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1 hour ago, Ashley0616 said:

Today marks one year since I joined transgenderpulse. Many things have changed since then. Hopefully things will improve for the second year. 


 Happy anniversary @Ashley0616 

I can say with confidence that you have been a positive influence here. Your empathy for others is very strong and appreciated. It’s amazing how you can be having a difficult day, and yet you make time to motivate others. 
 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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34 minutes ago, Mmindy said:


 Happy anniversary @Ashley0616 

I can say with confidence that you have been a positive influence here. Your empathy for others is very strong and appreciated. It’s amazing how you can be having a difficult day, and yet you make time to motivate others. 
 

Hugs,

 

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Thank you

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37 minutes ago, Birdie said:

OMG, it's been a year already? 😘

Yes it has!

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5 hours ago, Mmindy said:

Good afternoon everyone,

 

I'm on my last cup of coffee for the morning. I don't know how fast a cold can manifest into full blown sickness, but something is coming on. In spite of my practicing good hand washing and not shaking hands, I'm coming down with something. Head and body aches from the moment I woke up and getting worse as the day progresses. Yesterday I attended our Fire Department Open House, and maintained clean hands and only fist bumped a few of the other retirees. I'm fully vaccinated COVID, Flu, and Pneumonia. Oh wait... Thursday I may have let my guard down at a funeral home because I did hold hands and hug grieving family of the decedent.

 

@KymmieLthat's good to know that your son is supporting you.

 

 

Happy Days moving into a new and larger tool box. Now you have room for more tools. The Snap On kids want to thank you. I know in the 20 years of my buying Snap On products, I put at least one of his kids through college. Congratulations on the new tool box, this shows your employer that you're not looking to change jobs anytime soon.

 

Distant Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

 

 

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My last toolbox,have a badge ordered saying made for me.Gave me a good deal on it as well.I am one of his best customers too that pays every week.If I owe money,pay on the spot.

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Just curious has anyone else noticed more of a curved back like not as straight? I have noticed a change when sitting in my computer chair that the middle of the back barely touches it.

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5 hours ago, Ashley0616 said:

Just curious has anyone else noticed more of a curved back like not as straight? I have noticed a change when sitting in my computer chair that the middle of the back barely touches it.

 

Not me, but I know my husband has a slight curve due to bad discs and pain.  Perhaps its something related to your time in the military?  I know that soldiers tend to carry WAY too much backpack weight, and that can cause back and knee issues even for the young. 

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CNA called an ambulance yesterday at my evening meds check. I was having chest pains and very short of breath. 

 

They arrived shortly and I had an abnormal EKG and Tachycardia. I told them 'right bundle blockage' was normal for me from a previous event, and they saw nothing new. 

 

They said it was my decision if I wanted to go to the hospital or not, but they really didn't see nothing new based off my history and the nitro was working well at relieving my discomfort. I decided to stay home and rest. 

 

Night call nurse called me to inform me to rest and take it easy and the doctor will see me in the morning as well. 

 

The CNA did remove my bra before the ambulance arrived saying, "just less to explain", and she of course gave them all my medical history referring to me as "he". The medic lifted my boob to attach the EKG lead and all three referred to me as "ma'am" the whole time. 

 

After they left she said, "I was the only person in the room that thought of you as male?"

 

Birdie 💖

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2 hours ago, Birdie said:

CNA called an ambulance yesterday at my evening meds check. I was having chest pains and very short of breath. 

 

They arrived shortly and I had an abnormal EKG and Tachycardia. I told them 'right bundle blockage' was normal for me from a previous event, and they saw nothing new. 

 

They said it was my decision if I wanted to go to the hospital or not, but they really didn't see nothing new based off my history and the nitro was working well at relieving my discomfort. I decided to stay home and rest. 

 

Night call nurse called me to inform me to rest and take it easy and the doctor will see me in the morning as well. 

 

The CNA did remove my bra before the ambulance arrived saying, "just less to explain", and she of course gave them all my medical history referring to me as "he". The medic lifted my boob to attach the EKG lead and all three referred to me as "ma'am" the whole time. 

 

After they left she said, "I was the only person in the room that thought of you as male?"

 

Birdie 💖

Oh, Birdie! I hope you are feeling well this morning and got a good night's rest. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way!!

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Good morning everyone

 

Anniversary congratulations @Ashley0616

 

head colds verses spring allergies it’s always a debate for me.  I’ve been taking Musinex on a regular basis but I’m going to try something different today. I have a thick mucus it the back of my throat that I can’t swallow.  It’s a side effect of the cancer treatment from my laryngeal cancer.  It does cause me to have a garbled voice, be constantly clearing and a need to have water at the ready.  I am just concerned that as this gets worse eventually I won’t be able to talk.  I hope you get better fast @Mmindy

 

@Adrianna Danielle congratulations on getting your new toolbox. I know how good Snapon tools are although I never owned any.  You are a loyal customer and they recognize that.  And obviously, your employer recognizes your good work as do the vehicle owners whose vehicles you work on.  My granddaughter’s boyfriend is a certified CAT And Cummin’s tech he went to a school outside of Philadelphia for his training.  My granddaughter is the certified welder but is happier working as an HVAC tech.  I recently asked how long she would be an apprentice and was surprised that it takes 4 years.  EPA and all that

 

@KymmieL that’s pretty good to have had that talk with your youngest. I never really know where I stand with either of my kids. They seem to be ok then not so ok.  Same with my wife.

