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I think I have a better understand of where I sit on the passing scale.

 

Sweetie, you look just like my sister-in-law. Cis-people get misgendered too. There's no yardstick that says, "You must look like THIS to be a woman." Our society has certain "standards of beauty" but they don't really matter. People like who they like and love who they love. 

Liz, I understand where you're coming from. You just want to be seen as a woman, same with me. If you'll notice though, it's only us that really gives a crap. cis women don't worry about "passing". I don't wear blue jeans or my Carhart jacket or work boots because they say "male" to me, but when I look at what other women are wearing, they wear all the stuff I won't. If I am honest, I say I don't give a crap what other people think, but I really do. I want to be seen as a woman without any doubt in their minds. Unless I win the lottery, I will never be able to afford FFS or facial electrolysis, and other stuff. The only way I could afford bottom surgery, is with the "max out of pocket" clause in my insurance policy. Apx. $5,500. Now, because of covid I don't even know if that will happen. At the rate I'm progressing on the waiting list it will be another 4 years before they get to my number. I will have to totally rethink my progression.

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Been trying new wigs on lately,medium and short as Holly.Have worn these in the past,were not for me at first.Tried a pixie cut wig on last night and did like it.Wife said I looked good with it on

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I've got a question.

Has anyone noticed that they can't sleep well from taking spiro? I've been on progesterone and estradiol. My levels weren't getting in the zone yet, so my doctor added spiro. Since then, I've been waking up at 1 o2 o'clock in the mornings when my wife finally comes to bed. Then I can't sleep anymore. Any thoughts?

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16 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

This tends to be my feeling, too. Life's just not living when everything has to be all somber.

 

Of course, personally, I've only ever heard those nicknames in the context of trans people just having fun with cute nicknames for things. I've never personally heard any of them used in a transphobic way (I was surprised to learn that some people here have), so that's where my perception is coming from, for whatever that's worth.

 

In any case, on a related note, I once came across this posted in a different trans corner of the internet. Have to say it's my favorite skittles of all...

 

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10 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Hey all,

Post op wasn't too bad and they put a nerve block in the lower half od my face to I don't feel the jaw and chin work at all-YET. My eyes are swelling up but I can still see well enough to type.

That said, I have a massive headache right now. lol

I just wanted to thank all of you for the well wishes. luv you all.

So a little story from the experience:  I had a nurse practitioner anesthetist who was finalizing her clinic hours and was going to sit for the boards in a couple weeks.  Total I had 3 people taking care of my anesthesia, CRNA, and the Trainee and the actual anesthetist. Nice to have 3 people giving you drugs. lol

Anyways, she had to report on all the pre-screening questions to her superior and was misgendering me the whole way through.  I gently corrected her each time (like 5 times). Obviously she was stressed do her report.

It definitely annoyed me and she sensed that.

After everyone left. she cam in and sat on the edge of the bed and held my hand and I could see a little water in her eyes and she apologized profusely explaining I was the first trans patient she had and she me to know how much she really cared for and respected me.  You can tell it was genuine. Felt nice to have had an impact on someone like that.

On the flip side, the nurse assistant, a young black woman who said she was gay was having a great conversation with me about living someplace warm and sunny. I told her I was sunbathing just a week of two ago.  So she goes to put on this padded patch on my tailbone to prevent a bed sore and said, "damn girl, you were sunbathing and still have tan lines on the cute little butt of yours."  I said something along the lines of it wasn't that great, needs some more off it". she again responded, Uh uh- it cute as f#&$ the way it is". I mentioned this might not be a conversation her supervisor would condone. we both just laughed onit.

SOmething I never thought would happen, being flirted with while getting ready to get operated on. lol

Here's my post op pic. I will post one every couple days so people getting ready for FFS can see what to expect. As you can see what little is exposed is just a bit swollen and no bruising yet.  The cheeks are extra swollen because he injected fat into them.

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Good morning Bri,

I’m glad you had a positive experience and helped a young trainee through her practical demonstration. It was really nice that she came to apologize afterwards. You know how tough it is to be tested and have every word choice affect your dream career. As for the flirting nurse… YOU GO GIRL! 
 

Gentle Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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20 minutes ago, Jamie68 said:

I've got a question.

Has anyone noticed that they can't sleep well from taking spiro? I've been on progesterone and estradiol. My levels weren't getting in the zone yet, so my doctor added spiro. Since then, I've been waking up at 1 o2 o'clock in the mornings when my wife finally comes to bed. Then I can't sleep anymore. Any thoughts?

I didn’t notice insomnia per se, but the diuretic effect of spiro did mean I had to get up twice in a night instead of once.  I always got back to sleep, though.

