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1 hour ago, Willow said:

 She is happy with my progress, vocal cord relaxation and voice feminization. I just have to remember to use it.

 

Willow

 

Same here. I am pretty much done with mine. I just have to use it. Which is hard when you are living two lives.

 

Our Advance has idiots as well. Unfortunately, we have some working for our company. luckily, not at our store. 

 

Well for the past 2 days my wife has been upset at me. I think it is that I didn't get the Travis Tritt tickets. She may have said a half dozen words to me last night. Oh, Well. I am almost getting used to it.

 

Hugs,

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4 hours ago, Erica Gabriel said:

Are you two still hugging, holding each other? Those two plus kissing are all that's happening with my spouse. Good luck on the surgery front. I'm not ready to commit to that yet.

Oh yeah, we are very close that way. I hope it gets better for both of us.

Thanks. Any way I look at it, it't going to be at least 1-1/2 years before surgery. I have one big issue to work out first. My wife needs around the clock care. I've got to figure a solution since there will be probably 3 weeks where I will be away recouperating. Even after that it will be difficult for a while at home.

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4 hours ago, Willow said:

@KymmieLif I had an O O O O’Rielly close to me, I’d happily go there.  Frankly I don’t trust this Advance Auto.  I went in there to get three 8 volt golf cart batteries.  The guy comes out with 6 volt batteries, insisting they are what I requested. When i said no i told him 8v he got indignant how do you know? Because they only have three cells, not four.  Some poor smuck that didnt know better would end up putting in 6v batteries and hitting them with a charger for 8s.

 

the next closest parts store is 15 miles away and i doubt i can make it that far.  Its an Advance as well but they dont hire idiots at that one

If you know what you need rockauto.com has a good selection at good prices. I'm pretty sure they're out of Rock Island Illinois.

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@Elizabeth StarI'm so happy you two are working things out!

 

Had a great time last night meeting my "new" girl friend last night.  We had previous just randomly met at an outdoor local music thing and decided we needed to hang more so had a happy hour wine tasting "friend date' last night.  While getting to know each other it turns out we discovered that she was actually a massage client of mine close to 16 years ago!  We were totally cracking up that we hadn't made the connection because we both have "changed a bit" in the last 16 years!  

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@Elizabeth StarI've always said that I made my family. Growing up I wasn't close to anyone except my grandmother and brother, and my brother is also trans (didn't bother to even look that up until I came out). My grandmother automatically accepted me (but she did have to check up on the terms with my neice who lives with her and is also trans.) ((it must be genetic, lol)) 

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Jamie, Rock auto is everywhere. and ship from everywhere and charge shipping for each piece shipped from a different warehouse. Yeah, prices are good and have a lot of stuff. but they get you on shipping. But that isn't anything new.

 

I went as far as only searching for stuff on Ebay with free shipping.  Most of the time.

 

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I’ve alway found it easier to be family with people I’m not related to. There’s no pressure or expectations. 
 

I prefer O’Riley’s over the other places. They’re always so helpful regardless of what’s going on. I’ve even had an employee help me figure out what color pinstriping to use. The other places not so much. Oh The problems I had trying get parts for an Opel. 
 



 

 

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

Jamie, Rock auto is everywhere. and ship from everywhere and charge shipping for each piece shipped from a different warehouse. Yeah, prices are good and have a lot of stuff. but they get you on shipping. But that isn't anything new.

 

I went as far as only searching for stuff on Ebay with free shipping.  Most of the time.

 

Kymmie

I ordered from Rock Auto once. I got the wrong part in the right box. It was such a hassle trying to get it sorted out. They eventually sent me the right one at no charge and keep the other one but still a hassle. Apparently they’ve never ever sold anything in an open box. 

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3 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I ordered from Rock Auto once. I got the wrong part in the right box. It was such a hassle trying to get it sorted out. They eventually sent me the right one at no charge and keep the other one but still a hassle. Apparently they’ve never ever sold anything in an open box.

That sucks. I've used them 3 times now without any problem. I've gotten the wrong parts from Auto Zone and Napa before.

We have 5 different auto supply stores in our town of 12,000 people. I don't know how they can all stay in business. I haven't tried Ebay for auto parts before. I will have to check them out. I've had real good luck with machinery parts, new, used, even new out of production parts from Ebay.

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Hi friends

 

first, I want to go have the charging system checked so I know which is bad, the alternator or the battery.  Then I figure out where I’m buying the part.  Battery, Walmart, Alternator different story.

 

So I already looked at Rock auto, show only parts that fit my vehicle, I got every alternator possible. Some actually had the right frame, but most didn’t.  Similar but not as bad on Advanced Auto.  Just higher prices.  At least if it’s wrong I can take it back if I but local.  I’ve also considered just taking it somewhere and let them deal with it.  I had enough fun with that car when the balancer/timing wheel came apart. That was not fun to get off and on as well as replacing the sensor.  (Which came from Rock Auto, by the way). 
 

I’m dealing with a migraine second day in a row.  Not fun.  Today should be my estrogen injection but I’ll delay a day.  Then again, I suppose that could be the problem.  
 

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Willow

 

and turn out the light, I’ve got a headache!  lol

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Got car problems myself.

Battery dead again, and doesn't seem to be taking a charge this time.

I should have got it checked the last time.  But it charged up, and everything was fine for a couple days.  

Oh Poo.

If I get it crunk, I'll take it over.  If not, try to get a new battery.  I hope it is the battery, that would be expensive, but easy.

