How Did You Choose Your Female Name?

[Guest Laura C E Hatch]

I chose my name very weirdly. My first name my wife chose (Laura). The middle names were a combination of things. First middle was my foster moms idea and creation (Corky). I was a very effeminant child and wouldn't/refused to go by my given name (Raymond). The second middle name was chosen in honor and memory of my foster mom (Elizabeth) and the last name was chosen for the longest foster home I spent time in. Names come to you and are a piece of who you are. They often are given by those who love us, but most often it is what YOU like and feel comfortable with. I wish you well in the search for a new name.

[Guest AshleyLauren]

Just out of curiosity,

How did everyone find their feminine name?

I haven't solidified anything yet, but I'm thinking of Maude. I think it's a cute name (as I think with most old ladies names) and the only Maude I ever "knew" is from Harold and Maude (movie) - and I love her character!

Dr M

I chose my name because, well I've always liked the name, and the spelling is a homage to my male name, it's slept abnormally too.

[Guest Emily_MI]

I always loved the name Emily, just a very feminine name and think it fits me as a Woman.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I chose my name very weirdly. My first name my wife chose (Laura). The middle names were a combination of things. First middle was my foster moms idea and creation (Corky). I was a very effeminant child and wouldn't/refused to go by my given name (Raymond). The second middle name was chosen in honor and memory of my foster mom (Elizabeth) and the last name was chosen for the longest foster home I spent time in. Names come to you and are a piece of who you are. They often are given by those who love us, but most often it is what YOU like and feel comfortable with. I wish you well in the search for a new name.

GREAT response. My Elizabeth is a family name - and the Anne? From my deceased wife, my deceased grandmother and also is the middle name for my sister and first born daughter. Names do carry a lot of energy - and your particular story shows that yours carries a lot of history also.

My wife would have picked a name? donno

Lizzy

[Guest angie]

I always loved the name Emily, just a very feminine name and think it fits me as a Woman.

I knew my birth name should have been Michelle,since I was five years old.

But I didn't want my first name to be that,it would have to be my middle name.

I searched for a lifetime,trying on many many,trying to find the one that said,

This Is Who I Am.It wasn't until after I cameout to my then wife,that I found

the name that fit me like it was my birth name.We were watching a horror movie.

When I heard the name of one of the lead characters,I knew it was going to be my

name forever.I had jumped up,shouting,"That's It!That's It!That is my name!"

Scared the bejeezus out of my wife in the process too.LOL

My full name is Angelique,but I am an Angie,She Is Me.In every way.

It has been six years since I chose my true name.Six years of acclimating

everyone to who I am and what name I go by>I would not change a thing.

Big Hugs,

Angie

[Guest shanna_bana_1]

well my legal name was shannon, which makes you wonder why i didn't stick with it. i just like shanna better.

[Guest kirsty]

I was always told by my mom that she was certain she was having a baby girl and my name would have been Kirsty, so I took this name. It's kind of ironic as everyone thought she was having a girl.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi Dr. Met!

I have a new development in the spelling of my name. By accident, one day, I spelled my name as bernii instead of my usual bernie. As soon as I saw the new spelling, I loved it!!

FYI, I sign my emails at work as bernii too now. No one has said anything yet, but I am waiting for that day!!

I know it is coming soon.

LOL

bernii

[Guest angie]

FYI, I sign my emails at work as bernii too now. No one has said anything yet, but I am waiting for that day!!

I know it is coming soon.

LOL

bernii

I have used my real name since I chose it.Even insisting that I be gendered and treated like

the woman I am.By the time I left(of my own free will) I had thirty women and men gendering

me right,even being friendly.Not all employers are so understanding.On my next contract,as long

as I hadn't done the official name change,they could fool themselves that I was(normal)LOL.

Two weeks after name change,when I had to show my new DL,I was let go that Friday on some trumped up BS.It will be hard to get a new job,but this time I get to be hired and work as a woman

legally.The man is no more.

Angie

[Guest Cericonversion]

My family has Welsh ancestry, and I always liked the look and sound of a lot of Welsh names. My birth first name is usually a boy's name, but not always, and I thought it would be fun to have a little symmetry there. Ceri is usually a girl's name, but not always; it means just "to love" in Welsh, and since I'm a hopeless romantic, it seemed to fit me.

[Guest Eth]

I've ALWAYS hated my birth name. It was the most common name in America for more than a decade and has been in the top 5 for the past 30 years. My last name; also common. My middle names; both common and male. My name pretty much consisted of:

Most common male first name - Semi-common male middle name - Common male middle name - Common last name

I cannot stress how much I hated that name... And it's still legally mine until I'm 18. And my relatives still call me it.

Reasons I hated it were:

1) It's a boy's name. Like omg... Nty X_X

2) Bible character. I'm atheist, and my mother just loved stressing that she got it out of the bible.

3) So freaking common. Every day I hear it called out for someone else at least three times. That's right; I see people with my guy name a minimum of three times daily. Whenever I joined a club or any sort of group, there were people with my name there just because it's that common. I'd be BoyNameHere #4 or something ridiculous like that.

