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How Did You Choose Your Female Name?


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Guest Kayliegh

I choose Kayleigh, because it's an Irish name andmy heritage is Irish.

I always used Steph (Male name Steven), until I started seeing a GT and then thought I should use a name that I think fit's me!

BTW - "Kayleigh" means "celebration" in Gaelic - (at least that's what I've read.)

Think of a name that you feel best fits you and you'll be fine!

Kayleigh

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I go by Kacee, it's from my initials: Kristina Alexsandria Caitlynne Elisabeth Elliston. The Kristina comes from when I was around 4-5, I remeber telling my mom that I wanted that name. Alexsandria is the name I would have given my daughter, if I'd had one. Caitlynne is in honor of a very dear friend who died a few years ago from cancer. Elisabeth is in honor of my wife, it was her middle name. Elliston, just 'cuz I like it!! LOL

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Kacee

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Guest Saphiria

I'm still deciding on a name for myself, the two requirements are.

1. It has to be of Irish sound or Origin

2. It has to have found some popularity in between the years of 1990-1995 (I don't want to stand out too much)

The names I've found are Elaine (Or Elaina as a variant) Alyssa, or Colette.

Do anyone else have ideas?

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I'm still deciding on a name for myself, the two requirements are.

1. It has to be of Irish sound or Origin

2. It has to have found some popularity in between the years of 1990-1995 (I don't want to stand out too much)

The names I've found are Elaine (Or Elaina as a variant) Alyssa, or Colette.

Do anyone else have ideas?

Hmmmmm,I really like Alyssa it has such a pretty feminine sound.

Just what ever you do,choose a name that says to you,this is who I am.

Good name hunting sweety.

Hugs,

Angie

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Guest AshleyRF

Given to my by my parents at birth. Ashley was my middle name. :) I just kept it to try and honor them as much as I could. My middle name, Renee, is also my wifes middle name. I took it because when we were married, she took my last name and I took her middle name when I changed my name to sorta honor her.

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Guest Sabine1

I have thought about this over the years (I'm 50, and never married). I've used Sabine here as it was what I am "used to", but I hadn't settled on it. I think I want to involve my mother in choosing it, if only as I am her closest child and I am still uncertain how she will react to the news. I want her to feel she is gaining the daughter she wanted, not losing a son. I have looked at family names -- just as if I was naming a child -- and have some specific ones I'd like.

Oddly, my mom talks to me about clothes, cooking, and everything, and always has. I've even shopped with her before (unfortunately, for HER, not me, and are tastes are generational, though classic. I also have a better design and fashion sense than she does, as it turns out). I think, in a way, I am already a daughter-substitute. All that also makes me want her to play a part in how I decide.

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Guest SouthernBelle

I looked through countless baby names on the internet and made a list of the ones that struck me as something I might like to call myself. ONE of the names hit me hard... Belle, of course... but at first I didn't think it sounded "normal" enough. Eventually, I decided my name would be Anabelle and my friends could call me Belle, but now I think I just want my name to be Belle.

...then again, Anabelle IS pretty!

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Guest Renny-sama

My Original name was quite unique but fortunatly I found feminine versions of it The one I'm going to change it to is derived from the Name Renee and I changed the letters around to form Renne (Pronounced like Len or the first part of the latin word for wind: Ventus)

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Guest Shiratori

My parents decided before I was born that if I was a boy I'd be Lewis Charles and if I was a girl I'd be Charlotte Louise, so Charlotte Louise it is. :)

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The day I found out what I was on the inside, I became calm, and peaceful. It was at that moment that Rachael Elizabeth Evans, came out as clear as a bell. I now go by Ree to my friends. Whenever someone calls my name it fills me with peace and contentment.

The amazing thing was when I came out to my mom, the next day she called me and asked if my name was Rachael. WOW! She said she just knew.

Ree

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Guest AlexandraHarper

Well for me I decided to try and keep the same initials as my given name from my parents. I also picked Alexandra because it the family name on my mothers side of the family for girls. Harper is a name I just always loved.

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Guest Alison

With my name I was looking for something with meaning and with a Scottish background. So after chatting with my BFF about names for like MONTHS I hit Alison because of its meaning, "truth" or "noble". Truth because This is the true me, and its also was first recorded from Scotland.

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Guest sarah f

I have always loved the name Sarah so that was an easy one for me. The middle name is always harder to come up with. I thought of many different names but Michelle goes really well with Sarah so that is how I picked my middle name.

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Actually, I just kept trying names I could hear without cringing. Eventually, someone threw Bailey at me, and I ran with it. It was like finally hearing the right thing. I went ahead and tried some middle names for what sounded to work with the syllables, and stuck with Anne. It just seemed to work.