My daughter is coming over later to give me a ride if I need it.

 

"I should have…" is the story of my life.

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I totally get the battery concerns - replaced 3 in 2 vehicles in past year - oy......

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1 hour ago, Jandi said:

Got car problems myself.

Battery dead again, and doesn't seem to be taking a charge this time.

I should have got it checked the last time.  But it charged up, and everything was fine for a couple days.  

Oh Poo.

If I get it crunk, I'll take it over.  If not, try to get a new battery.  I hope it is the battery, that would be expensive, but easy.

My daughter is coming over later to give me a ride if I need it.

 

"I should have…" is the story of my life.

 

Running a battery down damages it.  If the battery has been run down to dead, it will never recover completely.  If it has been run down more than once, you need to replace it.  A charger might (or might not) get the voltage back up to where it belongs, but it will never hold a full charge, and might not have enough to start.

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3 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

If the battery has been run down to dead, it will never recover completely.  If it has been run down more than once, you need to replace it.

Certainly the situation.

Got it started eventually and took it to Advance Auto.    They said it just needed charging, but I'm not that dumb.  (Doing the same thing and expecting different results). 

I just replaced it.  It was old anyway.

 

There were 3 guys and a woman working there.  The woman was the one that served me.  A guy was the one who actually made the swap tho.  Of course he was doing it wrong until I said something.

 

As a trans woman it is much easier and pleasanter to interact with women.

 

At least the guy did "ma'am" me.

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6 hours ago, Jandi said:

Got car problems myself.

Battery dead again, and doesn't seem to be taking a charge this time.

I should have got it checked the last time.  But it charged up, and everything was fine for a couple days.  

Oh Poo.

If I get it crunk, I'll take it over.  If not, try to get a new battery.  I hope it is the battery, that would be expensive, but easy.

My daughter is coming over later to give me a ride if I need it.

 

"I should have…" is the story of my life.

If you have a volt meter, it should be readind somewhere between 13 and 15 volts while running. Check it on the battery posts and also just on the connectors. That would let you know if the alternator is pytting out and wether or not it's justy a dirty connector. Dam, I feel like i just "man splained it". If so, i'm sory.

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My meter has gotten lost in the shuffle, but I knew the alternator was working from the "charged" light on my charger.

The battery was like 6yrs old, and not a top of the line one at that.

 

If it won't crank in the morning, I might set it on fire….    

No.  I need it.

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8 hours ago, Jandi said:

"I should have…" is the story of my life.

 

That is the story of my life for the past 55 yrs. I don't think I had that trouble at 1yo. LOL

 

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Good evening everyone,

 

My Suzie and I are camping at the Hippie Hill Dead Fest in Bean Blossom, IN. Hanging out with fellow Long Haired Freaky People. 
 

Best wishes to y’all 

 

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I feel like I'm in the middle of another impossible decision.  My SO had a heart attach so I took a week off of work to care for her.  Then this Friday the CDC comes out with their latest guidelines.  Now I'm scared all over again of bringing home the virus and killing her.  I quit my job lat March for a year until we got vaccinated.  Now the vaccinations are not as good against the Delta variant.  Do I go back to work, wear a mask, and take my chances with unvaccinated people?  Or do I just take a chance with both my and my partners health and like.  I want to go back to work.  I gives me a purpose in life and keeps me from drinking too much.  Just to make life more interesting I'm 2 months into HRT and starting to show.  I'm pretty sure I can hide it because I' m not ready to cross that bridge.

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1 hour ago, LaurenA said:

I feel like I'm in the middle of another impossible decision.  My SO had a heart attach so I took a week off of work to care for her.  Then this Friday the CDC comes out with their latest guidelines.  Now I'm scared all over again of bringing home the virus and killing her.  I quit my job lat March for a year until we got vaccinated.  Now the vaccinations are not as good against the Delta variant.  Do I go back to work, wear a mask, and take my chances with unvaccinated people?  Or do I just take a chance with both my and my partners health and like.  I want to go back to work.  I gives me a purpose in life and keeps me from drinking too much.  Just to make life more interesting I'm 2 months into HRT and starting to show.  I'm pretty sure I can hide it because I' m not ready to cross that bridge.

 

I'm assuming that working from home isn't an option?

 

I'd talk to my doctor. There's evidence that a 3rd hit of the vaccine is effective in increasing immunity to the Delta variant, but as with all vaccines, it's not 100%. If your partner is immuno-compromised... staying home is probably your best bet to keep her safe.

 

Hugs!

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Just when it seemed like things were getting better…   this.

It's hard to know what to do anymore.

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Thank the Goddess, it finally happened. Today’s my Saturday to work. The owner came in and was showing one of our vendors around. Of course he had to come into and show the guy around our service department. As always I was introduced as Elizabeth but where things have improved was what came next. He usually follows my initial introduction with “when Liz was dead name….” .  This time, as I cringed and waited for it, he didn’t do it. Instead he opted to say “in another life Liz used to…..” and went on to explain the different departments I worked in. I really needed that little extra affirming boost today. The vendor and I quick conversation about how popular the mane Elizabeth is. His daughter and mother are also Elizabeth’s.  

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That's fantastic @Elizabeth Star! I was cringing RIGHT along with you while you were telling that. I'm JUST getting to the point where hearing my deadname doesn't make my shoulders tense up. I'm glad your boss is getting with the program and learning not to make you uncomfortable.

 

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