Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Good morning All. Coffees on.


KymmieL

Recommended Posts

41 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:
51 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I think I have a better understand of where I sit on the passing scale.

 

Sweetie, you look just like my sister-in-law. Cis-people get misgendered too. There's no yardstick that says, "You must look like THIS to be a woman." Our society has certain "standards of beauty" but they don't really matter. People like who they like and love who they love. 

Liz, I understand where you're coming from. You just want to be seen as a woman, same with me. If you'll notice though, it's only us that really gives a crap. cis women don't worry about "passing". I don't wear blue jeans or my Carhart jacket or work boots because they say "male" to me, but when I look at what other women are wearing, they wear all the stuff I won't. If I am honest, I say I don't give a crap what other people think, but I really do. I want to be seen as a woman without any doubt in their minds. Unless I win the lottery, I will never be able to afford FFS or facial electrolysis, and other stuff. The only way I could afford bottom surgery, is with the "max out of pocket" clause in my insurance policy. Apx. $5,500. Now, because of covid I don't even know if that will happen. At the rate I'm progressing on the waiting list it will be another 4 years before they get to my number. I will have to totally rethink my progression.

Link to comment
  • Replies 16.4k
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

  • KymmieL

    1136

  • Willow

    1277

  • Jackie C.

    890

  • Jamie68

    874

Top Posters In This Topic

Posted Images

Been trying new wigs on lately,medium and short as Holly.Have worn these in the past,were not for me at first.Tried a pixie cut wig on last night and did like it.Wife said I looked good with it on

Link to comment

I've got a question.

Has anyone noticed that they can't sleep well from taking spiro? I've been on progesterone and estradiol. My levels weren't getting in the zone yet, so my doctor added spiro. Since then, I've been waking up at 1 o2 o'clock in the mornings when my wife finally comes to bed. Then I can't sleep anymore. Any thoughts?

Link to comment
16 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

This tends to be my feeling, too. Life's just not living when everything has to be all somber.

 

Of course, personally, I've only ever heard those nicknames in the context of trans people just having fun with cute nicknames for things. I've never personally heard any of them used in a transphobic way (I was surprised to learn that some people here have), so that's where my perception is coming from, for whatever that's worth.

 

In any case, on a related note, I once came across this posted in a different trans corner of the internet. Have to say it's my favorite skittles of all...

 

2144980241_kittyskittles.jpg.960bf28d48fcfcd3ee018aadc12d9043.jpg

😆❤️😆

Link to comment
10 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Hey all,

Post op wasn't too bad and they put a nerve block in the lower half od my face to I don't feel the jaw and chin work at all-YET. My eyes are swelling up but I can still see well enough to type.

That said, I have a massive headache right now. lol

I just wanted to thank all of you for the well wishes. luv you all.

So a little story from the experience:  I had a nurse practitioner anesthetist who was finalizing her clinic hours and was going to sit for the boards in a couple weeks.  Total I had 3 people taking care of my anesthesia, CRNA, and the Trainee and the actual anesthetist. Nice to have 3 people giving you drugs. lol

Anyways, she had to report on all the pre-screening questions to her superior and was misgendering me the whole way through.  I gently corrected her each time (like 5 times). Obviously she was stressed do her report.

It definitely annoyed me and she sensed that.

After everyone left. she cam in and sat on the edge of the bed and held my hand and I could see a little water in her eyes and she apologized profusely explaining I was the first trans patient she had and she me to know how much she really cared for and respected me.  You can tell it was genuine. Felt nice to have had an impact on someone like that.

On the flip side, the nurse assistant, a young black woman who said she was gay was having a great conversation with me about living someplace warm and sunny. I told her I was sunbathing just a week of two ago.  So she goes to put on this padded patch on my tailbone to prevent a bed sore and said, "damn girl, you were sunbathing and still have tan lines on the cute little butt of yours."  I said something along the lines of it wasn't that great, needs some more off it". she again responded, Uh uh- it cute as f#&$ the way it is". I mentioned this might not be a conversation her supervisor would condone. we both just laughed onit.