 

Well I guess I need a second cup then I need to get working. I’ve got a lot of schoolwork to try to finish, along with laundry and housework I have to admit I have a hard time keeping up with everything.

 

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Yikes, @Birdie, I hope you do rest and recover well.  I get occasional tachycardia, and it is scary when it happens.  It certainly wasn't an over-reaction for them to call the ambulance, especially with chest pains as well.

 

6 hours ago, Birdie said:

After they left she said, "I was the only person in the room that thought of you as male?"

 

I hope you said yes!

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6 hours ago, Birdie said:

CNA called an ambulance yesterday at my evening meds check. I was having chest pains and very short of breath. 

 

They arrived shortly and I had an abnormal EKG and Tachycardia. I told them 'right bundle blockage' was normal for me from a previous event, and they saw nothing new. 

 

They said it was my decision if I wanted to go to the hospital or not, but they really didn't see nothing new based off my history and the nitro was working well at relieving my discomfort. I decided to stay home and rest. 

 

Night call nurse called me to inform me to rest and take it easy and the doctor will see me in the morning as well. 

 

The CNA did remove my bra before the ambulance arrived saying, "just less to explain", and she of course gave them all my medical history referring to me as "he". The medic lifted my boob to attach the EKG lead and all three referred to me as "ma'am" the whole time. 

 

After they left she said, "I was the only person in the room that thought of you as male?"

 

Birdie 💖

I hope you are feeling better. I'm sorry what you have to go through. 

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7 hours ago, Birdie said:

After they left she said, "I was the only person in the room that thought of you as male?"

Maybe there's a reason, just sayin'

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9 hours ago, Birdie said:

After they left she said, "I was the only person in the room that thought of you as male?"

 

Birdie 💖

Good morning @Birdie

 

I hope you're feeling better today. What will it take for them to understand you are an intersex person fully capable of being the woman you always were? You don't have to answer that because I know the state you live in and the troubles you face. I wish they could get over themselves and accept you for you.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Good morning everyone,

 

It’s Monday for those that work, and a day of continued recovery for me. I feel a little bit better today however I’m going to continue self medicating. 
 

I slept most of the day yesterday, as well as all night. Yesterday my wife went to the store and bought me several cans of chicken soup, which was really nice of her since she had already completed the weekly grocery shopping Saturday. 
 

@Willow I hope and continue to pray for your health, and understand your concerns about progressive loss of speech. 
 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

 

 

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6 hours ago, Willow said:

Good morning everyone

 

Anniversary congratulations @Ashley0616

 

head colds verses spring allergies it’s always a debate for me.  I’ve been taking Musinex on a regular basis but I’m going to try something different today. I have a thick mucus it the back of my throat that I can’t swallow.  It’s a side effect of the cancer treatment from my laryngeal cancer.  It does cause me to have a garbled voice, be constantly clearing and a need to have water at the ready.  I am just concerned that as this gets worse eventually I won’t be able to talk.  I hope you get better fast @Mmindy

 

@Adrianna Danielle congratulations on getting your new toolbox. I know how good Snapon tools are although I never owned any.  You are a loyal customer and they recognize that.  And obviously, your employer recognizes your good work as do the vehicle owners whose vehicles you work on.  My granddaughter’s boyfriend is a certified CAT And Cummin’s tech he went to a school outside of Philadelphia for his training.  My granddaughter is the certified welder but is happier working as an HVAC tech.  I recently asked how long she would be an apprentice and was surprised that it takes 4 years.  EPA and all that

 

@KymmieL that’s pretty good to have had that talk with your youngest. I never really know where I stand with either of my kids. They seem to be ok then not so ok.  Same with my wife.

 

Well I guess I need a second cup then I need to get working. I’ve got a lot of schoolwork to try to finish, along with laundry and housework I have to admit I have a hard time keeping up with everything.

 

Willow

I have been in it for 22 years and no comebacks doing the job right.I also do it safely and read the shop manuals good.I plan staying where I am working at,boss likes me very well.I do not complain at all.I am good with the Cummins and Paccar engines.Getting better with the Mercedes Benz engines in some of the semi trucks.Caterpillar,I work once in a while.I earned this toolbox,I get great service from this dealer and gave me a good deal on it.

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Well the VA tried setting me up with another appointment with laser even though they won't cover it? This just doesn't make sense. Back to the waiting game on electrolysis. I'm in a area that doesn't do much of that. There is one place that covers face only. There is another one that looks like they do it in their home. Other than that it's it for nearby. I don't think they are wanting to do it due to how expensive it's going to be. Typical VA stuff dragging their feet. 