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Guest kelise

Well, after a looooong string of different names I've pondered (even legally changing to one during my first attempt at transition, won't go into that) I finally settled on and legally changed to Kairi Elise ***** (kelise). I didn't want a common name, because I didn't want anyone I knew to think I named myself after them, which might have been viewed as rather creepy. Most people think I got the first name from the popular video game character in Kingdom Hearts, and while I have played that game, I had the name first! (so there :P )

The story I tell people is that I (or my parents, depending if I'm out to them or not) derived the name from the term Kyrie Eleison (sp?) which is a religeous term that I've read to mean, "Lord, watch over me on my journey" (which I thought fit very well to my situation, even though I'm not religeous AT ALL)

The real story (don't tell anybody) is that I heard it in a Mr. Mister song of the same name, thought it was pretty, and swiped it, giving it my own spelling. I wasn't till much later that I actually looked up what the lyric actually was and what it meant. When I did i was like, "COOL!" lol.

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I'm not sure if Jessica will be my final name, but I know I've liked it for years. I'm also partial to Jennifer :D

Both can be shortened down to four-letter names (Jess and Jenn), just like my birth name. I dunno why I like em.

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Just out of curiosity,

How did everyone find their feminine name?

I haven't solidified anything yet, but I'm thinking of Maude. I think it's a cute name (as I think with most old ladies names) and the only Maude I ever "knew" is from Harold and Maude (movie) - and I love her character!

Dr M

Well when I changed my name initially a few years ago it was more of just on a whim. I changed my again because I wasn't happy with that first name. So with this name I met this girl at my psych's office and I really loved her name. So I took that first name and paired it will a different last name that I've been in love with.

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My name is based on my old male name and it's very similar. At first I thought of just changing my old name a little, but I decided to spell it differently as well and I like the result a lot more. It has kind of grown on me. I don't want to post either of them here though, for privacy reasons. Riana is a 'stage name' if you will, and I'd like to keep it that way.

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Guest CLAIRE100

i chose the name Claire because of a woman who I used to work with. Her name was Clare,she carried herself as a proper lady , always dressed sharply, a constant smile on her face, I was so envious of her, she once made a comment to me at work, she said she couldn't imagine"wanting to be a man"little did she know, she also once said that I should have been a woman because I enjoyed conversation so much,which is the truth, again little did she know. so Clare who has since passed on is the reason I chose the french version of her name, so when the time ever comes to change my name legally it will be to Claire Marie.

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Guest Ariel Patterson

I'm honestly still considering changing my name. For now Ariel is fine. Sebastian was the name I got from my parents. Ariel was my favorite Disney princess despite being made fun of as "Sebastian the crab" for a good portion of my childhood.

I don't feel the name suits me though.

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This is something I have been struggling with for months...

My grandfather and father both have the first name Dale. I was given that name too... my father and I both have nicknames, to help distinguish one Dale from the other.

There are tons of beautiful names out there for women... and I can't find a single one that fits me just right. It's like shopping for a new pair of shoes, they're all too tight, too frilly, too girly... I can't find a single name that fits me just right.

Because of this, I am considering just continuing to use my given name as it's fairly Androgynous, and just changing my nick name. But even then... I can't find one that fits... All my life growing up, I despised my name. I hated saying it. Introducing myself was hell and painful because I hated my name. But now I can't find anything else that fits me better.

I keep convincing myself to keep waiting until I am ready to go Full time, maybe when I look more feminine I'll look in the mirror and be able to put a name to the face but I'd like to come up with something sooner rather than later.

*sighs*

~Risu.

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Guest Donna Jean

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That is interesting.......

'When I was young, my brother and I would play cowboys....

He would be Roy Rogers and I would be Dale Evans,.......

(If anyone remembers them!)

Donna Jean

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Guest CLAIRE100

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That is interesting.......

'When I was young, my brother and I would play cowboys....

He would be Roy Rogers and I would be Dale Evans,.......

(If anyone remembers them!)

Donna Jean

Donna Jean ,don't forget their friends Trigger and Buttercup.

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Guest Jennifer1736

Hey, so...how I picked my name, well, i was going through fads where one name was way better than any other, but as soon as i said it out loud it was like, ''no way''. Anyway, I eventually settled on Jennifer Anastasous Mayfair. The Jennifer is from a hero of mine. Anastasous is latin for ''re-birth'', or ''re-born'' And Mayfair, i actually got that from a book series I read about a family of witches living in new orleans, anyway, ive read a lot about the druidic, and magical history of transsexuals in almost every culture, and well, a witchy name seemed good. when i actually said it out loud I know i had my name for sure. Ive gone by it since then. Besides, i think it has a neat ring to it, and Jenn Mayfair seems like a passable name as well.

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