SOmething I never thought would happen, being flirted with while getting ready to get operated on. lol

Here's my post op pic. I will post one every couple days so people getting ready for FFS can see what to expect. As you can see what little is exposed is just a bit swollen and no bruising yet.  The cheeks are extra swollen because he injected fat into them.

B8D7AC5B-261D-4A7C-9678-FD3265E67641.thumb.jpeg.6077e09a64155f67f7b6856b8ec4116f.jpeg

Good morning Bri,

I’m glad you had a positive experience and helped a young trainee through her practical demonstration. It was really nice that she came to apologize afterwards. You know how tough it is to be tested and have every word choice affect your dream career. As for the flirting nurse… YOU GO GIRL! 
 

Gentle Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

Link to comment
20 minutes ago, Jamie68 said:

I've got a question.

Has anyone noticed that they can't sleep well from taking spiro? I've been on progesterone and estradiol. My levels weren't getting in the zone yet, so my doctor added spiro. Since then, I've been waking up at 1 o2 o'clock in the mornings when my wife finally comes to bed. Then I can't sleep anymore. Any thoughts?

I didn’t notice insomnia per se, but the diuretic effect of spiro did mean I had to get up twice in a night instead of once.  I always got back to sleep, though.

 

Eventually, I got tired of the constant dehydration, and asked my doctor to switch me to cyproterone.  I don’t think Cypriot is available everywhere, however.

Link to comment

Darned autocorrect.  I meant “cypro “, not Cypriot!  Good grief!

Link to comment
24 minutes ago, Jamie68 said:

I've got a question.

Has anyone noticed that they can't sleep well from taking spiro? I've been on progesterone and estradiol. My levels weren't getting in the zone yet, so my doctor added spiro. Since then, I've been waking up at 1 o2 o'clock in the mornings when my wife finally comes to bed. Then I can't sleep anymore. Any thoughts?

I haven’t had insomnia, but I’ve had other problems with spurinurasstone. In particular, horrible cramps in my feet at night that turned out to be caused by too much potassium.

Link to comment
10 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Hey all,

Post op wasn't too bad and they put a nerve block in the lower half od my face to I don't feel the jaw and chin work at all-YET. My eyes are swelling up but I can still see well enough to type.

That said, I have a massive headache right now. lol

I just wanted to thank all of you for the well wishes. luv you all.

So a little story from the experience:  I had a nurse practitioner anesthetist who was finalizing her clinic hours and was going to sit for the boards in a couple weeks.  Total I had 3 people taking care of my anesthesia, CRNA, and the Trainee and the actual anesthetist. Nice to have 3 people giving you drugs. lol

Anyways, she had to report on all the pre-screening questions to her superior and was misgendering me the whole way through.  I gently corrected her each time (like 5 times). Obviously she was stressed do her report.

It definitely annoyed me and she sensed that.

After everyone left. she cam in and sat on the edge of the bed and held my hand and I could see a little water in her eyes and she apologized profusely explaining I was the first trans patient she had and she me to know how much she really cared for and respected me.  You can tell it was genuine. Felt nice to have had an impact on someone like that.

On the flip side, the nurse assistant, a young black woman who said she was gay was having a great conversation with me about living someplace warm and sunny. I told her I was sunbathing just a week of two ago.  So she goes to put on this padded patch on my tailbone to prevent a bed sore and said, "damn girl, you were sunbathing and still have tan lines on the cute little butt of yours."  I said something along the lines of it wasn't that great, needs some more off it". she again responded, Uh uh- it cute as f#&$ the way it is". I mentioned this might not be a conversation her supervisor would condone. we both just laughed onit.

SOmething I never thought would happen, being flirted with while getting ready to get operated on. lol

Here's my post op pic. I will post one every couple days so people getting ready for FFS can see what to expect. As you can see what little is exposed is just a bit swollen and no bruising yet.  The cheeks are extra swollen because he injected fat into them.

B8D7AC5B-261D-4A7C-9678-FD3265E67641.thumb.jpeg.6077e09a64155f67f7b6856b8ec4116f.jpeg

🤗

Link to comment

I can’t say I was fully relating the Spironolactone to either the frequency of getting up or sleeping issues, until I stopped taking it now I get up once instead of 4 or more times and I usually do sleep better.

