

It isn't easy. And we do need to grieve sometimes but there is also much that is good. In time the darkness will give way to the light.

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She told me this morning - I love you....

Can't get any better than that....

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I just hope that backlash stings the hand holding the whip.
I've been lucky so far but then again i'm older, don't drink and pretty much stay on the farm.

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Charlize

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A place to say something?...mmmm....thats easy!

All i want to say is that i love life and im soo greatful!!!

Hugs Everyone!

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What I find interesting, is that the same people pushing the argument that criminals might use the "transgender loophole" (their words not mine) to push these bathroom bills are the same ones that argue we shouldn't pass any form of gun control because as they explain it criminals don't obey laws anyway. Talk about being a hypocrite.....oh wait a minute, this is US politics as usual.

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When I spend too much time on social media where the narrow minded and mean spirited specializing in spreading their toxins I start seeing the world as a very bad and scary place. Do bad things happen. Of course. But those hate filled transphobes are really just a very verbal minority who feel safe and powerful on the internet.

In 5 years I have not directly experienced an incident in real life. Even here where fundamentalist religion is the norm. And when I asked people to stop posting anti-Caitlyn stuff on Facebook they did. Every single peeson in my friend list which includes not only these ultra conservative locals butpeople from every walk of life-including an Evangelical revivalist preacher-from my Farmville days when I added people by the dozen to play the game better.

People cover the bathroom bills and such because they are news and there are bigots out there to introduce them. But they are not passing , and the public is not rising up against the shows that portray trans people in a positive way. We have to keep spreading accurate information and portrayals of trans people -people are listening. They are at least open to seeing it and that is a change over even a few years ago.

The saying about what is prominent in your life is what you feed is true. If we focus on the negative and our fear it will only grow. If we focus on the good and ways we can succeed and be empowered that will grow instead. But you can really only feed one over the other. You chose.

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The saying about what is prominent in your life is what you feed is true. If we focus on the negative and our fear it will only grow. If we focus on the good and ways we can succeed and be empowered that will grow instead. But you can really only feed one over the other. You chose.

Could not have said it any better Johnny, you are so right and in this area we do get to choose !

Attitude is everything, and I tend to repeat this phrase over and over - You largely create your own reality.

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I read today that after Iowa was over Cruz started saying pro LGBT stuff. His biggest financial supporter is a gay man. The co-founder of PayPal.

And Trump was also saying more pro LGBT. Enough the press was labeling it a "flip flop" on LGBT issues.

With Iowa so conservative there was a lot of stuff making it sound like the world was turning more conservative. Now with more liberal New Hampshire everything sounds more progressive and liberal.

Having lived through many decades I see it as getting better as far as human rights -especially among the younger generation now. Personal freedom is certainly far greater than ever before.

We are aware of so much negative and bad because we hear it in masses every day. In the past we heard more rounded news coming from within our own communities as much as anything. And people did not have the anonymity that they have online to spread harmful stuff. Much of which is not even true. If you aren't getting your news off social media then you are likely surrounded by people who are. It skews our perceptions.

It has always been a dirty mean hard world. Still is. As well as a beautiful world of wonders and amazing loving and self sacrificing people. But in my experience communication has not only exposed that negative side more but opened up and motivated understanding more as well. We are trying to make it a better and more equal world for everyone. And that in itself is a huge step forward.

Some won't like it. Want to feel superior to someone and want to judge. Now they have an easy way to do it without having to be accountable.. But that doesn't make what they say true or make them the majority. It just makes them vocal. And while some of the anti-LGBT laws may pass in a few places there are more going the opposite direction and courts increasingly supporting our human rights.

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The past is past and not changeable. What is done, is done. Learn from it, and move on.

PS: C, that's business as usual. Sadly....

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I just lost a pair of skinny jeans to fat deposition on my thighs. Can't complain I suppose :)

Sorry if Im over using this thread but seemed best place for it.

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I had one of the best days yesterday~!

I got a morning text from my girlfriend wishing me a great day before work. At work, the lab aid said that the TAs this year are the best she's had in the 8 years she's been here. When I texted her thank you, she personally told me I was one of the exemplary TAs.

And on top of everything else, I made my first posts here at Laura's and was welcomed with open arms. I was so nervous and scared, but when I read everyone's comments and kind words I couldn't help but cry because I was so happy.

Thank you so much everyone~!

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The ouchies do mean that life is stirring in the breasts Marcie.

I can cry at almost anything now if i chose to. Fortunately for my mascara and liner i usually smile instead. That doesn't mean i don't still feel the beauty contained in a song, a poem or a post by a brother or sister here.

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I finally told my parents on Thursday of last week. I was initially worried because my dad got all red in the face and left for a very long smoke break. My mom was shocked, but eventually started asking questions. My sister was a gem. She accepts any information presented to her the same way. With acceptance and curiosity. I am grateful she was there.

I hadn't heard from them in a while, so I was worried that my parents had it with me. Until yesterday when I got a text from my mom about gas prices. So at least I know that she's still ok with her daughter's choices even if she doesn't understand them.

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I am glad you are finding some support from your family. In my experience time has allowed for the small amount of support i found at first to grow. Maybe it wasn't growth as much as acceptance. Often it seems we need to accept more than we need to understand and then life continues with a bit of peace. If i'm honest i can't say i truly understand the reality of my situation but i'm not fighting it any more.

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It is nice getting up in the morning, with the sun warmly peeking through the blinds to welcome me to the new day.

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