 

Eventually, I got tired of the constant dehydration, and asked my doctor to switch me to cyproterone.  I don’t think Cypriot is available everywhere, however.

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24 minutes ago, Jamie68 said:

I've got a question.

Has anyone noticed that they can't sleep well from taking spiro? I've been on progesterone and estradiol. My levels weren't getting in the zone yet, so my doctor added spiro. Since then, I've been waking up at 1 o2 o'clock in the mornings when my wife finally comes to bed. Then I can't sleep anymore. Any thoughts?

I haven’t had insomnia, but I’ve had other problems with spurinurasstone. In particular, horrible cramps in my feet at night that turned out to be caused by too much potassium.

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10 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Hey all,

Post op wasn't too bad and they put a nerve block in the lower half od my face to I don't feel the jaw and chin work at all-YET. My eyes are swelling up but I can still see well enough to type.

That said, I have a massive headache right now. lol

I just wanted to thank all of you for the well wishes. luv you all.

So a little story from the experience:  I had a nurse practitioner anesthetist who was finalizing her clinic hours and was going to sit for the boards in a couple weeks.  Total I had 3 people taking care of my anesthesia, CRNA, and the Trainee and the actual anesthetist. Nice to have 3 people giving you drugs. lol

Anyways, she had to report on all the pre-screening questions to her superior and was misgendering me the whole way through.  I gently corrected her each time (like 5 times). Obviously she was stressed do her report.

It definitely annoyed me and she sensed that.

After everyone left. she cam in and sat on the edge of the bed and held my hand and I could see a little water in her eyes and she apologized profusely explaining I was the first trans patient she had and she me to know how much she really cared for and respected me.  You can tell it was genuine. Felt nice to have had an impact on someone like that.

On the flip side, the nurse assistant, a young black woman who said she was gay was having a great conversation with me about living someplace warm and sunny. I told her I was sunbathing just a week of two ago.  So she goes to put on this padded patch on my tailbone to prevent a bed sore and said, "damn girl, you were sunbathing and still have tan lines on the cute little butt of yours."  I said something along the lines of it wasn't that great, needs some more off it". she again responded, Uh uh- it cute as f#&$ the way it is". I mentioned this might not be a conversation her supervisor would condone. we both just laughed onit.

SOmething I never thought would happen, being flirted with while getting ready to get operated on. lol

Here's my post op pic. I will post one every couple days so people getting ready for FFS can see what to expect. As you can see what little is exposed is just a bit swollen and no bruising yet.  The cheeks are extra swollen because he injected fat into them.

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I can’t say I was fully relating the Spironolactone to either the frequency of getting up or sleeping issues, until I stopped taking it now I get up once instead of 4 or more times and I usually do sleep better.

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@Elizabeth Star& @Jackie C. 
Cis people being misgendered.

We visited my lesbian cousin Vic and her wife Nancy earlier this week and Nancy said she got tired of people misgendering Vic, so she calls them out on it. Vic said it didn’t really matter, however it got her out of a speeding ticket once. The young officer berated her about the speed limit and Sir you should be setting an example for young men. Vic handed the officer her driver’s license and registration, saying I’m a woman. It’s Mam to you! He dipped his head, took her documents, ran her plate’s. Upon returning to her car (Red Mustang) he apologized, asked her to slow down, and have a nice day. No ticket or warnings. 
 

While we were out to dinner with Vic and Nancy the venue was hosting a wedding with two Brides. Vic said she wished their marriage didn’t have to be a hidden secret way back in the day. They are legally married but there was no family and friends party events. I looked for an opportunity to come out to them, but it just didn’t happen. My Suzie said afterwards, that there was no way Vic and I could deny our close family ties, and Vic is more butch than I am male. 
 

Hugs and continued prayers for your partner Lizzy. 
 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Sweetie, you look just like my sister-in-law. Cis-people get misgendered too. There's no yardstick that says, "You must look like THIS to be a woman." Our society has certain "standards of beauty" but they don't really matter. People like who they like and love who they love. 

 

Hugs!

That is what I look at sometimes. Some cis-females looks manly some cis-males look feminine. I get misgendered at work 90% of the time. does it bother me. most of the time, yes. But I let it blow over. I need to figure out a way to say, No idiot, I am a female.

 

I haven't really related my spiro with my not sleeping. also with getting up multiple times to pee.  I have noticed it affecting my #2. when I first started I was sitting for an hour with no results, finally took a laxative to get things moving. I drink much more fluids now.  I would like to get on the HD blockers I took for about a year. (monthly injections) but it may block my E as well and don't want that.

 

Hope all is well. with everyone.