Link to comment

@Elizabeth Star& @Jackie C. 
Cis people being misgendered.

We visited my lesbian cousin Vic and her wife Nancy earlier this week and Nancy said she got tired of people misgendering Vic, so she calls them out on it. Vic said it didn’t really matter, however it got her out of a speeding ticket once. The young officer berated her about the speed limit and Sir you should be setting an example for young men. Vic handed the officer her driver’s license and registration, saying I’m a woman. It’s Mam to you! He dipped his head, took her documents, ran her plate’s. Upon returning to her car (Red Mustang) he apologized, asked her to slow down, and have a nice day. No ticket or warnings. 
 

While we were out to dinner with Vic and Nancy the venue was hosting a wedding with two Brides. Vic said she wished their marriage didn’t have to be a hidden secret way back in the day. They are legally married but there was no family and friends party events. I looked for an opportunity to come out to them, but it just didn’t happen. My Suzie said afterwards, that there was no way Vic and I could deny our close family ties, and Vic is more butch than I am male. 
 

Hugs and continued prayers for your partner Lizzy. 
 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Sweetie, you look just like my sister-in-law. Cis-people get misgendered too. There's no yardstick that says, "You must look like THIS to be a woman." Our society has certain "standards of beauty" but they don't really matter. People like who they like and love who they love. 

 

Hugs!

That is what I look at sometimes. Some cis-females looks manly some cis-males look feminine. I get misgendered at work 90% of the time. does it bother me. most of the time, yes. But I let it blow over. I need to figure out a way to say, No idiot, I am a female.

 

I haven't really related my spiro with my not sleeping. also with getting up multiple times to pee.  I have noticed it affecting my #2. when I first started I was sitting for an hour with no results, finally took a laxative to get things moving. I drink much more fluids now.  I would like to get on the HD blockers I took for about a year. (monthly injections) but it may block my E as well and don't want that.

 

Hope all is well. with everyone.

 

Hugs

Kymmie

Link to comment
51 minutes ago, Erica Gabriel said:

I haven’t had insomnia, but I’ve had other problems with spurinurasstone. In particular, horrible cramps in my feet at night that turned out to be caused by too much potassium.

I don't recall sleep issues, but I had serious issues with my sodium level.   I can't take it.  I do take E, but no T blockers.

Link to comment
3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Cis-people get misgendered too

There’s truth to that. Sometimes deliberately in a mean way. Especially if a person doesn’t give off the right gender vibe, or doesn’t react using the “approved” gender norms. 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
7 minutes ago, Aggie1 said:

There’s truth to that. Sometimes deliberately in a mean way. Especially if a person doesn’t give off the right gender vibe, or doesn’t react using the “approved” gender norms. 

 

Exactly, I've had friends chased out of bathrooms for not conforming to what somebody else thought they should look like. I mean they read femme to ME (and I adore her), but I'm not a deranged "bathroom cop."

 

Hugs!

Link to comment
18 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Exactly, I've had friends chased out of bathrooms for not conforming to what somebody else thought they should look like. I mean they read femme to ME (and I adore her), but I'm not a deranged "bathroom cop."

 

Hugs!

I’m also referring to times in my life when I didn’t fit in. Schoolyard bullying when I was little.  Not clicking in male talk, or locker room banter, being shooed away from conversations in wives groups, for obvious reasons probably. Even my own family at times, three daughters and a wife. A person tries to develop a Teflon exterior and take the barbs without flinching but deep down they’re crying. The difference is rooted somewhere in a person’s genome and the way their brain reacts to signals from the body. A handful of molecules in a string of a billion on a gene in an obscure corner of some chromosome? Hoo boy! Don’t get me started!

Link to comment
13 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Hey all,

Post op wasn't too bad and they put a nerve block in the lower half od my face to I don't feel the jaw and chin work at all-YET. My eyes are swelling up but I can still see well enough to type.

That said, I have a massive headache right now. lol

I just wanted to thank all of you for the well wishes. luv you all.