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Seen my hrt specialist this morning and nothing but good news,estrogen levels looked good.Boyfriend was with me and I admit he has been learning well about my transition showing his support.Our relationship is going great and we both see each other much happier now.

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5 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Seen my hrt specialist this morning and nothing but good news,estrogen levels looked good.Boyfriend was with me and I admit he has been learning well about my transition showing his support.Our relationship is going great and we both see each other much happier now.

This is all such wonderful news!!!! I can feel the happiness in your words.

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Good morning, everyone! I've finally pretty much finished with this head cold. I actually got 5.5 hours of straight sleep last night without taking any cold medication...or waking up to pee. I feel amazingly rested!!

 

Oh, @Willow, you are in my thoughts and prayers that your throat issue becomes less of a problem over time and not more.

 

I'm, hopefully, going to get our grass cut today. It takes me somewhere between 2.5 and 3 hours on the zero turn mower but the ground is still so wet that I'll have to slow down a bit. At least it's supposed to be sunny and around 60.

 

Have a wonderful day!!

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3 hours ago, April Marie said:

This is all such wonderful news!!!! I can feel the happiness in your words.

It is and he is keeper.HRT specialist was going to raise my dosage a little bit,decided not to due everything looking good.Sent in a new prescription for the patches I am on for my HRT too

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Well, I can not say good morning today.  The world has lost a loving, caring man that gave his all for others that are suffering.  I do not have details, however Tattoo Tom of Stillbrave Childhood Cancer Organization has gone on to be with his daughter Shala and my Granddaughter Daphne and all the other kids with cancer and their families he tried to help.  You can Google the organization and it will tell you his story and what they do.  He used to run in Ultra marathons to raise money.  He was scheduled to run in the Moab 240 later this year.  Each mile is dedicated to a child.  You can see Daphne’s story on mile 233 and Shala is always the last mile.  
 

if you have a few dollars to spare please make a donation.  The work of 5he organization will continue but it will not be the same without Tom.

 

Well on a better note, I learned last night that I can attend the Salt Lake City gathering of the Presbyterian Church USA in Salt Lake City. As a guest of our minister.  If I can get there I am going to try to go.  I am just waiting to hear from my son to learn if there are blackout days around the date I need to be there.  And I realize the bigger issue could be getting home so I do have th weigh the risk against the opportunity.

 

Thank you all for your concerns and prayers regarding my wife’s recent back surgery and my concerns about my voice.  My wife is definitely on the mend.

 

well I guess I need to get a move on it is later that I realized.

 

Willow

 

 

 

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Good morning everyone,

 

Head Cold and body aches are reduced today. @April Marie I'm glad you're feeling better too. Good luck timing the lawn care with the weather. @Willow It's good to hear that your wife is on the mend, and you may make it to Salt Lake City. I'm sadden to here about Tattoo Tom.

 

9 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Seen my hrt specialist this morning and nothing but good news,estrogen levels looked good.Boyfriend was with me and I admit he has been learning well about my transition showing his support.Our relationship is going great and we both see each other much happier now.

This is very good news @Adrianna Danielle

 

@Ashley0616 I hope you find the right hair removal service in a convenient location.

 

I'm on my second cup of coffee, and we're expecting rain this afternoon and evening.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

 

 

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@Adrianna Daniellecongratulations to you and your boyfriend! Hopefully a future wedding in the future!

 

@WillowI'm sorry about that he passed away. He sounded like a role model that others should follow.

 

@MmindyI'm sorry about your head cold! Hopefully it won't last too long and hope for good rest and recovery. 

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49 minutes ago, Ashley0616 said:

@Adrianna Daniellecongratulations to you and your boyfriend! Hopefully a future wedding in the future!

 

@WillowI'm sorry about that he passed away. He sounded like a role model that others should follow.

 

@MmindyI'm sorry about your head cold! Hopefully it won't last too long and hope for good rest and recovery. 

I hope so and glad he loves and accepts me for who I am

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I'm going to have to stop staying up so late at night...  Its after midnight, so technically morning.  So, Good Morning, y'all. :P

 

I got to go to work with my husband for the last two days.  I'm working on the graphics stuff for his company, so he said that nobody would really mind if I hang out.  I usually stay home, but its kind of nice to be somewhere different for a little while.  I spent part of the day at one of the company's installation sites... beautiful weather, so I worked on my laptop sitting under a tree.  And I learned something new - it is amazing how electrical wires are installed underground.  They're put in PVC tubes, and actually pulled through.  By hand!  Apparently a machine would risk breaking the wires somehow, so I watched a line of men literally playing tug-of-war with hundreds of feet of wire.  It was like something out of an old movie - my husband leading a call/response work chant and everybody pulling in a rhythm. 

 

It does give me a bit of self-doubt, though.  Like, if that's what "real men" are doing... maybe I'm a poor-quality imitation :?

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