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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada. In the UK, call the Samaritans free on 116 123, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

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    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

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      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

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    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

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    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

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    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

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    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

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  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

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    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

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    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

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    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

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    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

       

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    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

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  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

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    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

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    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

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    4. Androgyne and Multigender Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

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    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

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    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

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    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

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    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

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    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

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    12. Transition Product Info

      This forum is for information about and reviews of products you use in order to feel more authentic during your transition.  Packers, breast forms, whatever it may be - share your experiences here.  Remember, we do not allow advertisements or sales pitches.

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    13. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

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    14. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

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    15. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

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    16. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

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    17. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

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    18. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

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    19. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

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    20. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

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    21. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

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    22. Transgender, Transsexual, Crossdresser Teens Forum

      This is the place for any Transgender Teen to post. Topics may be posted only by member aged 13-24, however any member may reply to offer Support. No exchanging personal info, real names, addresses, email or phone numbers.

       

      To post a new message in this forum you must be aged 13 to 24, or a moderator, ages may change later. Any member though may post a PUBLIC reply and we encourage them to give you the benefit of their experience. Sexual issues may not be discussed in this forum.

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  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

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    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

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    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

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    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

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    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

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  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

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      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

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    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

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    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

      This is a forum that is non-biased/non-partisan and treats every persons position on topics equally. This forum is not aligned to any political party. In today's politics, many ideas are split between and even within all the political parties. Often we find ourselves agreeing on one platform but some topics break our mold. We are here to discuss them in a civil political debate.

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    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

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      Discuss and review movies.  Nothing beyond an "R" rating.

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    2. Television

      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

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      What do you - or don't you - like in or about the Theatre? Are you involved with your local AmDram or a professional Actor?

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      If you have written a story, or have ideas for a story, that you would like to share with others, then this is the place for them.

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    8. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

      Note that profanity in such videos is not allowed, we wish to remain a clean site, viewable by all. Whilst we accept that once a video has played, many other videos are shown over which you have no control over the content of these.