So a little story from the experience:  I had a nurse practitioner anesthetist who was finalizing her clinic hours and was going to sit for the boards in a couple weeks.  Total I had 3 people taking care of my anesthesia, CRNA, and the Trainee and the actual anesthetist. Nice to have 3 people giving you drugs. lol

Anyways, she had to report on all the pre-screening questions to her superior and was misgendering me the whole way through.  I gently corrected her each time (like 5 times). Obviously she was stressed do her report.

It definitely annoyed me and she sensed that.

After everyone left. she cam in and sat on the edge of the bed and held my hand and I could see a little water in her eyes and she apologized profusely explaining I was the first trans patient she had and she me to know how much she really cared for and respected me.  You can tell it was genuine. Felt nice to have had an impact on someone like that.

On the flip side, the nurse assistant, a young black woman who said she was gay was having a great conversation with me about living someplace warm and sunny. I told her I was sunbathing just a week of two ago.  So she goes to put on this padded patch on my tailbone to prevent a bed sore and said, "damn girl, you were sunbathing and still have tan lines on the cute little butt of yours."  I said something along the lines of it wasn't that great, needs some more off it". she again responded, Uh uh- it cute as f#&$ the way it is". I mentioned this might not be a conversation her supervisor would condone. we both just laughed onit.

SOmething I never thought would happen, being flirted with while getting ready to get operated on. lol

Here's my post op pic. I will post one every couple days so people getting ready for FFS can see what to expect. As you can see what little is exposed is just a bit swollen and no bruising yet.  The cheeks are extra swollen because he injected fat into them.

B8D7AC5B-261D-4A7C-9678-FD3265E67641.thumb.jpeg.6077e09a64155f67f7b6856b8ec4116f.jpeg

Yea! you made the trip.  When times are tough, remember this is the gift that keeps on giving!

Link to comment

Wal-Mart has these fabulous "Am Trans, Will Travel" carry-ons. Had to get one.

 

20220122_150625-1.jpg

Link to comment

Time with a couple good friends of mine,both are part time mtf crossdressers.We have known each other since the age of 6 knowing we were part time girls.We went out for lunch dressed as our female sides

Link to comment

I don't know if spiro is causing insomnia, or the repeated trips to the bathroom just mean more chances to not be able to fall back asleep after any given incident. 

Link to comment

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
4 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

 

Oh Goddess. I'm so sorry sweetie. What do you need?

 

Big hugs!

Link to comment
14 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

Oh no? ♥️😥I’m so sorry. 

Link to comment
55 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

 

Hugs, Liz. We're always here to support you -- and this seems like one of those times that it could be needed.  

 

Astrid

Link to comment
12 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

I didn’t notice insomnia per se, but the diuretic effect of spiro did mean I had to get up twice in a night instead of once.  I always got back to sleep, though.

 

Eventually, I got tired of the constant dehydration, and asked my doctor to switch me to cyproterone.  I don’t think Cypriot is available everywhere, however.

I just googled it. It says available almost everywhere but united states 

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   10 Members, 0 Anonymous, 32 Guests (See full list)

    • Brianna12004
    • Juliernance
    • Vidanjali
    • Petra Jane
    • StarryNight
    • Carolyn Marie
    • DeeDee
    • Jandi
    • Hannah Renee
    • UFO
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      76.6k
    • Total Posts
      719.4k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      9,591
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Juliernance
    Newest Member
    Juliernance
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Clara
      Clara
      (19 years old)
    2. Lauren5158
      Lauren5158
    3. TexasLibraryLady
      TexasLibraryLady
      (46 years old)
  • Posts