4) IT'S A BOY NAME

I'd been looking for a new name long before I realized I was transgender. Without thinking about it, I generally looked at names that carried neither masculine nor feminine connotations. All the while, I'd been using an online alias of "Eth" but never really considered it to be Real Name material. I even looked at stuff in latin, just because I figured NOBODY would have a name like mine if I did that. Then one day I smacked myself and went "you know what? all my friends call me Eth.. I like Eth... I think I'm gonna go with that."

And that's how I figured out my name.

I figured out a middle and last name too, starting with T and H, so that my initials would also spell out ETH, but I'm not sure I'm sticking with that. I like Eth and the last name I've picked out, but the middle name was chosen to be dedicated to someone important to me, who died a long time ago. Their name doesn't start with T, though, so I had to get the T by searching their name, finding it's meaning, looking through those, and seeing if there were any T names holding the same or a similar meaning until I found one that was feminine. I went with that.

It seems like a pretty indirect way of being dedicated to that person though, so part of me wonders if I should just not care about the ETH initials and scrap the T name and just use the real name of the person I'm dedicating my middle name to. It'd come out as Eth with the initials EJH, but eh. I'm not sure yet.

You know what? I think I'm gonna poke my boyfriend to help me make the decision. He'll just love me for that.

-ETH

[Guest AshleeB]

The name i chose doesnt have much of a story. my very first best friend waaaay back in the mid 90's was named Ashlee. we were like twins. perfectly tuned to one another, kinda like twins

so thats why i chose my name

Ashlee

[Guest Melanieshaman]

I don't know really... It just popped into my head one day, and i said YES! that's it.. I am Melanie, Melanie is me... that was a real epiphany that what had been going in my mind for years was real, and true.

[Carolyn Marie]

I always loved the name Carolyn - don't know why, I guess it just sounded feminine and it started with the letter "C" which is the same as my given name. Marie was my grandmother's name, so that was kinda obvious.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Flora]

I take particular interest in names and online aliases so for me it was a fairly big deal and a bit of a challenge, because I like names that you don't hear often, but still feel good inside. I am very fortunate that it was available in pure form (without initials or surnames preceeding or succeeding) - means it's at least somewhat unique ;-)

It actually was from a TV show I used to watch when I was really young called 'Babar'. I have a crush on the eldest daughter (even though they were Elephants) who I saw as being a similar age to me at the time (about 5). Whenever her mother would call her name my heart took a strange skip, which at the time felt good but didnt realise till recently what that sensation was akin to.

I was browsing websites like allbabygirlnames.com and stumbled across a long list girl names of Latin origin. And as I was browsing through, I came across it, and as soon as I read it, I immediately remembered the TV show and the names of about half the charactes. I tried that right away (as I was in the middle of creating this account) and what luck! My girls name was available!

<3 Flora

PS. It's Latin for flower (Just in case)

[Guest katiewana]

Catherine was the name I was supposed to have until I was born male to everyone's surprise. It's a really common name for people my age and has always sounded nice to me.

[Guest Ashley C.]

I'm not sure how I arrived at Ashley--it shares the same first initial as my given name, so I guess it just sounded natural. I think it's a great name for girls or guys, plus people can call me Ash for short . Not sure why, but I just love that.

[Guest brenda lee]

Just out of curiosity,

How did everyone find their feminine name?

I haven't solidified anything yet, but I'm thinking of Maude. I think it's a cute name (as I think with most old ladies names) and the only Maude I ever "knew" is from Harold and Maude (movie) - and I love her character!

Dr M

Dr M , Hi ! I choose Brenda Lee ,because that was what my mom was going to name me had I been born a gentic girl. LOL Brenda Lee

[Guest 1charlotte1]

Nick=charlotte??? Mine has no ryme or reason! Just like my personality *cough cough* anyways! I went online with a friend and we found a fitting one! I likes my friend! Woooooot!

Luvs, Charlotte

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

I had a really ahem dumb and slutty sounding female name at first (don't ask), but when I told my pseudo mom, we sat down and she came up with something that seemed a lot more fitting for me. Plus I like it better and it sounds less cliche. Pretty much same thing as sakura, except not my bio mom (bio mom hates what I am)

I used Joanna when I cross dressed but like the name so much that when I do my name change it will be Joanna Marie.

[Guest Maryteresa]

Female name ? Quite simple for me, It's my wife's real name.

[Guest shimmeringkristal]

The name of Kristal chose me cause, while it is close to my male name and would be easier on my family but at the same time it would be different enough to suit me.

[Guest IGotThatGoodGood]

I wanted something that would match my personality. My friends all came up with 'Giselle' cause I'm a in your face, over the top sexual kinda girl hehe.

[Guest LightNebula]

I'm thinking of either Dysis or Dylana for a name, and I chose those from a story I'm thinking of with the protagonist named Dysiris, and I've also always liked the combination of the letters "d" and "y" together.

[Guest Nicole at last]

I thought about some other names but very quickly hit on Nicole, I just feel the name fits me.