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How Did You Choose Your Female Name?


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Guest Sara N

At first I thought I choose Sara because I like how it sounds and out of the necessity of choosing a name to identify with.

Now that I look back at things, it was a bit more complex. All my life I liked to create stories and act them out in private.

A way to get away from reality. I realize that all the names I was considering were from the characters in those stories

minus the Japanese ones. I figured it would be kind of strange for a Chinese person to have a Japanese name. Also,

considering my entire family has relatively common American names, I choose to stick with that trend.

Also tried feminizing my male name and didn't like the results.

Though I'm still not sure if Sara will be the name I officially choose in the end it's sticking to me for now.

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Guest April63

I was going to go with Ashley. I just like that name. But then there were so many Ashley's (offline too!) so I picked April. I don't remember how exactly I cam up with April, but somehow I did. I think I was thinking of other names that started with "A", and somehow I got April. I thought, "Hey, I don't know any Aprils." so I picked that one.

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Guest andreahilton

Mines was easy as! As you can see I called myself andreahilton for my account name, Andrea is my real girl name and Hilton is well I love Paris Hilton.

However in real life, I won't call myself with that last name. My real name is well just change a to w, and I always had a tense feeling hearing my male name. When I changed the w to a, my name went bam to female! It suited me straight away.

When I change my name legally I would have to change my middle name too since it's my father name, I will change it to my mother's name.

I will be called Andrea Heather (last name private) one day, and the first time I thought of it, it suited me faster than light speed! :)

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Guest alexxe

As of now, I chose Alexandra, which is the female version of my male name, Alexandre. I'm used to be getting called Alex anyway.

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I've always liked the names Megan and Jessica, I thought about it for a while and I decided I liked Megan more, so I became Megan

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Guest Myldryd

I was registering on another site and found the name Mildred was taken. I really like Midlred and so I used a spelling that was similar to old english. I then added Anne

MyldrydAnne ;)

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Guest N. Jane

I was 5 years old when a girl moved into the neighbourhood with the prettiest name I had ever heard (which isn't Jane) so I decided that was my name to. At he age of 5 I was still sure I WAS a girl so the name meant a lot to me. That was 55 years ago so I have had my name a long time! ;)

[My birth mother said he was going to name me Sheila - god I am glad she didn't keep me - I HATE that name LOL!

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Guest Elizabeth K
I was 5 years old when a girl moved into the neighbourhood with the prettiest name I had ever heard (which isn't Jane) so I decided that was my name to. At he age of 5 I was still sure I WAS a girl so the name meant a lot to me. That was 55 years ago so I have had my name a long time! ;)

[My birth mother said he was going to name me Sheila - god I am glad she didn't keep me - I HATE that name LOL!

My mother was going to name me Margaret and call me Peggy.

Lizzy

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I posted earlier in this thread about being undecided on names with a few listed that I was considering. Just posting an update, but I've decided on the name Clare.

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Guest gwenthlian

I have a best friend named Clare :D ive always liked it more than the alternative spelling Claire, seems less pretentious

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Guest MacyandM

My girlfriend and I had a conversation one night about this :P.

We went over at least about a half hour to an hour or so before deciding on one aha.

Originally it was going to be michelle, the parallel to my born name.

But we had decided that honestly, it just wasn't matching with me.

Then we thought of the name "macy"...I loved it.

It sounded cute, and something I could just...well fit with. :lol:

So, it's stuck.

I can't say it's permanent, but so far it's stayed.

Though no one but her calls me by it yet, I'm waiting for the day that other people do the same :/ (aside from the community here B))

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Guest Celeste!

I chose my female name from when my wife was pregnant.

We hadn't decided on what name scince we didnt know the sex of our baby.

So we choose a name for each sex.thow years before as corny as it is there was a girl at my local supermarket that i always used to be served by in tassie that had the same name that my wife and i agreed to name our daughter if we ever had a female child.thow we had a little boy. So I took celeste as my name.

Celeste x-x-x :)

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Guest Erica A

I actually decided on my name when I was about 10 years old. I never felt comfortable with my male name I was given at birth since it just didn't seem to fit what I felt inside of me, so I looked around my class at the other girls I attended school with and didn't want to pick one of the usual girl names that were popular at the time, e.g.; Susan, Patrica, Mary, etc. So I decided on Erica. I always liked this name and it was different from everyone else's.

Since I've known myself as Erica most of my life, it was just natural to become Erica when I had my name legally changed. It's also not even close to my originally boy name. I felt I needed a complete departure from that life.

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Guest Natalie92

I was talking with my best friend (if you read my other posts and see that I mention her in almost EVERY one of them, it's because we really are that close) and I asked her if I was a girl what name would suit me best, and she suggested Natalie, so I tried it on and kind of liked it. :) The only problem is, she doesn't really like calling me by my girl name, but she still thinks it fits.

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Since I've known myself as Erica most of my life, it was just natural to become Erica when I had my name legally changed. It's also not even close to my originally boy name. I felt I needed a complete departure from that life.

I chose Angelique,or should I say my inner true self did in 93,ten years before I came out.

It was while rereading a novel recently that I came across my name in one of the lead characters.

When choosing my name I wanted nothing remotely close to my birth name.So while watching a

movie in 03,I heard my name and knew right then that was who I am.Now I know why.My inner woman decided her name long before(he) admitted that (he) was a woman to the world.I had always wondered how I had so decisively chosen my name.My how convoluted are the minds workings to have stored my name so deep for so long I never knew it until my time was right.

She knew,(he) had nothing to do with my choice.That was the begining of (him) going bye-bye

forever.Fare thee well dude,I sure don't miss you.

Hugs Ladies,

Angie

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Guest Joanna Phipps
I was talking with my best friend (if you read my other posts and see that I mention her in almost EVERY one of them, it's because we really are that close) and I asked her if I was a girl what name would suit me best, and she suggested Natalie, so I tried it on and kind of liked it. :) The only problem is, she doesn't really like calling me by my girl name, but she still thinks it fits.

give her a chance, like with anyone close to us its gonna take time for her to get used to the change and use the name on a fairly regular basis. It has taken my SO since april to get to the point where she uses Joanna regularly, the only time his name comes up is in an emergency but then she did know me by that name for several years.

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Guest cjnoble71

The last time my mother and I had a conversation about what she would name another daughter if she had one. Unfortunately she passed before I came out. I would have just asked her what she would name me (my dad is really open hearted and open minded but I think it would be a bit out of his comfort zone.) When I was in my late teens my mom thought she might be pregnant and asked what I thought of Christine for a name. It was a long time ago, but I remembered and that is what I went with. I found out later that in my baby book she wrote Kelly for a girls name. Christine is still more recent and since I went with it already, why change again?

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"Ricka" adding the A" to Rick. Fits me perfectly. My BF responded by saying, "I want to tell the world I am in love with Ricka." So how many Ricka's do you know? Yep! That would be me! They broke the mold after they made me!

Ricka

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Guest Joanna Phipps
"Ricka" adding the A" to Rick. Fits me perfectly. My BF responded by saying, "I want to tell the world I am in love with Ricka." So how many Ricka's do you know? Yep! That would be me! They broke the mold after they made me!

Ricka

Living in a Hispanic area of the country I had taken your male name as Rico, so Ricka would be the correct feminization. Anyway congrats and welcome aboard

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Guest Tammy Maher

I know I said something in this topic earlier, but I don't remember what I said.

So basically I remember I always really liked the name Janelle. So why not?

^^/

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