    • Marcie Jensen
      Sheena, you are one of the sanest people I know. You've managed to keep your sanity and positive outlook despite the many challenges you've faced. To me, that takes courage, strength of character and a lot more. God bless you, girl.
    • Marcie Jensen
      I agree about the affirmation. And, listen to your inner voice Michelle. 
    • Marcie Jensen
      I'm sorry you went through that. The people--and I use the term "people" loosely--who said that clearly have no understanding of Justification or of Salvation.  It also appears they have forgotten the teachings of judge not, lest you be judged and parable of the beam in your own eye. (Both found in Matthew 7 as part of the Sermon on the Mount.)    One of the reasons I became a Calvinist is because he points out that humanity is inherently depraved in how they/we view others. It's a difficult thing to accept, but when I see stuff like this, I begin to understand why it is that Jesus wept.   And good for you for not going back to that particular place.
    • Cyndee
      yeah, that's good tunage   Have a rockin' day....
    • Jamie73
      You nailed it. I don’t care so much that I pass for other people as much myself. I can’t tell you the amount of times family asked me why I stare at the mirror. It’s because I have no clue who that guy in the mirror is. 
    • StarryNight
      I'm making an attempt to keep this PG, but it's a difficult subject to scratch with out discussing a Few sexual education items.   I'm getting close to when I make my decision to go on HRT or not, but one of my main concerns is weather or not I'll be able to remain intimate with my wife, we started to experiment with "toys" and I've increased the frequency I perform oral on her to prepare for potential non functioning male parts.   For those who have went through it, are you still able to use your male parts? Achieve orgasm through the old ways? Or have you moved on to butt stuff and prostate Satisfaction to compensate? My wife isn't too into the butt stuff aspect, so it could potentially be an issue down the road if that becomes the main way I can get off. Getting her off is a non issue, but in terms of weather or not I'll still be able to enjoy intimacy with her I was hoping some of you could share your expirience.
    • Hannah Renee
      You didn't realize that there were only 10 facts . You didn't notice that commas were used in place of apostrophe's.
    • StarryNight
      As with most people here I also fell in love with panties at an early age, I remember looking at the old sears catalog, or a victoria secret catalog that would get sent to the house and adoring the beautiful lingerie on the models. Eventually I got curious and checked if my mom owned any of these items, found some satin panties, tried them on and unlocked an inner battle I could never shake off from there.   Long story short after many years of stealing and hiding the shame, getting caught a few times and being bullied by my siblings, I moved out and I started buying my own once I figured out the correct size, still sadly purging some of the cutest lingerie I've ever owned out of shame and embarassment. currently I'm about a Male 38embarrassment. Translated to a womens 16 for most brands, theres still some weird stuff going on with those though. and I wear XL panties, sadly I'm "endowed" which can be a blessing but in terms of what I can wear in women's clothes limits me a bit, lace is fantastic, can't wear it though because I push up against it for a cheese grater type effect. Some Satin lacks stretch so I usually have to size up for that, nylon is awesome. Cotton varies.   My favorite panties for stretch and coverage currently are victoria secrets seemless line, the thong and bikini cuts are amazing, the hipsters work sometimes and I love the way they hug my cheeks but when I fall asleep in them I tend to fall out the sides. I actually was able to go in and try on some pairs on a slower weekday, you have to try them on over your current panties. But it allows you to try all the different cuts and styles avaliable.   I love nylon and satin for fabrics, and although I don't have breasts I have started to incorporate bras into my wardrobe to get used to them for when my breast might develop. The website shein.com has been great for allowing me to explore different styles without breaking the bank. I'm still pretty masculine V shaped so they carry alot of extended sized tops that I've been trying out with much success.
    • Jani
      Only special people can become women
    • Jani
      Oh Yeah!!!   Rock on Sis!
    • Hannah Renee
      Meeting with the mediator went well. All should be done by the end of July🤞. And it's filed in the one county (where my wife lives) that has the option of not having to show up in court in person, or even Zoom. Now for the name change.
    • Hannah Renee
    • Michelle_Anne
      Sheena I’m right there with you.   You’re right it is comforting to have someone you feel completely safe with that affirms what you’re feeling inside.   I started buying a few articles of clothing this week and wearing them in private during the day when e regime is gone.  Now I’m researching how to do simple make up.  Yesterday I had a moment when I was in Target buying my first bra where I was so happy to find a cute one that fit me.  For a second this voice said inside of me…..don’t look now but you’re embracing being a woman.  
    • Heather Shay
    • Heather Shay
      For @Jani   For @Cyndee   And just because....  
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...