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  1. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

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    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

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    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

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    4. Sexual Abuse Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of child sexual abuse, you will find help and support here.

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    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

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    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

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    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

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  2. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

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    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

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    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

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    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

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    5. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

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  3. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

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    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

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    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

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    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

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    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

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    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

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    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

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    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

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    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

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    12. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

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    13. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

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    14. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

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    15. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

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    16. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

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    17. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

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    18. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

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    19. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

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  4. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

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    2. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

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    3. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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    4. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

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  5. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

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    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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  6. Spirituality

    1. Buddhism

      Buddhism.

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    2. Christianity

      Christianity, all sects.

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    3. Mormonism

      Mormonism.
       

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    4. Hinduism

      Hinduism.

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    5. Islam

      Islam.

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    6. Judaism

      Judaism.

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    7. Two-Spirit

      Two-Spirit faiths, both Native American and other.

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    8. Wicca

      Wicca.

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    9. Other Faiths

      Other religions and spiritual beliefs.
       

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    10. Non-Deistic Spirituality

      Non-deistic spirituality.

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  7. Entertainment

    1. Movies

      Discuss and review movies.  Nothing beyond an "R" rating.

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    2. Television

      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

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    3. Jokes and Humor

      Jokes and humor. Keep it clean. No ethnic or other derogatory jokes. What makes you laugh?

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    4. Games and Gaming

      Board games, card games, video games - you name it.  What do you play?

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    5. Books

      Books and book reviews, favorite authors, favorite genres, and more.

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    6. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

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    7. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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    8. Artwork

      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

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    9. Gadgets and Tech

      This is a place to discuss the ever-changing landscape of technology.

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