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1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm praying for you both 🙏 ❤️ 

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5 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

 

I'm so sorry to hear. My best wishes and hopes to you both 💜

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8 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

So sorry to hear that.  Hugs!

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Liz I don't know what to do or say to help you but know we're here.  I've seen some desperate situations in ICUs and people surprise you all the time with their ability to bounce back.

 

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@Elizabeth Star I’m very sorry for the downturn in your wife’s health. I’ve been down this road with my wife and she fought through it and is hard headed as ever.

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Day three post op. I feel like poop. The DR said this would be my worst day and then things should stop swelling any more.  Overall I feel like this wasn't as bad as I expected.  My eyes while pretty swollen aren't to the point I can't see. Pain is manageable. Kinda feels like my whole head is in a "gentle" vise.  It's getting squeezed but not brutally. Bruising that I can see is just a little on the eyes and a bunch down my neck. I think he tried to lipo that area and didn't get enough so then went to my belly pouch to get the rest. Those areas are a little sore. (and he only took a few ounces so won't even make a difference in my belly. lol. Friday I get the bandages off. I expect there will be more bruising to be seen then.

 

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2 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

Day three post op. I feel like poop. The DR said this would be my worst day and then things should stop swelling any more.  Overall I feel like this wasn't as bad as I expected.  My eyes while pretty swollen aren't to the point I can't see. Pain is manageable. Kinda feels like my whole head is in a "gentle" vise.  It's getting squeezed but not brutally. Bruising that I can see is just a little on the eyes and a bunch down my neck. I think he tried to lipo that area and didn't get enough so then went to my belly pouch to get the rest. Those areas are a little sore. (and he only took a few ounces so won't even make a difference in my belly. lol. Friday I get the bandages off. I expect there will be more bruising to be seen then.

 

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Wow. How do/can you eat? All the swelling and bandages makes your head as round as Charlie Brown. Thank you for sharing.

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12 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Hey everyone. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner. 😭😭😭

I’m so sorry Liz!  Still praying for both of you.  Let’s us know what we can do to help.

 

sending love

 

Willow

 

 

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5 minutes ago, Erica Gabriel said:

Wow. How do/can you eat? All the swelling and bandages makes your head as round as Charlie Brown. Thank you for sharing.

straw. Milkshakes, broth, smoothies soups etc.  Very difficult to even get a pill in there.

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Starting to like something,wearing a breastplate for the first time and wife likes it.Much better than wearing breast forms

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52 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

Day three post op. I feel like poop. The DR said this would be my worst day and then things should stop swelling any more.  Overall I feel like this wasn't as bad as I expected.  My eyes while pretty swollen aren't to the point I can't see. Pain is manageable. Kinda feels like my whole head is in a "gentle" vise.  It's getting squeezed but not brutally. Bruising that I can see is just a little on the eyes and a bunch down my neck. I think he tried to lipo that area and didn't get enough so then went to my belly pouch to get the rest. Those areas are a little sore. (and he only took a few ounces so won't even make a difference in my belly. lol. Friday I get the bandages off. I expect there will be more bruising to be seen then.

 

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Hang in there, it will all be worth it.   I recognize the little squeeze bottle fluid drain system.  ---HUGS---

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13 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

. Not a good day for me. Things have gotten a lot worse for my partner.

Sorry for you.  I hope things get better.

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Not to make light of anyone suffering, but I thought a little humor might be nice. Found this in a Mad Magazine fan group on Facebook a few years ago. It makes me want to take a bus ride to Miami. 😀

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43 minutes ago, Sandy Morgan said:

Not to make light of anyone suffering, but I thought a little humor might be nice. Found this in a Mad Magazine fan group on Facebook a few years ago. It makes me want to take a bus ride to Miami. 😀

 

If only it was that easy (and cheap).

 

Hey @Bri2020! It doesn't look nearly as bad as my friend's facelift. I don't see the same kind of bruising she had. I think your doctor did an excellent job and I cannot wait to see the results.

 

Hugs!

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51 minutes ago, Roxiee said:

Evening all, I'm new!

Welcome!

 

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Thank you everyone. Today I had to say goodbye to my partner. She wasn’t in any pain and passed within minutes after the machines were turned off. I held her hand through to the end. Her name was Alison and I will never forget her. 

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19 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Thank you everyone. Today I had to say goodbye to my partner. She wasn’t in any pain and passed within minutes after the machines were turned off. I held her hand through to the end. Her name was Alison and I will never forget her. 

So sorry, @Elizabeth StarThat's so sad. My prayers are with you and Alison.

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Liz I am so sorry for you. I know Alison was battling a very serious medical issue and as you had mentioned without a transplant it would be terminal but it's still overwhelming. Hang in there and lean on all of us for support if you need to. We are here for you.  

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