 

Hugs

Kymmie

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51 minutes ago, Erica Gabriel said:

I haven’t had insomnia, but I’ve had other problems with spurinurasstone. In particular, horrible cramps in my feet at night that turned out to be caused by too much potassium.

I don't recall sleep issues, but I had serious issues with my sodium level.   I can't take it.  I do take E, but no T blockers.

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3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Cis-people get misgendered too

There’s truth to that. Sometimes deliberately in a mean way. Especially if a person doesn’t give off the right gender vibe, or doesn’t react using the “approved” gender norms. 

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7 minutes ago, Aggie1 said:

There’s truth to that. Sometimes deliberately in a mean way. Especially if a person doesn’t give off the right gender vibe, or doesn’t react using the “approved” gender norms. 

 

Exactly, I've had friends chased out of bathrooms for not conforming to what somebody else thought they should look like. I mean they read femme to ME (and I adore her), but I'm not a deranged "bathroom cop."

 

Hugs!

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18 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Exactly, I've had friends chased out of bathrooms for not conforming to what somebody else thought they should look like. I mean they read femme to ME (and I adore her), but I'm not a deranged "bathroom cop."

 

Hugs!

I’m also referring to times in my life when I didn’t fit in. Schoolyard bullying when I was little.  Not clicking in male talk, or locker room banter, being shooed away from conversations in wives groups, for obvious reasons probably. Even my own family at times, three daughters and a wife. A person tries to develop a Teflon exterior and take the barbs without flinching but deep down they’re crying. The difference is rooted somewhere in a person’s genome and the way their brain reacts to signals from the body. A handful of molecules in a string of a billion on a gene in an obscure corner of some chromosome? Hoo boy! Don’t get me started!

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13 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Hey all,

Post op wasn't too bad and they put a nerve block in the lower half od my face to I don't feel the jaw and chin work at all-YET. My eyes are swelling up but I can still see well enough to type.

That said, I have a massive headache right now. lol

I just wanted to thank all of you for the well wishes. luv you all.

So a little story from the experience:  I had a nurse practitioner anesthetist who was finalizing her clinic hours and was going to sit for the boards in a couple weeks.  Total I had 3 people taking care of my anesthesia, CRNA, and the Trainee and the actual anesthetist. Nice to have 3 people giving you drugs. lol

Anyways, she had to report on all the pre-screening questions to her superior and was misgendering me the whole way through.  I gently corrected her each time (like 5 times). Obviously she was stressed do her report.

It definitely annoyed me and she sensed that.

After everyone left. she cam in and sat on the edge of the bed and held my hand and I could see a little water in her eyes and she apologized profusely explaining I was the first trans patient she had and she me to know how much she really cared for and respected me.  You can tell it was genuine. Felt nice to have had an impact on someone like that.

On the flip side, the nurse assistant, a young black woman who said she was gay was having a great conversation with me about living someplace warm and sunny. I told her I was sunbathing just a week of two ago.  So she goes to put on this padded patch on my tailbone to prevent a bed sore and said, "damn girl, you were sunbathing and still have tan lines on the cute little butt of yours."  I said something along the lines of it wasn't that great, needs some more off it". she again responded, Uh uh- it cute as f#&$ the way it is". I mentioned this might not be a conversation her supervisor would condone. we both just laughed onit.

SOmething I never thought would happen, being flirted with while getting ready to get operated on. lol

Here's my post op pic. I will post one every couple days so people getting ready for FFS can see what to expect. As you can see what little is exposed is just a bit swollen and no bruising yet.  The cheeks are extra swollen because he injected fat into them.

B8D7AC5B-261D-4A7C-9678-FD3265E67641.thumb.jpeg.6077e09a64155f67f7b6856b8ec4116f.jpeg

Yea! you made the trip.  When times are tough, remember this is the gift that keeps on giving!

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Time with a couple good friends of mine,both are part time mtf crossdressers.We have known each other since the age of 6 knowing we were part time girls.We went out for lunch dressed as our female sides

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I don't know if spiro is causing insomnia, or the repeated trips to the bathroom just mean more chances to not be able to fall back asleep after any given incident. 

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4 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

 

Oh Goddess. I'm so sorry sweetie. What do you need?

 

Big hugs!

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14 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

Oh no? ♥️😥I’m so sorry. 

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55 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

 

Hugs, Liz. We're always here to support you -- and this seems like one of those times that it could be needed.  

 

Astrid

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12 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

I didn’t notice insomnia per se, but the diuretic effect of spiro did mean I had to get up twice in a night instead of once.  I always got back to sleep, though.

 

Eventually, I got tired of the constant dehydration, and asked my doctor to switch me to cyproterone.  I don’t think Cypriot is available everywhere, however.

I just googled it. It says available almost everywhere but united states 

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