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    • MaeBe
      I have been open with my wife for months and had another long conversation with her today. Though our situations are different, I really understand the stress you’re in.    I have been slowly transitioning away from masculinity and there have been things that I once thought and told her weren’t in my plans but have come to be and, when they do come out, it’s as if I’ve been withholding. Those revelations seem to come out of the blue for her, like she has this definition of me and I keep rewriting it on her—even though I have said that I don’t know the full extent of my journey. So, things like taking on a feminine nickname and using it on job applications along with my legal name catch her. I did it because I needed to be authentic to hiring managers, but I’d never told her that I was going to do it—though I did show her my resume before I’d ever sent it out. We’d never talked about it though.   So we’ve resolved to chat regularly about us and, while it’s hard material, it’s good for us we’re doing it. I count my lucky stars though, she’s been great through all of this and I feel bad that I’m changing the game on her.
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      My heart goes out to you. It is a tough position and I've been there. I was married for 30 years before I told my wife. She didn't take it well and after 2 years of - maybe she'd leave and maybe she wouldn't she came to learn through HER journey that it was not my fault I was trans nor her fault and that she accepted me and our marriage is even stronger now. As hard as it is, you need to talk to her and if you want for her to remain your soul mate , listen to her and be compassionate and loving and expect for her it be upset and say things like you lied to her, but in fact you've been lying to yourself all thias time and most likely you thought getting married would fix the problem and it didn't. I built my self up as well if she didn't want to stay together, I had toi realize even if you love her, you can't change anyone except yourself and being kind and knowing it is a long process, hopefulloy things will work out.
    • DreamWalker
      Thank you all so much. She took the kids to her mother’s for the day. Told me she will be back and feels a little different about it now and wants to talk more tonight . So I’m going to keep my mind off it for now and stay busy.    thank you again. I actually overall feel better now that she knows. Like a weight being lifted off my chest.     
    • Delcina B
      Hi Dreamwalker! As you mentioned telling her, we don't choose to be who we are, it just is. I hid what at the time I thought was crossdressing for decades. When it came time to get honest with myself, or die I explained to my now ex my secret, asking for time to talk to a therapist. She consented, I did. My therapist suggested my ex & I meet her (my therapist) as a couple. She refused saying she didn't have a problem. We are still amicable after the divorce, there definitely was a very rough period. Some here have survived the rough part & are still married, so there's hope. If she is willing maybe some sessions with a gender therapist are worth trying.   Hugs! Delcina 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      A good one for Sunday, in the mood I'm in     
    • Concerned father
      Hello guys, how are you all doing, hoping all is great with everyone?   I am hoping 'Dillon' sees this thread and can chime in since living in NY and if I remember correctly is a truck driver so has been around NY.   To refresh, my 24 year old MTF [Mike] identifies as Bi-Gender. Now that he's been living on his own for a few months I miss him and would like to spend more time with him outside of my home too. So I am looking around for more safer places when we both can go spend some time together and would appreciate any recommendations which we can look into.   I understand guys, that no public place we can visit can be 100% safe but I am trying to narrow down the better places where we both can go have some fun in a relaxing peaceful environment. I think most of all my main fear tbh will be for myself, whether I will be able to maintain my composure if someone should ever say anything negative towards my child. I wouldn't want to get arrested and especially traumatize mike with experiencing such as ordeal.   So guys, what Mike and I have in common is being near the water and animals. I am thinking of Queens Farm and maybe the Rockaways [Beach Channel] areas for those two situations, any recommendations please? Thanks.
    • Mmindy
      Good morning everyone,    I hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday.    Things are going well here at the moment and I hope they continue. My wife and I are getting a different camper tomorrow just in time for us to depart for our first trip of the summer. We’re attending a Bluegrass festival in Beanblossom, IN. It will also be our first trip with Parker our Boxer puppy.    Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • KymmieL
      Glad you where able to make it to your service today, @Willow    Well wound up yesterday just picking up the bike. The shop was booked, but made an appointment for the 18th. Not sure if I'll take it in though. Was able to look up some information. Once home I cleaned up some stuff. Took it for a ride around town. no leak so far. If it starts again I'll dig a little deeper.   Thankfully We have our other bike. As we plan on riding to our concert in a couple weeks. I'm getting the modified saddle bag painted. So I'll have two matching saddle bags. Finally got the stereo figured out. The wiring instructions are terrible.   Thing with my wife have been smooth lately. Even joking about boob size. She mentioned about her boobs getting in the way. I came back with mine are not that big yet. She is concerned about my well being, with not working. Saying the longer I am unemployed the more depressed I get. While maybe true. I believe that it just maybe that I am just bored and my mind starts going. Who knows.   Have a good Sunday everyone.   Hugs, Kymmie
    • Willow
      @Birdie yes, unfortunately we are in the Bible Belt and some people just can’t accept that others just don’t match THEIR idea of normal.  For me at work I’d say it’s close to 80% are accepting and the rest call me sir.  It my voice which always sounds like I have a cold or something because of mt cancer treatment and some days are worse than others.  Some ask me if Willow is my real name or birth name but since it’s none of their business I say yes.  I had one person ask if that was my real hair and I answered it was my hair.  I mean I own it, it’s not borrowed so it’s mine, right?   but there are people who perhaps take things too far too soo.  There is a young person that comes into our store frequently whom I really believe is transitioning but I dot ask out of politeness I mean what if I’m wrong. But his hair is getting longer and better styled and his chest is definitely early teen girl.  But he still dresses male.   Willow
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      Good Sunday morning   And sunny it is.   Sorry @Birdie that’s not quite right.  Definitely a modern design but not Buchanan.  Not a Stewart either.   My son bought this for me when he was in Edinburgh a few months ago and gave it to me when they were just here.  Since it was cut on the bias it might be a bit mor difficult to discern but all the colors of the rainbow are in this plaid.   my wife’s medivac seal had to be fixed twice (by me) twice since Friday.  First the seal didn’t hold in one location and I had to add some tape to it to reseal it.  That was Friday night.  Then last night the seal let go completely.  Turns out the hose connection to the tape let go.  So I had to replace the hose and the canister while I was at it.  The one nurse thinks she will no longer need the medivac by the end of next week.  I have mixed feelings about that.  I know it’s uncomfortable and annoying but the longer she has it the faster it heals.  Once it’s gone the healing has to continue but will be much slower.  But you can’t use it until it’s fully healed, that doesn’t work either.   im supposed to start work at 10, but my boss told me just come in when church is over.  So I get to go in later and I get to go to church.  Good on both counts.  At the same time she is trying to watch hours and I’m sure she expects I’ll need available extra hours later in the week when someone calls in late or calls out.  We’ve been having a problem with that just when we really need everyone.     well I need to read a reply and then get ready for church.    Willow        
    • Birdie
      Top of the morning to you all. 💝   Yesterday out shopping I saw a gentleman walking with what I assumed to be his wife. He had short hair and stubble, a bra on non existent breasts, a tight fitting top, and light makeup.  He looked very proud and confident of himself.    Around him the shopping mall was filled with finger pointing and laughter. How very rude of the people!   Then again, "this is unfortunately the bible belt!"
    • Ivy
      Yup.   I saw this already, and had a freak-out moment - Atlanta?  Oh No!   Oh, that Georgia.  But yeah, no surprise. Of course, considering our current political scene… not that far fetched.
    • AllieJ
      DreamWalker, you did not choose to be gender incongruent, so you do NOT deserve this! Hormonal variations during our pregnancies likely caused our incongruence from birth, and we can't change this. We need to deal with the resultant dysphoria or it can can have tragic outcomes. I tried to fight my dysphoria and would up in serious medical trouble with my systems starting to shut down, so I know how serious it can get.    Explain to your wife that you were likely born with part of your brain female, and though you have tried to ignore it, it is beginning to overwhelm you. The you she fell in love with has always been part female, and she probably liked subtle elements of what makes you unique. Let her know that this does not mean you need to transition, but both of you need to work together to find ways to keep you healthy. This might only mean some minor underdressing, or maybe a girls day every now and again, whatever it takes to reduce your dysphoria.    Show her this diagram from the fine folks at Harvard showing a critical part of our brains which develop opposite to our assigned sex, so she knows this is legitimate. My wife and I managed 20 years of happiness while managing my strong dysphoria, and she had the same initial reaction as your wife. Assure her you want to find a way to be with her, and that you both have time to work this out, because even if you transition, it is a slow process.   Don't give up, it will be hard, but it can be done!   Hugs,   Allie    
    • Charlize
      What you are describing was the hardest period of my transition.  I found that while i did the best i could to comfort and support my wife i also could no longer lie about what has always been a major part of my life. Time will help you both.  Acceptance and decisions will be made.  It was a difficult time for me and i'm sure for most of us. You are not alone.   Hugs,   Charlize
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      Well, Windows 11 should put us back to work making more computers.  Gotta have something to do with our time.  Is this really happening?  I'm going back to Excel '97!  Excel 2010 is just too powerful for me.  Always reminds me of Darth Sidious "For a safe, and secure, society!"
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    • Mmindy
      Good morning @DreamWalker   Welcome to TransPulseForums, I’m glad you found us, and hope you find the forums as helpful as I do. Feel free to join in on any of the threads that interest you. You can also start a thread on the topic of your choice. Many of the people here have started blogging about their experiences.    Best wishes,    Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
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